Questioning Humor, Content, Old People, Annoying, Busy, and a Quote

 

“One has to get down in the muddy place for helping a falling person in the mud; it reflects an incredible devotion way and feeling that shower humanity with fragrance and dress the human with flowers.”

-- Ehsan Sehgal

What would you do if you saw someone falling into the mud? Would you laugh at them?

Let’s answer the original question, shall we? “I fell into the mud in front of a laughing crowd. Would you have laughed with them?” Probably, but I would also help you to your feet and ask if you were alright... other than your bruised ego.

Why should I respect anyone when, the way I see it, no one has ever done anything to earn respect from me?

So, you want respect before you give respect? If everyone waited on respect, we’d all be holding our breath. I show respect to everyone. Then I wait to see if they show some respect back. If I don’t get it, you got some from me… and that will be it. You are supposed to get what you give. If you don’t, well… they suck. There are a lot more people looking for potential friends. Why waste time on someone’s ego.

What would you do if you discovered that all your friends were outcasts, delinquents, or people who have been ignored or put down by society, and you were the only one who cared about them?

I would feel right at home.

Why should or shouldn't one be concerned about what their IQ might be?

If a person is cordial and friendly, I could give a shit what their IQ is. If they start to lift off to “quantum theory,” I’d tell them to come back to Earth with the rest of us. They don’t want to compare brain pans… their friends would evaporate back into the vanilla egos.

What are some simple ways to incorporate self-care into a busy schedule?

Make time. If you don’t make time for “self-care” your “busy schedule” will kill you. 

Can it be true that we mature with the damage, not with the years?

It depends on how you view the “damage.” You can mature early if you accept the damage as a lesson to be learned. Otherwise, it could take you years to realize the time you wasted growing up due to some trivial crap.

Author's comment: I like this, thank you.

“We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another; unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another. The past, present and future mingle and pull us backward, forward, or fix us in the present. We are made up of layers, cells, constellations.”

-- Anais Nin

What type of content is best for [this site]?

Questions and answers.

How do you make people look stupid?

Making people look stupid is easy, but why would you want to? Making a person look "stupid" is what an asshole or a bully would do.

How do I follow, read and break-out of literally and actually all my signs for good which is in truth, reality, fact, just precisely and match-to-match which is all with myself first as an unique individual?

A good start would be trying to make this question easier to read and understand.

Are we all manipulative to some degree?

To some degree. If someone says they aren’t, they are exercising their “manipulation” on you, and I would be vindicated.

Is it possible for a person starting with an IQ of 115 to reach beyond 200+ IQ and higher?

If they like learning, I don’t see why not. But they would have to apply themselves to the project. I think it would be a big waste of time… unless I had some goal in mind. If this was my issue, I’d rather try to get laid. Trying to reach beyond 200 would be a hobby you could equate to sex.

Do you have any funny, play words, or cool quotes that express your ego and lifestyle?

Try this: 

“It is what it is until it isn’t, and then it is what it is, again.”

-- F.A. Villari

Have other old people been mean to you for different reasons?

Yeah, so many different reasons. But they’re old people, so I give them a pass.

How many IQs does it take to understand your own bias and stupidity?

Your own IQ could do this trick with little effort. Look at your bias and stupidity, and understand that is a part of your “ass” that you show everyone. And before you balk at this, understand that everyone has bias and stupidity. We are only human, unfortunately.

What are the most stupid things you have ever researched?

Hollow Earth Theory. I was young.

Why do people think I’m corny or I don’t belong in this world because I am smart and nice, and I do not like to break the law?

You are hanging with the wrong people. Be who you are and ignore the naysayers. You can go see them during visiting hours.

Why would anyone waste time with licorice when Twizzlers is on sale near you right now?

Because real black licorice is so much different than Twizzlers.

Why is everybody selfish?

Not everybody is selfish. A good many of us are selfless in what we do. You need to hang with a better class of people.

“The belief that unhappiness is selfless and happiness is selfish is misguided. It's more selfless to act happy. It takes energy, generosity, and discipline to be unfailingly lighthearted, yet everyone takes the happy person for granted. No one is careful of his feelings or tries to keep his spirits high. He seems self-sufficient; he becomes a cushion for others. And because happiness seems unforced, that person usually gets no credit.”

