Questioning Energy, Choice, Learning, and Ego

 

“The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions, the work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education, physical appearance, special abilities, relationships, person and family history, belief systems, and often nationalistic, racial, religious, and other collective identifications. None of these is you.”

-- Eckhart Tolle

I know what I have to do but can’t find the energy to do it?

Procrastination.

What can you say is your greatest failure, and can you give an honest reason for the failure?

My 25-year marriage to a woman who never loved me. I spent 23 years in the military, and if your significant other isn’t okay with that it can cause a significant rift. The fact that she tried hard to make the marriage fail, ran contrary to me trying hard to make the marriage work. We were getting nowhere. When I retired, things went from bad to so much worse. She knew she had half of my military retirement, so, game over.

For over 20 years, those who knew us would tell me the marriage was over before it began. I was too hard-headed to admit it, and this was another problem - my own hard-headed denial.

I’m still confused at how a woman who doesn’t love someone can use them for over 20 years and have children with them. Women are from Venus. Needless to say, for over 20 years I have sworn off marriage and never been happier.

Do we choose what we become since we only do the best in our given situation?

Unless you let someone else live your life for you, yes, your life is your choice. If you find you aren’t doing your best at what you chose to do, remember, it was your choice. Own it.

“But until a person can say deeply and honestly, "I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday," that person cannot say, "I choose otherwise.”

-- Stephen R. Covey

Are self-development and re-evaluation necessary to achieve success?

Yes! Those, and so much more if “business” success, or “life” success (happiness), is to be sustainable.

How do you make a possibly tedious task interesting?

I don’t take a task unless I’m interested in it. If my boss assigns me a task, and I want to keep my job, I’m interested in it. Hey, pretty simple, this. If you’re doing a job you love, and you should be, then, if the task is tedious it should also be interesting. If everything doesn’t follow, you might rethink your job choice.

Is it really more difficult to learn new things as we age or do we just become undisciplined?

Actually, approaching 70, I find it easier to learn new things, primarily because I want to. As I got older my discipline became much better. I wish I’d had this discipline in school.

"Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young."

-- Henry Ford

As a highly successful person, what is your most valuable piece of life advice?

Before you become a highly “successful” person, learn how to be happy always and in all things, even failure. If you can do this, your “success” will be sustainable, even in failure.

What is a cause that you’ll always passionately support?

Children’s hospitals.

What’s the best way to stand out in the world?

Unless you’re fixated on becoming a target, why would you want to? Ego? Not a great reason. Better to be the best you can be and strive to be happy always.

“Midlife is the time to let go of an overdominant ego and to contemplate the deeper significance of human existence.”

-- Carl Gustav Jung

Where should you start when you want and need to do something with your life but do not know where to start at?

My mom would tell you to start between the “a” and the “t” because “at” doesn’t belong at the end of a sentence. As for me, I say you should start with what interests you. Your life’s path is going to change several times, so embrace this face and try to have fun and be happy always in your endeavors.

What are the reflections on developing habits?

They are “developing” which means you have a choice to accept them or not. If they’re good, like treating women with respect, then accept them. If they’re bad, then let them go. Habits are nothing more than choice, conscious or subconscious, but still, just a choice we make. Make good ones.

What advice would you give to a 34-year-old who's looking to reinvent themselves? Is 34 too late for me to reinvent myself and love a better life?

Hell no! It is never too late to learn and to reach for that gold ring, especially not at 34. I reinvented myself in college, in the military, in civilian life, twice, and in retirement. Go for it!

“Reinvent yourself over and over and over and over and over until you find home. There is no timeline for the soul.”

-- Malebo Sephodi

How true have you found this to be in your own particular endeavors that, like the researcher, Carl Johnson has stated, “As long as you keep moving, failures can become turning points”?

Absolutely! Failure is nothing more than an opportunity to learn. Critique why you failed, fix it, try again until you get it right, and then press on to the next task. Failure is a turning point until you let it defeat you and you give up. Keep at it and you will always move forward.

