Questioning Adversary, Best, Perception, Love, and Sharing

“We set no special value on the possession of a virtue until we perceive that it is entirely lacking in our adversary.”

-- Friedrich Nietzsche

Why are you such an adversary?

What would you like me to be? I have a collection of different hats I can wear. “Adversary” is just one of them. Military Intelligence does this for you. It is a “perk” of the job.

What is your prediction for when AI will become conscious?

Too damned soon. The “Terminator” scenario is right around the corner.

Can we share our deepest thoughts with our spouse, why?

If you can’t share your deepest thoughts with your spouse, whom you chose to marry, because she was your deepest love and dearest friend, who are you going to share those thoughts with? Seems to me you may want to rethink your marriage.

Was this incident rude? A colleague invited me to lunch. Another colleague was also coming. At the restaurant, the 1st colleague instantly paid for them both, and left me to pay mine alone. I was appalled. I never want to dine with them ever again.

It is a bit rude, but maybe they have a “thing” going on.

Is asking someone if they believe in God too much?

As long as you’re asking and not baiting for an argument, it should be fine. But, watch out for members of the League of the Perpetually Offended. They hide amongst the atheists.

What is your advice on forgiveness?

Try this:

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

-- Mahatma Gandhi

In a situation where I have to choose between what I like and what I believe is best for me, which would be a better option?

If you have no “self-control” the choice would be what is best for you.

I crave a connection with my crush and feel frustrated about it, but I fear that he might take me for granted and break my heart. What should I do?

Your fears are warranted. If you’re not a “submissive” you might think about discussing this with your “crush.” Honesty goes a long way in a relationship.

What is the most childish thing you've done as a legal adult?

I was in the military Intelligence. Almost everything was the “most” childish thing.

Am I crazy or insane? I feel like I've played a role in my life and not my true self. I feel as if all was a lie and feel an unavoidable uncertainty in my future life.

Yeah, I’ve been there. At 70 years of age, I’ve stopped caring about it. I am who I am, for better or worse. I know I’ve played roles in my life, but, other than death, there was some certainty in my future. I discount my failed marriage, though. People have to make mistakes so they can learn from them. Crazy or insane? I’d say I’ve been a bit of both, as I walked on the razor edge of normalcy.

What is one thing you’ve always wanted to do but never done it out of fear?

Skydiving. My “common sense” keeps me alive.

What personal information is fine to share with people?

Unless you know them and trust them, your name is all I’d give them. Nowadays, anything else is subject to criminality.

“As a cell phone user in the USA, I assume the government has access to all information on my mobile device.”

-- Steven Magee

Does the world only exist as I perceive it?

The world exists as the individual sees it. What you perceive, however, is not, necessarily, the same thing that I perceive. How we process information can be different.

Does beginning "constructive criticism" in a friendly way make the listener more attentive?

It beats simply criticizing them. Brutal honesty is a poor way to elicit attention.

Are many bad people victims themselves?

For the most part, I’d say yes. They are victims of bad people, and “bad people” can be bad parenting, bad teachers, bad law enforcement, bad bosses, etc., etc.. and so on. Almost everyone is a victim to some extent, but how you deal with the victimization makes you a good person when you exit from the other side.

Is it possible to travel through time without a specific purpose?

First, we have to figure out how to travel through time. Then, we can focus on the specific purpose.

Is it illogical for you to help a person who wouldn't help you?

No. Helping anybody is a “selfless” act when you expect nothing in return. However, a truly selfless act can change another person’s outlook. That’s the strange thing about exercising “selflessness” in the world. People learn whether they want to or not.

What are some ways to deal with an older sibling?

Ignore them. They really aren’t all that, and, if they think they are, they aren’t.

“That was the trouble with older siblings. They were full of it and made everything up as they went along, just like normal people.”

-- F.C. Yee

What’s it like to only love one gender?

Less confusing? Pick one. It isn’t that difficult.

Is it stupidity to care for people?