-- Gretchen Rubin 

Why don’t people think I’m smart, I have an IQ of 400 and my family and friends left me because they said I was too annoying and stupid, and I got fired from my job, I’m going to end up homeless, what do I do?

Stop being annoying. Focus on the job at hand. Ignore your IQ as it doesn’t tell us who you are, and you need to be more than that. You are “stupid” because you buy into what others say. Stop buying into it and start being more than you are. Sweep streets if it keeps you from being homeless, and work up from there. Keep telling yourself that you are more than they say you are, and then prove it.

Why are you bored now?

I just started answering questions this morning. Give me some time and I won’t be bored.

Why must other people accept your own beliefs or face being canceled?

That’s the tact of the liberal base. I believe all people have a right to think what they want. Unfortunately, they don’t think for themselves, they let the media think for them. Instead of questioning what they’re told, they just buy into it. This is how we got an old geezer with dementia as President. Who is calling the shots? That is a great question, but it certainly isn’t the President.

The goal of development is to create an environment that gives people the opportunity to enjoy long, healthy, and harmonious lives. Can you explain?

I could, but it seems to explain itself.

Do you think the people who are often and easily offended are happy?

I don’t think anyone who is “often and easily offended” can be truly happy. They need to learn to let shit like this roll off their back and get on with life. They need to strive for true happiness always and in all things, regardless of their circumstances. It is a choice they need to make.

Author's comment: Tony, thanks for a great answer. I posed the question after noticing so many of the younger kids taking offense to way too many things. Why do you think they’ve been over-emotionalized? There are too many for this to be an organic shift.

Why do people often fail to bring about desired changes in their lives and society? Is there a solution to this problem?

They need to try harder. People, in general, have become complacent. They accept what is, and not what it can be.

“Once your soul is awakened, you never return to the sleepwalking state of mind. Some people become complacent in life. They are just going through the motions and not aware of truth. Seek the knowledge, wisdom, and the understandings that vivify your existence.”

-- Amaka Imani Nkosazana

Why do people suddenly vanish from the internet? An ambitious researcher, I've known, had lots of online presence. She spent many years at university and got her Ph.D. She then got a job and her gigantic online presence completely froze, in time, forever

She found herself busier than a one-armed painter. Or, she died.

What’s an example of a serious situation you found yourself in that eventually became funny to you?

We were in the middle of an Operational Readiness Inspection, and I was in the Command Post to give a briefing. The General needed to get a B-52 off the ramp and into the air. He asked who had been working on it. He was told that all the senior mechanics looked at it. I thought to myself that they hadn’t asked any of the young mechanics fresh out of school, with fresh ideas, and fresh training. The General asked if they had asked any of the young troops what their thoughts were. I was in the back of the room and smiled at his intelligence as I looked at the floor and shook my head. When the “ass chewing” was over the General asked me, in a low voice, if I agreed. I told him that was why I smiled. He was thinking “out of the box.” They got a young “go-getter” out of bed and the B-52 was in the air by morning.

How can I ask my boyfriend who has stopped caring about me?

Ask him what?

How can leaders navigate the complexities of leadership with humility, confidence, and authenticity?

It isn’t that hard. I did it in the Air Force for about 20 years and in the private sector for another 17 years. A good leader isn’t full of themselves. They have to leave their “ego” behind and focus on the mission at hand. You show confidence but not so much that you forget the humility to accept responsibility for your decisions and listen to what your team members have to say. All of this makes up your “authenticity” as a leader.

Why does weather and annoying people particularly not behave the way I expect them to sometimes cause there even worse than I think or want them to ever cause there idiots. the never bit makes them idiots though. so so so sorry?

What? You need to work on this question.

Is happiness the only wisdom?

"Happiness" doesn’t create true wisdom. Problems and issues have a better chance of teaching one wisdom. If you burn yourself on a hot stove you will either have the wisdom to not touch a hot stove again, or you are a slow learner.

"Good people are good because they've come to wisdom through failure."

-- William Saroyan

Who is the author of the famous quote "Be yourself; everyone else is already taken"?

Oscar Wilde.

