Questioning Failure, Backfire, Advice, Sex, Divorce, and an Idiot

“Mysteriously, God in his providence must make use of our tragedies to remind our fallen human nature of his presence and his love, of the constancy of his concern and care for us. It is not vindictiveness on his part; he does not send us tragedies to punish us for having so long forgotten him. The failing is on our part.”

-- Walter J. Ciszek

Why did the entire world fail me?

I don't even know you, so "the entire world” didn’t fail you. The only person you can rely on is you, so shifting the blame on the “entire world” sounds like you failed you. How about taking responsibility for yourself and trying harder to make things work out?

What are some things that all people do every day, everywhere?

Pee.

What is the most difficult relationship to handle in a human life span, and why?

This is a toss-up for me. It is either work or marriage. Both require that you focus on the work at hand. You need to have a good relationship or you are just spinning your wheels. Everybody needs to get along with each other, knowing that the relationship is always solid. If it isn’t, you end up changing jobs, or marriages, numerous times. 

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This is interesting.  Two questions, one after the other, from the same person.  I have listed both questions, here, with my reply:

1.  I'm 27 years old. I have no job and no money. I'm living with my mom. I'm completely lost and I'm losing interest in whatever I do. I have no idea how to overcome this situation. What should I do?

2.  I'm 23 and have achieved nothing in life. Is there still a chance for my brain?

What you should do, is figure out your age. Are you 27 years of age, or are you 23? 

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When was the last time you felt a sense of freedom?

My sense of freedom started in 1973. It took a vacation, for 25 years, while I was married. After the divorce, I reclaimed my freedom in 2000, and have been enjoying a newfound sense of freedom ever since.

When in your life did the police act overly excited and lack self-control?

I’m Sicilian. They wouldn’t dare. 

“Speak softly and carry a big stick — you will go far.”

-- Theodore Roosevelt 

How have you once tried to break free from society but it ended up backfiring on you?

Nope. I was born into a free society, and I will never try to break “free” from the freedom I have enjoyed for the past 70 years. To try to do so would be contrary to my freedom of choice.

Do you understand anything?

After the Intelligence field, I try not to.

Do you live to work or do you work to live?

I have always worked to live, but, the fact that I have enjoyed all of my jobs, makes me think that I lived to work, as well.

How do I teach my students how to treat certain people as less human than others?

As a teacher, what the hell are you thinking?

Proverbs suggest the wicked will ultimately come to face with consequences. But, in life, we often see wicked people prospering. How do we reconcile this with the teachings of Proverbs?

Do the proverbs state whether the consequences will happen in this life or the next? If one believes in hell, the wicked can look forward to a stint with Satan. Other than that, are the “wicked people” truly happy or is the smile forced? “Consequences” can come in many forms. Don’t think that they are getting away with anything. 

Should you be alive right now?

That is factually obvious since I answered this question. I am very careful.

“If you're reading this...

Congratulations, you're alive. If that's not something to smile about, then I don't know what is.”

-- Chad Sugg

If you could give one or two pieces of advice to people in business (large or small) on changes they could make so they benefit from AI, rather than suffer from it, what would they be?

Don’t get in bed with AI. Hire more people.

What if I told you that you are not really here?

You would provide evidence that you’re full of it. I know where I am, and I know reality has my back. That you decide to tell me otherwise, means nothing to me… or my reality.

What's something you don't see every day?

A woman’s private parts.

Why would a guy constantly call me “cute”?

I may be out in left field, but… maybe he constantly thinks you’re cute. I have no filter, so I would probably back him up with this. Are you “cute” constantly? If it bothers you, you might think about trying not to be so cute… all the time.

How can Help me sex?

Uh… What?

Why do men always lie all the time?

Men don’t always lie all the time. If this is your experience, perhaps you should hang around with a better class of men. Try not to put everybody in the same bucket.

“Everyone is born. But not everyone is born the same. One way or another though, every human being is unique, for better or worse.”

-- Roald Dahl 

Why does my wife make excuses to not sleep with me?

