The Path (Updated from 6/12/2014)

 

“Reality is what it is, and what it isn’t, it isn’t.

Sometimes, what it is it isn’t, and what it isn’t, well... it is.

Other times it is nothing, and then it isn’t nothing.

If it's nothing, it isn’t, and if it isn’t nothing, it is.

Naming "nothing" makes nothing something;

Therefore, whether it is or it isn’t, it must be,

Because even nothing that isn’t, already is.”

-- F.A. Villari

I have received numerous e-mails asking me about the Congregation for Religious Tolerance and, in particular, about my blog, The Path.  Questions run the gamut from my religious arguments, my religious affiliation, what guidance I offer, and my purpose for trying to convince anyone that I am right (I just heard a large gasp from those who read my posts most often). I’m a humble person, which means I’m only right if I know someone else is wrong. As it happens, a lot of people suck at being right. If it doesn’t make any sense, it’s probably not right.  If it is right, then someone is most definitely wrong and I am vindicated.  This happened a lot in the military.  I hope the following will clear the air.

First, let's address that I would never try to convince anyone I am right.  Please, use your brain when reading my offerings and try to keep your feet firmly planted in this "created" reality.  Like most of us, I am rarely right when it comes to telling other people how, and what, they should believe.  No one has been close to being right on this topic since Christ was born, and we can see what people have done with the "philosophy" based on His teachings, it was twisted and bastardized to meet mankind's agendas for whatever control was deemed necessary for the particular era in history.  I can say the same about the prophet Muhammad, for that matter.  All great philosophies are left in the "right" hands with no thought to planning for "philosophical" sustainability.  The religions still exist, but their love, understanding, and peaceful heart have been lost to infighting and misinterpretation.  Am I right?  I really don't know; it's just my opinion.

Second, I am fully aware that "religious" tolerance was not well thought out, especially on my part.  I detest organized religion.  At the inception of the Congregation, I was scurrying to put together a protective shield for those members of "peaceful" Islam, and, at the time, religious tolerance was foremost in my mind.  It would certainly be more correct to refer to my congregation of like-minded folks as the Congregation for "Spiritual" Tolerance.  It would make it, almost, all-encompassing. One might accuse me of leaving out all those who have no spirituality.  I think those who deny their own spirituality, simply haven't discovered it yet.  They are in denial of our one common gift:  We are, all of us, spiritual beings.  I stopped thinking of myself as "religious" quite a few years ago when I found I had little use for organized religion.

Many questions and concerns, put forth by my readers, were a bit off-target.  Having said this, I would never berate someone for asking questions or voicing concerns.  I feel that questions and concerns are like bullets in a gun which many of us aim at a particular subject, person, or target.  You have a full magazine of ammunition and an itchy trigger finger, like most of us, except for snipers.  The sniper's credo is, "One shot, one kill."  We are really all just snipers that haven't learned to use just one bullet, the one golden bullet, which I like to refer to as the one golden question:  "Why?"

People that know me, or read my posts most frequently, will probably understand that my usual answer to all the questions put to me is, "Why?"  Why is it important to you that I have a reason or a purpose?  More specifically, why do you think a reason or a purpose would, in any way, be important to me?  So, here you have this golden bullet of "why" aimed toward a target you feel worthy of shooting.  Why?  Why pull the trigger?  I think one needs to ask, why someone else's answer to the question will satisfy them?  Why will it quench some thirst they have for any answer, other than their own.

Why ask a question if you don't want the answer? Or, do you already know the answer? Or, is it that the answer really doesn't matter as much as just trapping someone in a game they'd rather not play?  The group I feel is most concerned with never accepting any answer offered, would be those folks I affectionately refer to as the League of the Perpetually Offended.  Their targets are usually ones of opportunity.  They rarely seem to have any cogent reason to shoot other than to shoot and wound anything in their line of fire.  They seem to have little, if any, tolerance for anything or anybody, especially those who aren't, also, offended by everything.

Are the questions we aim for, more important than the confusion or the emotion driving the question?  I feel no burning need to answer questions that I feel are not the right question, and, as usual, are being aimed at the wrong target.  Many times, I feel a little "personal introspection" might be of some value to people.  I would offer that perhaps some folks would glean more from firing these questions at themselves, and then follow up by asking themselves, "Why?"

