Questions of Time, Chemistry, and Personalities

“I shall not commit the fashionable stupidity of regarding everything I cannot explain as a fraud.”

-- C.G. Jung (1875-1961), psychiatrist, psychoanalyst

For all bad leaders, envious and thief scientists, inventors, entrepreneurs, even musicians, is it true that the past was theirs, but the present and future is ours? Are we the ones who should change the world for a better place?

Each moment belongs to each of us. The past is done and the future may not be. All we have to work with is now. Each of us should have been using the moment to change the world. If we were not, it is a lost moment for us. Do what you need to do now and don’t concern yourself with what was or what may be. What we do now, is the only impetus for what comes in the next moment, and the next, and so on. Selflessly do what needs to be done and the future will be what it is… if it is. There will always be bad, envious, people because the universe is all about balance. Be better than they are and learn to be happy always.

What do you think of this quote "The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed"?

It leaves open the question of no reaction. There must be a reaction if both are transformed, so it isn’t necessarily “like the contact of two chemical substances” unless they are reactive to each other.

Is 100 percent perfection or excellence?

Excellence. Nothing is perfect except God, and, for some, the jury is still out on that.

“We should not judge people by their peak of excellence; but by the distance they have traveled from the point where they started.”

-- Henry Ward Beecher (1813-1887), clergyman, social reformer

Do you normally win in most situations?

It depends on your definition of “win” I suppose. I always feel I’ve won in almost all situations. Failure is not a loss if you look upon it as an opportunity to learn. If I compete against another person it isn’t a loss if I choose to celebrate their win and am happy for their effort instead of wallowing in self-pity Better we should be happy always and not be too concerned about the ramifications of winning or losing.

What is the most underhanded thing someone has done when you were doing them a favor?

They wouldn’t dare.

What is that one picture that describes the unforgettable moment in your life?

Recently I did a photoshoot in a haunted house. I informed the paranormal entity that I was only going to take two more photos, so if she wanted me to return she would have to get in front of my lens and make her presence known. The first 23 photos were clear and sharp. I have been into photography my entire life, and I can’t duplicate either of the last two photos I took that day. The best of the two is here:

“I don't suppose you have to believe in ghosts to know that we are all haunted, all of us, by things we can see and feel and guess at, and many more things that we can't.”

-- Beth Gutcheon, author

What is the difference between intuition and an educated guess?

Intuition, unlike an educated guess, doesn’t require conscious reasoning. An educated guess requires reasoning through what you may have learned by past experience.

Are some dreams too big?

It depends on who's dreaming. The bigger the dream the more work must go into making it a reality. 

Is someone better than a worthy opponent?

A worthy friend. In all my competition through life, win or lose, a good and loyal friend by my side has been invaluable and so much more appreciated.

To possess dignity is to be worthy of respect. Worthy of high esteem. Absorb this: you are worthy of respect.

-- Beth Moore, evangelist, author, teacher

Can you tell me about myself based on my past questions?

Not necessarily. You are not the same now as when you asked the questions. Every moment, we develop, grow, and change. If the answers to your questions had true meaning for you, then the only conclusion I could give is that you are a seeker.

What is one thing that inspires you to live when being depressed?

Consider the alternative, death, and then embrace the fact that you are alive to consider the alternative. Death from this realm is either permanent or you will be reborn into this realm and relive your life until you wrap your mind around the poor choices and decisions you make that cause you depression.

Better you should get rid of all the drama in your life, the bad debts, relationships, jobs, and such, and just learn to be happy always.

Author's comment:  I always used to be scared about the prospect of dying at a young age, and as I grew up, I got scared of living. I listen to music, even sad music when I feel sad because it helps me get my emotion out. I also write in a diary as it helps me vent out any unwanted emotions. As I have grown up, I realized that it's about what you give to the world. From then on, I made a resolution to do something amazing when I grow up because, at the end of the day, I like to think that we are all put on earth for a reason, so we might as well do something with the gift we were given; life.

My response:  You are on the right path.  Wake up every morning and thank God for the gift of another glorious day in paradise and another chance to excel in this life. Also, understand the failure is simply a chance to learn from a mistake. Revel in the chance to learn because, without it, we might repeat the mistake. What we learn from it may help us to avoid it next time or, at least, mitigate the effect on our lives and those around us. 

Do you think it is the wisest option to only compare ourselves to who we were yesterday?

I would be more concerned about who I am today than comparing myself to who I was before. Always act in an ethical manner, and always strive to be happy always. In doing this, who you were yesterday will always be who you are today and, if there is a tomorrow, this you will be there as well. Comparison is competition. Try to never compete with yourself. 