At which point does age matter when it comes to succeeding or starting a career? I just failed university at 25 (though I gave my all) and it feels as if I am getting old and need to have achievements already.

Approaching 70, I thought about starting a new job. I decided against it. My girlfriend, however, found a position at a “big box” store in the “quick checkout” and just loves it. She has been touted as one of the best employees they have and has accepted a full-time position, She is, also, approaching 70. When does age matter? When you decide it does. Until then, give them hell!

What is something that held you back, and how did you overcome it?

A lack of focus. I had the I.Q., I just had no idea how to utilize it. I joined the military and found focus and purpose. When I retired from active duty, I brought both with me into the civilian workforce and was so much better for the experience.

“Our regrets, our fears, they hold us back. We have to let them go so we can become what we're supposed to be. We have to burn them all away.”

-- Amie Kaufman

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony:  tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questions with Simple Answers

 

"Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple."

-- Dr. Suess

Does success bring fulfillment?

If you define true happiness as fulfillment, then, yes.

Why do we always look for things we can't win?

I think that’s called dreaming.

What are three causes for a person to be successful?

Desire, knowledge, and hard work.

“Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.”

-- Albert Einstein

What advice would you give to someone in their 20s who cannot find their passion in life?

Live life to its fullest and the passion will find you.

How often does the lack of money keep you from doing the things you wish to do?

Most things I wish to do cost very little, so, not very often.

How do you find life meaningful?

I look for the meaning in everything. I constantly question and critique. And, I strive to be happy always and in all things.

“The greatest challenge in life is to be our own person and accept that being different is a blessing and not a curse. A person who knows who they are, lives a simple life by eliminating from their orbit anything that does not align with his or her overriding purpose and values. A person must be selective with their time and energy because both elements of life are limited.”

-- Kilroy J. Oldster

What does positive liberty mean?

Nobody from the ship got arrested.

Where can one start a journey of personal growth today?

Read a book. I recommend the “new” classics with meaning in today’s world: 1984, Animal Farm, Brave New World, Fahrenheit 451, Lord of the Flies, and the like. An older work would be “Utopia.”

How does a man act before he proposes?

Confused and scared shitless. You know, like a man on a mission.

"The day I will be on my knees for another girl... is the day I will tie a shoelace for our daughter."

-- Unknown

What keeps you grounded and humble even with all the success that you have?

I am not pretentious. I say what I think and call things the way they are. I suppose my personal code of moral ethics prohibits me from being anything but humble and grounded.

What is the most important thing to you? Why?

True happiness, because the alternative simply sucks.

Is risk-taking a masculine value? Why or why not?

Not anymore. Ask any woman at university, in business, or in sports. Risk-taking is not limited by gender.

"Security is mostly a superstition. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing."

-- Helen Keller

Why do successful people fail in love?

They spend all their time being successful. No one wants to be an afterthought.

If you were a supreme being that has complete knowledge of everything, what would you do?

Anything I want.

How can I forget the girl who I broke her heart because I was stupid?

Stupidity has a price. Good luck.

“…the sad part is, that I will probably end up loving you without you, for much longer than I loved you when I knew you."

-- Ranata Suzuki

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony:  tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Value, Learning, and Decisions

 

“For me, I am driven by two main philosophies: know more today about the world than I knew yesterday and lessen the suffering of others. You'd be surprised how far that gets you.”

-- Neil deGrasse Tyson

What does it mean when a Colleague says "you are worth my time"?

You have a value that giving a little time to is worth the effort.

Why is it so great to be part of a team, even when you lose?

Comradery. Many people don’t have the opportunity for the “team experience” in life, which is a shame. There is a lot to be said for working together toward a common goal, win or lose.

Is the foundation of success really hard work or grace?

Hard work. If you’re relying on “grace” for the sustainability of success, good luck. Hard work teaches you much on how to sustain what you earn.

"Luck is what you have leftover after you give 100 percent."