When you can’t decide the answer is probably no? I put myself down so much by talking about things in my head when there are better ways to think.

You can talk about things out loud, but people might think you’re simple-minded. Take it easy on yourself. Thinking is the same no matter how you do it.

What books do you recommend to become more eloquent?

Take a moment and think about what you’re going to say. Books won’t do this for you.

What is the most tragic thing that can happen to someone?

Take a hike in the desert and fall into a crevasse where you will die alone. My worst fear is dying alone. Will my body ever be found? I make certain that someone knows where I’m hiking, and that I will call them when I return. It is good sense.

Should we kill people for saying, “How's your day?”

Only if you’re a sociopathic sick ticket who likes to kill people for being cordial.

Who is credited with the quote, "To know your enemy, you must become your enemy."?

Sun Tzu, “The Art of War.” I have a copy.

“The greatest victory is that which requires no battle.”

-- Sun Tzu

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Flatmates, Love, Improvement, Fears, Arguing, and Smartest

“Some people are beyond aromatherapeutic help”

-- Beth O'Leary

I am currently facing issues with my flatmates. What should I do?

Find new flatmates. The issues will probably continue… unless you hold the “lease” to the flat, and your flatmates are screwed. Having the “upper hand” is always the best tactic when faced with idiots.

Is the result of coming to a conclusion a judgement?

If “coming to a conclusion” is your opinion, it might be seen as a judgment.

I am really bored. Can you ask me a question and I'll answer to the best of my ability?

“Why?” And “because” is not the answer. The answer to “Why?” is the answer of the ages. You might want to meditate on it for a few years, and then smile. Or, you can nod your head now, and smile. Up to you.

Does good luck come from positive thinking?

There is no such thing as luck. “Luck” is an excuse for not having enough knowledge. Good positive thinking, however, can substitute for a lack of knowledge. 

Does a lightworker have a lot of karma, or do they have "luck" in life?

Good “karma” is a result of making good choices and decisions. The “lightworker” probably strives to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of their circumstances. It is a choice in life. “Luck” is an excuse when you can’t understand that you have somehow, beat the odds, just as “bad luck” is the excuse when you have not beaten the odds.

Have you seen an expert like me before?

I have seen many people who are legends in their own minds.

"An individual who experiences grandiosity, with probable undertones of liberal to severe narcissism. Someone who thinks that they hold an immense amount of clout in the world when in reality they hold very little, or likely, none."

-- Phil Fernandez

Is it common for people to treat others poorly when they are in love?

No. That is tantamount to “usery” if you tell someone you love them and then treat them badly.

What are some examples of positive mindsets?

“I can do this. It might take me a few tries, but I can do this.”

What should I do if I am so completely obsessed with what others think of me to the point that I turn into a troll by being referred to as one?

So, you let others dictate what you think you should be. Would it be better if you were yourself, and ignored other people’s opinions of you? Becoming a “troll” is no answer, just because someone called you that. Rise above the fray, and be better than the rest.

Are there different levels of difficulty in the mysteries presented?

There are “levels of difficulty” in all things. The levels might seem equal, but they aren’t.

Why is it rare to see kindness?

People, in general, don’t want to get involved with strangers. Luckily, on the Gulf Coast of Mississippi, we don’t have this shortfall. We have kindness to spare.

Does kindness come from humanity?

I used to say yes to this, but “humanity” gets a bad rap, nowadays. “Kindness” comes from wanting to be kind to others. Most people understand this.

“Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.”

-- Henry James

What should you not do to improve your life?

Subjugate others.

How does personal growth contribute to happiness?

True happiness is a choice and personal growth is a choice. If you strive for true happiness always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances, you will experience personal growth throughout life. It is a matter of making a simple choice.

What's the purpose or topic you're interested in?

Paranormal investigation. This is the knowledge we ignore. Our purpose is to learn.

How does self-acceptance contribute to happiness?

That depends on if you will be truly happy accepting who you are. If this is tough acceptance, perhaps one must make some changes to be more happy with who they want to be. True happiness is accepting who you are always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. It is a choice we should all make for our lives.

What quote should I use to be respected?