“Comparison is the death of joy.”

-- Mark Twain (1835-1910), writer, humorist

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteers as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

 

A Few Questions of Mistakes

"In failure can be found the best opportunity for learning." 

-- T. Villari

What is the meaning of "one may go wrong in many different ways, but right only in one, which is why it is easy to fail, difficult to succeed, easy to miss the target, and difficult to hit it”?

I’m not sure this makes sense. I can succeed in a project in many different ways. I can hit a target in a standing, prone, or kneeling position. For many of us, there might be just as many ways to succeed as to fail, if not more so. Having said this, there will probably be an easier way to succeed or to fail, than whatever route we chose.

The problem with trial and error is…error. The problem with being reliable is being relied upon. How much of our human struggles are a result of unreasonable expectations?

How much of our human successes are due to our learning from mistakes? The glass is half full. The problem is not a trial with the error. The problem is not learning from the error. Failure is one of the best ways we learn.

What do you think about this phrase "the truth will set you free"?

Guilt is a subtle self-damnation. Whether we realize it or not, lies do us no favor when it comes to finding true happiness.

“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”

-- Joe Klaas (1920-2016), author 

I think therefore I am quote by Rene Descartes. How do I relate this to our everyday conversation?

“I am thinking, therefore I am.” — (earliest translation) 1872 by Charles Porterfield Krauth. Basically, this says everything. If you are cognizant of thinking, how can you doubt your existence? I suppose one can relate this in everyday conversation by the simple fact you are conversing, therefore you exist.

What if acceptance is the reason?

What if our acceptance is the only reason for allowing live births to be terminated? Does acceptance make the murder of innocence, innocence protected in the Constitution, morally okay? And, if it does make the murder of children, who have no voice to fight for themselves, legal, what does this say of us as civilized people? No. Simple “acceptance” should never be used as the only reason for something.

How much bad luck do kind, caring, loyal, and honest people have in life?

As much as anybody else. Being kind, caring, loyal, and honest do not guarantee good luck any more than being mean, selfish, disloyal, and dishonest. Life is a crapshoot. You can pad your bets in the game by making good, educated, choices and decisions. Better just not to concern ourselves with luck where life is concerned. Do the right, ethical, things and make the best, right, ethical, choices, and decisions. Learn to be happy always!

“Shallow men believe in luck or in circumstance. Strong men believe in cause and effect.”

-- Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882), essayist, philosopher, poet

What can we depict from the fact that when a number is decreased by 25%, the new number has to be increased by 33.333% to get the same old number?

Math is fascinating? Having said that, however, “point nine times infinity” will never equal one unless, of course, there is an x-factor involved in the equation. There will always be “point one times infinity” hanging out there, somewhere.

What is Among Us? How do you play it?

If we knew why what is among us it might better define what what is. Until we know what what is, we really won’t know how to play what, or why we should even try.  Does that make sense?

How should I act with all the changes nowadays?

Change is the only universal constant. It is what it is until it isn’t, and then it is what it is again. Better not to concern yourself with those things for which you have little or no control and pay more attention to being happy always.

“You can’t be beaten by something you laugh at.”

-- Jonathan Harnisch, author, musician, artist

Are rich people significantly happier than average people?

An answer put forth, here, referenced a study done by Daniel Kahneman and Angus Deaton. Money cannot buy happiness, according to the study that stated, “We conclude that high income buys life satisfaction but not happiness, and that low income is associated both with low life evaluation and low emotional well-being.”

Whether you are poor or rich, happiness is a state of mind. It is a choice each of us must make regardless of our circumstance. The question we must ask ourselves is if we are willing to embrace “life satisfaction” without happiness? Is that all there is? I think not. Better we should learn to be happy always.

During your lifetime are you are net giver or contributor or a net receiver or beneficiary to society and the economy?

I detest the idea of leaching off of society simply because I can, not because I need to. Welfare begets welfare and while it may seem to “improve” the circumstance of those involved with it, it does nothing to move them along their path into the next existence.

We are here to learn lessons we will need as we move forward. We can learn those lessons or we can remain here until we do. If you choose welfare here you will be faced with welfare again. If your choice repeats, so will your life. We are here to learn, to better ourselves and society, not to suck the lifeblood of those who do.

In a word what do you consider to be the perfect state of being?

Happiness!

“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”

-- Albert Camus (1913-1960), philosopher, author, journalist

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteers as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

Never Too Late for Questions

“Thunder may sound a warning, but it's too late for the lightning.”

-- Anthony T.Hincks, author

It’s never too late, but if it were, when and what would make it so?

