Questioning Relationships, Suicide, Choices, and Whores... Again?

 

“Espionage is the world's second oldest profession.”

-- Vejas Gabriel Liulevicius

My ex-girlfriend is still living in my apartment because she has nowhere to go and has a new boyfriend. Am I a simp?

Ya think?

Was there ever a time when you did something foolish in the name of a political ideology or belief?

Nope. I am an American military patriot. Foolish only exist in the lexicon of commanders. They exercise it with vigor. As far as political ideologies, if it isn’t socialist or communist we have room for robust conversation.

My ex-girl sent me this "bye 🥰" after 4 days breakup, what does it mean?

Who broke it off, you or her? It looks as if she has second thoughts.

What do you do when you start a fight and the person comes at you with really good kicks?

This is stupid. Start a fight with someone who can, literally, kick ass. I’d find a sense of humor, Doctors and nurses appreciate it.

How do I ask my bf to do more things sexually with me? He's into specific kinks and I play into them for him, but I have to ask for him to touch me afterward. We like different things, but am I selfish for wanting him to do things for my pleasure?

No, it isn’t all about him, and he needs to understand this or you need to find someone who does. Damn, there are plenty of men looking for you.

“Good sex is like good bridge. If you don't have a good partner, you'd better have a good hand.”

-- Mae West

What things do people have no control over in life?

Birth.

How do I become brave and fearless?

Brave is simply doing the right thing regardless of the consequences. Being fearless, on the other hand, is simply stupid. Fear is the way we stay alive. Most heroes are scared to death, but they do what is right, regardless.

What do you think that doors mean in a person’s life?

Opportunity.

If I kill myself, am I weak because I gave up, or am I brave because I had the courage to do it?

Weak because you gave up. Courage is not bravery. The real test will be when you find yourself right back here, reliving the life you learned nothing from. How many times do you relive it before you change your attitude? Your choice. Make it good.

When do you know you're addicted?

When you want to stop, but you can’t. 

“I admire addicts. In a world where everybody is waiting for some blind, random disaster or some sudden disease, the addict has the comfort of knowing what will most likely wait for him down the road. He's taken some control over his ultimate fate, and his addiction keeps the cause of his death from being a total surprise.”

-- Chuck Palahniuk

Who won’t let you live your life and why?

If someone “won’t let you live your life” you have allowed them to control your outcome. It is your life, so why would you allow someone else to control it?

Jews, in concentration camps, marched into death because they allowed Nazis to control their outcome. I would have made my own choice to charge at the guards and die trying to take some with me. My choice, not theirs. You choose your life, not others.

Make good choices.

What’s a petty reason that you wouldn’t be with someone?

She doesn’t cook.

Do you have to be on birth control in order to have sex and not get pregnant while using condoms?

Jeeze. You do that, and the only thing you’re not doing is abstaining. You might add standing at opposite sides of the room and masturbating at each other. Hey, no harm, no foul.

But, realistically, yes, pills and a condom are a good idea if you really don’t want to get pregnant. Condoms are not 100% effective, so the pills add another layer of protection.

Why do I always feel guilty after eating a full meal?

Are you fat-shaming yourself? 

What are the qualities of ethical communication?

Honest and factual. Communication doesn’t always have to reflect the good or the morality of the topic as long as it is honest and factual in what it does present. If the facts are in question, this also needs to be presented in order to be completely upfront and honest. This is ethical communication. The news media is rarely honest or factual, which means they are rarely ethical. Big surprise.

"The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn't being said. The art of reading between the lines is a lifelong quest of the wise."

-- Shannon L. Alder

I’m having a lot of problems with my boyfriend. What should I do?

Have a focused discussion with him about it. If you don’t like what you hear, or it gets no better, time to cut him loose. Maybe this “tough love” will straighten him out, but you need to move on to greener pastures and get some happiness going.

I feel sometimes we find someone from whom we simply can't move on. We just learn to live with their memories. Is it true?

If you “learn to live with their memories” you have begun to “move on” down the road. It is when you dwell on those memories to the exclusion of all else including your own life and happiness is when you find “moving on” to be most difficult. Memories are the gift we take with us to remember and learn from the past. Hopefully, the memories are happy ones.

I choose to not dwell on bad memories. I file them in the deepest, darkest, recesses of my mind and hope to never think of them ever again unless there is a lesson to be learned. Even then, I remember the lesson but put everything else back into the file.

Those things I determine are not worth remembering, I shred and then burn in the furnace that fuels my soul. I did this with most of my military intelligence career. Most of the classified crap I have no reason to ever recall. So, upon retirement, I shredded and burned all of it. It is tougher to do this with people. The names and specific actions escape me, but the people show up in my head and have to be put back in the dungeon.

What happens when men show weakness and vulnerability?

My God! They’ve become human! Truth be known, besides being the solid anchor most of us strive to be, real men, do cry, real men are vulnerable, and real men can wear pink and make it look good, just saying. Real men are something to celebrate.

How do you differentiate realists, pessimists, and optimists?

Pessimists are negative; things will never change and will get worse no matter what you do to prevent it. Optimists are positive; things will always get better given time and effort. Realists, on the other hand, believe it is what it is until it isn’t, and then it is what it is again. Work on it or don’t, there is no negative or positive judgment, what is left is a reality to be lived with until it somehow changes, but that change is, again, just reality.

How do I get my money back from a whore?

You weren’t happy with the product? Buyer beware. You can try asking the “pimp” if you can find him. I don’t recommend it, though. This is one of those lessons life loves to teach: Don’t frequent whores if you don’t like to gamble. One thing we all know for certain, you did get screwed, so get over it.

"I had sex with a prostitute when I was 21, I was so bad, she gave me a refund."

-- Robin Williams

Why do some weirdos out there think clowns are somehow scary?

Check out this site.  Nuff said.

The Chilling Story Of John Wayne Gacy

My boyfriend has a girlfriend. What should I tell him?

Bye!

How are you doing today?

My day was, as always, a blessing, another gift from God, and yet another chance to excel in this life. I experienced much joy today and look forward to the gift of another glorious day in paradise, tomorrow.

How should I feel about my girlfriend going on a work trip with her ex?

Do you trust her?

How do you respond when someone lies to you?

I love the following quote. I think it says it all: 

“I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you.”

-- Friedrich Nietzsche

 

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

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