“Quotes” won’t get you the respect you want. If you truly respect others, they will reciprocate in kind. This is the only respect one should garner in life. 

Where is the happiness of the poor?

It is in the same place it’s always been. Strive to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. It is a choice you make that trumps your circumstances and can make you a beacon of hope for others.

“We must know that we have been created for greater things, not just to be a number in the world, not just to go for diplomas and degrees, this work and that work. We have been created in order to love and to be loved.

-- ”Saint Teresa of Calcutta

Can a person truly have no fears? If so, how did they develop this mindset?

If a person has no fear they are destined to die in short order. Fear is what keeps us alive.

Why do many troll questions end in "What should I do"?

It doesn’t matter how they end the question. What matters is someone answers the question. If they are “trolls” it is a loss to them that someone cared to answer them. Trolls are proving themselves to be the dregs of online society if not society as a whole. They are “charter members” of the League of the Perpetually Offended. Answer all questions, but try to ignore the trolls when they come back at you.

How can I destroy my ego and arrogance?

Volunteer time to help the needy… and keep your mouth in check.

What motivates some people to try to make others look bad, even if the others are not doing anything wrong? What could be the reason for this behavior?

Ego and “one-upmanship” might be the answer. People tend to want to look better than others, even in their own click. It isn’t right, but it does happen. I try not to bite the bait from this group. I hang with my chosen crowd that treats everyone with a modicum of respect.

Why do guys catcall girls?

Lack of good upbringing.

How do you view life? What can we learn from the way you view it?

I strive for true happiness always and in all things, regardless of my circumstances. It is a simple choice to make for my life. Life is all about learning, not drama. I have learned to view life from a better perspective.

“Reality is not our thoughts and feelings about things. Many of us, for example, think that the Sun rises in the East and sets in the West. In reality, the Sun neither rises nor sets. We on Earth just move closer to the Sun or farther away from it. Most of us do not see reality as it is but rather as we are. That is what Krishna is telling Arjuna: To change your reality, change the mental filters through which you look - your own perspective. Just as a white building when viewed through red glass looks red, similarly, reality as it is can be distorted by the colours of emotions in the mind.”

-- Debashis Chatterjee

Why does no one on the planet want to argue with me for free?

Who in their right mind would want to argue? Who is their right mind who pays for the “privilege” to argue? Oh, I’m pretty sure there is some dumbass out there, the League of the Perpetually Offended, that will argue with you for free, and there is probably one that would pay for the privilege. To what end?

Is life just a manipulation by our microorganisms to self-sustain?

I’ve never heard sex described that way.

Is midnight the best time for creative inspiration?

Midnight is the best time for sleep, and I get damned little of it as it is. The best time for my creative juices is when I’m looking at the project.

What did you do when you turned 18?

I had the sex of a lifetime at the Mustang Ranch, in Las Vegas. 

Can it be true that the only defense against the world is a thorough knowledge of it?

No. Knowing the world is one thing. Having a defense against it is another. Nuclear explosive devices are tough to defend against. “Oh, look. In the sky. Here comes one of those nuclear explosive devices I have a thorough knowledge of.” It isn’t going to be a good day.

How do I gain full, deep, complete, entire, thorough, and detailed clarification in all my words, actions, attitudes, behaviors, languages, and phrases covering actually every single one literally as fact which is true, the truth, and is what it is?

Focus.

“Very occasionally, if you pay really close attention, life doesn't suck.”

-- Joss Whedon

Does the smartest person alive know they are the smartest?

If they are, how “smart” can they be?

Since when has logic, critical thinking, and common sense become a liability? And Why?

When you flaunt your logic, critical thinking, and common sense, to make you look like you’re all that. The first thing most people will point out is your lack of common sense. Flaunting your intelligence is never a good thing. Most people will see you as a stuck-up intelligentsia… with little common sense.

Author's comment: Good point/answer. But I was referring to organizations lacking all these.

My reply:  Odd. I didn’t see “organizations” in your question.

A common problem with stupid people is that they misunderstand what is said, can't think more than one step at a time, and are easily convinced by theatrics. What is the best way to talk to a stupid person?

Joe Biden is a clue. Be a Democrat in politics. You can be President.

Do you think being educated makes you smart?

