Questioning the Bible, 13-Year-Old, Sex, Mistakes, Games, and Women

 

"It is the free and willing subordination of an equal to an equal for the sake of order, stability, and obedience to God’s design. As a man, a husband will fulfill his destiny and his manhood as he exercises his headship in prayerful and humble submission to Christ and gives himself in sacrificial love to his wife. As a woman, a wife will realize her womanhood as she submits to her husband in honor of the Lord, receiving his love and accepting his leadership. When a proper relationship of mutual submission is present and active, a wife will be released and empowered to become the woman God always intended her to be."

-- Myles Munroe

(Does anybody buy into this?) 

 

The Bible says wives should be submissive to their husbands. Do you agree? I don't.

It helps to know who wrote the Bible. It would seem that women were totally excluded. That should tell the entire "missing" story.

How important is Marh?

Who the hell is Marh?

Why are individuals who disclose their high IQ often treated as scammers if they lack achievements in areas like wealth, chess, or science when claiming high IQ isn’t a claim of success in those fields?

I pay no attention to people who tout their IQ. Most often, they assume they have a high IQ, when they really don’t. If you have to tout your IQ, you have no idea how many people don’t care, which brings into question the whole “high IQ” question.

If a self-proclaimed intellectual contradicts himself, within their own stringed-together sentences, and doubles down on it, slanders people who point out the obvious contradictions, calling them dumb, is it safe to say they are not an intellectual?

It is very safe.

Can walking barefoot on grass or soil help one feel closer to nature and ground themselves in a fast-paced world? Are there any other ways to achieve this feeling?

It can. It can also help you step on a piece of glass or a sticker burr. Another way to enjoy nature is to simply lie down on the grass and meditate on the nature around you.

What is wrong in seeking the truth?

Nothing at all.

“Remember that when things don't go according to plan, they go according to truth. No matter how painful the reality, it is reality nonetheless. There is dignity in facing the truth without trying to cut it down to a more manageable size. There is honor in acceptance.”

-- Vironika Tugaleva

Suppose your 13-year-old daughter lashed out at you, but you had to admit she was absolutely right. What would you do?

I would talk to her about "lashing out" when she could simply explain her opinion, and then I would tell her that she was right.

How can you prove to me you’re a true believer?

Why? Who are you that I need to prove anything to?

How can I meet a girl for marriage?

Court the woman. If it works out, you can pop the question. If she says yes, great. If she says no, back to courting another woman.

What do you do if your 15-year-old tells you to f&#k off?

I am a considerate person. However, I have no compunction with tanning their ass with a belt and throwing them out of the house. If I have to “fuck off,” then you have to live on the street. Call it mutual non-respect. After they apologize, for three more years they can watch their “potty” mouth.

I waited all this time, for a woman, to find out it wasn't working. What should I do?

Tell her it isn’t going to work out… and explain why. She deserves the courtesy.

What are some signs that a relationship or marriage may not work out?

Constant bickering, contrary opinions about relationships, or one of you has experimented with infidelity. 

“Love is supposed to lift you up, not hold you down. It is supposed to push you forward, not hold you back.”

-- Suzy Kassem

We hardly have sex in 20 years. Are we done?

It sounds like you were done before you started.

Is it the wrong choice to pay a woman for sex?

Not if you really need it, badly. Watch out for STDs, though. Safety is out the window. 

Why is life currently feeling like a lie?

It is “feeling” like a lie, but it probably isn’t. What we “feel” can be wrong. No matter how I feel, life is what it is, and, probably, what I made it through my choices and decisions. I always see life as reality, not a dream, not a lie, but the cold, hard, facts of the “reality” of my life, for better or worse.

How should I deal with a wife who no longer allows me to have sex with her?

Divorce, or infidelity. You might give her an STD. That’ll teach her.

Am I wrong for wanting to watch my wife have sex?

Are you trying to learn something new? She might surprise you.

During a small argument, my husband called me a whore, and I got really angry and threw things and pushed him. I don't want to get divorced, but he told me to. What should I do?

A husband who uses that language is pushing for a divorce, so give it to him. My ex-wife slept around, a lot, but I never called her names. For the 25 years of our marriage, I loved her, probably too much. Don’t waste your life with a man who demeans your value.

