Questioning Purpose, Advantage, Husband, Responses, and Vindictiveness

 

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”

-- Mahatma Gandhi

Why are we here? And what is our purpose?

We are here to live and to learn. If you aren’t learning, you are wasting the life you were given, and you won't proceed very far in the next life. Heck, you'll probably live this life over.

At what age do you think "damn, I can't maintain my youth"?

70.

Do you ever regret having your child?

No. I have two, a boy and a girl. Actually, a man and a woman. Their mother is a piece of work. I divorced her. My son makes the big bucks working for Verizon, and my daughter is the best mother for my two grandkids that I can imagine.

Forgive me, honesty only hurts when you allow it. For example, two squirrels quarreling only can mean what part of the grass your eating?

What the...???

Do you judge people, or are you against judging?

God forgive me, I judge drivers when they do anything but drive the car they are behind the wheel of. I’m sure they are nice people otherwise.

Was Alain Delon a world-class asshole for wanting his healthy dog to be euthanized and buried with him when he died?

The jury says, “Yes!” And, the dog agreed.

"I have never agreed with shelters where healthy animals are 'put to sleep' just because they need the space. I find it cruel and something that needs to stop, especially in this century where something else could be done for this animal."

-- BlizzardHaze

Where is advantage?

Uh… advantage of what? How about some more information?

Why is it that people would actually allow someone to take advantage of them and mistreat them? Is it that they have low self-esteem and don't feel good about themselves?  Do they need validation from a person who has malicious tendencies?

For one thing, some people allow this. Not all people allow it. If the victims would stand up for themselves, the bullies would leave them alone. The rest of your question is spot on. But, why would anyone need validation from a malicious moron? If you give yourself the self-esteem you deserve, you won’t need outside validation. It is a choice, to be a group of one.

Why is it so hard, these days, to find a caring and honest person and a friend?

Move to the Mississippi Gulf Coast. It’s hard to find one that’s not.

Why do people these days not care about anyone?

I’m a caregiver for my girlfriend. Where did you get this line of bullshit? I hang with some vets that help at the drop of a hat. Not all people are not caring.

Why do people in the US think they’re the “average” or “normal” when they’re literally neither?

Being above average and abnormal, I have no idea.

What are some debate topics that will start an argument?

Politics. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to say the right thing and get the liberals to start an argument, because they don’t agree with anything that isn’t socialist. It is what it is.

“Reader, suppose you were an idiot. And suppose you were a member of Congress. But I repeat myself.”

-- Mark Twain

What is a sister’s husband called?

Her husband. Did I not understand the question?

How do you respond to someone who tells you not to be rude?

I can’t help myself. I have no filter, so I say what I think. It can be rude, but it is probably the truth. Sometimes, people need a shot of the truth to get them back on the right path. 

Is it rude to call Joe Biden a jagaloon, and tell him he’s a failure?

When did honesty become rude? Now, on to Harris…

Why is fear keeping people broke?

Bad parenting? If they were taught to work hard and learn the lessons that life delivers to them, they would be fine. Unfortunately, they were never given the information or they simply ignored it. It comes back to the individual being afraid of work and learning.

How do I start an extramarital affair in a family?

You need to learn to say the right things, to the right person.

Last night I slept with my husband's friend while I was drunk. What should I do now?

Take a shower... and hope his "friend" doesn't have any STDs he passed to you. this isn't his first ball game. After you get your wits about you, you might think about your marriage. Don’t blame your decision to "sleep around" on the booze. If you slept with your husband’s friend, ask yourself, how many friends he has? I mean, really. If you’re going to "sleep around" you might think about a divorce.

“He wants to use my body, to take advantage, and I want to let him. I want to be someone’s one-night stand, some blithe slut... I want to allow myself to be like all those women I pretended to look down upon all my life, but whom I secretly envied for having the guts to have their legs spread by strange men in smoky bars.”

-- Valentine Glass

How should one respond to someone who says, "Kids these days."?