No. Being educated makes you intelligent. As an intelligent person, what you do with your education can make you smart. What you know is one thing, but what you do with what you know is another.

What do we call a person who only has bookish knowledge?

Book smart.

Why do people act like France is a real place?

Uh… is this another trick question, or are you trolling for idiots?

“Lebedev: France has a clear and defined policy... The French know what they want. They just want to wipe out the Krauts, finish, but Germany, my friend, is playing a very different tune. Germany has many more birds in her sights than just France...

Shabelsky: Nonsense! ...In my view the German are cowards and the French are cowards... They're just thumbing their noses at each other. Believe me, things will stop there. They won't fight.

Borkin: And as I see it, why fight? What's the point of these armaments, congresses, expenditures? You know what I'd do? I'd gather together dogs from all over the country, give them a good dose of rabies and let them loose in enemy country. In a month all my enemies would be running rabid.”

-- Anton Chekhov

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Love, God, Horny, Caring, Science, and Differences

 

“If they substituted the word 'Lust' for 'Love' in the popular songs it would come nearer the truth.”

-- Sylvia Plath

What does it mean to love someone but not like them? Is it possible to love someone but not like them at all? How does this affect the way we treat that person?

If I do not like them, I sure won’t love them. I might “lust” after them, however. Lust is an acceptable substitute for love, if love is not possible. You can fall into lust all day long.

“There are much more important things to do with our time than to waste it on people who enjoy arguing and are always looking to be right.” Do you agree?

Indeed. The League of the Perpetually Offended, on this site, is a good example.

How can I develop a joyful daily morning routine?

At about 3:00 a.m., I take a mile and a bit of walk. When I get home, I’m on the computer answering questions until 7:00 or 8:00. My body gets exercise, and then my mind gets exercise. More important than these, is to strive for true happiness, always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. It is a choice you make for your life.

If you love someone, but he/she doesn't love you back, what should you do?

This isn’t rocket science. Find someone who will love you back.

How can one disprove or debunk atheism?

You can’t, any more than they can debunk theism. Niether side has any incontrovertible proof to present for their argument, yet they continue to bray at each other like two jackasses.

Reader comment: You cannot prove a negative, that is why courts, when they claim an individual has committed a crime are required to prove a crime was committed and the accused is responsible. People claim the existence of one ore more all powerful perfect beings, prove that claim with verifiable evidence, and most athiests would have no issue accepting the proof, and the existence of a diety. Until the claim is proven, it is in the same category as Santa, the tooth fairy, and unicorns.

My reply:  Or, no God. Oh, and "or," "all-powerful," "atheists," and "deity" are spelled wrong, and "fairy" needs a comma after it, and thank you for agreeing with me.

Reader reply: Arrogant, rude, and completely ignore what was said for some pedantic, totally disconnected reason rather than the facts of the statement, devout Christian I presume. If you cannot counter what was said, avoid it by distracting with how it was spelled. That proves you have no point.

My reply: At the risk of becoming the second jackass, calling people names is the tact of the League of the Perpetually Offended.  I am not a "devout" Christian, so your supposition is faulty. I can't counter what you said because you pretty much agreed with me. If I have no point, that also puts you in the crosshairs. (By the way, replace "ignore" with "ignored.")

Reader 2 reply: There can be no incontrovertible proof for the non existence of something. But atheism is A claim about positive proof, not really about the actual existence of any gods. “do you accept the claim that gods are real?” “No, I have no evidence to assume that to be the case”

Note: the second person isn't stating that no evidence does or could ever exist, simply that they do not know of any. Even if unquestionable evidence is provided at some point in the future, their claim is still valid/true, at the time the question was asked, they had no evidence to assume the claim was acceptable/valid.

My reply: Note: There seems to be a problem with you having proof. 

What does it mean to really love someone?

You will die for them. Without them in your life, you are dead anyway.

“True love is usually the most inconvenient kind.”

-- Kiera Cass

How do you get to know God more?

I gave up organized religion. My relationship with the “Big Guy” has never been stronger.

How do I become able to ease my mind or enjoy life even when life isn’t going so good?

Strive to be truly happy, always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. It is a simple choice you need to make for your life. If you can be happy, everyone around you can see this and they will be more happy than they are.

