Questions on Caring, Loving, Virginity, And... More Sex?

 

“Good girls go to heaven and bad girls go everywhere.”

-- Helen Gurley Brown

People that just don't give a [care]. How do you let everything roll off your back?

It isn’t that we don’t give a [care], we simply choose not to let drama, like this, rule our lives. Personally, I strive to be happy always and in all things. To allow drama into my life, like this, is counterproductive to my goal. I’m happy to help out, mentor, give you a shoulder to lean on, but I refuse to join you in a pity party. This life is way too short for me to waste what’s left of it wallowing in misery or pity.  So, I'm going to have to let this "roll off my back" and pay attention to more important issues.  Just saying.

How would you react if your partner told you they never loved you during a heated argument?

I immediately filed for divorce.

My girlfriend is happy with me right now, but the problem is sex. She doesn't want to have sex now. What's wrong with her?

Maybe you should try asking her? She has her own reasons, and maybe she’s waiting for you to ask. There may be nothing wrong, she might be saving herself (virginity) or making sure you’re Mister Right. Not everyone just jumps in the sack with a petri dish. Some people are actually careful.

What do you expect of him/her after good sex?

My God! Thank you, so very much!

Besides good looks & money, what characteristic makes a human attractive?

Smarts.

“I used to think that finding the right one was about the man having a list of certain qualities. If he has them, we'd be compatible and happy. Sort of a checkmark system that was a complete failure. But I found out that a healthy relationship isn't so much about a sense of humor or intelligence or attractiveness. It's about avoiding partners with harmful traits and personality types. And then it's about being with a good person. A good person on his own, and a good person with you. Where the space between you feels uncomplicated and happy. A good relationship is where things just work. They work because, whatever the list of qualities, whatever the reason, you happen to be really, really good together.”

-- Deb Caletti

I'm 22 years still a virgin and how get I get a girl who will pop my shyness and nervousness?

Those really aren’t what she’s going to “pop,” so to speak. The sooner you realize which of the three you need to work on, the easier it becomes to find the right girl. So, which is it, virginity, shyness, or nervousness? Pick the right one and the other two just fall away.

How old were you when someone asked you out for a date?

48. She really wanted me.

Why is sex so important for men and women?

Common interest, and it’s really fun.

What is the ultimate knowledge and enlightenment to make me mature, look mature, feel mature, sensible, likable, and smart?

Let all of that go. Instead, put your whole heart into striving to be truly happy always and in all things. Learn to be humble, and the rest of it will follow. Knowledge, enlightenment, maturity, sensibility, likeability, and finally being smart, will all come when you discover how to be truly happy and humble. You might even discover how insignificant those desires are in the greater scheme of simply being.

What do you think about age gap relationships? How much of a gap is okay?

If you truly love each other, no gap is too large.

“The fact of the matter is that young men lack skill and experience and are very likely to approach a girl as though she were a sack of wheat. It is the old man—suave, debonair, maturely charming—who knows exactly what to do and how to do it, and is, therefore, better at it.”

-- Isaac Asimov

I'm a 25 virgin male, I suddenly started having sexual desires, is it normal?

Finally!

Can you sum up your life’s philosophy in one sentence?

“Strive to be truly happy always and in all things.”

Is wanting something different from needing it?

You want ice cream. You need food. You want to watch television, you need to breathe. The only things you truly need are those things that keep you alive. Everything else falls into varying importance of want. What do you want more than this or that?

Do you judge people when they’re near you?

I truly try not to, but if they smell bad… I am going to hate myself.

Do I need a hooker to come to my motel?

It will cost you extra.

“The emotionless sex with the call girl, prostitute, or such others, is the act of murdering the sex.”

-- Ehsan Sehgal

Where can I find a place to talk to someone about my fetish?

That would depend on your fetish.

How do I know whether my girlfriend is interested in sex with me?

Try asking her.

How do I find a woman who doesn't care at all about how much money I have and just loves me the way I am?

Stop showing off how much money you have. Buy a used car, wear worn blue jeans. Don’t lie about what you do for a living, but if you own a corporation, you’re actually "playing in investments and holding your own."

Do you know that you are so beautiful?

Indeed!

Would you love someone who couldn't properly achieve an orgasm?

I’d be swimming in the shallow end if I couldn’t. Love isn't about focussing on the negative aspects that people have no control over. Love is about the relationship, the friendship, the partnership, feelings deeper than the sexual aspect.  As you get older, you come to understand this stuff.

“I am interested in people who swim in the deep end. I want to have conversations about real things with people who have experienced real things.”

-- Amy Poehler

What is the kindest act to show to a person who once betrayed me in the past?

Forgiveness.

How should I respond if my friend used my past to win an argument?

Your past haunting you is karma, and it sucks. Your “friend,” is being used as the messenger for karma. Not really the definition of a good friend, but it is a really good go-to tactic in order to win an argument. This is how we learn from our mistakes. Has the lesson taken hold yet?

Why does my wife always threaten to leave when arguing?

The marriage is dead, but both of you refuse to embrace the fact?

Can I ask him “what are we” without hurting our relationship?

If you’re even considering asking the question, the relationship is already hurting. Better to sit down and talk it out before you become enemies and the split isn’t friendly.

I think my girlfriend may recently be working as a prostitute but can't confirm. What are good reasons to stay or leave?

STDs come to mind. Some of it is shit that never goes away.

“A good bricklayer can lay his last brick of the day, point up, wash up, turn his back on his day’s work, and every single one of the joints between the bricks will be exactly 15mm. Why? Because he’s done it so many times, that’s why. It’s repetitive.

It’s probably the same for a good hairdresser, a mechanic, a musician, a prostitute and I’m sure Masai Warriors hunting lions in the heart of the Masai Mara.”

-- Karl Wiggins

 

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We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

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