No amount of guidance can help someone that doesn't want to help themselves.  No argument will ever sway a mind that is anchored in the muck and mire of self-pity, laziness, or self-imposed ignorance.  And, no religious or spiritual belief, no amount of faith, can convert a person who refuses basic love of self.  You must learn to love yourself before you can learn to truly love others, or truly grow.  I wrote a bit of prose, not long ago.  I think it comes close to answering "Why?" and most other questions of me, including any of my blog issues:

The Path

This is my path.

It is not your path, it is mine.

Good or bad, it is my path.

I must travel it alone.

That is your path.

It is not mine or theirs, it is yours.

Good or bad, it is your path.

You must travel it alone.

At times our paths might intersect

Or, run parallel for a while.

We will visit, laugh, and cry,

Exchange experiences and offer advice.

At some point, we may part,

Perhaps to join up again

As our destination is the same

And our journey is long.

I wish you a smooth path,

And a long, interesting journey,

Full of emotion and life,

Family and friends.

We will not arrive together,

At our distant destination,

But, I will wait for you, my friend,

As I know you will wait for me.

I can only give my opinion, for what it's worth.  If it helps, then it is a good thing.  If it hinders, it is not my intent.  Opinions are what you make of them.  We all have them.  Some are good and some are bad. They are just opinions.  You need to have an opinion of your own, and not rely on the opinions of others.  Personally, I think God wants us to worship on our own, and not use some surrogate priest to help us toward grace. (Check out Matthew 6:5-6)    

We are all on an incredible journey through a reality we have made for ourselves.  This is not the reality that God made for us.  It is, however, our "created" reality which we built with the mind God made available to us.  Within our created reality we tend to build several individual realities which make up our whole.  Our individual realities are fluid, similar to each other in many ways and, as similar fluids do, they tend to blend.  When realities blend we run a real risk of losing track of not only our one true reality but of our other "created" realities, as well.  When this happens, we are left living with whatever corruption is left.  However, if we strip everything we have created away from our lives, what we are left with, again, is the one true reality.

We must always remember, there is only one true reality.  It is the one true reality of God's universe which we are blessed to be a part of.  When all seems lost in our lives, we must return to the source.  We must break free of the crap we have created.  We will only find true peace and happiness when we return our mind and desire to the creative force which gave us life.

Of course, this is just my opinion.  I give it freely and, usually, if it's wanted or not.  But, then, that's just me being me, and I'm just full of it... so I've been told. For those who take issue with anything I write, I point you to the "disclaimer" I place at the bottom of my posts:

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions, and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions offered. I have come to believe, after twenty-three years of military intelligence, that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance... he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center. 

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Idealist, Marriage, Atheism, Bullies, and Egos

“Sometimes your belief system is really your fears attached to rules.”

-- Shannon L. Alder

Why is passionate idealism considered pathological/bad? Doesn't it give goals, motivations, and hopes?

“Passionate” idealism leaves no room for compromise. People that aren’t “passionate” are viewed as wrong. As an example, “Pro-Choice” is passionate idealism when it is taken to the moment of birth. In the murder of innocence, it seems there is no compromise.

Is it okay to bring politics into everything?

No. It creates a questionable atmosphere and alienates friends.

Someone fought me and I didn’t fight back or defend myself. Now they think they could beat me up and now I’m mad. What should I do?

Fight back and defend yourself. Bullies will never relent until they are beaten almost to death. At that moment of decision, you will let them live. They will learn a lesson, not soon forgotten, that their lives were spared… by you.

How can we ensure that politicians' family members are held accountable for their actions?

The law needs to be accountable. No one is above it.

My son doesn’t want to go into the military. He will be the only person in the family who hasn’t served. How do I make him go?

You don’t. If he is a patriot, he may serve as a first responder. He may simply support our troops. Or, he may decide that life is more important than country. The point is, you can’t make him serve. Service to the country is a deeply personal choice where you find the courage to give your all. The possibility of dying is asking a lot from any citizen.

“Patriotism means to stand by the country. It does not mean to stand by the president or any other public official, save exactly to the degree in which he himself stands by the country. It is patriotic to support him insofar as he efficiently serves the country. It is unpatriotic not to oppose him to the exact extent that by inefficiency or otherwise he fails in his duty to stand by the country. In either event, it is unpatriotic not to tell the truth, whether about the president or anyone else.”

-- Theodore Roosevelt

I don't want to get married because 98% of people cheat. What hurts a lot, is I do have the desire to have a family in the future but I just can't risk getting my hurt destroyed. Am I okay?

Yes, you're fine. People give up spirituality because it doesn’t let them sin. If you look in morally righteous places, you might have a better shot at true love. Good communication, friendship, compatibility, trust, and love, are hard commodities to come by in all people, but they’re out there. It might take some time to find them.

