Questioning Judging, Cheating, Greed, Revenge, and the CIA

 

"I panicked when my son, Jett, stopped eating baby food. He's only two, but his food vocabulary is fantastic. He likes my baked tilapia and string beans with chopped garlic. But he really likes pizza. Sometimes every inanimate object to him is pizza."

-- Jill Scott

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Note to my readers:  Well, here's an update to the real kick in the pants.  According to the site, I just garnered 49,975 views of my answers in the past week.  I did the math in my head and reached for the calculator to confirm my shaky multiplication.  This new number, times 52 weeks, puts me at a possible 2,598,700 views for the coming year.  Not only did I break the million mark, I'm almost at three million.  As humble as I am, I was astonished. Since I started answering questions in 2019, I have only garnered 750,000 views.  To do more than that in a single year seems sureal. Thank you to all who read my humble offerings!

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My child consumed my dead husband's ashes what do I do?

Not trying to be disrespectful, but your husband will be coming back around in short order.  You might want to get a bucket.

How do you pass the Adidas waiting room?

Considering I’ve never found a comfortable pair of their shoes, I pass the waiting room without a thought.

What am I supposed to do to make myself feel better after being judged nonstop?

Know that you are so much better than those who felt the need to pass their judgment on you, especially if their judgment holds no merit. By what right do they judge? If they supervise or manage you, work on what they say if it is valid. But, I find it hard to believe that any quality supervisor or manager would do this without firing you afterward for incompetence. If you’re still working for them I’d be asking why, if you’re so bad they need to judge you nonstop. 

Why does the CIA not attract those with real intelligence?

When I left Air Force Intelligence, after 22 years, I opted not to look them up. I spent most of my career second-guessing their analysis. 

What would you do if I really felt broken and I just cuddled up to you and hugged you really tight?

Being a grandfather, I’d feel needed and would hug you back and listen to you until you felt like you could let me go.

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”

-- Leo Buscaglia

God sees the best version of you every day. Why can’t you?

I’m not God.

How different do you think you would be if you actually knew and understood how we and everything in our universe came to exist?

Put that horse back in the barn and we can start on the “is God real” question.

Can a man cheat on his second wife?

Yeah, and he can also cheat on his third, fourth, and fifth, as well. It’s hard to untrain a dog.

Biden ran on not playing the blame game and taking responsibility for his own actions. Why has he not taken any responsibility for his failed policies and outright failures and he continues to blame Trump or anyone else he can?

He’s a democrat, it's what they do.

What is the danger of living with a cheating partner?

“Sexually Transmitted Diseases” come to mind.

“If I cheated on my spouse or partner, and they made the choice to stay with me regardless, I would leave that person. I will never be perceived as someone who needs a nice warm bath to come home to after rolling around outside in the grass; a coddled person, an infantile person, a person who's choices are perceived as the mistakes of a toddler, only needing to be slapped on the hand and then coddled. That would kill the relationship for me, that would kill everything. I'm not an inconsequential flower, I'm not a purified version washed down to be palatable; I am an equal. My mistakes should be treated as mistakes. I don't need forgiveness for anything that I do.

I'm not an inconsequential flower, I'm not a purified version washed down to be palatable; I am an equal. My mistakes should be treated as mistakes. I don't need forgiveness for anything that I do.”

-- C. JoyBell C.

My friend disrespected me by taking a document I was using to use it himself. He then ignored me when I asked him to give it back. Should I let it slide or change my attitude towards that person?

Friends don't disrespect each other.

Why do most polyamorous people look so hideous?

It kind of makes perfect sense.

Why did the baby boomer generation ruin the world?

Three Democrats and one Republican were presidents during the “boomer” years of 1946–1964. Something to chew on: https://www.kasasa.com/exchange/articles/generations/gen-x-gen-y-gen-z 

Why can't we stop greedy people? It doesn't make sense.

Everyone is greedy to some extent, so where do you like to set the bar?

Is an affair out of the question?

I don’t think it’s ever out of the question, it depends on who you plan to ask.

“Promoting promiscuity in this evolved and civilized society is actually like signing the Declaration, that says:

“I hereby renounce my membership of humankind, since I am neither human nor kind. I declare that I no longer belong to the modern human species, i.e. the Homo sapiens. From now on I shall be counted among the swingers of the animal kingdom, such as the bonobo or montane vole. I am simply an arrogant philandering savage.”

-- Abhijit Naskar

What do you do if you walk in on someone in the dressing room and they’re hot?

Don’t stare, it’s impolite.

Why won’t my ex answer if he has fallen out of love with me?

He’s answering without saying a word?

I met a person online and we've grown really close as best friends. I actually feel like I love her. I get really warm whenever I think about her. Should I distance myself?

If you’ve “grown really close as best friends” then you should be saying this to her. Hey, it’s yes or no. It has nothing to do with your being friends as much as it has to do with a deeper relationship.

Should I tell my boss I have a full-time job offer?

It is the right thing to do, so he can be prepared to fill your position. But, only tell him if you truly intend on taking it.

What is it like to have a soulmate that you can never be with?

Horrible. A vast age difference. But, I will see her again, next life.

“But I know this. We're ready to move forward again in our way. Together or apart, no matter how far apart, we live in one another. We go on together.”

-- Ann Brashares

What does the proverb that says "what an elder sees while seating, a child cannot see even while standing" mean?

Elders see more than children, even when they're not trying to.

How do you stop your wife from bitching at you every hour?

Divorce her.

What happens if you don't divorce a cheating spouse?

Cheaters will probably always cheat, until they find what they really want. You must not be it.

How do I know if a woman is not using me because she feels sorry for me?

God bless her! 

What can I do to hurt my girlfriend to hell after I caught her cheating?

Leave her. Karma will take care of the rest. 

“Anger, resentment, and jealousy doesn't change the heart of others-- it only changes yours.”

-- Shannon Alder

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony:  tolerantpastor@gmail.com