A firm deadline. For example, If you miss boarding time for your flight, you’re out of luck. Once the flight leaves, they’re not returning for your lack of timeliness.

Would you be considered a loser if you are still using a BlackBerry?

Only if you feel like a loser, or care about how others judge you. I have a “flip” phone, and I’ll be pulled into technology kicking and screaming. The real losers, in my view, is the mass of society who can’t get their nose out of their phone to communicate face to face with people they care about. Take a walk through a restaurant, or anywhere else where people go to socialize and look at how many are still texting or reading an email. This is just sad. If you’re with me, then be with me. Anything else is simply rude.

How do we know you are who you say you are?

I spent over 22 years in military intelligence. Hell, I’m not even sure I am who I say I am.

“I yam what I yam, and that's all what I yam.”

-- Popeye the sailorman

Is what you consider as your greatest achievement also considered the hardest?

My greatest achievement is my two children, grown now. Raising them wasn’t as hard as it was the duty of a parent. There were ups and downs, to be expected, and a divorce in the mix, but they were both my joy, and still are.

Does music help you in educational activities and life?

No. I enjoy music as a way to relax, or when I’m doing mindless labor. But, I find it hard to concentrate and focus with noise in the background. I have always been able to knock out twice as much work if I stayed late, after everyone left.

Trump's approval ratings seem to be dropping even further. Should he quit concentrating on his base supporters and start concentrating on the moderates of both parties?

Stop listening to “polls” as their “cross-section” really isn’t. There are also variables polls don’t take into account. Trump will either win this or Harris will be the new President. Seen any polls on that?  I'll bet not.

“In America, everyone is entitled to an opinion, and it is certainly useful to have a few when a pollster shows up. But these are opinions of a quite different order from eighteenth- or nineteenth-century opinions. It is probably more accurate to call them emotions rather than opinions, which would account for the fact that they change from week to week, as the pollsters tell us. What is happening here is that television is altering the meaning of 'being informed' by creating a species of information that might properly be called disinformation. I am using this world almost in the precise sense in which it is used by spies in the CIA or KGB. Disinformation does not mean false information. It means misleading information--misplace, irrelevant, fragmented or superficial information--information that creates the illusion of knowing something but which in fact leads one away from knowing. In saying this, I do not mean to imply that television news deliberately aims to deprive Americans of a coherent, contextual understanding of their world. I mean to say that when news is packaged as entertainment, that is the inevitable result. And in saying that the television news show entertains but does not inform, I am saying something far more serious than that we are being deprived of authentic information. I am saying we are losing our sense of what it means to be well informed. Ignorance is always correctable. But what shall we do if we take ignorance to be knowledge?”

-- Neil Postman (1931-2003), media theorist, author, educator 

What was totally acceptable in high school 50 years ago that isn't today?

Learning, teaching, and good conduct. Not necessarily in that order.  Check out this link:  Eduacation 50 Years Ago

What is something important to think about today, 9/23/20?

Being happy always! Removing drama from our lives and learning to be happy should be first and foremost in our minds each and every day. We need to be happy always and bring those around us aboard for the ride. Be their light and show them how.

Is the phrase "love what you do and you'll never work a day in your life" true? To the people who have jobs related to their passion, are there times where you feel like you wish to get a different job or at least just get tired of it?

My aunt was a doctor, she had several higher degrees, and she built a company from scratch over the course of years. She loved what she was doing and never considered it work. She, and her company, became world-renowned, She made millions on the sale of it. She never wanted to do anything else, unless it dealt with this business. I tried to get her to take a vacation, but she wouldn’t hear of it. She had her dog, her gardens, and her business, and was very happy.

What aspects of humanity do people take for granted?

Naivete. I simply take for granted that most people are naive. They lack wisdom, good judgment, and selflessness. And, good “common” sense is not so common anymore. Embracing this, and looking at current events, I have been rarely disappointed.

“Most often, what I don’t know will have a vastly greater bearing on my life that what I do know.”

-- Craig D. Lounsbrough, minister, counselor, life coach

How come somebody who has nothing will give their last and help you out but somebody who has the whole world in the palm of his hands won't give you a single penny and just watch you starve and freeze in the cold to your demise and laugh?

If you have nothing to risk, what’s their downside of giving what you don’t have? It is a sad admission that it is so easy for people to be selfless when they risk nothing in doing so. However, I bought groceries for a group that fed the homeless in Olympia and I have never seen anybody walking by that laughed at those who are starving and cold.

Are “To be honest with you” or “to tell you the truth” mostly used to share honest answers or to cover up a lie?