People who other people care for would probably have issues with their caregivers being called stupid. For that matter, the people who do care for others would probably have the same issues with being called stupid, as well. Caring for people is, generally, a selfless and honorable calling. The people who answer the call tend to ignore the people referring to them as stupid.

I have 14 grandchildren and 88 great-grandchildren. What should I do?

Move to Puerto Rico, and don't tell them.

I'm 16 years old and I don't believe everyone has someone, especially me. I believe I'll never fall in love. What do I do?

As a 70-year-old fart, I know from whence I speak. You’re 16, so give it some time. You will fall in love, and someone will fall in love with you, as well. This mindset you have adopted, however, will not help the positive outcome. Be outgoing, be an extrovert, be funny, go to public functions, and, most of all, remember… you’re only 16. Finding true love is the purview of your 20s. 

Do you know anyone who has met a celebrity?

Yes.

Do older people typically take advice from younger individuals?

As a 70-year-old man, I have no problem taking advice from a younger individual if their advice is incontrovertible. Most of them don't know what that word means, but, when it comes to technology, I take advice most of the time, because I know that I’m “tech stupid,” for the most part.

“I always pass on good advice. It is the only thing to do with it. It is never of any use to oneself.”

-- Oscar Wilde

Am I wrong if I want to share my husband with my sister?

Where have you been all my life? Is it okay with your husband? (Stupid question.)

How can I be younger again?

Good luck with that. From the time we’re born, the clock continues to tick down to our demise. However, if you are lucky, you might be able to catch the train to the next great adventure, where you will be born again.

Why do nice guys sometimes finish last?

Being “nice” is no guarantee of competence.

Reader comment:  Too often “competence” means the ability to get over on people, bully people, and cheat people out of what they have.

My reply:  That isn’t competence. It is bullying and cheating. “Nice” guys don’t do that, and the truly competent don’t have to.

Why is it acceptable to question our own beliefs, but not those of others?

It is acceptable to question others. How will you learn unless you question? Questioning, however, is not demeaning the beliefs of others. Question with respect and with a sincere desire to understand and learn. Just as we question ourselves, so should we question others.

I don't like people. Don't like sharing. Is that bad?

It’s only bad for you. But, if you don’t like people, why are you sharing with us?

Why is love always not enough in a relationship?

True love is more than enough. True love has to do with partnership, friendship, honesty, forgiveness, and the desire to be joined at the hip with someone always. If you don’t feel this, and much more, then you aren’t feeling true love.

“We have to allow ourselves to be loved by the people who really love us, the people who really matter. Too much of the time, we are blinded by our own pursuits of people to love us, people that don't even matter, while all that time we waste and the people who do love us have to stand on the sidewalk and watch us beg in the streets! It's time to put an end to this. It's time for us to let ourselves be loved.”

-- C. JoyBell C.

If a girl dumps you, will she always come back if she loves you?

If she does, enjoy the sex, but look for someone else who truly cares for you.

When you’re too deep of a person to a brainless individual and all they do is call you names because they struggle like hell to understand you, is this because they're very jealous of you?

Ya think? They need to summon up some bravery and swim over to the deep end of the pool. “Name-calling” is a sign that they have no cogent argument to attack you with. Yes, they are jealous. If they are calling you names, they are very jealous.

What can a man do to fall in love again?

Stop catching yourself. Let it happen.

Why does my boyfriend say he loves me when he doesn’t seem like he cares and doesn't seem as if he even wants me to conversate with him but yet wants me in the same room?

This is a good question because everything you mentioned is evidence to the contrary. If he truly loves you, there will be nothing on earth he wouldn’t do for you. And, yet… maybe you should ask him. If he raises his hand to slap you, you'll know.

What qualities contribute to a person being understanding and less judgmental?

Good communication and mutual acceptance of peaceful beliefs would be helpful.

How should you respond if someone calls you stupid, beautiful, and funny simultaneously?

