More Questions on Life and Love

 

How do you know if you are living on borrowed time?

Anytime you dare to defy death, you’re living on borrowed time. If you do it constantly, the debt multiplies. Sooner or later death will come to collect, but if you defy death constantly, chances are death will collect the debt sooner than later.

When you hear someone say “the old rules don’t apply anymore”, what’s the first thought that springs to mind?

I’ve just given “the talk” to the unit I just took over.

Who wins at life?

Those people who learn to be happy always!

“If you are still alive and in your right senses, you are still destined to win greatly in life.”

-- Edmond Mbiaka, self-help writer

How do I gain love back from my husband after I repeated cheating and having BPD?

Hey, let’s be honest, you can’t teach an old dog new tricks (no pun intended). If you’re a repeat cheater you must find some excitement in it. Will you do it again? Honestly? This is the issue he, your husband, probably refuses to come to grips with. And you have BPD, not that it's your excuse for cheating. 

What is the impact on our life to listen to a Motivational Speaker?

If they’re any good at what they do, they motivate me. Is this a trick question?

When does a phrase have a hidden meaning?

I’m not sure what you mean…

“Eyes fascinate me! They have always enamored me. From the beginning of my writing days, my initiation happened with the eyes of people around me. Knowingly or unknowingly, being a writer, I started getting involved in looking into the eyes of people I meet. This became an obsession with me! I would stare into the eyes of people. This has transformed into research for me. I look into eyes and fathom the inner thoughts of the person. The look in the eyes gives me ideas about the hidden meanings. The hidden thoughts and feelings of people I meet reveal myriad things about the person. The eyes reveal a cornucopia of unsaid things. The innocence, the flirtations, and the naughtiness all emanate from the eyes.”

-- Avijeet Das, author

This Thanksgiving seems a lot harder for many with all that is going on…how do you personally practice gratitude during hard times?

I buy groceries for the local soup kitchen and, like every other day, I strive to stay happy always. It isn’t hard to have gratitude when God gifts you another glorious day in paradise and another chance to excel in it. Hard times are what we make of them. Most of us like to make them harder or blame them on others. Better to just suck it up and make the best of the time you have here. 

Do more people get their news from CNN than any other source?

According to the numbers, Fox News has many more viewers than any other station. Make one wonder what the hell just happened.

What concept are you unable to wrap your head around, no matter how hard you try?

Totally understanding a concept so you can speak intelligently about it, is much different than simply “wrapping your head around” it. I think I can wrap my head around everything. Well, let me recant that. I have a hard time wrapping my head around the League of the Perpetually Offended. I mean, really? Do they have to be offended about every little thing? They’re even offended if they can’t explain why they’re offended. They're the atheist that insists people of faith need to prove God.  They have no concept of the definition of faith.  The onus of proof is upon those without faith.  Even with them, however, I have wrapped my head around the fact I can’t please them, so I don’t even try. 

“The only true thoughts are those which do not grasp their own meaning”

-- Theodor W. Adorno (1903-1969), philosopher, sociologist, psychologist

What's an absolute truth that athletes never want to hear?

You suck. No, I mean, you really suck! Maybe you should consider a career in real estate.

What quotes can you share today?

“Whatever happens in your life, no matter how troubling things might seem, do not enter the neighborhood of despair. Even when all doors remain closed, God will open up a new path only for you. Be thankful!”  -- Elif Shafak 

How do you move on from someone who is already in a new relationship?

If they’re already moving on and you’re not, you are wasting precious time and energy on someone who doesn’t appreciate you. You move on by embracing the truth of it and finding a real relationship with someone less shallow.

Is there a word or concept for a dislike of a person that results in the rejection of their ideas even if they’re right?

Abject hatred?  Perpetual offense?  The perpetual offense might be driving the abject hatred.  Better to just not judge and strive to be happy always.

Author's Comment: The word or concept I’m searching for is related to politics - where a person is so hated, all their ideas are discarded even if it is a detriment to their state or country.

My Answer: Considering the recent U.S. election, I stand by my answer. 

“Hate, it has caused a lot of problems in the world, but has not solved one yet.”

-- Maya Angelou (1928-2014), poet, civil rights activist

There is an upcoming meeting in which my boyfriend is the chairman who appointed me as a secretary but I've broken up with him for some months now because he insulted me as a foolish girl. Should I go to the meeting or not?

Go to the meeting and inform the members of the reason for your intent to resign. As members, they have a right to know. I would also inform them that, if they think your ex is full of shit, you’d be happy to stay on. Either way, they really need to know who their chairman is.  Chances are no one wants the job, so let them fight your battle.

Do we all agree?

No. What fun would that be? There would be no conflicting viewpoints. Buildings would collapse because we all agreed on the wrong way to build them. No. There must always be a modicum of dissent. We must always agree to disagree, just don't disagree perpetually.  That just make everyone else look good.

How can I be full of life and energy?

Be happy always! Get rid of all the drama you invite into your life and stop inviting it. Step away from technology and go be with people who like to have fun and laugh, constantly. Each day is a new day, gifted to us by God. Do not look the gift horse in the mouth. Go out and make the best of life.

“It doesn't matter how many people you meet in your life; you just need the real ones who accept you for who you are and help you become who you should be.”

-- Roy T. Bennett, inspirational author

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We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteers as a chaplain at the regional medical center.