To preface a statement with these would seem to indicate you aren’t always honest and truthful. I think we do it as a matter of form, but we should ask why we feel the need? If you’re always honest and truthful they would be redundant. It might be better to preface the other statements with, “I don’t know” or “I would be lying if I answered.”

What's your opinion on the saying "do what I say, don't do what I do"?

As a self-proclaimed hypocrite, I use this saying quite often. There is wrong, there is me, and then there is right. I often skirt the “right” because no one wants to be preached to, and I’m not one to be preachy. I prefer to approach people from my own, less than laudable, past when it comes to giving advice. Would you go to a Catholic priest for marriage counseling? I think not. They have no valid point of reference.

“The difference between my darkness and your darkness is that I can look at my own badness in the face and accept its existence while you are busy covering your mirror with a white linen sheet. The difference between my sins and your sins is that when I sin I know I'm sinning while you have actually fallen prey to your own fabricated illusions.”

-- C. JoyBell C., poet, author, philosopher

What is the best and simplest way to advise someone without breaking them down?

Ask if they’d like some advice. Tell them your advice might be too honest, and then ask them, again, if they’d like to hear it. 

What real-life trends were driven entirely by COVID-19?

Hoarding mass toilet paper, like anyone reported a COVID-19 symptom was pooping your brains out.

What does "life matters" mean?

ALL LIFE MATTERS! It means that, regardless of color, religion, age, gender identification, political affiliation, etc., ALL life is important. Unborn children are important, and those babies that are born and left lying in another room while a decision is made whether to murder them or not are extremely important to how our society should be viewed. 

“Everyone’s important. Trouble is trying to figure out why.”

-- Emory R. Frie, author

Why come up with dumb ideas to improve society like defunding and such when we have such a golden chance to really do better?

You’ve answered the question by addressing it with “dumb ideas.” These ideas come from the ignorance of reality. What is scary, to me, is these “dumb” ideas come from “intelligent” people, which might be evidence of how far our educational system has fallen.

What are we in the Golden age of?

We won’t really know this until we’re in another age of the same thing, then we can look back and say, “That was the golden age of whatever.” Perhaps, looking forward with the knowledge that it will only keep developing, we can say we’re still in the golden age of computer technology. The new age, which will become the “silver age,” might be Artificial Intelligence. 

Questions from my children. Does everywhere end somewhere?

Not necessarily. The truth is, we really don’t know. We can tell you what science thinks, our best guess, but that’s all it is - a guess. What lies beyond our universe? What lies beyond “what lies beyond” our universe, and so on. Some people will argue the “universe” is finite, and this may be right. But, what lies beyond the beyond? We won’t truly know until we go there and see.

“Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the universe.”

-- Albert Einstein (1879-1955), theoretical physicist

 

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteers as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

 

And, the Questions Keep Coming!

"I prefer not to think before speaking.  I like being just as surprised as everyone else at what comes out of my mouth."

-- Anonymous

Politically, what specifically must be accomplished in a time of the essence scenario?

Quality communication between parties in order to mitigate whatever is happening. One party cannot dig in their heels and knowingly do nothing. This solves nothing and may cost lives due to their selfish agenda.

Does one have to live with his wife in heaven?

What if you married twice, and both died before you? What if both of them were married before and their husbands died. I think where we go is a “bus station” where we wait for our next assignment. We love many people in life, some more than others, but still love. We will all be together at the station, and we will all better understand the love we feel for each other.

What should I do when my high school teacher asked me to write about my aim in life?

You’ve been asked, not told, to write about it. This is not rocket science. Think about what your aim is, and then write about it. Or, is this question being made more difficult than I think it is?

“Effort within the mind further limits the mind, because effort implies struggle towards a goal and when you have a goal, a purpose, an end in view, you have placed a limit on the mind.”

-- Bruce Lee

Will New Year’s public celebrations be canceled due to COVID-19?

Probably, but people will gather and celebrate anyway. They will get sick and infect others, and we will keep on decreasing the surplus population of people with little sense and the innocent they murder simply because of contact. Has anyone checked the real estate prices overseas? Might be a good time to consider that villa overlooking the Mediterranean. I’ll bet there are quite a few estates on the market for cheap. Property in Mississippi is going like hotcakes. Refugees from all the burning cities up North and out West are converging on the South where everyone is welcomed, and all lives matter.

Someone once said, “With age comes wisdom.” Do you agree? What examples can you give to validate your view?

For the most part, I think this is true. The lessons we learn in this life provide most of us with the “wisdom of age” we see in most older people. I’ve also seen the stubborn dumbasses who refuse to budge in the face of “experience, knowledge, and good judgment; the quality of being wise.” As a chaplain, I have been in a couple of sad situations where the dying said they never truly understood life until they were at death’s door. Much too busy for wisdom? Did they simply ignore all of the experience and knowledge? Was their judgment always iffy?

