Questioning Air Force, Hatred, Happiness, Sex, Threesomes, and Cheating

“Age wrinkles the body; quitting wrinkles the soul.”

-- Douglas MacArthur

Why does the Air Force suck so bad?

I served 23 years in the Air Force. It’s a job. If you think it sucks, find another job.

Is it true that there are no individuals who are truly mentally ill?

No, it isn’t.

What do you do when the whole world is mentally ill?

I’m not, so right there, your premise sucks.

What are some ways to cope with a cheating spouse and the emotional impact it can have?

Divorce them, and deal with the impact with a better spouse.

What do you do if you're just not a happy person?

You’re not looking hard enough for true happiness.

How can I handle my wife?

If you have to “handle” your wife, divorce her. Marriage is a partnership.

"Husbands treat your wives the way you would want a man to treat your daughter."

-- Anonymous

Why is hatred such a waste of time and energy?

What does it accomplish, other than to piss you off? A waste of time and energy.

What are the potential consequences of never buying anything for oneself in comparison to others who are wealthy?

The majority of the wealthy are not truly happy.

How do I know if my relationship is abusive?

If it was, you’d know. Ask your partner what they think.

What would you do if you knew there was a better person than you?

There is, but, I am who I am. I continue to try harder to be a better person.

Is it necessary for a man to work if he has a wife?

What does that matter? Try to clean the house, make meals, and raise children.

What do you want to know that you can ask?

At 70 years of age, if I wanted to know anything, I would ask. Nobody can prevent me.

“I would rather have questions that can't be answered than answers that can't be questioned.”

-- Richard Feynman

If we are social beings, shouldn't single people lower their bar in order to have someone and be happier?

Being truly happy is a choice, each of us must make, for our life.

We usually have thoughts running in our minds all the time. Are we aware of the things we think about?

We are aware of what we think about, but we tend to ignore the process of thinking.

I don't enjoy sex with my husband. It's almost 3 years. Should I end this relationship?

Ya think? Why did you bother with marriage?

My parents don't allow me to have sex even after I am married. What do I do?

Your parents can marry your husband with you? It is your life, not theirs.

What is better, married after sex or married before sex?

After sex. It’s good to know what you’re getting into, before the vows.

I am single and I need a girl. What do I do?

Try dating.

"Everybody deserves love, but not everybody deserves you. You also deserve love, but you don’t deserve everybody."

-- De philosopher DJ Kyos

Should I wait until marriage to have sex?

What if they suck at sex? Now you’re married. Ta-da!

How can I encourage my boyfriend to want to marry me?

Giving him the sex of his lifetime might work. Be in charge, if you catch my drift.

What is more important, what is or what could be?

Knowing what is, may depend on what could be.

I have posted questions to which a left-winger gives a hate-filled, racist answer, and then further comments are disabled. It's obvious why they do this. But how is this done?

Typical of left-wing communists. They hate and they’re racists. Ignore ignorance.

How do I let a guy know I want to have sex with him?

Say this: “I want to have sex with you.” He will answer… after the shock wears off.

How can a wife handle an ungrateful husband who constantly complains and doesn't appreciate her efforts?

Yes, but, she will be having the sex of a lifetime with someone else.

"How do I deal with an ungrateful husband? Let them know that you love them, but that you can't let this treatment continue. Verbally, give them parameters regarding what you will and won't tolerate. If applicable, let the person know that you'll have to find someone to take over full or part-time if this continues."

-- Mental Health America

What does it mean if my wife asks me to get a girlfriend?

She wants a boyfriend.

Should a man forgive his wife when she accidentally cheats on him?

Yeah, let’s go with “accidentally.” She didn’t give him “sex of a lifetime” on purpose.

What are ways people can recover from being used by someone they loved?

Leave them and find someone so much better. They’ll forget, sooner or later.

Do you tell your partner you cheated?

Are you an idiot?

I am new here and I am looking for a responsible man. What should I do?

Look in reality, not on social media.

Why do men abuse women?

Because they can, and that is a sad reflection on those men who don’t.

“The scars from mental cruelty can be as deep and long-lasting as wounds from punches or slaps but are often not as obvious. In fact, even among women who have experienced violence from a partner, half or more report that the man’s emotional abuse is what is causing them the greatest harm.”

-- Lundy Bancroft

Is it true that a cheating woman is always a cheater?

Not any more than a cheating man is always a cheater. Both have issues.

Is it possible for someone to unknowingly cheat on their partner? If so, how can this be discovered and addressed?

It is virtually impossible, unless you’re an idiot, to “unknowingly” cheat.

Why do people in committed relationships cheat or engage in other extramarital activities?

They are cheating. It isn’t rocket science. They aren’t "getting" what they expected.

What can I do if I suspect my husband is cheating on me?

Follow him, or confront him with your evidence. “Uh…” is not an explanation.

Why do Christians claim that atheists "hate" God?

As a Christian, they can’t hate what they think doesn’t exist.

I quit my job and now I am depressed, lost, and anxious. What should I do?

Get another job, and let this be a lesson to you.

“If you quit ONCE it becomes a habit. Never quit!!!”

-- Michael Jordan

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com