Questioning Divorce, Suffering, Feelings, Boredom, Meanings, and Sex

 

“His eyes widened just a bit, his lips flexed. I realized he was trying not to laugh. I hate it when people find my threats amusing.”

-- Laurell K. Hamilton

I told my controlling husband I’m leaving him, and he laughed and said, “If you try that you’ll see your mother again”. What should I do?

Buy your mother a cake, and brace yourself.

How stupid am I if you're stupid?

You’re pretty stupid if you are comparing to me. But, then, I prefer the term “ignorant” to the term “stupid.” Nobody is stupid, unless they want to be. How about you?

How much better would the world be if everyone was as intelligent as me?

Not much better than it is. Let’s try picking someone else.

What's your biggest obsession? How do you get rid of a bad obsession?

I can’t say her name, and I can’t get rid of her. I am a weak pussy. What part of “obsession” don’t you understand?

When is somebody going to come up with an invention that fixes a human beings huge mistakes?

What fun will that be?

Do you think calling others stupid makes you smart or more successful?

Calling people names deminishes the name caller. It certainly doesn’t make them more smart or successful, except in the eyes of other deminished people. Helping the ignorant, however, is a selfless act that can warm your heart. They should try that.

“You are not entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to your informed opinion. No one is entitled to be ignorant.”

-- Harlan Ellison

Why are some people destined to suffer such horrific childhoods?

Learning. You have to learn sometime.

Do you learn from your mistakes or do you blame others?

This life is a classroom. We constantly learn as we go. To blame others is counterproductive. Learn from other people’s mistakes, and show them where they went wrong. Blaming simply shows how small you can be. Help them make it right.

Is there anything worse than human being in this world?

Being shit on the bottom of someone’s boot. Makes being human sound pretty good. 

Why are you happy when someone fails?

It gives me a chance to show them where they might have gone wrong. Failing is why we’re here, to learn. When you learn, everybody benefits.

How clever and smart am I if you're stupid? How stupid am I if you're clever and smart?

Who determines if you are any different? You could be just like me.

Does not knowing things make you stupid?

It make you ignorant, not stupid. That is, unless you want to be stupid. Not a title you need to work for. All of us, however. are ignorant. We are here to learn, and we will learn until we are worn out and die. If we are rebnorn, we will continue learning. Life is learning.

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”

-- Mahatma Gandhi

Using three words, how do you feel about me?

Stranger, unknown, and a mystery.

Why do Quora users love to make themselves look like complete know it all jackasses by acting like they know everything about random people on the internet they never met rather than save themselves the embarrassment and admit they don’t know shit?

Because they are complete know it all jackasses acting like they know everything about random people on the internet they never met, and they don’t know shit. It happens most of the time. The best thing you can do is ignore them.

Could a [this site] user's answer use a red herring fallacy to disguise the essential facts concerning the answered question?

The Democrats do it all the time. It is who they are.

Why doesn't [this site] remove obviously stupid questions designed to make Americans look stupid?

Because Quora wants the average person to look stupid. I don’t buy into this by not answering questions that make people look stupid. If I do, it is pretty obvious that I am making a statement about the question.

How do successful people handle failure?

They use it as a learning tool.

I am 57. What do I need to take to get pregnant?

Adoption. You are too old. The chances of having a normal, viable fetus is dangerous for the child and you. You will be saddled, at your age, with a child with multiple problems if things go terribly wrong. Talk to your doctor about the risks. I have added a good article to read:

https://www.webmd.com/baby/pregnancy-after-35

How do you typically cope with boredom?

I find something to do. Being retired, it is a daily occurance. Being on this site helps kill the boredom. But, finding chores, that have been put on the sidelines, always helps fill the time.

When is the best time to not trust someone?

When they start tallking about politics. Most people only hear what they want.

My husband asked me to spank him what should I do?

Make him beg. He wants to be “submissive” to you. He will do so much more than let you spank him. You are in charge of the nightime activities. Make it your fun, as well. Tell him what you want, and see what he says. It can be so liberating, for both of you.

What is the outcome when individuals stop being polite and start being real?

Honesty.

My mother told me, "I stopped working for 19 years to dedicate my time and life on you. Your time here on Earth will determine if that sacrifice was worthy." What does this mean?

She has challenged you, as is a mother’s right. What are you doing good that will make her sacrifice worthy? Are you acting selflessly towards aothers? Are you working hard to make a good life for yourself and a significant other? Regardless of your mother’s challenge, what you do with your time here on Earth will definitely determine if your sacrifice is worthy.

How can I make my girlfriend feel secure and trust me after lying to her?

You lied to her? Good luck. Now she can never believe another thing you say.

“I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you.”

-- Friedrich Nietzsche

 What is the meaning of existence, worth, purpose, or life for each person?\

It depends on each person, their history, background, and values.

What do you do when you feel lost in life?

Find a map. You pick a point and travel there. You pick another point and you travel there, and so on. You take life in increments until you find your way. Taking life as a whole can be so confusing. Take small steps until you feel confident.

Is being rational a determining factor in being right or wrong?

It is a factor, but you can still be wrong by being rational. Being rational must be right.

How can a person turn their fate into a positive outcome?

“Fate” is the conclusion of your choices and decisions in life. If you don’t like your fate, you can change your choices and decisions. The good thing about life is that it is full of “acts” that make up your “dramatic offering” to those that care. As such, you can rewrite the play, most of the time, to have a better outcome by have better choices and decisions. It is the one good thing of having your life. It is yours, and you can do much to muck it up, or make it better.

What does the word ‘religion’ mean to you?

A “basis” for personal faith. As you grow, so does your “faith” concerning life.

How would your friends describe you? Is there anything about you that people may not know?

Being in Air Force Intelligence, there is a pletora of things noone knows. However, those who know me can describe me as friendly, personable, selfless, and private. I try to sidestep drama when it rears it’s ugly head.

"All the business of war, and indeed all the business of life, is to endeavour to find out what you don't know from what you do."

-- Duke of Wellington

Is sex better with a cute girl or a hot girl?

And the difference is? If she is cute to me, she is hot. I would go for a cute girl before I waste my time and a “hoit” girl that expects more that you’re willing to give.

Why do people say there is only bad people on this planet when there are plenty of good people on this planet?

Ignorance. Don’t buy into it.

Why should men have women if they need women's permission to have sex all the time?

A “relationship” is not based solely on sexual intercourse. If you have that priority in your mind, good luck. One of you needs to be submissive.

How can I increase my boyfriend’s desire to make love?

A daily dose of breath-catching oral sex should do it. Or, he’s asleep at the wheel.

Can you explain the meaning of the phrase "in a nutshell" using the example "In a nutshell, you don't have to worry"?

For all purposes, it means “basically.” Using the example given: “Basically, you don’t need to worry.”

How can I get sex with many women without being in relationships with any of them?

Call girls. How much money do you have?

“Call a jack a jack. Call a spade a spade. But always call a whore a lady.”

-- Patrick Rothfuss

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com