Questioning Marriage, Lessons, Money, Existence, Assholes, and Goodness

 

“It is a truth, universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife.”

-- Jane Austen

How do I know when I will get married?

When you find that special person that loves you as much as you love them. When you have dated for a few years, you can pop the question and hope they are on the same page.

How do I stop caring about what other people say about me? I'm always too scared to try anything by myself, due to the fear of being judged. I'm a slow learner. I want to accept myself and not be let down, by every failure I face.

Stop caring what other people say about you. Their comments cover their major inadequacies, or they would have said nothing. If you’re a slow learner, let people know this so they can assist you. Failure is life letting you know you have a lesson to learn, so try harder. If people judge you, you are hanging with the wrong crowd.

What did you expect from yourself when you help someone?

That I would be more of a help than a hindrance.

How do I reduce an opponent’s morale & its principles? What is the step-by-step full instruction?

Having served 23 years in the Intelligence field… this is something you don’t want to dabble in. If you aren’t trained in it, it can become a game that will cost you dearly. I know from where I speak.

Where did ideas or concepts exist before they were conceived?

They didn’t. They came into existence when thought processes conceived them.

Why does a breakup hurt too much?

You have invested your love into someone who has decided they don’t love you. Unfortunately, they haven’t taken your love for them into account. Hence, the breakup will hurt you more than them.

“To be rejected by someone doesn't mean you should also reject yourself or that you should think of yourself as a lesser person. It doesn't mean that nobody will ever love you anymore. Remember, that only ONE person has rejected you at the moment, and it only hurts so much because, to you, because that person's opinion symbolized the opinion of the whole world, of God.”

-- Jocelyn Soriano

What valuable lesson has your life taught you?

Think before you act.

How do you deal with stupid mistakes?

Mistakes are like failures. Failures are life lessons. They remind you that life is full of education and you need to pay attention to the lessons life puts in front of you.

Is “I need food for tortoise” a correct sentence?

I would say, “I need food for a tortoise.”

Is “The tortoise's food is gone” a correct sentence?

Works for me.

How can you unseal your fate?

No. Your fate is what you choose it to be, by action, inaction, mistake, or someone else’s stupid action or mistake, every second of your life. Getting on a bus with an explosive, is you making an unknown mistake. “Fate” is what you face every day of your life. And, after you’re dead, your deeds during life will seal your fate in the afterlife. Unfortunately, you can’t escape your fate.

Why do I have the dumbest children of all time?

Questionable parenting?

“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.”

-- James Baldwin

What does the big money see that we don’t?

Opportunity.

Are you embarrassed to think anything?

Absolutely not, and I have no filter, so I say what I think. Why in the world would you be embarrassed to think anything? What you think is not out loud. Okay, that doesn’t count when it comes to me. I have said many times, and again here, that I have no filter, so I have no problem stating what I think. But it certainly doesn’t embarrass me. I’m 70 years old, so nothing embarrasses me.

What are 5 ways that a youth can survive without education?

Creative attitude, hard work, perseverance, good choices, and faith.

Are men that beat their women real men or animals?

Real men don’t beat women. Cowards beat women. These are the same cowards that probably bullied kids in school. They have found another target in women. Lorena Bobbit had the right idea. Lorena severed her husband’s penis on June 23, 1993, at their home in Manassas, Virginia.

Why can I not even start to date some man?

Maybe you like women.

How do little things create happiness in life?

Make the conscious choice to strive for true happiness, always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. In this way, true happiness is sustainable because it is a choice you have made, to be so always. Therefore, to negate happiness you must make a different choice. But, any other choice, other than true happiness, simply sucks.

“True happiness is not money in the bank nor a luxurious home. True happiness is a forgiving heart filled with love and gratitude.”

-- Charmaine J. Forde

Has existence itself failed us to some extent?

No. Your “existence” has to do with your choices. If you feel your existence has failed you, where did you go wrong?

Incredible. Why did she do it?

Incredible! What did she do? There is no context.

Do people really have sex with animals?

Yes, and even humans can be defined as “animals” when it comes to sex. Having sex with real animals is really off the mark. To let a human “animal” have sex with you might be fun for those who like it rough.

What is one thing you should never do with money?

Burn it.

Is it only a lie if you know the truth?

It is a lie whether you know the truth or not. The person telling the lie should know the reality of it. If they have no clue to the facts relating to the statement, they should say they don’t know whether or not the statement is true.

What do I do if my husband no longer wants to sleep with me?

Practice good personal hygiene.

“We should wash our destiny the way we wash our body, and change life the way we change clothes – not to preserve life, as when we eat and sleep, but out of objective respect for ourselves, which is what personal hygiene is all about.”

-- Fernando Pessoa

My 11-year-old daughter got pregnant by her uncle. What do I do?

The “uncle” had better be the same age or I’d beat the bad man to an inch of his worthless life before the police, and the ambulance I called, got there. If he ended up in a coma, all the better. The message I physically gave him will sink in while he heals.

Is it racist if you want to marry somebody from the same cultural background?

Only if I do it because I’m a racist.

Do you lie in bed, or lay in bed?

It depends. I lay in bed. But, if I’m trying to impress a woman in bed with my faux-prowess, I might lie in bed. So, it depends on what I’m doing.

Why shouldn’t men despise women?

Most men plan on getting laid. Despising women is counterproductive to the end goal. 

Are you real? It might not sound correct to say, but are you?

I pinched myself, and it hurt. I would say the pain was pretty real, so that would make me real, as well.

What is one thing you are deeply proud of in your life?

My children.

“Critics who treat 'adult' as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adults themselves. To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence, they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being an adult is a mark of really arrested development. When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.”

-- C.S. Lewis

Is everybody a good person in this world?

Oh, hell no.

Why is love a spark that ignites life's purpose, fueling passions and dreams?

It isn’t. But some idiot got confused with desire and love. Desire is the spark that ignites life’s purpose. If you find that you love what you desire, the more the better.

I want to be smart, where do I start?

You've asked the question, so you're smart. If you want intelligence, that is another issue.

Am I evil for spurning my mother's love for me?

If she has done nothing to earn your “spurn,” then you’re a shit, for not accepting her love. She might be trying to make amends for past transgressions. 

How do you make money in any part of the world?

Labor.

If you were the nicest person in the world, would you be really happy or really depressed, that no one else was as nice as you?

I am the nicest, and I’m truly happy. I don’t care if anybody else is truly happy as I am. I am what I am, and that is enough for me. Everybody else needs to look out for themselves.

"The only thing that will make you happy is being happy with who you are, and not who people think you are."

-- Goldie Hawn

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

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I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

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