Aside from moronic and pathetic, what would you call a person who enjoys being around another person who treats them like shit?

A victim, or subservient.

At what age can your parents leave the house without you?

When you show real responsibility to take care of yourself. It was easier without the scourge of social media tempting evil upon our children.

What does a self-realized person not want?

Self-realization has little to do with want. You may find you want everything or nothing. You might be happy with just filling your needs. What you realize about yourself can be significantly different for each person.

How do you respect someone's decision to never want marriage and kids?

It isn’t for everybody. I can respect their choice if they truly don’t want to get involved with it.

"You own your life and no one can dictate how you'll live it, whatever decision you made, those who understand will respect it no matter what."

-- Blaze Olamiday

What are some things an atheist can't do?

Move freely forward into the next life the omnipotent power in the universe has created.

How does reality challenge our understanding of reality itself?

It depends on how open your mind is to reality. Do Unidentified Flying Objects challenge our understanding of other intelligent life forms in the universe? Do paranormal investigations challenge our understanding of life after death and cryptic lifeforms as separate species here on Earth? Our reality is challenged every time we ask questions about our reality. Is it real, or is it Memorex?

Why does My boyfriend think I’m stupid and lies to me?

Why is he still your boyfriend?

Why do atheists make my life so hard?

It is what they do. Most of them are members of the League of the Perpetually Offended. They wouldn’t make your life so hard if you simply avoid them. I prefer not to even answer questions they pose because it’s usually a baited hook they use so they can reel you in and be offended by you. 

Can you be a good doctor if you are not religious?

You can be a great doctor if you aren’t religious. Religion has little to do with accumulating knowledge and expertise.

“To choose not to be part of a team or religion does not make me non-religious; for my religion is Truth and I am very much in love with God. I do not need to align myself with a specific messenger if I already understand God’s message. And the way I think is not considered ‘New Age’, since common sense is not new. So long as you act and speak with love and truth in you, and are good to your fellow man — in that you treat everybody as you would want yourself to be treated, your heart will stand by God regardless of the label you have assigned to your mind.”

-- Suzy Kassem

Do you have that one kid who acts like a bully but actually has family issues?

Most bullies have family issues that have caused them to become who they are. Lack of good solid parenting is not the least.

How can we curb our four-year-old son's behavior of saying "shut up" a lot, while still respecting his feelings?

“Spare the rod and spoil the child” comes to mind.

At what age do children start arguing with their parents and winning?

It depends on how young they can learn to use incontrovertible facts with cogent arguments to support them.

What should you do if your child says, “I don't like you” or “You are not my parent”?

Show them the door. Nothing you bought to clothe them goes with them. It belongs to you. You are the parent.

“You may not like me, but I love you. This is why I want you to learn. But, if you don’t like me, and I’m not your parent, you have my permission to go. I will welcome you back with loving arms when you understand.”

Open the door and invite their naked ass to leave. My dad did this and it scared the shit out of me.  Instant understanding.  I never broached the subject again.

What are some of the most overused and cliche arguments for atheism?

There are no incontrovertible arguments for atheists or theists. Neither one has any solid proof to back up faith in their belief. Both sides need to shut the hell up and go about their business.

"When you pray, you are not to be like the hypocrites; for they love to stand and pray in the synagogues and on the street corners so that they may be seen by men. Truly I say to you, they have their reward in full. But you, when you pray, go into your inner room, close your door and pray to your Father who is in secret, and your Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you."

-- Matthew 6:5-6

Do you have any advice on how to deal with people who have big egos and refuse to see any flaws in themselves?

Don’t hang around them. If everyone shuns them, they might get a clue.

What should people say when a child asks them how they became successful in life?

“Knowledge, hard work, and perseverance in the face of failure.” Life presents us with opportunities to learn. We can learn to be successful, or not. It is our life, and we should make the most of it, or not.

What do you do when you can't get out of a place you don't fit in?

If you can’t change your circumstances, try changing your attitude. 

What does it mean if your girlfriend asks you what she can improve on?

She values your opinion. But be careful. She values your opinion, but your honest opinion can get you in trouble with someone you care about. If I’m with her, she must be what I want to be with. If she could improve, it won’t come out of my mouth. “For me, you are perfect, but you might want to ask your girlfriends. They would know better than me.”

What does it mean when your partner says "I'm not going to get into an argument" and then proceeds to argue about everything?

They’re hypocritical. You have a hypocrite as a partner.  Not really a good thing.

