Questioning Reasons, Opinions, Relationships, Equality, and Sex

“I watched a lot of YouTube videos of cute geeky girls playing '80s cover tunes on ukuleles. Technically, this wasn't part of my research, but I had a serious cute-geeky-girls-playing-ukuleles fetish that I can neither explain nor defend.”

-- Ernest Cline

What could be a reason for a girl to stop talking to someone she likes, after finding out... they like her back?

So, she wants them to like her front? No problem. She just has to tell them.

How should a girlfriend respond when a guy says, "We need to talk"?

Oh, God! Not the “need to talk” moment? He is either leaving, he wants to marry, he wants to watch you with his friend, or he’s given you an STD. Oh, God! Not an STD! The best response is, “I’m busy, can it wait?” But, that won’t cut it. The point is, he wants to talk. So, you might as well hear what he has to say.

My 28-year-old boyfriend always says he never wants to get married. What should I do?

If you want to get married, it’s time to leave.

How do I stop talking to an ex who keeps inviting me to his place?

Stop going. Tell him he can buy you a drink, or dinner, no “his place.” When he mentions “his place,” tell him that “boat sailed” when you broke up. He needs to find someone else to keep his winky wet.

How do you answer, “Why do you think I should give you this job?”

“Do you want a promotion?

I can't tolerate my ex's new relationship. What should I do?

Stop hanging around your ex. This isn’t rocket science. They’re your ex, and they’ve found something better. Why are you still there?

“All I wanted was to even the score. I never meant to kill anyone. I swear.”

-- Freida McFadden

What, in your opinion, has been the stupidest reason someone has stopped being friends with you?

She said I cheated on her. It was stupid because I didn’t. We divorced, which is what she wanted, in the first place. She could have just said this, instead of sounding stupid and immature… at 40.

Which is more important in recruitment, soft skills or hard skills?

It depends on what job you applied for.

I am lonely. My husband and I have been separated for 4 years. He won't divorce me. What do I do?

Find a good man and you can file for divorce. Take him for all he has. That will teach him for screwing with you. If he comes back on you, get a restraining order, and a female attorney. Men can be very dense. I know. He will get so much shit from the attorney, he will be glad to be rid of you.

 What objects can describe yourself?

Anything that deals with the paranormal. I’m “out there.” Aliens, sasquatch, ghosts, I study all the weird crap.

What are some wealth-building habits?

Not spending all your profits on crap, for one thing. Wealth building is all about saving, not frivolous spending. You can invest the cash back into the business, which helps build wealth. Living “richly” comes down the road, when you’ve attained business success.

Is it possible for an affair to develop into true love?

It has happened.

“I could not tell you, if I loved you the first moment I saw you, or if it was the second, third, or fourth. But I remember the first moment I looked at you walking toward me, and realized that somehow, the rest of the world seemed to vanish when I was with you.”

-- Cassandra Clare

What if a "nice guy" gets into a relationship with a pick-me girl?

So, what’s the problem? It will work, or not, just like a normal relationship.

When was the time you realized a teacher cannot always be right? 

When my son came home from high school and told me his math teacher said, "Point 9 x infinity = 1." Which, anyone with a brain knows, is bullshit.

I am so sick and tired of my wife not wanting to have sex. I want to have intercourse. What do I do?

Divorce her, or tell her you will have to find someone who will.

What do I do when a girl loses interest in me, but I still want her?

What will be will be. It is what it is. Yadda, yadda, yadda. What you want has nothing to do with what she wants.

What do I call my husband’s sister?

If not by her given name, see if she likes “Sis” then.

What do you call a woman who only thinks of herself?

I would call her, “selfish.” This is the same name I would call a man who thinks only for himself, and no one else.

“Self-absorption in all its forms kills empathy, let alone compassion. When we focus on ourselves, our world contracts as our problems and preoccupations loom large. But when we focus on others, our world expands. Our own problems drift to the periphery of the mind and so seem smaller, and we increase our capacity for connection - or compassionate action.”

-- Daniel Goleman 

My boyfriend doesn’t want to be equal. He wants to be dominant. What should I do?

Find another boyfriend who wants what you want.

Is Kamala as dumb as she seems to be?

I’m not voting for her. Nuff said.

What is the term for women who date other women?

Lesbians.

My husband had an affair and is still with her, but doesn't know what he wants. What should I do?

Divorce. This will not be the last hurrah. 

What do you call a girl who hangs out with boys only?

Needy.

My husband is constantly slapping my ass or grabbing my boobs. Some say I should be thankful but I feel like a piece of meat. How do I deal with this?

He is treating you like a piece of meat. Tell him to stop.

"Sometimes what our husbands mean for good – we can take in a whole different way. Especially, when we are not feeling very emotionally/spiritually connected. I believe that you may be able to learn to hear your husband differently. His attempts may feel a bit uncouth to you – but he is trying to show you that he desires you and wants you and he is trying to flirt with you – many wives would LOVE LOVE LOVE to have their husbands show desire for them like that."

-- Peacefulwife

Why does my wife always want to have sex hard?

Don’t ask stupid questions. Give it to her, the way she wants it.

What is the best way to get your wife of 35 years interested in sex with you again?

If you can perform, she might be willing. There are other sexual “acts” that she might be interested in. As we get older “innovation” can be the father of success. I think I just made that up. Good for me! 

Why do I want to be spanked by my wife? I feel the need to "submit" to her.

You have answered your question. You feel submissive to her. Ask her for the spanking.

Do you know anyone who is too sophisticated & worldly-wise for their own good, to the point that they are counterproductive? Is it possible to be so sophisticated, erudite, and street-smart, that you wear yourself out from the heavy weight of cynicism?

The military veterans I hang with would wrinkle their noses at this. I think it is possible. We like to think, we are sophisticated, worldly-wise, erudite, and street-smart, but not to the point of being pompous. We take what we are with a dose of humility, and cynicism, but not to the point of weighing us down. At 70 years old, I had to chuckle at this question.

What is the best comeback to, "You're a bit of an idiot."?

“That’s odd. I thought I was more of an idiot than you.”

Why are religious people so stupid? Do they need to go into an isulum?

No one, in their right mind, is stupid. Ignorant, perhaps, but not stupid. Since neither side has any proof, backing their claim, both sides suffer from the possibility of ignorance. What the hell is an "isulum"?

“Anyone who thinks sitting in church can make you a Christian must also think that sitting in a garage can make you a car.”

-- Garrison Keillor

Why do I want to see my wife have sex with others?

You are one kinky dude. I like that.

Why are black people so pathetically weak?

Pathetically weak? I would love to watch you throw a punch at a person of “black” color. You get the first punch, and I make a lot of money.

How do I deal with my wife's affair partner?

Divorce her. Let him deal with her.

How often should a husband spank his wife?

As many times as she lets him. Allowing someone to spank you, can be seen as very erotic to many people. A wife may have her husband do it daily, or vice versa.

Is true kindness a rare quality in today's society?

Yes. Even among the religious.

Why is education not important for success?

"Success" is striving for true happiness, always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. It is a choice one must make for their life. Education is a plus, but many people feel "successful" for just being alive.

“Success is not how high you have climbed, but how you make a positive difference to the world.”

-- Roy T. Bennett

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com