-- Unknown

What would life be like in the United States under an authoritarian government?

We’re going to find out if the current administration has its way. We’ll go from two parties to choose from down to one, which is no choice at all.

Can we all conclude by saying “what's well ends well”?

As long as nobody screws it up.

Many professional scholars preach that a degree is the ability to discover the truth, so as to stifle the great discoveries of amateur scholars. Can this cover up the ignorance of professional scholars who do not think hard?

Are we discussing degrees given out by today’s universities, indoctrinating their students, and stifling free and constructive thought that might just lead them to the truth the universities would prefer to stay hidden? It would seem ignorance and non-professionalism run rampant in campus classrooms as they push their narrative.

Author comment:  Although school education is the absolute force to maintain human civilization and promote the development of human civilization, the situation you said does exist. The problem is that those who are opportunistic and actually have little knowledge often climb to the throne of academic authority. They only pursue interests and not only ignore the truth, but also turn black and white upside down and trample on the truth. It is really disgusting.

My reply:  Indeed.

“All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered; the point is to discover them.”

-- Galileo

What strengths have you gained from your unique life experiences?

Self-confidence, perseverance, a moral code of ethics, and an enviable ability to ignore the perpetually offended.

What are your motivations to achieve ambition in life?

Uh… ambition? My motivation to achieve ambition is... ambition. If I have no ambition, what motivates me to succeed?

What kind of person do you want to become, and how did you come to that conclusion?

A gigolo, but, that ship sailed years ago. I have lived a full and exciting life. I leaned on my personal code of ethics and have become, to my dismay, who I am content with, mild PTSD notwithstanding. I am a simple man with simple wants, though my tastes run a bit exotic. I smile constantly, anger seldomly, and strive to be happy always.

“I am merely at the midway point in the novel of my own life. On around page 250 of a 500-page tale and, given future medical advances, maybe even 200. There’s no reason why the next 250, 300, or even 350 pages will not be far more exciting than the first half.”

-- Ray Smith

Trying hard to make it in life in the best possible way. What are your best quotes for single people striving to make life better for themselves?

Strive to be happy always and in everything you do, regardless of your circumstance. The alternative simply sucks.

Does philosophy seem more profound and reality-based after one goes past 50 years of age? Or does it seem to be more obscure and removed from what is real?

At 50, I found more respect for the philosophers - ancient Greek, Chinese, Japanese, Indian, European, and the more modern American. I saw some validity in what they thought. At 60, I began to critique what they thought and formed my own opinion about it. As I approach 70, I have been accused of having wisdom, and of being a philosopher.

I consider myself a “bathroom” philosopher, spouting quasi-wisdom I learn from the books I keep on the back of the toilet. This is why I came up with the humble title of Semi-Ancient Pie Hole Philosopher, so nobody takes me too seriously. So what I offer up is, really, Bathroom Quasi-Wisdom from a Semi-Ancient Pie Hole Philosopher.

Does success need to be vocalized?

If you talking about reaching a goal, only if you feel the need to brag about it. If you’re talking about the real success of true happiness, there should be no need to vocalize what others should feel just by being around you.

“What organized dating sites fail to understand is that the people are far more interesting in what they don't say about themselves.”

-- Nassim Nicholas Taleb

What are the consequences of making a poor decision in your early 20s?

For those who own their poor decisions, learning from the poor decision and, then, trying to turn them around would be consequences. The important thing is to own your poor decision-making and try to make better choices and decisions in the future.

What is the parent of all virtues by your own personal standards?

Honesty.

How did people who had 0 knowledge at the age of 16 become successful?

No one has zero knowledge. Even before we’re born we begin to learn. By the time you’re 16, whether you know it or not, you have knowledge. Knowing what to do with the knowledge you possess is the trick. At 16, I was a mess. My thought processes originated, for the most part, below the waist. I didn’t break out of this cleavage-oriented mindset until I majored in psychology and found out why I was. Life, from that point on, taught me the lessons that would ultimately make me strive to be happy always - true success.

