Dating Site, Meat Market, or Ministry

Her:  "Good afternoon my friend. Just a quick vent if you don't mind: Love how some of the men here think I'm rather naïve so to speak. It is rather trying on this site sometimes and yet more entertaining than the Sunday funnies! My father raised no fool. Im not sitting here trying to catch a date? Know what I mean! Or to be guided in any other direction or path than only the path I choose! Thanks for letting me vent my friend. How are you? Getting some help with packing and stuff? Your mother and father are in my prayers always. Thanks my friend. God Bless~"

Me:  "Word of advice?  I hate to say it, but testosterone follows us (men) everywhere.  Some of us manage to be mature about it and some are just asses.  You shouldn't have to, but, change your photo.  You are a beautiful woman, I can't blame them but that doesn't excuse them either.

So, why is it that some men have to act this way?  Is it a chemical imbalance, lack of proper upbringing, loser, dumb ass, or just incapable of finding a date?  The latter would not surprise me considering their less than plebeian actions.  This interaction all took place on the ministry site of which we are both members, and it is not an isolated incident.  A ministry site; a site for ministers; is it any surprise when we consider what Catholic priests are capable of?

In every organization, church, monastery, YMCA, Boy Scouts and the like, there will always be an embarrassing faction of men that make it tough on the rest of us that are trying to put our best foot forward.  We try to represent what is best in men.  Unfortunately, as we used to say in the military, one "aw shit" can negate a hundred "atta boys."  All people focus on is the bad apple and they will assume the whole barrel is suspect.

Real men cry.  Real men can wear pink, and make it look macho.  Real men can look at a woman without making her feel like she's being undressed or raped.  Real men treat a lady like a lady.  If you can't act this way around civilized people, then I would recommend you frequent any number of low life bars in your piece of heaven where acting the fool is common place.  I'm sure you will find the kind of "quality" woman that you have come to expect in your life, and she will be eager to please.

These "men" lack the social grace to do anything a real woman would find acceptable, including satisfying that woman in any manner, much less an ability to treat them with any respect.  These men are the reasons I have run into brick walls trying to find a relationship with quality women my entire life.  Real men have to work twice as hard to prove we aren't them and they aren't us!  

If those of you "men," and you know who you are, would just stay away from nice women, it will make the lives of real men so much easier and women will realize that there is a knight, in albeit slightly tarnished armor, out there waiting to sweep them off their feet.