Questioning Good, Ignore, Atheists, Sex, Opinions, and Love

 

“No matter how much you dress up. If your heart is wicked, you will never look good.”

-- Gift Gugu Mona

What does it mean when someone says, “You always look good.”?

“…compared to these other slobs.” It is a compliment, and you should say, “Thank you.”

How would you describe life from your point of view?

Excellent! Every morning, I wake up. Any day on this side of the dirt is a great day! If you don’t think it is, you aren’t trying hard enough. I strive to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of my circumstances. I chose to do this in my life.

Why does no one ask me a question in over 1 million years?

You’re over a million years old? 

Someone ignores you because you are the most important thing to him. If someone ignores you, he is asking you to leave his life. Who do you agree with?

Leave his life. Nobody ignores you if you are the most important person to them. That is just being stupid.

How do I forgive myself after making a mistake? I have done my best to forget and people will not let me forget my mistake. What should I do?

This is a case of basic immaturity on their part. Tell them you’re sorry for the mistake, and it’s time for everybody to put their "adult pants on" and let it go. There are more important things to pay attention to in life than paying so much attention to a past mistake.

What was your biggest problem when you were the age of 20?

I was being drafted, out of college, into the military, to fight in Vietnam. I joined the Air Force.  

“…statistics experts later proved that the first [1969 nationally televised Vietnam Draft] lottery had a bias in favor of January and February birthdays, whose pellets had been put in the drum first and ended up at the bottom.”

-- Lawrence M. Baskir

What if you ignored something?

Like a snake? It will bite me in the ass, like most things I ignore. I have learned to stop and smell the roses. I try not to ignore anything that I need to pay attention to. It takes some time out of my day, but I have learned much from my effort.

What do you do if you realize that your partner doesn't deserve your respect and love?

Be honest and tell them. After that, it’s time to find a new partner.

Why can’t I stop lying? I lie about stupid things, too. I’m scared people are going to find out. I’m so embarrassed and my family is going to be so disappointed when they find out. What do I do?

Stop and think before you open your pie hole. If you’re going to lie, then don’t talk. The problem with lying is, that the truth will always trump the lie. The truth will always come out, sooner or later. If you start telling only the truth, now, then when the lie is uncovered, you can fall back on, “I was a bit immature back then.” But, you had better be the poster girl for honesty now, or it won’t float. 

What are dumb things that only rich people do?

I’m having a problem thinking of non-dumb things they do. They do the same dumb things everybody else does, they just spend more money doing it. 

I've been told I'm good at comforting people/listening but I literally find it so boring. One of my friends came to me crying about how her grandpa died and istg I abt laughed at her (I didn't) but seeing her cry just felt pathetic Idk why?

You are critiquing yourself for all the right reasons. Comforting people can be boring, but it is a selfless exercise you’ve been told you are good at doing. The death of a loved one is the worst a person can feel. I’m not sure whether you thought she was pathetic or your response was pathetic. I’d say she was honest in her emotions. What matters is that you either need to do what you’re good at or don’t do it. If you’re full of shit, soon or later, someone will call you down for it.

What are some ways to comfort a crying person instead of saying "It's okay, don't cry"?

They probably need to “bleed” on someone. Ask them what the problem is, and prepare to sit down for a bit. Offer them a tissue or a hanky, and be a good listener.

“Whenever you feel like criticizing anyone... just remember that all the people in this world haven't had the advantages that you've had.”

-- F. Scott Fitzgerald

Why are atheists so wrong?

Why are theists so right? Neither one has any incontrovertible proof that they are right. Faith, which both sides have, is a belief in something for which there is little or no proof. The proof both are looking for will be found when they die, and not until then. So, both sides should shut their pie holes, because they sound like idiots arguing about a sound no one hears.

Is it considered rude to ask questions that may be seen as trivial or unimportant by others?

If you don’t know the answer, ask the question. What others think is not as important as you gleaning some knowledge.

Is it great to always try to piss people off?

Only if you’re an asshole. 

Why is money the answer to everything?

