Making Love

 

"Some say my love is like chalk,

I can write it on and erase it when I want.

Well, they're wrong.

I use crayons."

-- F.A. Villari

One of the blessings of being a pastor is the privilege to officiate marriage ceremonies.  For many, it is a celebration of their love for each other and vow to commit their lives to each other.  One can only hope that both "partners" are on the same page.  Sometimes you realize, much too late, that you're the only one trying to hold it all together while the other "partner" is pouring gas and lighting matches.  Bad choices haunt our lives.

I love doing marriage ceremonies, probably because my own marriage didn't work out so well.  I have the perspective of one who has been down the wrong road.  I can ask all the right questions, and my intelligence background allows me to critique the "right" answers.  I have performed several marriages and, to my knowledge, all of them are still solid.  So what's the secret?

You can have the sex of a lifetime, all the time, thinking that you're close friends and that lovemaking is da bomb, not realizing that you aren't "close" friends and the "lovemaking" was just the sex of a lifetime, all the time.  Being "close friends" requires mutual honesty along with lovemaking, and for that, well, you have to be in love, not lust.  We're back to honesty, again, or some semblance of it.  

You can have an orgasm with almost anybody, but, can you just hold a person all night long and be satisfied? If you were in love you could.  You need to get over the idea that it's all about you.  If getting your partner off makes you smile, even if you're left wanting, you might just be in love.  It really isn't a secret, but people have forgotten the basics.  Friendship, honesty, desiring their company, making them happy, and if the gods smile on you... BINGO!  We have a winner.  If the gods don't, well, you're still smiling... and that says volumes.

But, there is a lot to be said about seeing a woman's eyes roll back in her head, her body shaking, and such.  There's a lot to be said for the man that figures that was enough, especially if he's good enough to make her do that several times.  Don't expect a lot from the woman, though.  After several shaking orgasms, she's pretty much done... and that's the entire point, isn't it?

It isn't all about you.  It's about the two of you... and selflessness. It's about lovemaking, and making love.

“Essentially, giving another person your undivided attention is a measure of how much you care.”

-- Tom Rath

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and, finally, a senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Western Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony: tolerantpastor@gmail.com