Questioning Happiness, Love, Life, and Things

 

“It will always be foolish to ask a cheater if they would ever cheat on you.”

-- Dennis Adonis

What is painful when you have a wife who doesn't want to have sex with you?

The are several STDs that are seriously uncomfortable.

What is your opinion about people who use other people to be happy themselves?

They are sad people if they have to use other people for, what they call, “happiness.” It will be short-lived, and then they’ll have to use people again, like an addiction, or a vampire. This is not true happiness. True happiness is easily sustainable, and usually by itself. Once you have it, it’s hard to shake it off.

Why is my girlfriend not telling me, that she loves me, yet I have told her that I love her several times?

And, this is what you’re calling a “girlfriend,” I take it. Our definitions are somewhat askew.

How do you deal with your girlfriend marrying someone else?

The same way you deal with your wife marrying someone else - you trade up. There is no “dealing” with it, it is what it is. Just make sure you are always a step up from her from this point out. Oh, and it never hurts to be able to tell the new girl, “I traded up. I must’ve traded way up, to get you, doll."

My wife cheated on me twice. What should I do now?

Divorce her. How many times does it take?

“If I cheated on my spouse or partner, and they made the choice to stay with me regardless, I would leave that person. I will never be perceived as someone who needs a nice warm bath to come home to after rolling around outside in the grass; a coddled person, an infantile person, a person whose choices are perceived as the mistakes of a toddler, only needing to be slapped on the hand and then coddled. That would kill the relationship for me, that would kill everything. I'm not an inconsequential flower, I'm not a purified version washed down to be palatable; I am an equal. My mistakes should be treated as mistakes. I don't need forgiveness for anything that I do.”

-- C. JoyBell C.

Why does my friend guilt trip me into doing “stuff” with her?

Obviously, because she can. Maybe you should think about standing up for yourself.

Why does life have a lesson?

Life is all about learning. From the moment we’re born, we begin to learn. We will fail, many times, but this is because failure is the best way we learn. We learn from our mistakes. Why do we learn? So we are prepared to move on from this life into the next, and the next, and so on. What we don’t learn in this life, we might have to learn in the next just so we can keep moving.

How can business ethics be improved?

By actually following the good, moral, ethical practices.

Your best friend’s partner likes you and tells you that they’d rather have you. What do you do?

What part of “best friend” are we missing here? This is not “rocket science” for those of us who have a good sense of ethics. Or, you can lose your best friend over someone who might do it again, to you, this time. No, this person has shown their true self, so go with that.

Why is spanking not considered abuse?

Are we talking spanking as sexual or as punishment? Wait, let me try to rephrase that… Nope, no matter how I word this, it just comes out wrong.

“The wooden hairbrush has two practical uses, the bristle side to be used on her silken locks, and the harsh, wooden side to be used on her shapely seat of learning”

-- Michael

What small things immediately brighten your day?

Waking up to the “gift” of another day in paradise. Small children playing together. Birds in a birdbath. Bees on the flowers. People smiling or giving a kind greeting. A kiss on the cheek. Women with great legs. There is so much that can brighten my already brightened day.

Are people saying they "don’t care about you" and hurting you in fact the first ones to care and constantly thinking about it?

I’m really not sure. I don’t pay that much attention to other people's drama when they insist on being negative toward me. I am who I am, and someone’s opinion about me that makes them feel they have the right to judge whether they should, or should not, care about me, is so insignificant to my existence.  I mean, if they attack me, like many of the "perpetually offended" find the need to do, I will not pay much attention to them. This is their drama, and they are welcome to it, just leave me out of it. There are so many more constructive things to do for those who really want it, why waste a moment here?

Why do mudering thoughts come to my mind all the time? How can I stop it?

What are “mudering” thoughts? 

What seems easy but is really hard?

Helping people. You think it should be easy, and then you run up against attitudes. The hardest are those you know really want help, but they fight you tooth and nail. And, there are the “perpetually offended” who try to bait you into helping so they can trash you as you try. It is difficult.

Have you ever been picture-perfect?

No, but I have been picture-excellent. Perfection isn’t really attainable. 

God is perfect (we are not). He sees the big picture (we do not). He knows everything (we do not). So I choose to believe in this - that I am who I am on purpose, that the One who made me has a purpose and has unconditional love for me and those in my life. 

-- Annie F. Downs

How can I know if I will prosper in life?

Life is a gamble, so you’ll never really know for sure if you’ll prosper. You can mitigate issues that will hold you back, and do all the things that will help you to prosper. But, at any moment, destiny can take it all away from you. You’ll have to pick up the pieces and try again. This is life making you stronger for when you finally attain your goal.

Does feeling redemption and guilt erase karma?

If you’re feeling guilty because of something you did, or redemption because you made something right that you did, welcome to karma.

Reader comment:  That's so true. It's hard to articulate what's going on, but you seem to get it. 

What can you do today but cannot do tomorrow?

SUPERBOWL!

How many days are you not yourself?

Hmmm. Not since 2003. This is the moment I forgave myself and my ex-wife for a 25-year marriage that was a mistake. My bad. I chose the wrong woman. Since then, however, I have been myself, again. I strive for happiness always and in all things. Not being “myself” simply sucks.

 Why would you not look behind you?

Because I know the danger is in front of me.

"Don't look back. You'll miss what's in front of you"

-- Unknown

You love your job but got offered $20,000 more a year for another job. The job is lonely and night shift. Do you take it? Why/why not?

Lonely and night shift. Sounds perfect for me. That’s $1,666 more per month. You can pay off debt, buy a better car, go back to school, yadda, yadda, yadda. The downside is it’s lonely and at night. Not really a downside considering the money. Take it up with your current employer.

What is the opposite of 800,000?

Zero.

What is the urge for want?

Desire. “Desire” is the urge for both want and need. The desire for what we need is a bit stronger than the desire for what we want. What we need is all about “survival” desire. What we want is all about “selfish” desire.

What's a weird problem you have but you will never tell anyone about?

Well, if I’ll "never" tell, what makes you think I’m going to tell now?  You need to try harder than this. 

What inspires you to do what you do?

Life! I have to do something with this “gift” of life, so I use it as inspiration for everything else I do. Think of it this way: Would you be "inspired" if you were dead? No. Only life allows you this option.

“If you're reading this...

Congratulations, you're alive.

If that's not something to smile about,

then I don't know what is.”

-- Chad Sugg

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

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