Questions of Hate, Happiness, and Goals

“Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.”

-- Marthe Troly-Curtin

What is an optimal mindset?

Happiness!

Can a person be wrong with literally every single thing they say and do and literally never do a single thing right or have any good points about them whatsoever?

Yeah, but they have to try really hard or be a few cans short of a six-pack. Nobody is always wrong, never right, and has no good points. I’d be more apt to believe nobody is cutting this person any slack, whatsoever. I’d like to meet the people who feel they have the right to pass this judgment, as this might answer many of my concerns.

What does successful goal pursuit require?

Good knowledge of what it takes to meet your goal, and perseverance.

“When what we have mastered becomes mundane, we feel pain. The antidote is pursuit.”

-- Kelsey Ramsden

What gives you the most amount of satisfaction for the least amount of work?

Constantly winning the expert levels of Freecell and Majong. It keeps my mind sharp.

I have brought up my son strictly but he became a wimp. I am told that it is a good opportunity to make him watch me sleep with his well-endowed friend. How do I make it happen?

I was a wimp in school, and I also had a strict dad. I found out something about wimps when I’d had enough and almost beat a guy to death with a tree branch when he continuously picked on me: Wimps have triggers.

You’d be better served to make friends with your son. Maybe coach him on how to “sleep” with his well-endowed friend. Don’t be too surprised if he snaps and shoves a well-greased baseball bat up your ass while you’re riding her. It’s what I’d do if I were him.

Why does an obstacle cause certain people to work harder to overcome it, while others quickly give up?

Some people have a singular focus and a sense of perseverance.

“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can't find them, make them.”

-- George Bernard Shaw

Does calling out for work due to a flat tire make someone less of an employee? What makes someone a true adult, when is someone not?

You’re defined as an “adult” when you come of age. You’re a “true” adult, however, when you act like one. When you developed a good sense of moral ethics and stand by them. Most “adults” have a hard time developing good moral ethics, much less standing by them.

Is going into the ultimate sea of emptiness and consciousness worth giving up all that you love and want? I want to do the best and right thing spiritually, but I feel lost.

Is it worth it? Probably, and I hope to be at the cusp of forever, one day. If I understand it, the real question should be, are you willing to give up all that you love and want? You want to do the right thing spiritually, yet you feel lost. When you are ready, there will be no lingering doubt in your mind. Both feet solidly on your path, having found yourself, needing nothing, wanting nothing, not even the “ultimate sea,” you do the best and right thing mentally, physically, and spiritually always. It will become just as clear you are on the “ultimate sea” as it is that it no longer matters. Just another stop on the journey, and you will continue to move forward.

What is more to you if you have it all?

If I have all the material wants, I would need to be truly happy. Without true happiness, what good is having everything?

“The sexiest thing in the entire world is being really smart. And being thoughtful. And being generous. Everything else is crap! I promise you! It's just crap that people try to sell to you to make you feel like less. So don't buy it. Be smart, be thoughtful, and be generous.”

-- Ashton Kutcher

Why do we measure our worth by what we do and what we have?

We measure our “material” worth by what we have, but our true value is in what we selflessly do with what we have. Most of us have forgotten this and just concentrate on building the material worth. True happiness, however, is derived from what we selflessly do with that material wealth to make the world a more beautiful place.

In your own experience, what activities have you found most conducive to your evolution/growth as a person?

Meditation, tolerance, and critical thinking. Strive to be happy always, be tolerant of the idiots around you, and never stop asking questions, especially “Why?”.

What is the biggest lesson learned this year? Is it to not give so much of yourself to people who will not do the same for you?

Oh, goodness no. I learned that lesson many years ago, in my youth. I’d have to say, being more tolerant of idiots, like the League of the Perpetually Offended. COVID seems to have brought the bulk of them out to test me, more so on this site.

“There are certain life lessons that you can only learn in the struggle.”

-- Idowu Koyenikan

Note to my readers:  The following question and answer are reprinted here as submitted (except for the title of the "space" which I put in brackets) and I withhold judgment on capitalization, punctuation, grammar, etc.  The answer is not mine, as you will see by my comment that follows, but seems to have been submitted by the same person who asked the question (the name accepting is the same name submitting).  This seems to be an obvious hate site just by the title.  I'd take a quantum leap and say this person is a member of the League of the Perpetually Offended, but this would mean the offense would be targeted against many members of the League.

does anyone have any stories they'd love to share about how this space [gay marriage is bad and should be banned at once] was and continues to be the only loving, guiding light in a world of darkness?

Yes actually

This space is packed with all kinds of miraculous infinite power, based on Loving kindness etc, there's no limit to what can happen

After making this space i walked outside and a saw someone call out in my direction, so i called back in greeting

I then discovered the person, man, was actually calling to a child to run to him, and there was another man standing next to the child

I know there's two people who live together who still don't know the errors of their ways in the same complex as me, i don't know for sure if it was them but if so it feels like Gd was trying to make our paths cross fit whatever reason, maybe to help them overcome the darkness of their situation one day, who knows?

The important thing is to love all people, and true love means wanting what's best for them, even if it's not popular

My comment: I’m confused. Did you just accept your own submission to your own question? Or, am I reading this wrong?

Reader comment:  I also have no idea what he’s doing at this point. It’s obvious that this is satire. I guess he’s trying to see how far he can push Quora’s policies.

Supposed author reply:  No it's a true story.  Problem?

Real author reply:  Nope, they changed my question.

It was “Who’s idea was it to name this space a literal BNBR violation?”

Supposed author reply: Lol what are you talking about? You didn't ask this question directly?

My response to all:  So, from the comments, this question was not posed by the "supposed author," and isn’t even the question asked? Seems typical of this site behavior, to violate their own policies.

Supposed author comment:  Sure.  

Is it wrong to want to have a joint account?

My divorce was due, in part, to her debt that bled over into our “joint” account. My girlfriend and I have been together for 20 years and keep our accounts separate. She and I transfer money to each other when we need to pay for things jointly. It keeps things much cleaner and worry-free.

What is something that is ruined for you because of one terrible experience?

Marriage. I vowed to never allow myself to be raked over the coals by another selfish “partner” in life. I was forced to give up half of my retirement to someone who admitted to using me for 20 years and never loving me. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 20 years, but marriage is off the table and I made that abundantly clear when we started dating. I’ve been happy ever since.

“Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.”

-- Steve Maraboli

 

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony:  tolerantpastor@gmail.com