What is your purpose to want that people approve of you?

I do not seek approval from anyone. I try to lead an ethical life. Accepting me or not is the decision they must make, not that I care. However, judgment should be the purview of those who have a clean house. I have yet to find anyone who is that perfect.

“What do you mean I have to wait for someone's approval? I'm someone. I approve. So I give myself permission to move forward with my full support!”

-- Richelle E. Goodrich

What did you assume, but were actually spot on?

I was in military intelligence for over 22 years. During this time I had the pleasure of disagreeing with the analysis of other government intelligence agencies concerning unfolding situations. I was usually spot on. When commanders asked how I came to my conclusions I asked them to put themselves in the shoes of the enemy, and then ask if the analysis of the other agencies makes any damn sense. If you’re analyzing the possible choices a rebel commander might make, you have to get down in his trenches, embrace his mindset, and ask what you would do in his place.

When did it all go downhill?

When I retired the third time. The uphill battles were over. It was now time for me to enjoy the ride downhill into the valley of retirement and fish the streams of relaxation.

How do you overcome the difference between perception and viewpoint?

Prove the perception is more valid than your viewpoint, or vice-versa. You can perceive something that isn’t necessarily true, like with a magic trick.

“My business is to paint what I see, not what I know is there.”

-- J.M.W. Turner (1775-1851), painter, printmaker, watercolorist

I've never been satisfied with myself, even at all the capabilities that I have, I always want to be better no matter what. I've always compared myself to other people, but I want this to stop. How?

You can compare yourself with others all you want, but you are still going to be you. If you take on their traits, it will just be you with their traits. There is nothing wrong with being better, but whatever you strive for or strive to be, do it because you want it, not because others have done it. You must understand that you are okay, not that someone else thinks you’re okay. Take a breath. This life will end and another will take its place. maybe you should take a well-deserved break and learn something more fun, like how to be happy always.

What would be your definition of what getting led on is?

Believing what you’re being told, even though it isn’t valid. It is evidence of a person’s gullibility. Mass media and political parties lead people on all the time, again, evidencing the gullibility of people in our society to believe what they’re told in the face of facts. 

Can everyone share their personal opinions on how life started on Earth? It will help me a lot since I need it for a school project, especially since we are supposed to add other opinions.

I would research “panspermia” for this project: “the theory that life on the earth originated from microorganisms or chemical precursors of life present in outer space and able to initiate life on reaching a suitable environment.” This is an idea that is taking hold among scholars. Check out this link: Panspermia - Wikipedia

A thing is either alive or it isn’t; there is nothing that is almost alive. There is but the remotest possibility of the origin of life by spontaneous generation, and every likelihood that Arrhenius is right when he dares to claim that life is a cosmic phenomenon, something that drifts between the spheres, like light, and like light transiently descends upon those fit to receive it.

-- Donald Culross Peattie (1898-1964), botanist, "An Almanac for Moderns (1935), 393"

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteers as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

 

 

A Question of Good and Right

“When you truly sing, you sing yourself free. When you truly dance, you dance yourself free. When you walk in the mountains or swim in the sea, again, you set yourself free.”

-- Jay Woodman, author

Would you rather sleep under a wasp nest or swim with orcas?

I wouldn’t get much sleep under a wasp’s nest, but I have always wanted to swim with whales. Generally, if you don’t mess with them, they don’t mess with you. Wasps have no concept of mutual respect.

How has what has taken place so far in 2020 impacted where you thought you wanted to work or to move to prior to this year?

My dad’s third stroke changed my plans, and his death seriously impacted my life. Now, I am here taking care of my mother instead of pursuing any thoughts of touring the country or assisting an archeological dig in the SW desert. However, I am not angry at this. I am doing what a son does. It is payback for everything sacrificed for me over a lifetime. It is what it is until it isn’t, and then it will be what it is again. Change, the only universal constant.

Do we have to achieve something to be good?

No, but then, being good in this day and age is, itself, an achievement.  Better for us to be good, regardless of any achievement, and to be happy always. 

“This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.”

-- Dalai Lama XIV

"If you could build it, they will come," is a phrase from a famous movie. With that in mind, if you could build it, what would you build and who would come?

I would build a meditation center, with an expansive garden and park, to promote peace and understanding. I think many people searching for their path would love to have a peaceful retreat they can frequent.

What's the most useful social skill?

