Questions of Success, Suicide, Sin, and Relations

 

"When my boss asked me, who is the stupid one, me or him, I told him everyone knows he doesn't hire stupid people."

-- Anonymous

Have you ever called your boss out in a meeting?

Hell no. Rule number one for staying employed is to “call your boss out” in their office, in private, so you can retain a modicum of their respect. Rule number two is that you’d better be right. Rule number three is that you’d better have a solution. Call them out, be right, have a better solution… and hope like hell it works.

If your fiancée works up to you and asked if she could marry another man, what does that mean?

Sucks being you?

Why is success impossible?

“Success” in life is not impossible. Success in life is simply making the choice to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. Attaining a goal, on the other hand, might be impossible unless you approach the goal appropriately through education and hard work. If you work hard to attain your goals but aren’t truly and sustainably happy in your life, what was the point of it all?

Why do people believe in karma but act like it’ll never catch up to them?

Long-term memory sucks. You know this when it catches up to them and they question, “Why?” You laugh and answer, “What? You don’t remember?”

Do you believe that reasonable logic will not stop stupidity?

Stupidity will be with us always. Greed and “reasonable logic” are strange bedfellows. By the time reasonable logic reaches those who can make use of it, greed has overridden the purpose and stupidity takes over.

“Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the universe.”

-- Albert Einstein

Do I have an attitude problem if I don't work overtime every day, including Saturday? I have been working overtime for the past 5 months, 10 hours per day. I decided to stop OT due to tiredness and mental stress, but my boss said I'm giving excuses.

Tell your boss you can either take a break or you can quit. What is their pleasure? It sounds to me like they might be breaking several HR employment laws.

I don't want to live anymore. My ex-girlfriend hurt me so bad that she cheated on me for money. Whenever I share my vulnerabilities, I still get called a "soft boi." Is it time for me to die?

Killing yourself will accomplish what? Your “ex” won’t care. You might hurt those who really care, but that may just piss them off that you were so selfish. A better thought might be to find a better girlfriend. The best “revenge” is to simply “trade up” to a better woman. Then it will truly suck being her. But, you can’t do anything if you’re on the other side of the dirt.

I’m tired of being broke. How do I become a multi-millionaire?

Become smarter.

How do we become better? Is the concept of better subjective?

Better than what, or better in what way? Does that answer your question? I would say becoming “better” is when you make the conscious choice to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. This is sustainable happiness that acts as an umbrella for everything else in life. Choose to be better. Choose to be truly happy.  It is your life, after all.

My partner is having a hard time coming out. How can I support him (he blocked me everywhere)?

Why do you insist on forcing it? Simply support him by being there. He will come out when he’s ready.

“If you possess enough courage to speak out what you are, you will find you are not alone.”

-- Richard Wright

Does infidelity always lead to divorce?

No, but it does lead to a lack of trust.

If you blamed someone for your suicide, would they face consequences?

No. They would face the karma for what they did that caused you to commit suicide, but killing yourself is all on you. Blaming someone for you offing yourself is not owning your actions, it is shifting the blame for something you did onto someone else. Being dead won’t prevent karma from hunting you down for this. Being dead is only the end-all for those who choose to believe there is nothing beyond this realm.

When did you realize that your ex was not that bad?

It’s been over 20 years. Nope, not there yet.

Is there such a thing as false happiness? What would make it different from true happiness?

If you purchase a car, does it make you happy? For how long? When will you decide to find happiness in another new car? This is false happiness. We think we can buy happiness, but it isn’t real. True happiness is within us. It is a choice we must all make to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of our circumstances. This happiness is sustainable because we choose for it to be. Make good choices. Start by choosing happiness. 

My girlfriend and I broke up a few days ago. I learned in therapy that I was controlling and codependent. I will work on my issues. She still wants to be friends. How can I win her back?

“She still wants to be friends.” Live your progress and let her decide.

"The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love."

-- Hubert H. Humphrey

What is the worst thing people could do to get laid?

Rape.

Do you have to be happy in life?

Absolutely not. There are many people who choose to be perpetually miserable in life… and would love for you to join them in their pit of misery. Better you should choose to be truly happy in life, regardless of your circumstances. Remember, that your failures are simply opportunities to learn why you went wrong, not the end-all of life. Learn from your mistakes and move forward. It is, after all, about the journey, not the destination. Better you choose to be happy.

What is something you will never know about a person?

If they’re a serial killer. Until they are caught, this will be their secret. 

What do I need to do to be free from sin?

Forgive yourself, and then go forth and sin no more.  If you are religious, ask God to help you be righteous.

Is it true that what's good for some people isn't necessarily good for others?

Yes. Nuts are good nutrition unless you’re deathly allergic to them.

"Thinking good thoughts is not enough, doing good deeds is not enough, seeing others follow your good examples is enough."

-- Douglas Horton

Is it okay if a black man has sex with my mom and I look?

Regardless of who your mom wants to bang, that’s her business. Why are you looking?

Does income matter in a relationship?

If you truly love each other, probably not. You both will be working to live life. What really matters is that you are both truly happy in your circumstances, regardless of income.

What is something you cannot tell a stranger about?

If I told you, every stranger on this site would know.

I left my ex because I didn't love her but I keep seeing her for sex. How can I stop being tempted?

The fact that you’re using her should be a reason enough for her to stop seeing you. I don’t see a downside for you, except that it is immoral to use people, and you risk contracting an STD from her.

I'm a 55-year-old male in a sexless marriage and need a woman’s attention. What should I do?

Divorce your wife and go wild, while you still can.  I give you this quote, because I spent 25 years waiting:

"It sucks when you know that you need to let go, but you can't, because you're still waiting for the impossible to happen."

-- Unknown

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

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It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

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