Questioning Cheating, Husbands, Rumors, What the..., and Broken

 

“What a kid I got, I told him about the birds and the bees and he told me about the butcher and my wife.”

-- Rodney Dangerfield

Why would someone who cheated on you continue to stay in contact with the person they cheated with?

My wife cheated on me constantly. She liked them more than me. I was her meal ticket. I supported her addiction. I was an idiot, for 25 years. I filed for a divorce. As it turns out, she was a "very sad" woman, and I was happy to get rid of the "expensive" baggage.

What did your father say to you that you'll never forget?

“Life isn’t fair. Make better choices.” I joined the Air Force.

Is it true that anything free is not original and anything original is not free?

It depends on who you are. I have given away original art, just because they love it. I have sent several pieces of original art to a radio telescope in the Netherlands, for their 50th anniversary.

What are the best tells that someone isn't a good person?

When they do bad things, and they will, constantly.

She left me for her ex. It’s extremely hurtful. I’m so hurt. She was always saying she had feelings for me. How can I deal with that?

She had “feelings” for you. She just doesn’t love you enough. Don’t be hurt. Be happy that you didn’t marry her before this happened. It is what it is, get over it and move on to a woman who really loves you. She is wishy-washy, so DO NOT take her back.

Why are good people distinct from Trump, Biden, and Kamala Harris?

They aren’t politicians.

“Our great democracies still tend to think that a stupid man, is more likely to be honest than a clever man, and our politicians take advantage of this prejudice by pretending to be even more stupid than nature made them.”

-- Bertrand Russell

Why does my husband ignore my calls and always lie to me?

Why are you still married to him?

Do IQs actually matter at all?

I haven’t found one person that has had their IQ measured. Most people I know have done very well for themselves, not knowing their IQ. If you are intelligent, so be it. If you don’t seem to be, you work a little harder, that’s all. The “IQ” gives you something to brag about. It isn’t that important to who you are. 

What should I do about my husband who won't help me do anything?

And, you married him why?

How is it true that everything you say should be true, but not everything true should be said?

Everything you say should be true if you are a good person. But, not everything true should be said, because it might be hurtful. I have no filter, so I speak whatever crosses my mind. Luckily, most people accept my honesty.

Author's Comment: I like this, thank you.

Why aren't women sexually attracted to men?

They aren’t? That will be news to all the women I hear from.

Do smart people know they're smart?

Yes, but their “intelligence” is where they make the mistake. If you know you’re smart, you may not know how intelligent you are. Most “smart” people don’t brag about intelligence as much as intelligent people do. If you are “smart” and “intelligent” you are in a small crowd. Please keep it to yourself.

“Quiet people always know more than they seem. Although very normal, their inner world is by default fronted mysterious, and, therefore, assumed weird. Never underestimate the social awareness and sense of reality in a quiet person; they are some of the most observant, absorbent persons of all.”

-- Criss Jami

Why do cheaters get mad when their partners cheat?

Oh, hell yeah. Even if they don’t cheat, the cheater will accuse them of doing the nasty with someone else. I went through this with my ex-wife. I was supposedly doing every woman on base, so she could have a clear conscience to screw her brains out.

Can a rapist be a good man?

No. He is a rapist.

Do you agree with JD Vance that being impregnated by a rapist may be inconvenient, but two wrongs don't make a right, and women who have been raped should never be allowed to have abortions?

Bullshit. JD Vance has never been raped and impregnated by the same. It is why they have a “morning after” pill, so the Christians can have a clear conscience, where abortion is concerned.

Can constant criticism be a sign of jealousy towards someone?

Pretty much, if the person isn’t always screwing up.

Why are most men naive towards women?

Bad parenting. The parents don’t instruct men about women, so the women have a cadre of men who don’t have a clue. The women get men into bed and find they have to “school” them how to give the woman an orgasm. I learned from the best. Afterward, I went through a bottle of Intensive Care lotion in a week. Ouch…

Can a man have sex a couple of times a day?

Oh, hell yeah.