“It's discouraging to think how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit.”

-- Noël Coward

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions offered. After over twenty years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance... he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center. 

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Paranormal?

 

"Paranormal events are purported phenomena described in popular culture, folk, and other non-scientific bodies of knowledge, whose existence within these contexts is described as being beyond the scope of normal scientific understanding. Notable paranormal beliefs include those that pertain to extrasensory perception (for example, telepathy), spiritualism, and the pseudosciences of ghost hunting, cryptozoology, and ufology.

Proposals regarding the paranormal are different from scientific hypotheses or speculations extrapolated from scientific evidence because scientific ideas are grounded in empirical observations and experimental data gained through the scientific method. In contrast, those who argue for the existence of the paranormal explicitly do not base their arguments on empirical evidence but rather on anecdotes, testimony, and suspicion. The standard scientific models give the explanation that what appears to be paranormal phenomena is usually a misinterpretation, misunderstanding, or anomalous variation of natural phenomena."

-- Wikipedia, "Paranormal"

 

"The standard scientific models give the explanation that what appears to be paranormal phenomena is usually a misinterpretation, misunderstanding, or anomalous variation of natural phenomena." For me, this is so much bullshit.  I have chased down a "shadow figure" in my bedroom.  I've known buildings were haunted before I knew the history. I've heard a spirit and confirmed through the elderly wife that the noise heard was the tapping of her dead husband's cane as he did his nightly constitutional around the house. She had never heard it.  I explained that my Dad had just poured a concrete patio around the back of the house.  She laughed that the metal tip of the cane could now be heard. The same sound was heard by the daughter of the people who bought the house. 

Just recently, something put their hand in mine and, several nights later, put a forefinger and thumb on my wrist.  The only reason for "misinterpretation, misunderstanding, or anomalous variation of natural phenomena" is that I'm losing my mind. Not so.  I debunk, consider other options, pinch myself, cuss, and then, when I've confirmed my suspicions, I go have a glass of bourbon.  I don't lose my mind.

What I do agree with, however, is the phenomena are "beyond the scope of normal scientific understanding." My recommendation to the scientific community?  If you can't explain it incontrovertibly, then shut up about it.  These are the same idiots that say UFOs are swamp gas.  The problem with the swamp gas "explanation" is that swamp gas stays in the swamp.  It doesn't rise into the air and fly off at five times the speed of a fighter jet.

I wish I could agree with "standard scientific models" but the models aren't that standard.  They keep changing as new information is discovered.  Science has spent so long poo-pooing people, they now have to cover up or make disappear any evidence that makes them look like idiots.  I wouldn't want to be a scientist, because everybody already knows they are idiots.  If not now, then soon. 

By the way, the U.S. Forest Service has already admitted the existence of Sasquatch in their field manuals, and the Pentagon is waffling back and forth on the existence of UFOs.  They want pilots to no longer think their career is over by reporting an Unidentified Flying Object.  Ghosts and shadow beings are caught on camera all the time, as are other cryptids. So why don't we just admit there is more happening around us than we have dared to admit? Nobody wants to comment, for fear they'll still be ostracized.

Well, I've been sensitive to this stuff since childhood.  I have five gun cases, 6"x16"x12", stacked in my home office, packed with paranormal equipment.  I took the Mutual UFO Network (MUFON) Investigator test and aced it, but then, my parents started having health issues so I thought it best to bow out.  

Now, I'm approaching 70 years of life, and I've seen and experienced things that raise my eyebrows.  I don't scare easily.  I'm the nut that tried to chase down a shadow figure in the bedroom over my Moms's garage.  No fear. No filter. Bring it.

“I am perfectly convinced that I have both seen, and heard in a manner which should make unbelief impossible, things called spiritual which cannot be taken by a rational being to be capable of explanation by imposture, coincidence, or mistake.”

-- Augustus De Morgan

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions offered. After over twenty years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance... he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center. 

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Constituents, Liberals, Arguing, Abusers, and Love

 

“Anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that 'my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge.'”

-- Isaac Asimov

What is the motivation for politicians to care about what constituents think?

Yet another term in office. Constituents vote them in. 

Why do those that have their own lives want to control other people's lives?

I control my own life and see no reason to control someone else’s life. There is so much more I want to do other than waste time controlling others. That was a part of my intelligence career, and I wasn’t crazy about doing it back then. I’ve grown passed that.

I want to defy the rules of life by not working and breaking away from the system no matter what the consequences are. Does that make me an idiot?