“It is not that I'm so smart. But I stay with the questions much longer.”

-- Albert Einstein

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony:  tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questions on Success, Nothing, and Fear

 

“We can regard our life as a uselessly disturbing episode in the blissful repose of nothingness.”

-- Arthur Schopenhauer

What are you really aiming at?

I ask myself this every time I pick up a rifle. The best answer I’ve come up with is the broadside of a barn.

Why are people afraid to leave their job for something that really gives them fulfillment even though they are not happy with their job?

I’d say fear, but, having worked with these folks, I’m going to say responsibility. Once you have bills to pay and mouths to feed it is hard to take the risk. A paycheck in the hand beats no paycheck at all or jumping from the frying pan into the fire. They may not like the new job any better, or worse. I think most feel they can tough it out until something firm comes along that they can jump on.

What are some life-changing destinations you’ve visited? Why did it have such a strong impact on you?

Turkey, the late 1970s. There were lepers, cripples, and the truly poor, begging on street corners, in the gutters, and the filth. Ever since I’ve had no sympathy for people in this country who panhandle. They simply have no idea.

“People will rather pass by the weak, the lame, the beggars, the orphans, the tormented, the widows and take their large offerings to church, to the man of God who already has a mansion and jets , what a shallow mindedness.”

-- Sunday Adelaja

Does adversity really bring success or is it a proverb to comfort people that are going through tough times?

If you learn nothing from it, adversity is what it is. If you want to understand “why” then it becomes an opportunity to learn.

Can you reinvent yourself at 43 and love the life you create?

I “reinvented” myself at 43, when I retired from the military. Yes, and I loved the life I created. My ex-wife, not so much, hence, the “ex” wife.

What's the most important personal quality?

A good sense of ethics.

“Mrs. Hopewell had no bad qualities of her own but she was able to use other people's in such a constructive way that she never felt the lack.”

-- Flannery O'Connor

What do people desire?

True happiness.

Is luck the major factor in becoming the best, or being more tactical and technical in decisions?

Luck is stating what you want and hoping it comes true while you pick your nose. No, along with hope it takes hard work, knowledge, and “tactical and technical” decision-making.

How do I calm my mind in 30 seconds?

Meditation. Start by closing your eyes in a quiet room and concentrate on counting backward from 100. When you get to 60 your mind should be calmer. Do this enough and the quiet room won’t be required. I don’t recommend doing this while walking or driving, however.

“Meditation is a way for nourishing and blossoming the divinity within you.”

-- Amit Ray

Is there a purpose behind nothingness? Can nothing be as meaningful as everything?

“Nothing” is actually “something” since it has been recognized. If you’re in a room full of people and you’d rather be alone, then no people, nothing, becomes very meaningful to you.

What is your take on this: "the easiest way to be at the top of your field, is to choose a very small field"?

Truer words were never spoken.

Is everything a place between 2 things?

Space is something, and it encompasses all things, so, no. However, space can be seen, in a narrow view, as a “place” between two things.

“Sometimes I think I live in a gap between two worlds, one world that I have to wake up to, be adherent of the rules and live in a place that is dictated by others. A place I sometimes feel the fear of aging and dying before I have figured out what it is I am here to do. 

That other world is sweet, fresh and misty, inviting adventure into the unknown, melding ancient wisdom with new discovery; the sunlight turning into moonlight and the spell of eternal life is never broken. 

Perhaps in that gap I should repair the forgotten bridge from one side to the other, but truth be told, I don't want to. I don't want to because I don't have the energy to fix what is broken within. I am a wild, wandering nomad, I belong everywhere and nowhere all at the same time, and in that gap between worlds, I am free.”

-- Riitta Klint

So maybe my life isn't really over - I'm just in a culture that is no good for me?

You also aren’t dead. Life isn’t over until it’s over, and the fact that you’re thinking you might be in the wrong culture is pretty good evidence that you’re still with us. I’d try making better choices and decisions.