Communication. We would all be well served to put down technology and, once again, learn how to talk to one another face to face with understanding and tolerance.

Is the soul prepared to give up things that it has made up in itself?

The soul has no possessions, so the only “things” it could give up would be non-material emotions, like guilt. Everything becomes known when we move on. Our sins, our secrets, our guilt, all become known as truth. We, for all intents and purposes, will find ourselves incapable of lying or concealing. It isn’t that we are being judged as much as it is that we are judging ourselves. We are laying bare our soul for all to see. So what about hauntings?

Some souls don’t move on. Either they don’t know they are supposed to, they’re being held here by evil, or they are evil and refuse to have their soul run up the flagpole for all to see. The latter condemn themselves to hell on earth and, because of their fear of confronting and owning what they’ve done in life, are at the mercy of even stronger evil.

My point being, after a soul makes the choice to move on to what comes next, I don’t think it has a choice to “give up” things, it will just happen. 

“God shows us the path; the Devil shows us the possibilities.”

-- Ljupka Cvetanova, author

What was the most meaningful thing you did this week?

I evacuated my mother to safety from another hurricane that never was, this season. It crawled it’s way into Alabama and left us alone. 

Is subscribing for good luck?

I would suppose it depends on how you’re using the word, but I see no way it can be attributed to luck. I can help to guarantee delivery, agreement, etc., but I’m not sure an expectation of luck falls in there. 

What is the easiest way to be correct about everything all the time?

Kill everyone on the planet so no one can judge you when you’re wrong, and you will be wrong, sooner or later. Life is all about learning, and learning is all about making mistakes. If you are right all the time it would make you God, but you’re not. It is much easier to learn how to be happy always and live a constructive life.

“People who base their self-worth on being right about everything prevent themselves form learning from their mistakes. They lack the ability to take on new perspectives and empathize with others. They close themselves off to new and important information. It's far more helpful to assume that you're ignorant and don't know a whole lot. This keeps you unattached to superstitious or poorly informed beliefs and promotes a constant state of learning and growth.”

--  Mark Manson, self-help author, blogger

I am 31 and have a family. I want to go for a degree in engineering. Can I cope with a younger student?

Are you there to get a degree or socialize? The first thing I’d do is learn to embrace priorities. The younger student might learn something from you, like focus.

Can more people have more Murphy’s law than others?

It depends on how much risk you’re willing to entertain. The more risks you take, the more chances there are that you overlooked something. If it can go wrong, it probably will. People can mitigate this through good planning. Plan for the best outcome, but watch out for the worst.

What’s the most unexpectedly expensive thing to replace?

The airconditioning system in a house. I don’t think many people really consider the cost of replacing it until it fails, and then the shock sets in.

What is success, if not money? I know different people. Some ambitious and some not and they seem happy where they are. I messed up my career I feel bad, I don't think l will get married and have kids. Then my life was a failure?

If you are happy, you are successful in life. If you think your life was a failure then you have made the conscious decision to embrace failure as a negative you can feel bad about.

We don’t teach people how to be happy in failure, how failure is the best way we learn lessons. We don't discuss our failures.  We are not taught how to review why our choice went wrong and then correct it, and learn from it so we don’t make the same mistake twice.

If you messed up your career, why did you do what you did? Learn from it and start again. Wallowing in a pit of misery is also a choice, a choice to give up and learn nothing from your mistake. Life is not a failure until you give up on it.

“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” 

-- Denis Waitley, motivational speaker, writer, consultant

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteers as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

Questioning Others

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”

-- Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (1926-2004), psychiatrist

 

Who said you bring out the best in people?

There are several people, throughout my adult life, including every woman since my divorce. Subconscious jealousy?  I only know that I am my own worst critic. My humility makes it tough to see what these others see in me. Maybe if everyone just tried to be happy always, instead of letting ego lead us by the nose, we would all bring out the best in each other.

How do you bring someone with you?

Start by asking them if they even want to come. Then, in business, you have to convince those over you that this person is an asset. The decision you make to bring them with you should be selfless. What you’re doing is helping them down their path while making your way a bit easier. You need them as much as they need you, but do it for the right reasons, or they’ll soon understand they’re being used to forward your career more than their own. They might end up managing with you, and allies are as essential as friends. Learn to cultivate both on your path.

When did you realize if it’s to be it’s up to me?

At the end of high school. Life and death came crashing down on me when I was drafted for military service in the Vietnam conflict. I was forced to put away childish things and make mature decisions and choices.

“If it is to be, it is up to me.”

-- William Johnsen, educator

What is one phrase or idiom in your culture and country that you later knew was amazingly true?