What is a question that can never be answered?

“Why?” Everyone wants to say, “Because.” But, it really doesn’t do it justice.

Do you always think about sex?

Yes! At 70 years of age, it drives me crazy.

What if my girl won't give me a blowjob?

Find another girl. There are things that men look for in women. For you, it seems to be a blowjob. If you are not getting it, then you aren’t truly happy. “Happy” is one of those things we need in our lives. Go find “happy.”

Why do Christians have problems with sex?

I’m a Christian, and I have no “problem” with sex, except that I can’t get enough of it.

“I don't know the question, but sex is definitely the answer.”

-- Woody Allen

I am 24 year old female and am always horny. Is something wrong with me?

As a 70-year-old man, I can say there is nothing wrong with you.

Which ones are the best ways to become less ignorant in life, and why?

Focus. Don’t go through life not paying attention. If you have questions, ask. If you have an opinion, say. Life is a series of lessons, and you have been cutting class. Maybe it’s time for you to pay attention.

Does your wife have sex with co-workers?

No, but sex was not her problem. I divorced her.

I used to be energetic and optimistic (basically talking a lot and with different people). Does maturing really shift your mindset drastically and make you humble and choose to say nothing?

Interesting. At 70 years of age, I find myself sitting on the deck of my favorite cigar lounge, alone. Not that I mind conversation, I just find it soothing. People come out and we have good conversations, but when they go back in, I stay outside.

My mom is a sex addict. What should I do?

I’d tell you to give her my number, but that won’t help. 

I am my spouse's career. What should I do?

If you don’t like that, then give them a “pink slip.” You can divorce them or tell them to back off a bit. Honesty and communication are necessary for a good relationship.

“A suffocating relationship drains the life force from both parties, leaving them gasping for freedom.”

-- Unknown

I care about money, sex, power, status, pleasure, control, land, and passing on my DNA. What's wrong with that?

Not a thing. Everybody wants it, but few ever get it.

Can someone be considered a true atheist if they have never been exposed to religion before reaching adulthood?

Why not? It is a belief, and we are free to change our thinking at any time. There is no rule preventing us from becoming an atheist. Organized religion drove me to find my own path where faith was concerned, It can drive many right out to atheism.

How can men become better at sex?

It depends on the partner

Which gender is more stressed?

Men are still the ones we see as the money makers, but women are surging up fast. I have no idea why women want all that stress, except that they might think they can handle it. Hey, if they can handle bringing up kids, what’s a boardroom to them?

What do you say when a friendship ends?

Sayonara.

How do I continue to love my life?

Strive for true happiness, always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. It is a choice for your life. I put drama in the trash. Life is much too short for drama. 

“You can’t save others from themselves because those who make a perpetual muddle of their lives don’t appreciate your interfering with the drama they’ve created. They want your poor-sweet-baby sympathy, but they don’t want to change.”

-- Sue Grafton

Can science explain the origin of God, who is believed to have created everything?

No.

I am 25 years old, unemployed, and depressed. What should I do?

So, what are you? 23 or 25? You listed both ages on similar questions, and I’d like to know. If you don't know how old you are, this might be a reason for being depressed. Just saying.

What are some brutal facts about human life?

You are born, you learn, and you die. Oh, and you get reborn.

How do I convince atheists that there is a God and that there's no way the universe was created without there being a God?

Good luck with that. Faith is the belief in something for which there is little or no proof, and no one has any incontrovertible proof for, or against, the existence of God.

Can a question make an atheist believe in God?

No.

Can atheism be proven like religion can be?

Religion can’t be proven. It is why we call it “faith.” Both sides of the discussion have faith in their belief, but “faith” is a belief in something for which there is little or no proof.

“Anyone who thinks sitting in church can make you a Christian must also think that sitting in a garage can make you a car.”

-- Garrison Keillor

What is the difference between a task and a scope?

The task is the job at hand. The scope is everything the task entails or might entail.

Is there a limit to the number of tasks you can add to your list?

My tasks can be infinite. The number I can do is not.

Is being religious a choice? Can being an atheist also be considered a choice?

Yes, and yes.