What separates us?

Distance. 

Is there a tutorial for success?

The “tutorial” has six “chapters”: Goal, Motivation, Knowledge, Hard Work, Failure, and Perseverance. There’s also a disclaimer stating that the tutorial is no guarantee of success. This is where “motivation” and perseverance” come in handy.

“An elderly person who cannot see beneath the surface should donate his brain to a mechanic workshop for an experimental quick fix tutorial with apprentices.”

-- Vincent Okay Nwachukwu

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony:  tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Motivation, Purpose, and Advice

 

“Pursue what catches your heart, not what catches your eyes.”

-- Roy T. Bennett

(With due respect to Mr. Roy T. Bennett, no. Just no.)

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Note to my readers:  People are bored, again.  My answers garnered 8990 views in the past week.  I think we all need to get a life.  What say you?

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What year was the best year of your 30s?

32, when my daughter was born.

Do you ever feel guilty for having "negative" feelings?

No. I don’t have them very often, and when I do they’re usually deserved. I recognize the feeling and let it go. No reason to dwell on it.

What motivates you in your daily life?

Beautiful weather. It motivates me to go outside and do things.

“Do what you love, love what you do, and with all your heart give yourself to it.”

-- Roy T. Bennett

What can a mentally weak person ever really be in his life?

They are. As long as they remain mentally weak, they are all they can really be. T be anything else will require a conscious choice on their part. It is what it is until it isn’t, and then it is what it is, again. 

Do you apply the same advice that you give others to yourself?

If I have the same issues to face, yes.

When do you know when you're ready to quit?

Never. However, in the real world, when I discover I’ve bitten off more than I was qualified to handle. I do own the mistake, though, and explain to others why and who really needs to be found to do the task. Failure is not the “end-all” of life, but simply an opportunity to learn and press forward.

"The moment you are ready to quit is usually the moment right before the miracle happens. Do not give up." 

-- Vita Curly

Is self-evaluation a key to getting better and ahead in life?

YES!  

Think of an experience of communication breakdown. Why did it fail? What could you have done for it to become successful?

My boss didn’t listen to me when I suggested a fence be put in line with the existing fence. When the owner did a “walkabout” she asked why it wasn’t in line with the existing fence. I waited for my boss to answer, and when he did he threw me under the bus. Needless to say, I had a piece of his ass when we got back to his office. Come to find out, over drinks that night, the owner suspected it was his decision, so I was vindicated. She asked why I didn’t speak up at the time and I informed her that I don’t throw people under the bus in front of others.

If inspiration were a byproduct, what would it be a by-product of?

Creativity?

"Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product."

-- Eleanor Roosevelt

Why did you consider that decision as your most significant?

To be clear, are we discussing “that” decision, “this” decision, or the “other” decision?

Though integrity has no relation with money, is it reasonable to conclude that people with integrity are financially sound?

No, because integrity has no relation with money. You can have integrity and, most probably, not be as financially sound as you might. Integrity is like happiness, better to have it whether rich or poor.

What’s your definition of success? What are you willing to give up to get there?

My definition of success is constant happiness. I was more than willing to give up misery to have it since misery simply sucks.

"Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same."

-- Carlos Castaneda

What’s the point of working when you still can’t afford nice things?

So, you’re not working to survive? “Nice things” are great, but they don’t put the roof over your head, meals on the table, or a warm bed, you know, the things that are really supposed to make you feel blessed.

What gives you the strength of purpose?

Desire.

Is it more common for someone who retires early, to actually go on to a second career, and is it usually an endeavor they’re passionate about, or more of a monetary necessity?

I retired three times. It was about making enough for my family to survive comfortably, but I was also blessed to have three jobs I was passionate about doing, every day.

After the second retirement, I went to Mexico for two years. My old boss called me up to entice me to return. I was in a hammock, drinking a beer, and checking my email. I told him I'd only come back for an amount of money he’d never agree to. Obviously, I was mistaken.