I’ve known quite a few beautiful and funny people. As a beautiful and funny person, you should slap them, in front of everyone, for calling you stupid. I can almost guarantee it won’t happen again.

Ethan Wyeth: "I hope you're thirsty."

Gideon Wyeth: "Why?"

Ethan: "Cause you're dumb and ugly, but I can do something about thirsty.”

-- Orson Scott Card

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Don't Look Back? (Updated from 1/17/2015)

 

"Those who don't know history

are destined to repeat it."

-- Edmund Burke (1729-1797)

"Those who don't know history are destined to repeat it." Truer words were probably spoken, but few ring as true today as they did when Edmund Burke spoke these in the 1700s.  Some people would say it is best to never look back.  Always move forward and don't dwell on the past.  This, too, is true, in so far as you don't misinterpret the instruction.  It doesn't say not to stay mindful of the past; it says not to dwell on it.  Like a child in a stroller, it is good for us to look back occasionally and keep certain important events clear in our memory.  But, the stroller keeps on moving forward as the child has no control over it.  So it is with life.  

"Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory."

-- Theodor Seuss Geisel (1904-1991), "Dr. Seuss"

But, we need to see the event, file it away, and then get back to paying attention to life again, because time continues to move inexorably forward.  If we dwell too much on one thing, life will pass us by.  But, if we don't clearly remember the mistakes of the past, it dooms us to the great possibility of repeating those mistakes in the future.

"Don't look back because you might fall over what is in front of you."

--Kate Williams

Making my case would be Miss Kate Williams, age seven (quote above).  I'm not sure Miss Kate was privy to the great works of Dr. Seuss.  If you look back and fall over something you probably won't look back again.  The reason you won't is that you remember the last time you did it and fell over something you didn't see.  Dwelling on the incident might cause you to fall over something too, if you can't chew gum and walk at the same time.  Better to just let it go, but, keep it close, like a memory.  You don't have to dwell on it, but you might check the road ahead first before you look back, the next time.

Hitler failed at this convoluted scenario, on the Eastern Front.  He saw what he was facing against Russia, forgetting history, and moved boldly forward without reviewing the last great army to move against Russia - the French.  Although Hitler's troops weren't decimated by Typhus, before the battle as had the French, the Germans were just as poorly supplied and, like Napoleon's forces, suffered miserably from the ravages of the brutal Russian winter.  The egos, of the two greatest armies Europe had seen since the Roman Empire, were their own undoing.

“While there are some scars that we might wish to hide because the spiritual or mental pain they represent is far greater than the physical pain caused to us at the time of injury, there are also some scars that we want to see whenever we look in the mirror. Because these scars serve as a valuable reminder of our past. My scars teach me that I am stronger than what caused them”

-- Manal Al-Sharif

Our past is etched like scars on our skin, into our minds. They are the scars we give no mind to until they are seen, then we remember, and then we can move on.  But if we pick at the scar, and worry over it, it will never truly heal.  Our scars are our proof of life, our story, and our past.  Our scars remind us of things we have done wrong... and don't wish to do wrong again.

Do we have to look back?  It is unavoidable if we wish not to repeat mistakes. But, then, we are only human... and there's our nasty little "ego" to deal with.

"Each new season grows from the leftovers from the past. That is the essence of change, and change is the basic law."

-- Hal Borland (1900-1978)

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Gifts, Danger, Fear, Avoidance, Remarks, Differences

“Tucker: "But she gave me the perfect gift."

Clara: "What?"

Tucker: "You.”

-- Cynthia Hand

What gift did you get someone who you thought already had everything they wanted?

Me.

Why did you make me think you loved me the whole 7 years we were together?

Wait… 7 whole years? Hah! Try loving a woman for 25 years and then having your heart ripped out.

Why do men want to humble beautiful women?

What? No. They do a great job of humbling me.

What do you do when an AI makes you doubt yourself and specific things on the internet make you doubt yourself when you know you’re right about something?

