Questioning Marriage, Challenge, Opinions, Lying, Quotes, and Memories

 

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”

-- Friedrich Nietzsche

I got my spouse. It took 11 months. What should I do?

Get her pregnant. It is a good bet she’ll stay with you until the child is born.

Why are people on [this site] so easy to wind up?

These are members of the League of the Perpetually Offended. It doesn’t matter what you write to answer their question, they were never going to accept anything. There is no point in continuing a debate with them because they will soon jump into the gutter along with their language. Better you find someone who really needs some advice.

How can I trust my boyfriend after unclear answers?

And… he is still your boyfriend? The question is your answer.

Can it be true that integrity means that what you thought, what you said, and what you did are all the same?

Integrity has two meanings. One is “the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness.” the other meaning is “the state of being whole and undivided.” So, it would seem that you are right if what you thought, said, and did, are whole and undivided, or if what you thought, said, and did, reflected good moral principles and uprightness.

Author's comment: Precisely, I like this. Thank you! As usual, you have never disappointed me with your reasoning.

What is really worth knowing?

“Why?” The answer to this question is worth knowing.

What are some things that you forgive people for, but never forget? Why? How does it affect your life?

I can forgive just about anything. According to Mahatma Gandhi, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” With this, you can always forgive. Forgetting, on the other hand, may never happen.

“I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you.”

-- Friedrich Nietzsche

How do you deal with really smart people who don’t like being challenged?

I ignore them, and their ignorance. 

What does a girl have to do to be treated nice?

Stop being submissive to dominating people, for one thing. Treat other people nice and expect them to treat you the same. Mutual respect goes a long way toward being treated nicely.

How does it feel being a dumbass?

Well? I await your answer.

If smart pigs are sophisticated, would that mean stupid pigs are dumb-esticated?

Uh… Oh, never mind.

Why do smart people ask stupid question?

For one thing, your question should be plural. There is no such thing as stupid questions, as long as there are answers, and you haven’t asked the questions more than once. We ask questions to become knowledgeable of things we know little about. Don’t ask questions, don’t get answers, and you stay stupid. Not a good way to go through life. 

What are the implications of people not knowing when they are lying?

They will also not know why people are calling them liars.

“There is beauty in truth, even if it's painful. Those who lie, twist life so that it looks tasty to the lazy, brilliant to the ignorant, and powerful to the weak. But lies only strengthen our defects. They don't teach anything, help anything, fix anything, or cure anything. Nor do they develop one's character, one's mind, one's heart or one's soul.”

-- José N. Harris

Isn’t it normal when you let the opinions of others shake your confidence?

Yes, but it shows you are incapable of ignoring other people’s opinions. What they think and what you know can be very different. Don’t allow idiots who really don’t know what you’re capable of, to shake your confidence. If you fail, you have learned something. If you attain your goal, they have learned something. Your “confidence” is part of the cycle of learning.

What is a fact that, once you know it, you can’t ignore it?

I’m alive. I try to ignore it, but the face stares back at me from the mirror. 

What is the advantage of being naked in or outside the house?

You are unencumbered by clothing. The world is your oyster, while you’re inside. If you’re outside, the world can be your oyster until the cops arrive. Wearing clothing while outside might be the better option.

Why do I feel nearly all time have no sense of self ? Rarely I feel like I am part of something bigger concept of being like a reflection of wholeness of realm?

Have you actually tried to read this question?

Is fun immature?

If it is, I’m an immature 70-year-old man. Having fun is the other side of working your ass off is all about. Having fun is the balance of not having fun, and the universe is all about balance, so you are validating the universe by having some fun. I recommend being immature while doing it.

What are the benefits of experiencing both happiness and sadness?

This is "balance" again. It is a necessary part of life and the universe.

"All of Nature lives in balance, and only the human being began to break away from this framework around three and a half thousand years ago. He started to apply his mind to use the others, to rule over them, and this addition violated his balance with Nature."

-- Michael Laitman

What's the point when everybody is lying?

“Everybody” isn’t lying. But, that doesn’t mean the majority of people aren’t. The “point” is to ferret out who is lying and who is not.

How does artificial intelligence help us to solve problems?

It might give us more solutions to think about.

Were you aware that everything is a lie, especially the truth?

“Everything” isn’t a lie, especially the truth. This sounds like something the League of the Perpetually Offended would come up with. When does the cussing begin?

When in your life did you feel happy to be home after dealing with a lot of stress?

After a 36-hour readiness exercise in the military.

Do people with average IQs think they are smarter than someone with a high IQ?

There is little doubt. Intelligent people seem to misplace their smarts. Smart people, might not have a high IQ, but they are usually street smart. It is rare to find a person who has both a high IQ and street smarts.

How do you know if a girl is manipulating?

If a man isn’t completely taken in by the short skirt and heels, he’ll know.

“There are those whose primary ability is to spin wheels of manipulation. It is their second skin and without these spinning wheels, they simply do not know how to function. They are like toys on wheels of manipulation and control. If you remove one of the wheels, they'll never be able to feel secure, be whole.”

-- C. JoyBell C.

Who said the quote, "If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn't sit for a month."?

A very wise person. We are responsible for most of our issues in life. If you’re looking for someone to blame, start with yourself.

Do Quora users agree that I ask questions?

I’m not so sure anyone gives a fig.

Is silence golden when you can't think of a good answer?

Yes, but the silence will also interrupt the humor aspect. Do as I do. Put foot in mouth and keep on marching forward.

Are conservatives really as ignorant as they seem, or is it just a facade to hide their true intelligence?

Typed like a true socialist, comrade.

How can I tell my girlfriend, when she came into my life, how special it was, how happy it made me feel, and the smile she put on my face?

That seems pretty straightforward to me. Tell her that. Of course, I felt that same way about my wife, until she took the elevator and left me the shaft after 25 years of marriage. But, you should tell your girlfriend what you wrote, anyway. It is sweet, and there isn’t a lot of sweet in this world.

Can you give me a great quote about understanding and wisdom?

Try this:

“The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.”

-- Socrates

If we forgot everything about ourselves, would we still exist?

Yep, but without your memories.

Why can't women handle my sigma male mentality?

You should put your “sigma male mentality” in a box and let the women roll on in.

How much does it cost to feel happy?

Nada, zero, nothing. It is a choice to feel truly happy. Strive to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. This is a simple choice that is sustainable, as long as you don’t change your choice, which would be counterproductive.

What is the best way to deal with people who say hurtful things and try to justify them?

Tell them they can’t justify being stupid, so just don’t try. Then, walk away.

Why is artificial so dumb? Facebook isn’t working right! I threw my phone across the room with anger. I can’t write a review. It says “Something went wrong. We’re working on getting it fixed as soon as possible.” What should I do?

Wait. Something went wrong. They’re working on it and they will get it fixed as soon as possible. Your show of anger was for your edification since no one saw it. They left you a message. You didn’t like it. There is nothing you can do but cool your jets. Go have a beer. Pick up some strange. Have some fun. Facebook shouldn’t be the center of “fun” in your life.

Can you give me your best quote?

Try this:

“It is what it is until it isn’t, and then it is what it is… again.”

-- F.A. Villari

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com