“If you have debt, you're not a free person. You're explicitly owned by your debt and implicitly owned by the creditor.”

-- Jacob Lund Fisker

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony:  tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questions on Destiny, Love, Feeling, and Success

 

“It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves.”

-- William Shakespeare

 

Is there any such thing as destiny? Why do some people believe in destiny?

“Destiny” is nothing more than the inevitable consequence of the choices and decisions we make in life. Why don’t all people believe in destiny? Maybe they would make better choices and decisions. Maybe not.

What is the best lucid dreaming method?

Become aware that you’re dreaming and exercise some control over the dream. I find it exhilarating, albeit, short-lived. I need to work on staying-power.

How strong is your belief in what you believe?

Pretty damned strong. I have a personal moral code of ethics I strive to live by.

“If you don't stand for something you will fall for anything.”

-- Gordon A. Eadie

What do you do and do what you love?

Who do I do and what do I love? Everybody and everything! No… wait, I got that backward.

A lady had her first child outside wedlock but passed on during her second delivery, a set of twins. Because she wasn't legally married to her man before her demise, her parents took possession of her 3 kids as it is the tradition. What's your take?

If he’s confused, maybe he should have married her. If he doesn’t care, maybe it's for the best.

Why would my ex lie about making a new social media account?

He’s your “ex” for a reason?

“Can we go back to using Facebook for what it was originally for - looking up exes to see how fat they got?”

-- Bill Maher

How do I feel my thoughts?

I read this and thought, how do you not feel your thoughts? Thoughts, other than “rote” thoughts, turning right or left, opening the door, etc., I don’t feel are worth thinking about. Anything but rote action deserves our full attention and, occasionally, even turning on a light might need some extra thought if you “feel” someone is in the house who doesn’t belong. Feeling our thoughts can be very important to living life.

I feel my thought because I consider them. Not considering what you think can be the cause of a detrimental outcome.

How long can you live comfortably with what you have saved?

If Biden leaves office soon, a fairly long time.

How do I love myself and put positive energy within me daily?

Concentrate on loving yourself, the positive energy will be there for you. Love yourself because you are alright. You evidence this by the question you ask. Concentrate on what you do right, work on what you do poorly, and strive to be happy always and in all things.

“From this point forward, you don’t even know how to quit in life.”

-- Aaron Lauritsen

What is the difference between being committed to a project or being dedicated to it?

Hmmm… well, I’m fully obligated, committed, to seeing the project through to fruition, but I also have dedication, a single-minded loyalty, to the project that I believe is life-changing for society.

What are the crucial factors to make somebody successful in life?

True happiness and love for what you do.

What does it mean when you say something bad to her but she keeps on laughing?

She isn’t taking you seriously, she is but she really doesn’t care what you think, she cares what you think but she is in denial.

“If people would take me seriously, I’d never find out anything significant about them.”

-- Aleksandra Ninkovic

When did you consider yourself a success by your own opinion?

My opinion is the only one that has mattered since I left home and joined the military. I was never less than I wanted to be. At times I considered myself enough, other times I wanted to be more and worked to that end. My success, however, is that I always enjoyed my work. I was always happy and smiling, to the point that people would ask me how I could always be so damned happy. My answer was always that the alternative simply sucks. I have no room in my life for sadness or stress. Strive to be happy always and in everything you do.

How do you stay on purpose and not on the outcome?

Don’t be a leader. Leaders will ensure you stay on purpose. The leader’s responsibility is to focus on the outcome, which is why they keep everyone else working hard at the purpose. “Our purpose is to do everything we can to support our leaders so they arrive at the appropriate outcome.”

At the end of the day, do you feel that your life has been determined by fate and luck?

In the context that my “fate and luck” was the direct consequence of choices and decisions, that I made or refused to make, yes.

“There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be...”

-- John Lennon

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as a chaplain at the regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony:  tolerantpastor@gmail.com