I am not weak-minded. So someone else making me “doubt” myself never happens. I doubt myself, rarely, and I get over it quickly. Doubt is not constructive to moving forward.

I love someone, but it’s one-sided. What should I do?

Find someone else.

Why do people manipulate history? They sometimes manipulate history in politics.

People tend to believe bullshit more than reality. If you repeat it long enough, it becomes real to the weak-minded. There are a lot of weak-minded people.

“He always says that those who control the present can rewrite the past.”

-- Anne Fortier

What is a bigger danger, individual acts of stupidity or organized labor by a central intelligence?

Individual acts of stupidity can be corrected. Organized labor by a central intelligence, not so much. We know from history that “Central Intelligence” isn’t that intelligent, and they balk at anyone who tries to correct them. I speak from experience.

Do you like sucking nipples?

Makes me pine for younger days. 

How do atheists handle people who judge others based on their religious beliefs?

According to them, they have no “religious” beliefs, so they would support those who judge others while they attack those who judge others. Atheism is a sticky wicket populated by the League of the Perpetually Offended.

Why are all Christians judgmental of people?

All Christians aren’t. And it is very judgmental to say they all are.

What made you decide atheism is true?

There is no proof to either side. Both sides have faith that they are right, but “faith” is a belief in something for which there is little or no proof. The proof, unfortunately, will come when the theists die. If they are right, there is an afterlife. For the atheist, it doesn’t matter. When they die, that’s it.

Why should I forgive them when they don't forgive me?

Try this on for size: 

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

-- Mahatma Gandhi

How do you distinguish the fear of commitment from just not being into someone enough?

If you're afraid of commitment, you’re not "into them" enough. If you were, you’d commit.

When should we never take a guy too seriously, before or after?

If you’ve chosen to never take him too seriously after, you’re not playing with a full deck. The time to make this decision is before, not after. If you haven’t known him long enough to decide, then don’t take him too seriously. This is not rocket science.

God is not used for people to fear, but for people to turn to from their fears?

God is the Father and, as such, we are encouraged to learn the lessons set before us in this life. The only “fear” is that which we create in our minds.

Do you admire people to provide inspiration and perhaps a measuring stick for yourself? Or just to be amused? Or to discourage yourself? What would you have to do to become a person you would admire?

Nope. It is just admiration. If I could do what they do, I’d have done it. For instance, I admire “free climbers” for not using any safety equipment. I think they’re stupid. I think their “life expectancy light” is flashing. But, I do admire their bravery (and lack of good sense).

How do I kill myself and make it painless?

Good luck. I’ve heard that every way, that is certain, can be painful, one way or another.

If someone asks for your help and if they really need help, do you feel responsible for helping them?

They have asked. If I ignore them, what happens from that point is on me. If I try to help them, then it remains on them. There is enough drama in my life. If I don’t have the time, I’ll give them a phone number.

“The price of greatness is responsibility.”

-- Winston Churchill

How can I avoid being asked too many questions?

Don’t answer them.

What is the meaning of life at your age?

At 70 years of age, waking up each morning, and being ecstatically happy that I have. Any day on this side of the dirt is a great day to be alive.

What thoughts might be going through a man's mind when he says "I love you" and truly means it?

He can see himself spending the rest of his life around the person.

Why are you mad all of a sudden?

I “spike” because I can’t get in front of the anger. If a guy cuts me off on the road, I will “spike” and call him an asshole. Then, I will smile and say, “God bless his little pea-picken heart. He must be late.” He's still an asshole, but I've calmed down in seconds. 

I know you can control how you react to emotions, but can you control what you’re actually feeling in the moment?

If I don’t “spike” I’m fine. If I “spike” it takes me a few seconds to regain control.

Is it pointless to question the meaning of life?

Life is different for everybody. The meaning for me won’t be the meaning for someone else. For me, the meaning of life is “learning” the lessons life sets in front of me, so I can become wise. I think “wisdom” is going to be useful going forward into the next life, and thereafter.

