Questioning the Usual, and Cheaters, Cheaters, and Cheaters

 

“Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn't stop for anybody.”

-- Stephen Chbosky

The standard questions:

Do you believe life changes constantly?

Absolutely. Change is the only true constant in the universe. Besides, life is predicated on choices and decisions we make, so life can change at any moment due to what we choose. This is why fate is what we make it, not some other idiot we let make choices for us. That, in itself, is a choice - a bad one, but a choice.

How do you politely hint to someone that they should leave your house?

“You’re going to have to leave my house.” It is your house, so being “polite” is a choice, not a requirement. You can be polite or replace the screen door, totally up to you.

When did you truly realize that God was real?

I can’t remember a time when I didn’t. My faith tells me He is real, just as an atheist has faith that He isn’t. We both have faith in beliefs that have little or no proof. Personally, I look forward to the next great adventure. I’m not really sure what atheists look forward to, but it’s fairly certain that I’m going to find out.

Reader comment: Those that make extraordinary claims should back them up. What claim do atheists make?

Note to my readers: I wrote an answer for this comment, then thought better of chastising him for not reading, or understanding, my answer.  I have found this typical for the League of the Perpetually Offended. 

What claims do atheists make? They claim that God does not exist, and I state this in my answer that they conveniently didn't thoroughly read. By definition: An atheist is "a person who disbelieves or lacks belief in the existence of God."

I could throw his statement right back at him: "Those that make extraordinary claims should back them up."  But this would certainly send him into the lexicon of gutter language concerning my birth and death.  

Atheists and theists both operate from a position of faith, though atheists I have encountered are in denial of this faith. Faith is nothing more than a belief in something for which there is little or no proof.  Neither the atheist nor the theist can provide concrete, irrefutable proof of their claim.  For both, it is a matter of faith.  The difference between us is theists understand this, and atheists seem to be in denial.

Do guys find chubby girls desirable?

Indeed! Some “chubbies” are very desirable. It’s all about working with what you have. Makeup, dress, heels, and, especially, attitude.

Can men really guarantee themselves a happy future?

Nothing is guaranteed. Change is the only true constant in the universe. However, you can choose to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of your circumstance. If you can do this, happiness will be, more or less, sustainable. This holds, to varying degrees, for both men and women. 

Have you ever slept with a girl you liked?

What? Why would you sleep with a girl you don’t like? It’s kind of counterproductive to having any real fun.

Why does my narcissistic boyfriend always give me the cold shoulder the day after we have sex?

He’s narcissistic, silly. He’s done, and you should be showering him with accolades concerning his prowess. Shame on you for falling down on the job.

Have you ever been underestimated at your job by someone who should know better?

No. I was always underestimated at my job by people who didn’t know me at all. I proceeded to educate them about why it's wrong to judge strangers.

Does your spirituality impact the health decisions you make?

Indirectly. My moral ethics impact my choices and decisions. My spirituality has much to say about always doing the right thing, so it may have impacted my moral ethics.

If you had to choose just one for a large business, would you choose lawyers or accounts (apart from the minimum legally required)?

Lawyers you can hire when needed, but accountants, or, at least, bookkeepers, need to be part of the staff for a large business.

I blocked my ex and he blocked me back. Why?

Tit for tat? Why did you block him? And, more importantly, why do you care if he blocked you back. Go on about your life and ignore each other. It is over.

My ex dumped me but still calls me wanting to hook up. Why?

Control… and he really thinks you’re that stupid, or he’s that good.

My boyfriend used to act submissive and since I’ve moved in, he’s become controlling and dominant. How can someone switch like that?

You should have had him move in. This is your fault for committing. You inadvertently switched roles.

“Our world is full of submissive activities. Shopping is submissive. You wander around buying the things the controllers have placed in front of you. Watching TV is submissive. You watch fictional lives rather than live your own life. Playing video games is submissive. You sit there shooting up the world (in virtual reality), while having no impact at all on actual reality. It’s easy to be a virtual hero, hard to be a real one. One involves no work, and the other is as hard as it gets. Video games are an avoidance of the real world. Voting is submissive too – you delegate your authority to one of the puppets of the controllers. Dominants are active, not passive. They DO. They ACT. They MOVE. They CHOOSE. They DECIDE. They are NOT CONTROLLED by the system. They are FREE. So, what are you?”

-- Adam Weishaupt

 

And, "cheating" seems to be of real concern:

What happens if you marry a bully and an unfaithful man?

Constant psychological trauma and treatments for sexually transmitted diseases. Better you should leave his disrespectful ass as soon as possible. Just saying.

I dated a married man and then got pregnant. He left his wife and married me. Should I trust him?

Has his past activity given you a reason to? I think not.  And, you got pregnant by him.  Smart move.

Which sin would you think is better to commit, sex before marriage with your own significant other or committing adultery?

Sex before marriage. If this is still a sin, hell is overflowing with sinners. Adultery comes in a close second.

What's the best punishment for married men caught cheating on their wives?

Divorce.

When your boyfriend goes to a few prostitutes (even if only once) behind your back, is that considered cheating?

Has his "member" fallen off? You can call it what you want, but some STDs are lifelong friends. Personally, if I were a woman, I’d be finding a man that respects me. 

Is it possible to remarry after being cheated on?

I never did, and I don’t plan on it. When you waste 25 years with the wrong person, well, just… no.

What makes a man loyal after previously hooked on cheating?

Not a thing.

What happens if you're in a relationship with someone you know is a cheater?

They’re going to cheat. Ta-da!

My boyfriend cheated for 2 years. How can I get over it?

And, you’re still with him? Find a new boyfriend.

Should you end the relationship after she cheated?

Ya think?

Why did my ex-boyfriend cheat on me and blamed me, saying that I cheated even though I didn’t? He keeps threatening me with my nudes from different accounts after I blocked him, he also talks negatively about me in his stories?

This is what happens when you make bad decisions in your life. Better you should totally ignore him, as in, he doesn’t exist. The nudes will fall where they may, so be proud of them. When people bring a story, remind them that this is, yet more evidence of who he is as a person. If they’re his friends, congratulate them for sticking with their poor choice, but you have a real life to get back to. 

Why won't my girlfriend of 20 years want me to leave after cheating with a dope dealer and a friend of mine knowing she doesn't want to be with me?

And… you’re still there? Question answered.

“If it's true that men and women can be 'just friends' then how come all cheaters first start out as 'just friends?”

-- Oliver Markus Malloy

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

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