“Yeah, they are much older.”

My wife doesn't satisfy me sexually, what should I do? I have told her this many times.

What you need to ask of her, for all of us, is why you married her, in the first place? I mean, sex is the “big taco” in marriage. What do you do? Well, divorce comes to mind. I mean, you’re going to live your whole life with your wife. Is this the one? Think about it, and then you might need to rectify the mistake.

Is staying a recluse away from society like saying “f#%k you” to society?

Pretty much.

How will you encourage the young ones to avoid or prevent from engaging in premarital sex?

Have you ever talked to a brick wall? How did the conversation go? The girls are pretty smart. The guys have a “boner” they need to take care of. You might be talking, but their “urge” is helping to ignore you. Now, we’re back to the “brick wall,” at the start of this. Everything you might have said to them, early on in life, is out the window. What they want, is some “strange.” Hey, I don’t blame them a bit. I have enjoyed a lot of "strange" in my life. Premarital sex is all about protection, and this might keep their attention.

Is a sex-free marriage the norm?

Oh, hell no.

Why do I hate it when people feel proud of me?

What people think of you is immaterial. How you think of yourself, is more important to your life than what others think. If you can be satisfied with your accomplishments, you have "accomplished" something special. "Pride" is a dirty word, but being very satisfied with what you have done, is much better.

“True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future, not to amuse ourselves with either hopes or fears but to rest satisfied with what we have, which is sufficient, for he that is so wants nothing. The greatest blessings of mankind are within us and within our reach. A wise man is content with his lot, whatever it may be, without wishing for what he has not.”

-- Seneca

How should one respond when someone says, "I'm prettier than you"?

“You’re a slut. Something to be proud of.”

What are some excuses to tell your parent/parents why you weren't in class?

I’m a screw-up. I take after you. They don’t teach me what I want to learn. And, my favorite: I was getting some strange sex in the backseat of my car.

What is a term for someone who naturally makes others laugh without trying to be funny themselves?

Naturally humorous.

How do I ask a female if she would allow me to take naked pictures of her at my home?

“Can I take naked pictures of you at my home?” This isn’t rocket science. It is a “yes” or “no” answer.

What would you want to do with me, my girl, if we were with you right now?

I’m not a female, but the question seems humorous. Who is “we” in the question?

My bf has a retroactive jealousy issue, he now constantly likes to joke around about my "ex" and devalue me, in a way. Is he actually joking or not?

Your “bf” has a peculiar sense of humor. First of all, your “ex” should be off-limits for him. Second, to “devalue” you, is crossing a line. It may be time for a “new bf” decision. If you let him “devalue” you, anything goes. Joking, or jealousy? Be real. He’s showing his ass, and you probably deserve better than this.

“Moral indignation is jealousy with a halo.”

-- H.G. Wells

How should one handle a spouse who has been consistently vindictive since the beginning of the marriage?

Why stay in the marriage? Get a divorce, and be more careful the next time.

How do I go back to school, after the most embarrassing, humiliating thing that happened to me in school, and the whole school heard about it?

Sucks being you, but... it is what it is. Embarrassing? Humiliating? The only cool thing to do is to laugh about all of it.

Why does someone say, "Are you done being mad at me?"

They liked it when you weren’t mad at them.

Could my fear of a preordained universe come from inferior intelligence? It may involve the rejection of uncertainty.

The universe is a fact. The “Big Bang” ordained the creation. “Uncertainty” is a human weakness, that tells us we don’t know what is certain. Your fear is unfounded due to the foundation of facts that can’t be changed. I just gave myself a headache. Have a nice day!

How do I reply, to a female, when she asks if I'm a virgin?

“Yes, but I game if you’d like to take care of that.”

What are the best habits for success in life?

Strive toward true happiness always and in everything, regardless of your circumstances. It is a choice.

“Success is not how high you have climbed, but how you make a positive difference to the world.”

-- Roy T. Bennett

 

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Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

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