“Life has no meaning. Each of us has meaning and we bring it to life. It is a waste to be asking the question when you are the answer.”

-- Joseph Campbell

How do I ignore stupid remarks from my wife?

Are they really stupid, or do you just think they are? Maybe she’s trying to tell you something that you don’t want to hear. Before you go on calling her remarks stupid, how about sitting down with her and getting into a discussion? You married her, so how about showing some respect? That will throw her off.

Can someone's argument change another person's opinion?

Absolutely. If the argument is cogent and incontrovertible, the argument will fall apart in favor of good sense.

How stupid am I ready to be?

Only you can answer this.

Will I be more loved instead of hated when I die?

If people hate you they will be elated when you die. If you know that you are hated, why are you living your life like that? It is much better, now and when you pass, if you are more loved than hated. The wisdom it takes to be loved will take you farther into the next life. A kind word, affection, acknowledgment, having an open mind, not being quick to anger, and the like, will get you farther than being hated. 

Is being stupid your thing?

Not really. People might think so, but it’s just me not giving a damn what they think.

How do I bring up issues in a relationship?

I have no filter, so the issues are in your face. This seems to work. I don’t dance around things, I just bring them up for discussion. My “partner in crime” seems to enjoy the honesty and forthrightness.

“The real things haven't changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong.”

-- Laura Ingalls Wilder

What is the difference between "advice" and "tips"?

Nada.

Am I so bad if I am not in love with my wife anymore?

It is honesty. You know, the thing you should have thought about before you asked her to give up her life and go with you? Now, how are you going to screw up her life? Next time, live together for a while. Get to know each other; the negatives and the positives. My marriage went south 23 years ago. I’ve been living with my girlfriend for 20 years. We aren’t married, we can’t leave anytime, and things are marvelous.

What if I say “immediately”?

What if I say, “now”? 

My wife pushed me. Can I beat her?

She pushed you? Are you a pussy? If you beat her will you hurt her? Did her pushing you hurt you? If you beat her can she beat you back? How about talking to each other about it? If it comes down to beating her, you are better served to divorce her and let her find someone else.

What is a synonym for the word "person"?

Human.

Can I get advice about something?

Probably. 

“I don't care if you're black, white, straight, bisexual, gay, lesbian, short, tall, fat, skinny, rich or poor. If you're nice to me, I'll be nice to you. Simple as that.”

― Robert Michaels MD

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Professors, Insight, Marriage, Confidence, Intelligence, and Atheism

 

“The first professor you meet in life is your mother; the second is hardship, and the last is death.”

-- Matshona Dhliwayo

My professor gave me a B instead of an A. But I know I deserve an A since I did A-level work. Should he be fired for this unethical behavior?

It would help to ask the professor why he gave you the grade. There is a reason, there is always a reason, though you might think you know more than they do.

Is the best way to win an argument by avoiding it?

That’s called “avoiding” not winning.

If a narcissist can learn, why can't they learn the way they think is not like everyone else?

That’s not the way they want to learn. They think they are all that. But, in reality, they aren’t.

Why do bullies feel happy by abusing others?

Because they can. If someone were to beat the crap out of them, for being a bully, they might stop. Although, they might not. It would be fun to watch them get the crap knocked out of them, though.

What are some tips for effective communication in a relationship?

Honesty. You’re in a relationship. If you aren’t honest, why are you there? Sex is not an answer. 

How can I come to terms with the fact that I made a string of irrational decisions three years ago when I was sometimes high by abusing stimulant medications, and these decisions ultimately led to more suffering and misfortune in my life?

Ta-Da! Sounds like you’ve come to terms with the irrational decisions you made. You were high, and it led to more suffering and misfortune. The best thing you can do is mentor other “users” about their suffering and misfortune. You’ve been there.

“What is a teacher? I'll tell you: it isn't someone who teaches something, but someone who inspires the student to give her best in order to discover what she already knows.”

