Questioning Wants, Cruel, Revenge, Punishment, Satisfaction, and Pressure

 

“Each day hands me a clean sheet of paper upon which to write. Therefore, I would be wise to write without ever having the need to erase.”

-- Craig D. Lounsbrough

What would you call it if a person simply wants another person to be "erased" or "dead" without feeling anger towards them?

Emotionless murder?

Why do families act like stupid animals?

You have a family, you tell me. I have no experience with my family acting like this. So, it must be certain families you have experienced.

If Jeffrey Dahmer got a cooking show where he cooks humans, what recipes would he make?

Open the recipe book to “Pork” and you'll have enough to start cooking. 

I don't develop strong affective bonds with anybody. Why?

I don’t either. My reason is the people I used to hang with. If I needed to be disappointed, my friends were the ones to help me out. As I grew older I didn’t see any reason to get close enough to “bond” with anyone. My bad? Who knows.

If you could get what you want what would you want?

I'm not sure listing names would be proper.

What would you do if life killed you?

Uh… I’d be dead, so… not much I can do. Did I misread this question? I have a habit of reading into a question.  But, this one, seems pretty straightforward.

“Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It's the transition that's troublesome.”

-- Isaac Asimov

What if everyone around you was cruel and mean?

I would have no one to talk to, or there would be a lot of unusual “accidents” occurring. I don’t abide cruel and mean in my little universe.

Why wouldn't things turn out perfect?

Because “perfect” is unattainable. Things can only turn out levels of “excellence.”

What is sex between a girl and a 15-year-old boy?

It’s not legal, especially if the girl is of age. The boy will have a lot of fun, but, he isn’t supposed to be in that situation. 

What is the difference between "I know for sure" and "I'm sure"?

There isn’t any difference. You either know or you don’t know.

Why do I stress over stupid crap?

Almost everybody stresses over “stupid crap.” It is what we do. If you don’t want to, the best tact is to identify it as “stupid crap” and ignore it. If someone asks you why you ignored it, tell them it is “stupid crap” and you’re not going to stress over it. There is a lot of “stupid crap” on my plate, and I pile it over to one side. Someone asked me why I hadn’t dealt with it, and I told them I didn’t have the time for it. They said it was a “yes” or “no” answer. I asked what they thought. They said, “Yes.” So, I said, “Yes.” They looked at me crosseyed. I told them, if they could answer the bullshit, why didn’t they? They looked at me crosseyed… again. It was bullshit that any answer wouldn’t end the world I live in. It was “stupid crap.” Don’t stress over it.

In terms of your emotional behavior, how would you describe yourself?

Out in left field.

“Pity those who don't feel anything at all.”

-- Sarah J. Maas

How do I hack? I’m trying to get revenge.

Don’t. Getting revenge puts you on the level of the person who wronged you. Rise above it. Karma has enough to do without having you on the plate.

Is it possible that people who identify as "moderate" actually have hidden liberal or conservative beliefs?

Yes, that’s the reason they can lean one way or another.

Why should you be bitter in your marriage?

When your “partner” cheats, cheats, and cheats again, with no end in sight, it can make you bitter. If you have wasted 25 years trying to turn things around, it can make you bitter. If you find out your partner has lied about you, it can make you bitter. Bitterness in marriage is a reason for divorce.

What should I do now that my wife has moved in with her lover?

Divorce her ass. Search for someone you can celebrate your liberation with.

How is it possible that I am still married to the dumb bitch?

The fact that you refer to her as “the dumb bitch” tells me that, if you’re still married to her, you might be just as dumb.

Why do humans struggle with the concept of eventually becoming just a memory for someone else?

Oh, hell no. Not all humans "struggle" with this concept. 

“The pleasure of remembering had been taken from me, because there was no longer anyone to remember with. It felt like losing your co-rememberer meant losing the memory itself, as if the things we'd done were less real and important than they had been hours before.”

-- John Green

Why does anybody punish anybody for reacting badly who is bothered by anybody?

Because anybody doesn’t care, except me and a few others.

How do I become better at making decisions and choices?

Don’t rush it. Take time to consider all the options and the possible outcomes. I go by the rule that if a salesman says the deal is only good for today, it will be good for another day… or I don’t really need it.

Why can’t my wife just accept the fact that I’m going to cheat?

She has problems accepting that she married an….

Why do people see pets as toys? I get it because they don't do anything interesting/can't communicate with you and people eventually grow bored of them so is that the main reason?

Read Julia Glen’s answer. I could not have said it any better.

Julia Glen's answer: "People who get a pet as a toy should not have a pet. They are living breathing creatures that require a lot of care and love. People get pets as companionship and as a friend. Having a pet you can communicate with once you know your pet. They can be very smart. The love you give a pet you will get back many times over. Anyone who gets a pet will never get bored because they become much more to you than a disposable object."

Why do people put up with women?

Because they're soft and cuddly.

How do you control your brain when it overthinks?

I have found that doing physical work tempers the mind. If you put yourself to a physical task you will focus on that task and give your mind a break.

“The more you overthink the less you will understand.”

-- Habeeb Akande

Why can’t my husband satisfy me?

If he can’t satisfy you, why did you marry him? This is the problem with not sleeping with your future spouse… or ignoring the “satisfaction” quotient.

What do you do if you have lost your mind and cannot find it?

You are in deep shit.

How do you forgive the other man who had sex with your wife?

Why are you faulting him? Your wife probably told him she was single. The culprit in this scenario is your wife. Instead of having it out with you, she goes and has an affair. Men are pretty basic, so blaming him is shifting the blame from where it needs to be. Your wife is to blame.

How do you handle standing 8 hours every day at work?

By finding another job where you can sit down.

I’m a husband and I hate when my wife degrades me and tells me how other men are more loving and better in bed. She does this every single time we’re alone. What should I do? Sometimes I feel like just running away where no one can find me.

So, do it. She is not satisfied with you, so divorce her and find someone better, more loving, and are so much better in bed. Your wife, pardon my lack of filter, is a shit.

What is a man who doesn't want to get married called?

A happy bachelor.

“Eighty-three years old. A lifetime of being a bachelor. This extended life of aloneness might have an effect on a man's character, might it not? Independence might have rusted into obstinacy.”

-- Jonathan Lee

Who do you turn to when you feel the pressure of life?

Myself. Since I have no filter, I have found that I’m the only one who is brutally honest with me. I have learned to ignore the “pressure of life” and take life a bit at a time. It is what it is and it’s not going away, so I’ll deal with important issues as I get to them. Bourbon helps.

What is the best thing to do when they don't believe you?

Smile and walk away. The truth will come out. Truth always does.

Does the existence of God affect our free will? Do we have a choice in believing in him?

There is no proof that God exists. Having said this, unless you plan on living a non-righteous life, you have “free will” to live a good life whether you believe in God or not. Our “faith” in the existence of God puts our focus on being righteous more times than not. When atheists die, they will never see an afterlife. When theists die there is faith and hope for a life after death. We may be wrong, but I still like to pad my bet with my faith.

Instead of following God's rules, why don’t we make our own?

Atheists already do this. 

What should I do when my husband threatens to divorce me?

File for divorce and take him for everything he owns. He won’t use that tact ever again… unless he’s an idiot. 

Why would you have sex with someone else?

Variety.

“We have that feeling that life could have been other, different, better in a way impossible to articulate, yet we sense there was another road we missed.”

-- Chloe Thurlow

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We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

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