Questions on Love, Sex, Spanking, Mistakes, and Failure

 

“Now I really feel sorry for her. Your hand is as bad as Rob’s paddle,” Cassie shuddered. 

“Thank you.” 

“I didn’t mean it as a compliment!”

― Breanna Hayse

How do I fix all past mistakes in the present?

Mistakes and failures are opportunities to learn. We critique what we did and see why we went wrong. If we wronged a person, we can apologize for the wrong we did. If we made a wrong decision, we can acknowledge it and try again or learn the lesson so we mitigate the mistake happening again.

Learn from your mistakes, apologize or correct them, if possible, but learn from what you did so you don’t do it again. Owning your mistakes and taking responsibility for them is an ethical thing to do. Most people will respect that. Those who can’t, well, sucks being them.

What does life teach?

Answers. And, sometimes, more questions.

What is your secret to disciplining yourself and not flipping out in the long term?

It is what it is until it isn’t, so, why flip out? I’m being constantly baited by the League of the Perpetually Offended, but I’ve learned that taking the bait is a waste of time, so I don’t do it. No matter what I say, it will be wrong, so why bother? I have no doubt this answer will offend some, but it is what it is. You learn to deal with it by not getting involved in it. There is no secret to not flipping out, you just make the conscious choice not to. What does it accomplish? Not much.  (I'll bet you thought this dealt with spanking, didn't you?)

What did a foolish man once say?

"I do." 

What are the advantages and disadvantages of moral decisions?

The advantage is that you have nothing to apologize for. The disadvantage is that you won’t have that much fun.

“Top 15 Things Money Can’t Buy: Time. Happiness. Inner Peace. Integrity. Love. Character. Manners. Health. Respect. Morals. Trust. Patience. Class. Common sense. Dignity.”

-- Roy T. Bennett

What kind of plans does a couple make after being together for 6 months?

If they’re having fun, they should plan to spend another 6 months together.

Why do guys say it’s too soon for a relationship, marriage, commitment, or showing a girl off, but it's not too soon for sex? They can have sex with a stranger but can’t get in a relationship with a stranger when sex is the most intimate you can do

Hey, guys are from Mars. If we were from Venus we’d probably act differently.

What do we regret more, something that was done or something we failed to do?

Something that was done. I suppose my philosophy of “failure” comes into this. I view failure as an opportunity to learn why. Why it was you did or didn’t do something. If you didn’t take the test, you have no measure of what you have or haven’t learned. If you have taken the test, you now know what you need to work on, you have an opportunity to learn.

In this scenario, I would regret more not having taken the test to see what I need to work on. I would hate to have a brain surgeon working on me that thought she was all that and didn’t see failure as an opportunity to learn why she went wrong, and to sharpen her skills.

Should lesbian relationships be 50/50?

Like any solid relationship, yes.

How best is it to define failure?

Failure is when you fail to achieve your goal. But, failure, or even a mistake, is nothing more than an opportunity to learn. And failure is the best way we learn... if we ask the right question. Why did it fail? What did I not do, or what did I do, or what did I miss, that caused the failure. Search for the answer, fix the mistake, and try again, and again, until you attain your goal.

“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”

-- Henry Ford

What is sex with the same sex?

Homosexual. 

Are you pushed into positions in which you're too focused on yourself, rather than consciously adopting those positions?

I don’t get pushed into anything. I do find myself explaining, to some, that I’m doing something because I choose to do it, not because they’re all that. If I don’t feel like doing something, I don’t do it. A benefit of being retired. On the job I chose to do what I was told to do, as long as it didn’t violate any of my ethical principles. Even in a job you have chosen to do, you still reserve the right to choose right from wrong and what you want or do not want to do. 

Who are you? Describe yourself in two words.

Happily ethical. 

I've heard that extreme altruism is as frowned upon as selfishness. If so, what is it about extreme altruism that is so hated?

Definition: “The belief in or practice of disinterested and selfless concern for the well-being of others.”

Ask yourself what idiot frowns upon this? If this is selfishness, we need a lot more of it before the world is right. This ranks right up there with cancel culture and woke-ness. If it sounds this wrong, it probably is. Better to not listen to things that make little or no sense before you find yourself in a khaki uniform saluting a hammer and sickle.

How do I make self-spanking as painful as possible?

Kinky.  So, don’t do it yourself.

“Of course it hurts, it’s a spanking. How else would it work?”

-- Breanna Hayse

How can one show that: [n! /r! (n–r)! ] + [n! /(r–1)! (n– r + 1)! ] = (n+1)! /r! (n – r +1)?

I’m not sure that’s permissible. 

Why does my wife want to have sex with her married elder sister?

Damn! Who cares? I’d be asking what else she has in mind.  But, that's just me. 

Why do wives have sexual relationships with other men?

Because they can?

What is something dark but honestly not wrong?

Sado-Masochism is dark, but I don’t think it’s considered wrong or illegal.

If a person only calls gay people “gay” whenever he sees one, like “hey, gay” or “bye-bye gay,” and he never calls them by their name, is this offensive?

Ya think?

“Please keep calling me a snowflake. I like being different than the next person. Every snowflake is unique. They all come from the same place but are able to establish their own identities, free and clear of any other snowflake. Snowflakes make this world beautiful.”

-- Ed Krassenstein

When do you deeply regret that you are a Brit, not an American?

When they come over here and get their ass kicked on a battlefield, but that was years ago.

Why is it so hard for me to leave my wife of 12 years whom I’m no longer in love with and have no intimacy with?

It took me twenty-five, but, at least I loved her. I stayed because I was stupid. I hope this helps.

My husband bites me out of love during sex. It is painful and I don't like it. How can I tell him not to do so?

Squeeze his balls until he screams, then explain to him that’s what his biting feels like.

What did your cheating ex-wife do when she saw your new wife?

My ex-wife and I haven’t spoken since before the divorce in 2000, praise God.

What are the things you are proud you did not do?

Continue pointless discussions. When people choose not to listen it is pointless to continue talking. They’re arguing for the sake of argument, but all they choose to hear in rebuttal is blah, blah, blah.

“Logic clearly dictates that the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few.” 

-- Mr. Spock

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

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It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

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