Questioning Stupid, Stress, Cheating, Cheating, Cheating, and Cheating

 

“Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid.”

-- George Carlin

I am the most stupid and dumb person in the world, and no matter how hard I try, I mess up things. How can I change that?

The fact that you recognize that you are the “most stupid and dumb person” contradicts your statement. Having told you this, making mistakes and messing things up is a way we learn. You need to, also, recognize this, and try to learn from your mistakes. By the way, you have no idea how stupid the rest of the world is. You are fine.

Reader Comment:  Recognizing and learning from mistakes is a crucial step toward personal growth, and your willingness to reflect on this shows you have the capacity to improve and succeed. Remember, everyone makes mistakes, and it's how we respond to them that truly matters

My reply: Indeed.

What do you call a person who will have sex anywhere anytime with anyone?

A slut.

Why am I craving to become dumb, stupid, indecisive, and ignorant? How do I lay those intrusive thoughts to rest just so I am craving to become perceptive and insightful?

Some people think that if you are “dumb, stupid, indecisive, and ignorant” life will be so much easier. It will be, and you will be miserable. Becoming “perceptive and insightful” has to do with garnering wisdom, and wisdom takes time. Some people never “get” it. The fact that you have asked the right questions shows that you are on the right path.

Do people realize that our lives are the result of the choices we make?

For the most part, no.

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Why do I have the urge to go back and take revenge on a narcissist? I want to break him and when I am done, leave.

It is an urge. Leave it alone. Karma will handle your revenge, so you can simply leave at your leisure... and ignore the narcissist from now on. I would take this energy and put it to work making better relationships.

What is the best place to meet up with people that want to have sex?

A brothel.

“My best advice is never to address any woman as Madam unless she holds a high position in government or you happen to find yourself in a brothel speaking to its owner.”

-- David B. Lentz

How do you manage your stress and create healthy habits around money?

Stress doesn’t create happiness, and you can’t buy happiness. Be happy first, then think about being wealthy.

Can a coworker replace someone in their job?

If they are more qualified, I’d say probably so.

Are there any subtle signs to tell if someone is really egotistical versus someone who’s actually insecure but pretending to be egotistical?

If they are “egotistical” they are also “insecure”. If you let your ego take control of you, you are trying to hide insecurities you want no one to discover. Our ego is something that you need to learn how to keep control of. Getting a good grasp on humility can help. 

How often do you force yourself to do something?

Every morning. At 70, I force myself to take a mile walk around the neighborhood. 

 How are facts and opinions related or disagree with one another?

They aren’t. An opinion can be fact, or it can be a “less than factual” opinion. An opinion can agree with the facts, or, it can be out in left field.

Would you help someone who needs help?

A two-edged sword. There are so many people needing help, you can’t help all of them.

“Love is not patronizing and charity isn't about pity, it is about love. Charity and love are the same -- with charity you give love, so don't just give money but reach out your hand instead.”

-- Saint Teresa

Why do many women cheat even if they are in love with their partner?

They’d like to know they made a good choice with their partner. That’s bullshit, but I’ll bet that’s the answer.

What's so bad about death?

You don’t have the opportunity to do things you haven’t done. You have to leave your children, friends, and other loved ones. And, not to put a sharp point on it, but it’s the end of your life… for a period. Your “rebirth” will give you a chance to live more life... if you haven’t sinned, too badly. 

What do you like shirtless or naked?

Are we talking about me, or the woman I’m looking at?

Why does a 70-year-old man want a woman?

That’s a silly question. They want companionship and love, and unforgiving, screaming, panting, sweating, sex of a lifetime.

How is self-defense defined if everything else is considered aggression?

Aggression is attacking someone. Self-defense is fighting off the attack.

What do dead people dream about?

Nothing. They are dead. However, if you believe in an afterlife, your dreams are real as you adapt to, what will probably be, your new life. But, this all depends on what your belief system accepts. Believe you’re dead, you’re dead. It sucks not believing in an afterlife.

“I do not fear death. I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born, and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it.”

-- Mark Twain

 

The rest of this deals with infidelity:  

What is your viewpoint on whether, after marriage, a working woman carries on her job or not?

Love has nothing to do with work. If she decides to continue with her work, she is loved one way or another. Love supersedes anything else in life. If it doesn’t, maybe marriage isn’t the right yoke for you.

How do I tell my girlfriend I’m still here, and I still love her?

“I’m still here, and I still love you.” It’s pretty simple.

Can you sacrifice your life for your relationship?

I should have the courage to make this sacrifice. Being in the military, we are ready to lay down our lives for people we don’t know. So sacrificing my life for someone I do know should be easy. Luckily, it hasn't reared its ugly head... yet.

If your girl says she can find a better man than you, what are you going to do?

Find a better girl than her. 

Should I let my partner have an open relationship?

Why? If they have one, then you should have one. And, if you both have one, why are you partners in a relationship? On the other hand, if you are a “submissive”…

I have a husband but love another man. What should I do?

You don’t love your husband, so divorce him and go out to play.

“The saddest thing is to be a minute to someone, when you've made them your eternity.”

-- Sanober Khan

Why do partners cheat and then come home like nothing happened?

They are not in “true love” with their partner. Divorce is the best decision.

What do you call those people who never admit that they are wrong, and blame the wrong they did on someone else?

Worthless. 

Should I stop cheating on my wife?

No. What you should do is divorce her. In this way, she can find someone who will love her forever, while you continue to be confused where "true love" is concerned.

What pushes a man to cheat?

When he has exercised a bad definition of true love.

What does incessantly lying do to a relationship?

The relationship becomes an “incessant” lie. If you feel the need to lie in a relationship, it would be better to cut your partner loose, so they don’t waste their life along with yours.

How can you rebuild a hopeless marriage?

You can’t. It is hopeless, remember?

“Because what’s worse than knowing you want something, besides knowing you can never have it?”

-- James Patterson

Why do some men still cheat even when they have a wonderful and loving wife at home?

They are not happy.

I cheated on my husband with a married man. What do I do? I feel terrible.

If you feel that terrible… are you ever going to do it again? You can confess your sins to God and press on with your marriage, or you can ask him for a divorce. Or, you need to make your husband into the “animal” you had sex with. It is a choice.

My husband cheated on me with my son. What should I do?

He’s gay. Do you want to be married to a gay man… who is having sex with your son?

Is it bad to cheat on your wife if she has it coming?

If she has it coming, then divorce her. Or, you can ask to watch her cheat, which is the only reason you should be thinking about cheating on her. If she says no, then divorce her. But, if you want a stable, loving, relationship. divorce will be the only route to take. If it isn’t infidelity, and you’re thinking of cheating on her “because she has it coming”… again, divorce will set you both free.X

My husband cheated on me with my son. What should I do?

He’s gay. Do you want to be married to a gay man… who is having sex with your son? 

Would you remain friends with an ex-spouse or partner who lied, cheated, and betrayed you?

Nope. Been through that and I can say for certain… no.

“It was a mistake," you said. But the cruel thing was, it felt like the mistake was mine, for trusting you.”

-- David Levithan

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

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