Yes.

Why do we sometimes think that people tolerate us even though they may like us?

I tolerate other people. If they tolerate me, well, they already have issues that I am tolerating.

What are the benefits of being tolerant or intolerant?

Stress. Being “tolerant” can produce much less stress than being “intolerant” does.

“In order to have faith in his own path, he does not need to prove that someone else's path is wrong.”

-- Paulo Coelho

To be considered a tolerant liberal, why should I tolerate other people's intolerance, bigotry, and hate?

If you don’t how do you plan on being a liberal?

What is the difference between a man who believes he is superior to all other men and a man who does not care what others think of him (showing no pride or low self-esteem)?

The man who thinks he is superior has a false sense of ego. The man who doesn’t care does not need an ego. He is at peace with who he is and humble in his life.

What is the difference between "god is all-knowing" and "god is omniscient"?

There is no difference. It means the same.

 Why do most people show a negative attitude towards marriage on Quora?

We’ve been married to the wrong person. I’ve been much happier living in sin, with my new partner, for the past 22 years.  Perhaps people should live in sin with their prospective partner, for a time, before tying the knot.

How can people, who always complain about everything around them (and themselves), learn to be more positive? What advice would you give to such people?

“Shut the hell up.”

“Complaining does not work as a strategy. We all have finite time and energy. Any time we spend whining is unlikely to help us achieve our goals. And it won't make us happier.”

-- Randy Pausch

What is a good comeback for when people say they are not arguing?

“Then, why are you arguing?” 

What is the meaning of judging people by the results of their actions and maneuvers in the context of effective truth?

If you judge them before they act you are ignorant of the possible results of their actions. Your judgment would not be very effective where truth is concerned. By waiting, you see the results of their efforts and have a better handle on how effective they were. Your judgment would be more truthful.

What is a good way to tell someone that they are not acting feminine enough?

“You really need to woman up.”

What happens when you're passionate about something but everyone else thinks it's stupid?

Screw them. Are you being passionate because of them? No. You are passionate because you want to be. Maybe everyone else needs to be passionate about their own life and quit paying attention to yours.

What quotes stand out?

Meaningful quotes. Quotes are only good if they have meaning.

Reader comment: "If you want peace don't start a war."

My reply: Very meaningful.

“Parents give you life. Only you can give it meaning.”

-- Frank Sonnenberg

Is it possible to ever be happy with your abuser still in your life?

No, because they will continue to abuse. Happiness will return when you leave the abuser and find real happiness in life.

When is "fuck you" not simple enough?

When pounding their face sends a better message.

How can I show a woman my penis without offending her?

To be safe, she should be a prostitute, a doctor, or your significant other. Your significant other still might be in question.

Are there no regrets for being the truth to yourself?

No. There can be regrets, but the truth will out sooner or later. Better to get it out sooner and deal with it.

What is the best way to deal with an elderly parent who is not willing to get better?

The elderly mind takes a singular path, and your ministrations may have no effect. My mother went downhill mentally. She was 90 and lost the will to continue, and I’m not sure she even recognized me. She went from therapy to “comfort care” at a nursing facility. She died shortly after. My only comfort is that the elderly must know better than we do when life should end.

“I think people would live a bit longer if they didn't know how old they were. Age puts restrictions on things.”

-- Karl Pilkington

What are some things that you should never teach your mom?

Sexual positions. It is just wrong.

Do you want to fall in love in your life?

I am almost 70 years of age, and I have fallen in love many times. Not as much as I have fallen in lust, but enough to know what true love is. Falling in love is not something you can force. It has more to do with mutual attraction, good communication, common interests, and solid friendship. Lust is so much easier. 

What can I say or do to encourage my mother to find her own place and move out of our home?

“Get out.”

What are some signs that a woman is grateful to you?

When she tells you. She could always initiate unplanned sex, but simply telling you she is grateful would be quicker.

What are some ways to show gratitude for all that our mothers have done for us throughout our lives? What would be the one thing she would like to hear from her children, and why?

“I love you.” It is all a mother ever wants to hear.

"Mama, you were given these children - you. No one else. You were given these children because you are who they need."

-- Unknown

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions offered. After over twenty years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance... he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center. 

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com 

So, Sexy Is In? (Updated from 6/12/2014)

“What’s with you girls and feeling like you have to be perfect to go out in public?” he asked. “It’s not like it’s a sale barn and they weigh you before you can go in! Just because the rest of the school acts like there’s a weight limit on hotness doesn’t mean they’re right. Or that you need to buy into it.”