There are two. The bigger they are, the harder they fall. You are never too big to fail.

Why do people think it’s impossible to grow their wealth so they just give up? Why do people give up on themselves before they start to grow their money?

“Why” is the correct question. Most people don’t understand why they’re here, why they exist. They give up on themselves because they mistakenly think they’re life is about material wealth. Better to understand “why” you are, the who, what, when, and how of you. Learn to be happy, and then go forward and dabble in wealth. Money can’t buy the true happiness that comes from inside all of us. It is a conscious choice each of us must make, to be happy always.

What is something that 99% of people don't understand?

Why they exist.

Are you waiting for good times or struggling to prove yourself?

Good times begin each morning. I am what I am and, as such, I have nothing to prove to anyone. Those who think I do would be better served looking to their own shortcomings than judging others. 

“After a certain point you quit trying to prove yourself to anyone and you simply live in the way that makes you happy.”

-- Alan Cohen, inspirational author

What industries only exist because of economic inequality?

Social Welfare.

What is an example of something that has no “right” answer?

Faith. It is a belief in something for which there is little or no proof. Some believe, but they can’t prove it. Some don’t believe it, and they, also, cannot prove it. The answer is out there, but is either side considered right in their belief? 

What is utterly nonsensical in the world? Could you give me some examples?

Hate groups make no sense. The KKK believes only white lives matter. Black Lives Matter, well, they aren’t embracing “All” Lives Matter now, are they? Socialism always fails, yet factions in the world keep reinventing it, and it keeps on failing at the expense of those who embrace it. Socialism makes no sense.

"Power is being able to say complete and utter nonsense and have it be believed, powerlessness is where no matter how much cogent evidence and proof one has, to not be believed."

-- Catharine MacKinnon, feminist, legal scholar, activist, author

Who thinks people need to realize that one of the ways to not fail at life is to have no critics because if you have critics you are doing something wrong and the fact that my friends Josh and Mohammad have no critics make them winners? Do you agree?

No. Critics provide a balance, and the universe is all about balance. Critics also critique those who do right, so your premise is already flawed. Critics give us an insight into societal opinion, but why should Josh and Mohammad care? Are they here to please the critics, or are they here to please themselves? Only they can decide if they’re ego is so shallow as to think the title of “winners” make them so. Perhaps they have more of their path to travel before they understand titles are meaningless.

What do you consider as the greatest reward and why?

“Thank you.” Not that any thanks are necessary for something done selflessly, but appreciation is always appreciated, and receiving it says as much about the person giving it as it does about the person receiving it.

I use other people's experiences similar to mine in a general way to evaluate my own experience. Is this a usual thinking manner?

Yes! We learn what works through our failures and successes, but we can also learn much through the failure and success of others. If you rely on just an evaluation of yourself, you deprive yourself of valuable information you may find useful in the future.

What is the best approach if I ask from a person, who I need to be in contact regularly, how can we agree with things fairly in the future and he replies, "So that I decide things by myself and you will follow."?

Right away this other person seems to not want to understand the concept. A more direct approach would seem necessary. This other person deciding things and you simply following is not fair, and more of a “forced” agreement. You need to be more specific about your expectations with this because it seems to be all about what they want.  

“A boss says "you do it", a leader says "Let's do it".”

-- Amit Kalantri, author

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteers as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

Questioning Life?

“Two great questions exist in each day; 'what must I do excellently today?' for morning and 'what did I do wrong or right today?' for evening. When we fail to know the real reasons why we wake up each day and why we retire at night, we fail to know the real reasons why we live.”

-- Ernest Agyemang Yeboah, educa

Why do people think they have nothing to live for?

Because they don’t understand “why” they’re here. This is about them, and then, it isn’t. They are here to learn, to absorb, and to move on into the next life. They have everything to live for, taken in this context. People who think they have nothing to live for, need to put themselves in my father’s position after his last stroke.

He couldn’t speak to communicate. He wanted water that he couldn’t have because his throat would have let it drain into his lungs. He was a Sicilian who loved to cook and eat food, but he couldn’t ever eat again and had a feeding tube. He wanted to come home, but he couldn’t because he’d die. He died anyway, alone, in a cold convalescent hospital, being given “comfort care” because there was no hope.

Do you taste food? Do you drink a cold glass of water? Do you go outside to feel the sun on your face? People who think they have nothing to live for are so selfish it makes me sick. They have everything to live for, if they took precious time out of their misery to see it, to feel it, to taste it. But they just don’t want to understand why they have so much to live for. They are so selfish they would rather die than live. How sad is that?

Is it weird to not have a boyfriend in high school?