It isn’t, and if you think it is, you will be so disappointed when you blow money and it does not give you the answer you’re looking for. I recommend you stop listening to people who say it's an answer and start looking for some true wisdom.

Why does my partner keep asking me for money when he has his own?

They are “cheap” (selfish) when it comes to spending their cash.

Why does my boyfriend get angry when I say something bad about his ex to people?

Some people, like me, have a problem flipping a switch to turn off the love we feel for someone, especially when we have been married for 25 years. I can bad mouth her because she destroyed my life, but that doesn’t mean I don’t still love the heartless bitch.

“Because, if you could love someone, and keep loving them, without being loved back . . . then that love had to be real. It hurt too much to be anything else.”

-- Sarah Cross

Is it wrong for younger men to have sex with older women?

Not if the older woman wants it. She will teach young men things they never knew about.

I respect everyone's beliefs, except atheists. I am nice. Do you understand me?

I understand that you do not respect everyone’s beliefs. I respect everyone’s beliefs, but I don’t agree with half of them. The fact that atheists and theists continue this moronic battle that neither side can provide any incontrovertible proof for is, well, moronic.

Why are we early or late for everything? Is there any way to stop it?

Be “on time” for events. If there is no reason to be early, then be on time. Being late is simply rude.

Why doesn't it matter if an interviewee jumps jobs every few years?

It is expected by most companies. It is one reason why they come up with “carrots” to try and keep people placated. Pay and “benefits” are what keep most people happy with their company. But, some companies can offer differing benefits that many find enticing, like childcare, so they leave to work for the other company.

If you could lead by example and inspire others with your actions, what qualities would you embody as a leader?

Honesty, teamwork, timeliness, good communication skills, and the chance for the team members to show what they’re made of when problems arise.

How are you doing? What is the best love life lie?

I am fine. It is hard to top lying about having an STD.

“As much as SEX is a stress reliever, there are other benefits like: Pregnancy and STDs.”

-- Don Santo

Can anyone's opinions be changed just by talking to them?

If your argument is cogent and incontrovertible, then yes.

What do you say to a girl who is more mature than you?

It depends on what she’s into. If she’s more mature, she is probably looking for someone submissive to do for her. This could be fun if you both agree to some rules. 

What is the main difference between a wife and a girlfriend?

Legal paperwork, and somewhere about half of everything you own.

Is it okay for someone "single" to say "I don't like being single"?

If they don’t like being single, there is no rule stating that they can’t bitch about it. I can’t think of a single country, even the bad ones, that have a law on the books stating no one can honestly bitch about being single. 

Is it great to always try to piss people off on the internet?

Only if you’re an asshole. I piss folks off with honest opinions, not because it's great to do.

Is the statement "the more anger there is, the less love" true?

Pretty much. If you are angry all the time, where is there any time for love? And, if you think there is, how great can your love be if you’re angry all the time?

“Anybody can become angry - that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.”

-- Aristotle

Why doesn’t your wife love you?

My ex-wife would say it’s complicated. Nothing complicated about saying you never loved someone, finding a reason to lie, switching blame for what you do, and destroying a person’s life.

My boyfriend said that I'm his little present, what do I do?

Wear a bow.

Why do religious people always avoid discussion with atheists?

The majority of them, online, lower the bar and start cursing at you. It is, sadly, not an intelligent discussion one might have face-to-face.

What happens if you love somebody and then let them go?

If you truly love somebody, you don’t just “let them go.” Lust, yes, but not love.

Is there any solution for a boyfriend who lasts just 20 minutes in bed?

He must think this is all about him. How long he lasts has no bearing on what he can continue to do for you until you are satisfied. You need to teach him the facts of life. You also need to ensure he gets you off before he gets himself off. If he can’t deal with that, you need a better boyfriend.

I'm a 25-year-old man who thinks that other people are doodoo heads because I'm perfect. Do you understand?

I understand you think you are something that does not exist. You might want to rethink “perfect.” Oh, and "doodoo" has a hyphen in it. Just saying.

“Have no fear of perfection - you'll never reach it.”

-- Salvador Dali

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com