If you want to achieve in life, what should be your first step?

Learn about perseverance.

Will a guy think I’m too fat during sex?

Not really. Maybe after, though. We like to focus. 

Is there anything bigger than the universe?

The “multiverse.”

"The multiverse is the hypothetical set of all universes. Together, these universes are presumed to comprise everything that exists: the entirety of space, time, matter, energy, information, and the physical laws and constants that describe them. The different universes within the multiverse are called "parallel universes", "flat universes", "other universes", "alternate universes", "multiple universes", "plane universes", "parent and child universes", "many universes", or "many worlds". One common assumption is that the multiverse is a "patchwork quilt of separate universes all bound by the same laws of physics."

-- Wikipedia, "Multiverse"

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Society, Stupidity, Life, Time, Money, and Arguments

 

“I am suspicious of all the things that the average person believes.”

― H.L. Mencken

Has society become more gullible over time, or has social media simply made it more apparent?

Society is more gullible, but social media has made it more apparent… like it has everything else. 

What are the signs that I'm being cyberbullied or being trolled? I know I don't need to ask, but sometimes I get it wrong and they’re just criticizing me.

The good thing about being online is that you can ignore assholes. I ignore them all the time, but mine are usually members of the League of the Perpetually Offended. If they are criticizing you, it is the same as bullying. Asking a question is no reason for someone to do a hatchet job on you, any more than answering one. My best advice is to press on and ignore idiots.

Who says "Treat Others The way you want to be treated", "Respect is earned, not given" and "Give respect to Get respect"? Those words don't exist to begin with. Why were those 3 phrases established in the First place even though it doesn't exist?

Words to live by, even if you haven’t heard them before. Those words were drilled into me by my father when I was a child, and I’m 70 years old now.

Why do people who walk away from arguments do it?

There is too much drama in an argument. If you have an opinion, that’s fine, but don’t turn your opinion into an argument, and don’t let anybody else do it for you. Arguments are meant for you to walk away from unless you want to be the jackass braying at the other jackass. This is all anyone will hear.

Are there any hidden aspects in our relationship that we may not be aware of?

Oh, hell yes.

What are some nice quotes to tell your boyfriend that you want sex?

Don’t “quote" what you want. Tell him what you want. Sometimes we make a game out of our necessity. If you want sex, tell him you want sex, and tell him to take you now. Don’t beat around the bush, that's for him to do.

Reader comment: Right. Because most likely, he won't understand and then she's going to get mad at him for not understanding and somehow it turns out to be his fault and it will cause a fight.

“The difference between sex and love is that sex relieves tension and love causes it.”

-- Woody Allen

Who is the stupid kid who created this site?

Who are the stupid kids that visit it? Welcome to the club.

Why do people only judge a person who has plenty of money? And not judge by his behavior and nature.

You judge all people because you think they all act alike. You’re putting all people in the same bucket. I don’t judge people by their money, I judge them by what their money turns them into - their “behavior and nature.” Sometimes they can be selfless and giving, sometimes they can be vanilla, and sometimes they can be assholes. “Plenty of money” has a varied effect on people.

What are the top hobbies that make you smarter?

Learning. Just saying.

What strategies can individuals employ to cultivate a stronger sense of morality and resist engaging in malicious behaviors, particularly in challenging circumstances?

The best strategy I can think of is to not get involved in it. This isn’t rocket science any more than good morality is.

Is there any AI that thinks like humans?

Not yet, but give it time. This should scare the crap out of everybody.

How do cultural expectations and norms around success and achievement impact our pursuit of personal growth?

It depends on the person and how they are brought up. I have no filter, and I don’t think I ever did. My mother always said my mouth would be my greatest enemy, and she was right. The military taught me to watch what I say, and in the Intelligence field, I had a bit of leeway. My corporate boss wanted a person to tell him “like it is” and I told him that would be no problem. I held that job for 17 years.

"The non-sensitive persons showed the usual difficulty, but the highly sensitive subjects’ brains apparently did not have this difficulty, regardless of their culture. It was as if they found it natural to look beyond their cultural expectations to how things “really are.”

-- Dr. Elaine Aron

What is the meaning of life in 5 words?

We are here to learn.