-- Paulo Coelho

How can I look at myself from the outside to gain insight?

Try a mirror. If that fails, try asking people you know for their honest opinions.

Why are corporations of billionaires and employers so stupidly greedy that think workers should be working for peanuts and be thankful they have a job?

Because the workers are working for peanuts and are thankful they have a job. It makes sense.

What is the most destructive habit you have?

I have no filter. This means I say what I think, regardless of whether you want to know. Those who hang around me, have come to know this side of me. They appreciate the brutal candor because it is honest. But, it has the downside of not everybody appreciating the honesty, in particular, members of the League of the Perpetually Offended.

How do you understand how your plan works?

If you don’t understand your plan, then it’s a crappy plan. Back to the drawing board. 

How do I show love to others when nobody is showing love to me?

Do you need to be loved, to show love? How selfish of you. Love is a “selfless” act, unlike sex. Showing love to people who aren’t showing you love is a way of telling them that you don’t care about their selfishness, you love them anyway. I run into many assholes in my life, and I treat them with respect and love. It tends to piss them off, which is the entire point. They learn that being an asshole carries no weight with me.

Reader comment:  Selfish and selfless are two sides of the same coin. So why make an artificial distinction between sex being selfish and love being selfless? Sex can be selfless (which makes it beautiful and transcendental) unless you’re an asshole and just using someone for your own pleasure. Giving and receiving pleasure and focusing on making love and creating a connection, all of these things make sex human and not just animalistic. But anyway, this was not the point of the original question. I don’t agree with this answer the point of showing love is to piss someone off.

My reply:  Then, why didn't you give your answer, instead of busting my balls? 

What do you do when your morals conflict with your patriotism?

Try this:

“Since the American Civil War, Seventh-day Adventists have been known as non-combatants, and have done work in hospitals or to give medical care rather than combat roles, and the church has upheld the non-combative position. Jehovah’s Witnesses and Christadelphians, refuse to participate in the armed services on the grounds that they believe they should be neutral in worldly conflicts and often cite the latter portion of Isaiah 2:4 which states, "...neither shall they learn war anymore". Other objections can stem from a deep sense of responsibility toward humanity as a whole, or from simple denial that any government possesses the moral authority to command warlike behavior from its citizens.

-- Wikipedia, “Conscientious objector”

How do shared goals and values contribute to problem-solving in a marriage?

Shared goals and values can ensure you are both working toward similar/same goals. In this case, problem-solving would be much easier since you are both online with your shared goals and values. For one thing, if you don’t have shared goals and values, why did you get married? For that matter, why did you fall in love, in the first place? Lust? 

How can artificial intelligence (AI) be effectively regulated to ensure ethical use and prevent potential biases in decision-making processes?

The United Nations might pass regulations that no country wanting to do what they want will abide by. There will be those who will do what they want, regardless of the dangers.

What does it say about someone if they don’t like responsibility, or what happened to them to make them terrified of it?

If they are at fault, I’d be surprised if they owned up to it. They probably caught hell for something they were responsible for and, now, they are uncomfortable taking responsibility for anything, lest they screw it up.

Is atheism a form of "blind" faith similar to religion, based on one's perception?

Yes. Both sides rely on blind faith. “Faith” is a belief in something for which there is little or no proof.

Reader comment: This isn't a situation with two sides. The rejection of blind faith in favor of empiracle evidence is what leads people in religions to leave. Agai, this isn't about sides and Jr sounds funny ro frame it as such. It's like which side of a frog is greenest? (The outside). Which side of religion is evidence-based? (The outside).

My reply: Your comment is full of spelling errors.

Why was I mature at 9 years old? (Like I felt stressed, anxious, understanding older people, etc., etc., etc. Nowadays When I see kids at the age of 9-10 they seem like they are still toddlers. Is that how 9-year-olds are supposed to be?

No, but it is a sign of the times. I’m 70 years old. Back in the day, parents paid more attention to parenting, Now, they pay more attention to making money so they can relax. If you pay any attention to the news, “students” at universities are balking at learning and are more interested in being indoctrinated.