-- Kelsie Stelting

You betchya by golly wow!  Sexy is in. But let's really consider what we're looking at.  We have an image of a woman in a red dress, low-cut down to the top of her breasts.  Okay, so what lies below?  In my vast experience, there are quite a few attractive "full-figured" women.  So, let's consider what we can see.  

I see a woman who has taken the time to have her hair styled.  A woman that has spent a few bucks on a stylish outfit.  I see a woman who really knows how to accent the lips God gave her.  And, I see a woman who has practiced the art of the "come hither" pose.  So, I won't try to be delicate concerning my next comment.  

Her ass might be using the bar stool as a suppository, but, being a real man, all I see is a woman that gives shit how she looks.  She looks good.  

We pay too much attention to whether a woman measures up to the current "body type."  How about having a bit of self-respect and using the most of what God gave you?  I went through elementary, junior high, high school, and a couple of years of college, all with plus-sized women. It isn't always about looks.  Sometimes, it is about presentation.  Have you seen the "makeover" shows?  The transformations with the right makeup, hairstyle, and clothing are incredible!

God gave women a gift.  If a woman chooses to ignore her gift, she shouldn't cry foul when she can't find a man.  Stop hanging around bars with the rest of the trailer trash.  If you're looking for the ideal man, start dressing up.  Put on a little makeup, have your mop of hair styled, and learn how to walk, talk, and act.  We can address the seductive beads of perspiration on your chest and cleavage after we get approval for a follow-on date.  And just as a side note, the ideal man doesn't hang around bars looking for a life partner.  He's there to get laid... if he's got the right line.

Okay, I was just getting started.  Are you ready for the real rant?  (Big breath...)

Men, if you think you're immune from this, think again.  

Most of you slovenly miscreants couldn't find a quality woman because you rarely have the sober ability to part your ass cheeks long enough to pull your head out and take a breath of fresh air, much less bathe, shave, put on some clean threads, and, yes, learn to walk, talk, and act so a woman of any worth would give you a first, much less a second, look.  

Try getting a haircut and combing what's left.  Try wearing pants that don't droop half past your butt crack, and, by the way, boxer shorts worn in plain sight are not a fashion statement to anyone except the person wearing them.  It certainly isn't a sign of good breeding.   Let me say that all of this is aimed at the teenagers that do it.  You guys over thirty that do it, well, really?  GROW THE HELL UP!  The fact that you think you can act like you're eighteen is just, well, sad. Any woman that thinks a man acting like a teenager is "cute" needs a serious reality check.  

God was kind enough to give a man two heads. I think men should use the head with a brain in it occasionally.  Here's another thought. If you want to be really different, try acting like an adult, or at least like a person that gives one shit about who they are and where they are going in life.  Do this after you wake up from your drug or alcohol-induced coma... tomorrow morning.

The point here is simple.  Sexy has always been in.  It doesn't matter what your shape is.  It matters who you are and how you present yourself.  If your goal in life is to act like trailer trash, I respect that.  Go for it!  Don't bathe, don't brush your hair, don't get your teeth fixed, and don't shave your armpits. But please don't bitch to the rest of us about how miserable your life is.  

Or, you can try raising the bar.  After all, it is your life.

Okay, I think I'm done.

"It's not just about being healthy; it's also about loving who you are. If you don't love who you are, you are never going to feel 100 percent satisfied in life. It all starts with you. If you don't love you, nobody else is going to be able to."

-- Ashley Graham

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions offered. After over twenty years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance... he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center. 

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Memory, Friends, Sayings, and Forcing

 

“Scars have the strange power to remind us that our past is real.”

-- Cormac McCarthy

Why is it impossible to forget certain events or people? Can't we track the activity of certain neurons and just turn them off to create them again?

I think that was one purpose of a frontal lobotomy. You'd be a vegetable, but you won’t remember anything. 

How can individuals develop their leadership skills for a successful career?

I joined the military. They taught me everything I needed to know. 

How can individuals develop leadership skills in the workplace?

The military taught me supervision and management. The American Management Association told me, over the course of a week in San Francisco, that they did a fine job. 

I just found out that a person who I really respected for their hard work ethic has been using ChatGPT to do their work. I don’t know how to feel about this person?

Oh, I think you know. 

How do I not be paranoid about something scary I just learned?

Rise above it. We are all stronger than we think we are. Do nothing wrong and there is nothing to be paranoid about. We choose to be what we are, so don’t choose to be scared. Fear is a protection mechanism. Bravery should be the response.