Why does everyone in the universe laugh at me?

Well, the three questions you’ve just written might give you a clue as to why everybody in the world laughs at you. I give all questions an equal chance, but it’s like you beg to be ridiculed.

Why is the most evil book in existence called good?

“Mein Kampf” by Adolf Hitler hasn’t, to my knowledge, been called good by any sane person.

Why do people call you an idiot? Are you not aware of something? What is it?

The only people who call me an idiot are members of the League of the Perpetually Offended. I ignore them… since I have no filter. You’ll know if you get involved with them because they go immediately to cussing you out in any return message to you. You will find you have better things to do with your time than pay attention to them.

What would you say are the benefits of self-hatred?

If you’re not trying to better yourself, then no. Self-hatred usually leads to suicide, which denies the world of another potentially beautiful life.

What's the best life quote you have ever come across?

Try this:

“Strive to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. It is a choice for your life.”

— F.A. Villari

Why am I greater than most people at wasting time?

You’ve found a way to make a career of wasting your life.

Why is being intelligent no longer safe in this world?

Being intelligent was never any safer than being an idiot, though an idiot probably wouldn’t skydive, wear a wingsuit, or go free-climbing.

What is the psychology of people who talk bad about other people non-stop?

Jealousy.

How do I release my desire for revenge in my self-improvement journey?

Revenge benefits no one, and it will certainly not benefit your “self-improvement journey.” Better that you leave “revenge” in the hands of karma.

What do you call someone who doesn't like anyone or anything, including themselves, in the multiverse?

Miserable. 

How do you lead with humility?

A good leader of people doesn’t lead with anger. You lead with good, concise, and complete communication. You ask questions to ensure understanding and to ensure everyone is on the same track. Everyone knows they can come to you with problems that need solving. Everyone needs to know the what, where, when, who, and how of the projects. Most importantly, if the group feels you are not leading properly, you can step down as leader. If the group feels they aren’t being led proficiently, then what’s the point? Another leader needs to step in and take the reins of command. 

“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.”

-- Rick Warren

What is the meaning behind "You can be young without money but you can’t be old without it"?

There are plenty of old homeless people who have little or no money.

The bullies are gods and the demonized are damned. Why is human social mechanics so malignantly cancerous?

Bullies are idiots, and the damned let themselves be demonized. People need to throw their fear in the wind and stand up for themselves. If you fight back, he may recover and beat the crap out of you. Life is funny that way, but he has to go to sleep. Chances are, though, he will leave you alone. Bullies are also cowards.

Who is the idiot of the week?

The same idiot last week, and the week before that, since he was elected - Joe Biden.

What old sayings bug you for their misinformation, misquoting, etc.?

“We’re burning daylight.” This saying negates whether a project needs to be completed, daylight or not. Someone said this to me in the military, so I went into the office and returned with flashlights. We worked through the night.

There’s something I wanted to buy but I was exactly 1$ off. I know this is a stupid question but I’m genuinely curious (outside of a job that I have)?

And? Your question is what?

Do you think pessimism is justified on the broad spectrum?

The “spectrum” has no bearing on this. Pessimism is a waste of precious time. If you have a better mousetrap, then voice it. If you don’t, then keep your mouth shut so time isn’t wasted and any constructive action can begin. Pessimism is the enemy of constructive thinking.

“Pessimists are usually right and optimists are usually wrong but all the great changes have been accomplished by optimists.”

-- Thomas Friedman

What happens when you tell an argumentative person that they are correct?

They will argue with you about it.

How much of what people judge you by was just stuff you were making up?

I’ve learned not to give a shit when people judge me. Besides, their judgment says more about them than it says about me.

What’s your favorite question?

“Why?” The wrong answer is, “Because.”

If you can't think of a comeback, does that mean your opponent is smarter or right?

It can mean that I don’t have a comeback, even though he’s an idiot and what he said made no sense.

In your subjective opinion, does good humor usually require a victim?

Not necessarily.

What is the philosophical answer to, “Why do humans harm the harmless”?

Not all humans harm the harmless. And not all of the “harmless” are harmless, either. The “philosophical answer” is to watch your back. 

“Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the universe.”

-- Albert Einstein

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com