How do you enumerate the various types of arguments?

Mention them all, one by one.

“For what purpose could the enumeration of particular powers be inserted, if these and all others were meant to be included in the preceding general power?”

-- James Madison

I attempted to answer a question in my first lecture as a law student. I got it wrong and got laughed at. My confidence is shaken. How do I recover?

Mistakes and failure are the best way we learn. That you failed is not as important as what you do with the failure. That your confidence was shaken is a sign that you need to learn.

If you had the power, what would you want to do so badly?

Her name has slipped my mind.

If critical thinking is so important, why is uncritical thinking so common? Why are many people including highly educated and intelligent people observed to be uncritical?

Not everybody knows what “critical thinking” is, and, if they did, the effort would be cause to balk. As for the “highly educated and intelligent” people, they have no reason to “critically think” about what they assume to be right. I mean, they are “highly educated and intelligent” people, right?

Who are you a burden to?

Nobody. Maybe the owner of the cigar shop. Maybe.

Would you say that you are the type of person who does not mind being given constructive criticism, or do you dislike it?

“Constructive” criticism, I’m fine with it. I listen to it and correct what I think needs correcting. It is the person who doesn’t have the balls to put forth an opinion, but, instead, will bust my balls because I had the temerity to put my opinion out there that chaps my ass.

What is love without sex? Is this possible?

Yes, but it’s not much fun.

"Love is not based on sex. Love is based on respect, trust, and honesty."

-- Unknown

Isn't intelligence overrated? Why is it that one can still struggle to make money even though they are intelligent?

Intelligence is not the same as wisdom. For instance, you can be very intelligent and not have a lick of social grace (knowing when to shut your pie hole).

If you could have access to a different boss without having to leave the company, what would you do?

I’d have access to a different boss. Is this another trick question?

How do you define success and what motivates you in life? Why should someone consider hiring you?

Success is being truly happy always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. It is a choice we should all make for our lives. People who have hired me have hired a person who is always happy, works hard, has no filter, and has good ethical behavior.

What is some life advice you wish someone would have given you?

Mistakes and failure are the best way we learn.

Where will the truth come from now if not from journalists?

The truth, as they know it, will come from smart people who care about good ethical behavior, certainly not from most journalists.

What are some tips for setting clear goals with clear rationale in a planning process?

Clear communication.

“Give a lot of information clearly and in a few words by being brief but comprehensive.”

-- Oxford Languages

Is atheism considered to be as arrogant as religion, or is it seen as even more arrogant?

Arrogant is arrogant, there is no “worse than” arrogant. Where religion is concerned, both sides, atheists and theists, have no incontrovertible evidence to back up their beliefs. Both can be just as arrogant as the other, yet neither has any evidence to back up their belief in their faith. Faith is a belief in something for which there is little or no proof.

How many types of arguments are there?

Four. Good and bad, true and false.

How can you tell if someone truly loves you and is willing to fight for your relationship?

The question answers itself. I’ll know that someone truly loves me when they are willing to fight for our relationship. But, what does the relationship truly mean to them, if I’m looking elsewhere? I fought this for about 20 years and finally lost the battle.

Do you know that respect gives respect?

Yep. It is supposed to, anyway.

Since love does cost a thing, could you love a guy without him spending money on you?

Back in the day, you could pick a bouquet and the girl would love the effort you put into it. Love was an emotion two people felt for each other. It was enough that the man worked his ass off to make a home for his love. Nowadays, it seems to be all about what is spent on dates and gifts. Times have changed, and not in a good way. Love has become a commercial enterprise.

What are some ways that politicians handle old age?

Bribery and graft. 

“A silver-tongued charlatan and a half-wit society are made for each other! When these two come together in an election, a great disaster happens: Charlatan comes to power!”

-- Mehmet Murat ildan

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Revisiting "Why Do I Keep Doing This?" (Updated from 1/16/2015)

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."

