Questioning Texting, Smarts, Gloom, Prayers, and Women

 

“I'm afraid I don't know WTF. I only discovered LOL from Joyce last week. I'm going to assume that it doesn't refer to the Warsaw Transit Facility, as that was shut down in 1981 when the Russians came sniffing.”

-- Richard Osman

Why don't you text back?

I hate texting. My chubbies miss the correct letters and my eyes don’t focus on letters smaller than I can read.

Why is life always taking happiness away from me?

The “why” of our life is all about the choices and decisions we make for ourselves. Have you been making the right choices and decisions? Choosing to strive for true happiness, always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances, mitigates anything removing happiness from your grasp. You might have to make better choices, or change some poor decisions, though.

Why is my "thing" still growing at 24?

Late bloomer. I never get a break.

Is it possible to be happy without any problems or challenges in our life? Why or why not?

Yes, but if you’re really understanding of happiness, you can also be truly happy dealing with the problems and challenges life gives you the opportunities to learn from. They are, after all, just lessons.

Why is sex so cool and fun?

Because it’s sex.

“I don't know the question, but sex is definitely the answer.”

-- Woody Allen

Why is it important to learn from our past? How can our past shape our future?

You shape your future by learning from your past. Ha! Both questions with one answer.

Why is there so much cruelty towards me?

Did you make yourself a willing target? Personally, I’d be kicking some serious ass, or finding better people to hang around with, unless you bring this shit upon yourself, which is counterproductive.

Who said, "The older you get, the smarter you become"?

Someone that got smarter as they got older. This hold for most people to differing degrees.

How do you think about “some things you only can require yourself to do to be a quality person but not expecting it from the others so that you won’t be sad if someone did something bad to you.”?

Expecting anything from anyone but yourself is opening up yourself to disappointment. I require myself, however, to hold to my personal code of good moral ethics. Ask anyone what they’ve chosen as their “personal code of good moral ethics” and they’ll look at you cross-eyed.

Who is your role model in the Bible, and why?

Mary Magdalene. Peter had no use for her and, for me, that is reason enough to like her. 

“Everyone who is fully trained will be like their teacher.”

-- Luke 6:40

How do you deal with gloom?

Gloom is drama, and I don’t allow drama, which I don’t want, into my life. The drama I do allow in is the drama I can turn into “non-drama.”

What is the best decision about my partner who doesn’t accept her mistakes, is not willing to learn, and always uses my weakness against me?

She wants to be dominant over a submissive little bitch. What’s your thought?

Why and how does limiting (curbing) one’s desires increase the likelihood of attaining happiness?

Attaining happiness is a simple choice to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. Limiting or curbing desires have no place in the choice you make. If you aren’t truly happy before you limit, curb, or desire, don’t expect to be happy very long afterward. True happiness requires nothing but a choice, to be or not to be. 

What are some sentences that will help me achieve my goal?

I am not a quitter. 

What should I do if my spouse is more intelligent than me?

Be smarter. If they are intelligent and you are smart, you will make a great team. However, if they are both intelligent and smart, they are a rarity, and unless you’re better than they are in bed…

“If a man, who says he loves you, won’t tell you the details of a private conversation between him and another woman you can be sure he is not protecting your heart. He is protecting himself and the women he has feelings for. Wise women simply see things as they are, not as their low self-esteem allows.”

-- Shannon L. Alder

What is the saying “God answers all prayers” referring to?

Uh… praying?

What does "you are doing your own thing" mean in a relationship?

You aren’t including your partner in your activities. Not a great thing to do in a relationship. Better you find some things you have in common that you can do together. Take some time for yourself, but also give some time to your significant other. It is called “give and take” in a good relationship.

How can I tell my spouse that it’s over? I don't feel anything for him anymore and I want out.

Hand him divorce papers. It is over. There is nothing to discuss since you feel nothing. If you want a divorce, file for it. Do not wait 25 years to destroy his life.

Who is the best example of a person of great humility and supreme confidence?

Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama.

What is the difference between "unravel" and "solve"?

Unravel the puzzle by turning all the puzzle pieces over so you can see them, only then can you go about solving it. If you try while they’re upside down, you will have it unraveled and connected, but you still won’t be able to see the final solution.

The hardest mysteries to solve are the ones you come to near the end because there isn't enough evidence, not enough to unravel unless somehow you can go all the way back to the beginning - rewind and replay everything.

-- James Patterson

What are some ways to deal with loneliness as a single child or an only child?

I learned to entertain myself. Also, I kept in my mind that I don’t get picked on or teased, I get a room to myself, and I get all the gifts at Christmas. Sucks to be the only child.

What advice would you give to a sensible and humble person who feels insecure and sad in front of stronger arrogant and overbearing people? How can a different character impose itself and be able to feel good with everyone, especially his opposites?

Yep! Don’t give a shit about them. There is nothing sensible about feeling “insecure and sad” in front of “stronger, arrogant, and overbearing” assholes. My advice, not knowing the situation, is to not put yourself in their orbit. Find some people who are not everything they are. A “sensible and humble person” should find it pretty easy to find other sensible and humble people to interact with. If these other people ask why you aren’t hanging around anymore, tell them the truth, that they are stronger, arrogant, and overbearing, and you prefer to be around people who aren’t.

Women always need people for repair work. am I right?

Not if the woman is self-reliant. Women are just as capable as men, and both have their strengths.

What are the benefits and drawbacks of wanting something?

The benefit is to have something, not wanting to have it. The drawback is wanting something and not being able to have it. Thus was my marriage. I was getting beat up coming and going.

If you found money and a note, what would you do?

My ethical code of conduct would demand that I put the word out to anyone that knows specifically what the note says, and how much money there is.

"The greatest cause of human financial struggle is the fear of losing money."

-- Robert Kiyosaki

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We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and, finally, a senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Western Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

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