Questioning Sluts, Agreeing, Heaven, Loyalty, and Retaliation

 

“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”

-- Paulo Coelho

How did you find out that your wife is a slut?

All I needed to do was pay attention to the little things. If you pay attention to the crumbs, they will lead you to the infidelity. It isn’t as hard as the wife thinks it is.

How would you characterize someone afraid to fail and gives up easily?

They don’t understand that failure is the best way we learn. The fact that they give up easily shows that they won’t try to persevere in the face of failure. I characterize them as a person I wouldn’t hire for my company.

Is having an open mind correlated with being more or less biased?

Less. An open mind means you are willing to “consider” other opinions.

I think I have "atychiphobia" and it's getting worse every day. What should I do?

Understand failure. Failure is the best way we learn, provided you don’t give up. You must persevere in the face of failure, for failure to teach you.

My stepmom told me to take off my pants. What should I do?

She is your “stepmom.” Take off your pants. What follows is more important.

How would society change if everyone suddenly became rich and poverty was eliminated? Would people still work or would their motivations change?

There will always be poverty. You can eliminate it, but people will bring it back. It is the universe demanding balance… and people being lazy, regardless of their wealth.

“I've been making a list of the things they don't teach you at school. They don't teach you how to love somebody. They don't teach you how to be famous. They don't teach you how to be rich or how to be poor. They don't teach you how to walk away from someone you don't love any longer. They don't teach you how to know what's going on in someone else's mind. They don't teach you what to say to someone who's dying. They don't teach you anything worth knowing.”

-- Neil Gaiman

How do I agree to a marriage with me?

Saying “yes” would be the thing to do.

Do all monkeys dislike people?

I’ve been around “monkeys” all my life, and I can tell you, they can like or dislike you. The ones that like you can be your friends. The ones who don’t, you can try to ignore.

What should I do if I want a serious girlfriend in a relationship?

Dating would be the first step. If she is serious, you’ll find out in short order.

What prevents you from being nice?

Absolutely nothing. Being nice to an asshole simply pisses them off. Assholes are great targets for me to practice being nice to. It is hard, but that makes it all the more fun.

How come women are so spiteful?

You mean, compared to spiteful men?

How do I convince my wife I am the man and she should respect my authority?

Ha, ha, ha… it is to laugh! If I were you I would bring that up across the room from her. It is less likely you will be hit by whatever she throws at you. Respect your authority… you are a hoot. A marriage is a partnership, not a slave and a master.

“A relationship is like a bird: If you set it free, it will thrive. If you put it in a cage it will struggle to survive.”

-- Mouloud Benzadi

Can you still get into heaven if you kill yourself?

Nope. You will have to live your life again, and again, until you make better choices.

Will you go to hell if you self-harm?

Your hell will be you being born back where you are, to learn the lesson you should have learned. If you don’t learn the lesson again, you will be born right back here, again, and so on, until you cop a clue. You will make your own hell on earth. Not a good thing to repeat.

Do people with low self-esteem have an ego?

Of course. It is almost non-existent, but they do have an ego.

My wife threatens me with divorce if I don't continue letting her cheat on me. What should I do?

Divorce her cheating ass. Let her make her own way in the world. If being a slut suits her, so be it. You, on the other hand, will be free to find someone who loves you. I speak from 25 years of experience. Don’t let it take you that long to get a clue.

How can one handle individuals who are resistant to change or self-improvement?

Don’t choose them to be on your “team” at work.

What's something that sucks about being American?

When the wrong President gets into office. Inflation can skyrocket, borders can be taken down, crime is rampant due to liberal judges, the price of a house is beyond the working stiff, and the price of gasoline goes through the roof as does food. Other than having an idiot for a President, being an American is pretty nice.

“If the agenda in a country is constantly changing, sometimes even hourly, you must know that you are governed by ignorant and incompetent! And perhaps worse, you are run by traitors who only serve foreign country interests!”

-- Mehmet Murat ildan

Why would a hot wife dress like a slut?

This kind of answers itself, though, she might not be aware of it.

Can I have a hot girl’s number?

You need to find a hot girl and ask her for her number. If she gives it to you, you can have it. If she says no, then you can’t. This is pretty simple.

Why would a guy wake up and say “I need more attention”?

He wakes up and feels ignored.

I dated a retarded man once. Am I a good woman?

If you went on this date with the retarded man “selflessly,” then, I’d say yes. If you went on the date, to take advantage of him, then, not so much. Always be selfless in what you do, and you will, usually, be good.

Should I touch my friend's penis?

That would be up to your friend. I hope you're a woman. Just saying.

I caught my boyfriend with a girl in his house. What can I do to the girl?

Nothing. She might not know he has a girlfriend. However, your boyfriend knows the rules. You can cut him loose and find someone better, who won’t continue this lifestyle.

“When people cheat in any arena, they diminish themselves-they threaten their own self-esteem and their relationships with others by undermining the trust they have in their ability to succeed and in their ability to be true.”

-- Cheryl Hughes

How should you handle a situation where your boyfriend is angry with your child?

Who is your loyalty to? The boyfriend has crossed a bold line.

 What do I do if my son is an idiot?

There’s not much you can do about it. He might grow out of it, he might revel in the idiocy of it, or, heaven forbid, he could turn out to be the anchor you will have to deal with for the long haul. The military might be able to straighten him out.

I heard my parents call me stupid behind my back and that I would fail in life. What do I do?

Prove them wrong.

What is the meaning behind the statement, "I would rather be rich than smart"?

It means they would rather be rich for as long as their ignorance will allow them to be. Being smart is one way to hold onto your wealth. 

What's the most important lesson you ever learned?

It is what it is until you change it.

Why do I think everyone just wants me to fail in life?

Is it their life? It isn’t, so why are you concerned that everybody wants you to fail? It is your life, so ignore what you think everybody wants, and go about being successful at everything you do. If nothing else, it will piss off the naysayers you think are out there.

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.”

-- Winston S. Churchill

What’s a good verbal retaliation to my son who refuses to take the blame for being fat and ugly because “I gave him the genes, so it’s my fault”?

“It’s your life, not mine. I gave you a chance to excel, and you squandered it.”

Can regular practice help us read novels faster?

If you read the novel faster, you might miss the nuances the author intends you to catch. I can read Air Force regulations at a feverish pace, but with a novel I like to savor the author’s creativity and style. 

Should you spend your entire life learning?

You do. It is why we are here.

Why does my old next-door neighbor wake up so early, and why does he hate me so much?

He wakes up early because that’s what we “old people” do. Does he really hate you, or is he just a curmudgeon? I was able to sidestep being a curmudgeon, but I have no filter and say whatever I think. I try not to hate people, and I think he really doesn’t hate you. He is just old. Be overly nice to him and he might round off the sharp corners.

Why do I allow stupid people into my life? They say one thing and do another.

What does this say about you? 

Who is responsible when parents get angry with their children?

The parents should be able to “parent” without getting angry. We fail at this, miserably. We allow the children to push our buttons. Not very mature of us.

“Angry people are not always wise.”

-- Jane Austen

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

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I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

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