-- Matthew 7:1-2

While transcribing a verse from my Bible, today, I was reminded of one of the reasons I continue doing what I do, on this blog, week after week.  I cherish this Bible as much as I cherish the positive e-mails, comments, gratitude for renewed faith, and so much more which I have been graced with, since I started this blog, 10 years ago.

When I wrote the previous post, "Why Do I Keep Doing This?", I completely forgot to include any mention of my Bible.  Many of you might ask what is so special about mentioning it, as reading the Bible drives many to search for a special "calling"... out on the fairway, heading for the 19th hole.  

I'm not a big advocate of Holy Scripture, as many of you who read my blog already know. I have issues with so many aspects of it.  But, it remains the only book of faith Christians have, even with all the questions concerning its origin, contradictions, the gospels not included, and the message it so desperately tries to impart.  All are still valid, if they are interpreted correctly.  

So, what makes my Bible so special?  A pink piece of paper, and a receipt, I found inside of it.  Let me explain.

As I began posting an article to the blog, I found myself in need of a Bible for reference.  I wasn't looking for anything expensive, I just wanted a functional, readable volume.  I always seem to be accosted by Christians who spit chapter and verse at me like they know what they're talking about, and I needed something I could justify, or not, their quotes against.  I also found myself needing a biblical quote in the article I was writing.  

I'm very reluctant to use biblical quotes.  I hate when people throw biblical quotes at me.  But, I'm not using it as some shield to hold back heathen words, nor do I pound the Bible as I try to force-feed a faith that I preach but do not follow.  I quote biblical verses because the message is sound, and valid, and helps to explain a point.  When not in grave contradiction to itself, it can be a convincing tool.

Anyway, I'm scanning through the shelves full of Bibles and Qur'ans, at the local Barnes & Noble, when my eyes lock on to this rich-looking volume that is screaming at me to pluck it out.  From the looks of this tome, and having already priced editions less appealing to the eye, I just knew this one was going to be more than I wanted to spend.  I pulled it from the shelf, anyway.

I love the feel of books. It is one reason I have hesitated to buy a handheld computer with books loaded for the reading.  There's just something about turning a page that I refuse to give up.  I even have a hard copy thesaurus and dictionary at home, along with an Essential Writer's Companion.  

This Bible felt good in my hands.  I saw the simple gold letters, impressed on the cover, and considered shelling out the big bucks.  With no price sticker on the front or back cover, I opened it up to see if they had put it inside, which would be unusual for this bookstore.  As I opened it, a small, pink sheet of paper, along with a receipt, fell to the floor.  I bent over to pick them up and turned the sheet over in my hand as I stood.  I read the typed note, and felt my face flush, as I read the short, simple note:

I stood there rereading the note for several minutes, long enough to finally have to wipe tears off my face before I went to the checkout counter.  I showed the cashier the book and receipt and asked if this was truly a gift.  She confirmed that it was, indeed, and she asked me if I had been looking for a Bible.  I nodded and confirmed that I had.  As I paid the price, she commented that it looked as if someone knew I was coming.  She placed it in a bag and I thanked her.  She just smiled.

I keep both the note and receipt taped inside the Bible as a reminder of why I continue doing what I do with my blog. 

At times, God does truly work in mysterious ways.  Had an angel been sent to whisper in my ear the need I had for a Bible? If I were steered to the bookstore, I certainly got the message.  I think my believing all of this is what faith would seem to be all about.  

If the "angel" that wrote this message, and the "angel" that steered me to the Bible, are reading this post, they both know that the message was received.  For those of you questioning your faith, please continue to do so.  It is through our questioning that we ultimately find answers.  They may not be the answers we want, but they may be the ones we need.  

Do not ever lose your heart... or your faith.  There are times when it is all we have.

“The function of prayer is not to influence God, but rather to change the nature of the one who prays.”

-- Soren Kierkegaard

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com