“The difference between sex and love is that sex relieves tension and love causes it.”

-- Woody Allen 

Are the rumors about you true?

Absolutely! I hung like a horse. 

Why are bullies the bad guys?

If you haven’t been bullied, you have no clue. These are the chumps that think being a bully makes them mature. It doesn’t. What it does is put the focus on their immaturity. They are the bad apples in school, but they have their purpose… if one cares to look. I was a target at school. Four-eyed, skinny, short, ripe for the picking. I stood up to the bullies. I got my ass kicked. When I went to college, I majored in psychology.

When I got drafted for Vietnam, I joined the Air Force. It changed my mindset. I feared nothing, certainly not bullies. I served for 23 years and trained a lot of bullied kids to know they were safe. It was the bully, who tormented them, that needed help. Bullies, if you take away the fear they instill, are simple cowards.

How many times a week is intercourse beneficial for your health?

Every other day works for me. 70 and still kicking.

What are the reasons why people believe in a god, or religion, despite lack of tangible evidence? Why do individuals feel the need to believe in something intangible?

Why do individuals not believe in what they can’t sense? You either believe or you don’t believe. To not believe is easy. For you to believe, and take on all the naysayers, takes some big balls of steel. Atheists don’t understand this, and that is fine. Most theists really could care less what they believe... or don’t.

Neither side has any proof to bolster their argument. With no proof to offer, well… both sides would be better off keeping their pie holes shut.

My girlfriend shows me love and concern but does not want to have sex with me because she is scared. What should I do?

Respect her wishes. You need to show her the same love and concern she shows you. I can’t believe I’m saying this, but, sex is not everything.

What is the meaning of the phrase, "You don't need to lie."?

Because… lying is wrong? Lying obscures the facts. Pretty soon, nobody knows what is true or false. Politics uses this philosophy to great advantage, albeit lying to society. If everybody would do their due diligence, or look at the recent past government, they would see the facts for themselves and vote for progress to benefit all people, not just the elite.

“I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you.”

-- Friedrich Nietzsche

My son became my daughter and became pregnant. What should I do?

Love the child. Your son becoming your daughter is not the child’s fault.

What percentage of humanity do you consider good people? How can we change it for the better?

Most of humanity tries to do good. Now and then, they fail. This keeps balance in the universe. We know “bad” as well as we know “good” and this keeps most of us from getting screwed.

 Author's comment: Thanks Tony, for your perspective.

How would you describe women who are overly attached to their husbands?

Insecure.

Why has my ex got back with me and then made no effort?

Well, (expletive), why did you let her come back? Great sex? Oh, wait. She makes no effort, so that can’t be it. I’m back to my previous question, “Why did you let her come back?” 

How do women deal with awful husbands who belittle them?

Divorce. It levels the playing field.

Is it selfish to choose not to have children if you believe your future spouse may not want them?

The two of you need to discuss this, especially this question of selfishness. Don’t get into a marriage with someone you, already, don’t agree with.

“People who have kids are constantly boring the shit out of people who haven't. But they can't stand it if you tell them the truth – when I look at your life it makes me want to do anything but.”

-- Virginie Despentes

What’s something that can be broken but never held?

A relationship. You experience a relationship, but not hold it, and... it can be broken.

How can someone be embarrassed without being offended?

Leave the house with their zipper down. When you are told, you are embarrassed, but not offended.

What is the meaning of being alive for human beings?

It means you are not dead. It means you have more life to live, so get to it.

Why do less educated couples have longer marriages compared to high educated ones?

I hate to put this out there, but… They are so fricking happy that someone wants to marry them, that they will do anything not to risk it again. 

If many people don't realize they are human, then what is it?

Who are the “many” who don’t realize they are human? I have not heard this “fact.”

Why do people treat "incelism" as if, somehow, it's a threat to society?

Not a chance. Look at this:

“A person (usually a man) who regards himself or herself as being involuntarily celibate and typically expresses extreme resentment and hostility toward those who are sexually active.”

-- Merriam-Webster

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We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

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