My son didn’t have a girlfriend in high school and most of college. As a father, I was a bit concerned. I asked him if he was gay, not that it would matter to me, I’d love him anyway. He explained to me that he was focused on his studies and would date when he was out of school and had a good job. He was, in fact, on the dean’s list all but the last year of college. And, he did get a good job, and he did date. If memory serves, he has been with the same girl since graduated. 

What is what if what is everything?

It is what it is, until it isn’t.

Reality is what it is, and what it ain't, it ain't.
Sometimes, what it is it ain't, and what it ain't, well... it is.
Other times it is nothing, and then it ain't nothing.
But, if it is nothing, it ain't, and if it ain't nothing, it is.
Acknowledging nothing gives nothing existence;
Therefore, whether it is or it ain't, it must be,
Because even nothing that ain't, already is.

-- Me

What are your predictions for the future of social media?

It will continue, unfortunately, under the auspices of the liberals. It will continue to indoctrinate the weak-minded of this society until eventually, we suffer the next civil war. At his point, mass media and “social” media will be defined as anarchist propaganda for the obvious reason that what they report cannot be backed up by facts, as is usual. The media will have to return to factual reporting and leave editorials to editors who will, actually, have to answer to the stockholders when the company loses money.

Can you think of a time when you used your intuition to analyze an outcome, only to be surprised to find that your explanation was completely incorrect? Did this surprise help you understand how intuition may sometimes lead us astray?

Military intelligence is all about using facts and intuition to analyze possible outcomes. You use the best information you have and make the best analysis you can. But, even with facts and intuition, the outcome always remains a crapshoot. You hope for the best and plan for the worst.

My 18th birthday is today. What is some life advice you can share?

STAY OUT OF DEBT! That’s pretty much it, except, maybe, making sure who you’re banging is clean. Just saying.

Are you a writer who doesn't write?

If you're a writer who doesn't write, you're not a writer.

“Read, read, read. Read everything -- trash, classics, good and bad, and see how they do it. Just like a carpenter who works as an apprentice and studies the master. Read! You'll absorb it. Then write. If it's good, you'll find out. If it's not, throw it out of the window.”

-- William Faulkner (1897-1962), writer, author

Half of me went missing. Where do you think I went?

I assume you mean “mentally” missing because physically you’d be dead and not asking this. The half you’re missing is hiding somewhere in your mind. I usually do something stupid which then causes all of me to come back together just to critique and judge me. Depending on how deep you are, it could be well hidden.

What would be the impact of asking yourself each day, “who do I want to be today?”

If you followed through, you’d never be who you really are. No one would ever know the real you. How could you be trusted? Better we should be the best us we can be. Practicing good, humble, ethical conduct, and learning to be happy always with you we are.

Is there an institution, a tool, a place, or anything in that matter that can take your data and tell you what to do with your life?

They used to have “aptitude tests” that would give you some idea of what you have a natural ability for. I think the tests were more effective the older the person was, though. Giving the test in grade school was a waste as opposed to giving it in high school.

What forces or factors influence the ways you perceive others’ views about you?

Why would I care how others view me? I try to live an ethical life. I try to be happy always, helping others, and being a friend to many. If who I am isn’t good enough, I suppose the “others” should look to their own less than laudable characters that feel it is appropriate for them to judge my worth.

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”

-- Lao Tzu (c. 500 BC), philosopher, writer

Trump stated, "The Ten Most Dangerous Cities in the U.S. are all run by Democrats." According to the FBI data, there are more crimes committed in Republican-run cities. Do you feel safer living in Democratic or Republican-run cities?

I’d like to see your referenced FBI data that refutes the “Ten Most Dangerous Cities” claim.  One wonders why more crimes are committed in Republican run cities, considering they will be arrested by fully funded police, go to trial, be convicted, and do time.  Democrat cities seem to be much more "criminal friendly."

Comment: The article I read said that murders are up across the board (about 25%) in other Democratic and Republican-run cities, but the top 10 most violent cities are Democrat-run. FBI warned that it shouldn't be politicized, but rather be an issue of concern of upward violent trends.

My response:  I feared the President might have misspoken. So happy to hear he has not.

What is a more polite way to say, "Thanks for nothing"?

“Well, thank you for nothing!” I’m not sure the message would get across any more politely. Try smiling while you say it in French.

What is the difference between half-empty and a half-full glass for the person watching both of them at a time?

They will notice that one is being filled while the other is being emptied. 

“The optimist sees the glass as half full, the pessimist as half empty. What I see is water that can save someone's life.”

-- Abhijit Naskar, neuroscientist, author

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteers as a chaplain at the regional medical center.