“So, first of all, let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself — nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.” 

-- Franklin D. Roosevelt

What is the easiest way to get friends (in your 20s)?

The same way you got friends earlier in life, and the same way you’ll make friends later in life. Be selflessly friendly, respectful, and courteous, you know, all the things people in their 20’s have problems with. Everyone thinks the “20s” are so much different because everyone is trying to be something they’re not.

What does the Russian proverb “Обратиться в квакерство. Cейчас.” mean?

You don’t know?

What is the ethical dilemma of testing someone for deceit and false behavior?

As a member of military intelligence, I see no ethical dilemma. The problem with lying is that you can never believe them again.

Why is the average person on the street a blind follower and cannot think for themselves? Where is this follow-the-leader mentality derived from?

Faith in Joe Biden. Faith is a belief in something for which there is little or no proof.

How do I stop being a perfectionist and accept making mistakes?

There’s no such thing as a perfectionist. You can try to be excellent, however. Even, so-called, “perfectionists” make mistakes. They learn, and they usually learn by making mistakes. They just don’t talk about them. Mistakes and failures are the best ways we learn. We critique and try again until we get it right.

Try this on for size:

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

-- Thomas A. Edison

What does the saying "life is better before" mean?

Is life better now, under Joe Biden as President? Life was much better before.

How do you let go of the need for revenge when someone has put their hands on you and chastised you about it?

“Don’t ever put your hands on me again, and your opinion of people says more about your own sad frailties.” (weakness in character or morals)

How do you make yourself relax?

Meditation. I’ve used meditation for years.

How can we make good, wise, and rational choices in life with or without God's help?

God gave us all the tools we need to make good, wise, and rational choices in life. God doesn’t help you with anything more than moral support. You can lean on God, but God expects you to rise or fall on your own. If you fall, God expects you to pick yourself up, learn why you fell, and press forward with new knowledge.

Among love, respect, and honor, what comes first? What's more important?

Honor. Your honor should be the foundation for everything you do.

“Never throw the first punch. If you have to throw the second, try to make sure they don't get up for a third.”

-- Brandon Sanderson

Why do people say, "I've never been wrong before"?

Bullshit. They lie badly.

What causes someone to be mean-spirited and lacking in compassion?

Poor upbringing or life issues. They lacked good parenting or had problems in their history that turned them.

What are the 3 words better than, “I love you”?

If they are spoken truly, there are no better words to hear.

Why are Democrats liars about everything?

It is what they do. They exist because of the people who believe them. It is why socialism only works until it eats through everyone else’s money. You can’t build a government on this kind of shaky foundation.

Can a wife’s friend ruin a marriage?

That would depend on the wife or the husband falling prey to the friend’s advances.

“It will always be foolish to ask a cheater if they would ever cheat on you.”

-- Dennis Adonis

What can I do to stop cheating on my wife with other chicks?

Love your wife more than other women. You seem to have needs outside of your marriage, which bodes the question of why you ever got married in the first place.

What is the best comeback when someone calls you insecure for no reason?

“Tell me why you think so.”

How do I make her miss/love me?

You don’t. She either loves you or she doesn’t. Making her is building a relationship on a bad foundation.

What is a two-way rejection?

If you both reject each other, why did you ever get together?

How do I know if my husband still wants me?

He tells you, without being asked. He buys you flowers for no reason. His passion for you knows no bounds. Yadda, yadda, yadda… Mounting you is not really a sign of anything more than lust.

“Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is he who finds that true friend in his wife.”

-- Franz Schubert

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions offered. After over twenty years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance... he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center. 

 Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Matthew 6: Yes, the Entire Chapter (Updated from 6/10/2014)

 

“When you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, who love to stand and pray in the synagogues and on street corners so that others may see them. Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you pray, go to your inner room, close the door, and pray to your Father in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will repay you."

-- Matthew 6:5-6

I was reviewing Matthew 6:5-6 in 2014 in preparation for a post on one of my favorite issues... churches.  I scanned the rest of the chapter and found most of it paralleled my viewpoint.  These verses are quoted time and time again, so it isn't as though I'm presenting any revelations.  But, lately, I've been hearing a lot from people that are having issues that this chapter directly addresses, and with some pretty sound advice.  It is a short chapter, so I decided to present all 34 verses and opine on those of note in brown print.  The chapter is well worth a read or a re-read if you've read it before.