“If someone calls me stupid, I have to actually believe I'm stupid in order for it to affect me.”

-- Rachel D. Greenwell

Have you ever made a huge mistake and regretted it?

Staying with my ex-wife, for the 25 years we were married. During the last few years, I have been there for my kids. That was a mistake, I realized this at the end. I regretted what I put them through. Although, I doubt she regrets anything.

Love and dignity - Is it possible to truly love someone if you have no dignity whatsoever?

If you truly love someone, and they know it, they have given you the dignity of love.

What steps can we take to save our marriage from divorce if my husband believes there is no solution to our problems but still wants me in his life?

If he thinks there is no solution but still wants you, he isn’t thinking hard enough. He may not be thinking, at all. He may want a divorce… and still “wants” you as his toy. But, let’s look at this like you both haven’t considered how to save what you have. Find a time when you can both sit down and really talk. If both of you want to save the marriage, " daylight " is streaming in from somewhere. If you both work toward saving it, the marriage might turn out fine. But, face-to-face, you will get the truth, one way or another.

Why should people be paying for a transgender's personal decisions to mutilate their body?

They shouldn’t. Thank you for bringing it up.

Why can a man not be a woman?

Because we have a gender. The fact that they don’t like the gender they have been assigned, well… it is what it is. I have no problem with gays, but changing your gender? It creates more problems than it solves, societal and personal.

Can you love someone if you decide you’re going to?

Of course, but they may not love you back.

“Because, if you could love someone, and keep loving them, without being loved back . . . then that love had to be real. It hurt too much to be anything else.”

-- Sarah Cross

What are some sex drinking games with your partner?

You drink. You rip your clothes off. You have the sex of a lifetime. Let’s call it a game.

How was your first experience with a vibrator?

I was young, in the Air Force, and couldn’t find the “On” button. She thought it was hilarious. I was mortified. I learned to be self-sufficient, and not use toys.

Do I really need a serious relationship leading to marriage?

Yes, otherwise, what’s the point?

Has someone ever attempted to have sex with you?

Luckily, the women succeeded. It was all my fault.

What is the most aggressive act you have ever faced when you had sex?

I was young and at my first assignment in the military. I went to a party, went to bed with a willing partner, and got mine. She was pissed. My friend said the last thing he saw was my fingers gripping the bottom of the door, fear on my face. The door slammed. I became friends with “intensive lotion” over the next week. I never saw her again… thank God.

Is it possible for someone to be in love, but not want to get married because they value their independence and freedom?

Of course.

“Are you unmarried? Do not bewail yourself, as if your life must be incomplete. Yours is not a higher state, as celibacy has falsely taught, but it is neither a failure nor a shame. Cease to measure yourself by human standards. Find rest in being just what your heavenly Father wills you to be. It may be that you have been kept free from the limited circle of a home, in order to pour your love on those who have no one else to love them.”

-- F.B. Meyer

Do I need a woman to be my wife?

Unless you’re gay, then you’ll need a man. Is this a trick question?

What knowledge do men bring to a relationship?

With a woman? None. With a man, however, experience. Women are from Venus, so our experience means very little to them… as their experience means little to men. With other men, however, we are all about learning their knowledge.

Why are most people in Quora incapable of logical thinking?

It is one reason why they find it necessary to ask questions.

I humped my cat when I was around 8-10 yrs old. Am I a horrible person?

If you aren’t still doing a cat today, your “horribleness” has run its course. Young kids tend to experiment. The cat is out in left field, but we can blame it on experimentation. We all hope you have moved on to your hand.

Can I ask my girlfriend why she is not allowing me to touch her?

I would. Not touching her simply sucks… or, not… depending.

What if everyone lived life as if they were being watched by their ancestors and descendants?

Well, masturbation would be out. As a matter of fact, making love to anyone would be out, as well, unless you like to be watched. And relieving oneself, well... no.  Being watched 24/7/365 can be seen as “ancestor voyeurism.” It is just wrong.

“Voyeurism was a form of control, like mental abuse, like rape, like bullying. It was nothing to do with the physicality of the action, and all to do with the feeling of power it gave the perpetrator, the balancing out of delicate ids and egos.”

-- Lisa Jewell

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

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I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

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