Matthew 6

1. [But] take care not to perform righteous deeds in order that people may see them; otherwise, you will have no recompense from your heavenly Father. 2. When you give alms, do not blow a trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets to win the praise of others. Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward. 3. But when you give alms, do not let your left hand know what your right is doing, 4. so that your almsgiving may be secret. And your Father who sees in secret will repay you.

Verses 1-4 all discuss ego. There is a flavor of humility that permeates the Bible. Doing the righteous thing for the pure sake of righteousness seems self-explanatory.

5. “When you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, who love to stand and pray in the synagogues and on street corners so that others may see them. Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward. 6. But when you pray, go to your inner room, close the door, and pray to your Father in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will repay you.

Let's talk churches. Why are there churches? According to these verses, churches are not only not required but they are also frowned upon.

7. In praying, do not babble like the pagans, who think that they will be heard because of their many words. 8. Do not be like them. Your Father knows what you need before you ask him.

Tired of going to church to hear the preacher babble on about righteousness as the crowd cries hallelujah and amen? Again, churches are not required and seem to be frowned upon.

9. “This is how you are to pray: Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, 10. your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as in heaven. 11. Give us today our daily bread; 12. and forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors; 13. and do not subject us to the final test, but deliver us from the evil one.

The prayer in verses 9-13 is called "The Lord's Prayer." It is short, sweet, and to the point. The point being? This is how we pray - short, sweet, and to the point. Don't overthink it! Worship was never meant to be that difficult.

14. If you forgive others their transgressions, your heavenly Father will forgive you. 15. But if you do not forgive others, neither will your Father forgive your transgressions.

We all sin, and God knows this. What I think is being said is that if you show charity toward others, so will God show charity toward you.

16. “When you fast, do not look gloomy like the hypocrites. They neglect their appearance, so that they may appear to others to be fasting. Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward. 17. But when you fast, anoint your head and wash your face, 18. so that you may not appear to be fasting, except to your Father who is hidden. And your Father who sees what is hidden will repay you.

Verses 16-18 address humility again. Who are you trying to impress by acting this way? Certainly not God. It is evident to God what you are up to.

19. “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and decay destroy, and thieves break in and steal. 20. But store up treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor decay destroys, nor thieves break in and steal. 21. For where your treasure is, there also will your heart be.

Things. It is just stuff, and we hoard stuff like we would be nothing without it when, in reality, we are nothing with it. If we were to lose our material belongings, would we not still survive? Are our life, health, and family second fiddle to wealth? If you believe this, you have issues you need to address.

22. “The lamp of the body is the eye. If your eye is sound, your whole body will be filled with light; 23. but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be in darkness. And if the light in you is darkness, how great will the darkness be.

Matthew seems to enjoy plucking out an offending eye. "And if thine eye offends thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: it is better to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire." How literally to take this? Walking away from the offensive issue might suffice.

24. “No one can serve two masters. He will either hate one and love the other, or be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon. 25. “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat [or drink], or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? 26. Look at the birds in the sky; they do not sow or reap, they gather nothing into barns, yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are not you more important than they?

27. Can any of you by worrying add a single moment to your life-span? 28. Why are you anxious about clothes? Learn from the way the wildflowers grow. They do not work or spin. 29. But I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was clothed like one of them. 30. If God so clothes the grass of the field, which grows today and is thrown into the oven tomorrow, will he not much more provide for you, O you of little faith? 31. So do not worry and say, ‘What are we to eat?’ or ‘What are we to drink?’ or ‘What are we to wear?’ 32. All these things the pagans seek. Your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. 33. But seek first the kingdom (of God) and his righteousness, and all these things will be given you besides. 34. Do not worry about tomorrow; tomorrow will take care of itself. Sufficient for a day is its own evil.

Verses 24-34 make my readers say, "Hey! But wait a minute! Tony says to take care of ourselves first, that we may take care of others." And I also say you should accept that God knows already if you have faith that He exists. This faith is, in itself, a proclamation that you have found God. The search is learning to acknowledge what you have known since before birth.

Does God exist?  One needs to have faith. Faith is simply a belief in something for which there is little or no proof. Both atheists and theists suffer from a lack of this proof.

As always, these are just my humble opinions. I could be wrong. Who is right? I think Jesus was closer than anyone has been since His death. After that, everyone has mucked up the teaching until it resembles little of the original intent. Occasionally you can find little gems of wisdom that flow forth from the Bible with a truth that is hard to ignore. I think Matthew is hard to ignore. 

What do you think?

 

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions offered. After over twenty years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance... he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center. 

 Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com