Who does she prefer to sleep with? This is the better question.

How do I deal with a partner who sits around and orders me what to do?

Order them to do their own stuff. A “partnership” means both partners share responsibility. They don’t order each other around.

What is the most painful spanking that you have ever had?

I can’t remember her name. But, she leaned into it.

Who said, “If there’s a god, why are things good?

It sounds like an atheist. Things are the way they are because God gave mankind everything they need to know and then cut them free. If things aren’t good, it is mankind’s fault, not God’s. We are supposed to learn, so we can make things better. God gave us this ability, but we haven’t used it, across the board. We've been doing pretty good, on and off.

Who likes to see a girl's vulva when you change her diapers?

It depends on the age of the girl. If she’s over 18, the bigger question is why she’s wearing diapers. Kinky… very kinky. She probably needs a good spanking.

What do you do? My wife loves flashing in public. I'm not on board.

What does your wife, loving to flash in public, have anything to do with what I do?

"I marvel again at the nakedness of men's lives: the showers right out in the open, the body exposed for inspection and comparison, the public display of privates. What is it for? What purposes of reassurance does it serve? The flashing of a badge, look, everyone, all is in order, I belong here. Why don't women have to prove to one another that they are women? Some form of unbuttoning, some split-crotch routine, just as casual. A doglike sniffing."

-- Margaret Atwood 

Can I stay with my wife if she has chosen to ignore me and tell me she doesn't want me?

It is time to leave before you find out who she’s seeing. Or, you can go find some “strange” at the local bar. Hey, this is her choice. You are just making the best of it. When you ignore her and start smelling like “Chanel No. 5,” she will get the message and you will be free.

Should I cheat on my wife again?

Why don’t you divorce her, instead of cheating on her? It makes you look bad.

How can I be seen as a responsible person?

Be responsible. You can be seen as a responsible person, or you can be a responsible person. It is a choice you need to make.

Why is my wife always naked around the house?

Do you have a lot of deliveries?

Isn't it okay for a married man to have a girlfriend?

No. I can elaborate on this answer, but… Okay. I think “no,” says it all, but if you want to have a girlfriend, divorce your wife. It’s kind of ethical.

Reader comment: Wow, and coming from Pisano. It's new world.

My reply: Ethics, my friend.  Ethics. 

Do women consider men the problem?

I thought this was obvious.

“There is always a solution to any problem. Find opportunities in any circumstance. Never become a victim.”

-- Lailah Gifty Akita

Why is it always idiots who answer my questions?

Maybe you’re using the wrong bait. Just saying.

If I'm evil, why does it hurt to be told that?

Maybe you don’t know why people think you’re evil. If people tell you this, you might need to introspect to see why they might think so. Sometimes we get into a personal comfort zone that rubs people wrong. Then again, it could be everybody else not understanding you.

Why doesn’t anyone want to interact with me on Quora? Why do my questions so rarely get answered?

I don’t answer questions that make little sense. Try to keep your questions short and to the point.

What defines good political leadership?

It helps to know what the people want, not what you want to give them. An ability to listen, question, and to understand. The ability to work with good people to get the job done. “Good political leadership” is not about you, it is about serving the people. 

What has been your experience as a leader?

23 years in the military, and 21 years of those as a leader. 17 years as a corporate liaison with a premier Institutional Review Board, again, as a leader.

Why do people constantly misuse the word jealousy when they mean envy?

Try this:

"Jealousy and envy both involve a feeling of desire for what another person has, but jealousy is usually thought to be more negative - it often involves resentment toward the other person. Envy is also a negative feeling - like a mix of admiration and discontent - but the word doesn’t usually imply hostility. Another difference is that envy can be used as both a noun and a verb.”

-- Dictionary.com

 

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Principles, Positivity, Age, Trolls, Working, and Learning

“There is a stubbornness about me that never can bear to be frightened at the will of others. My courage always rises at every attempt to intimidate me.”

-- Jane Austen

Do most people maintain their principles and dignity when they find themselves in a situation where they must struggle to make ends meet?

If you don’t, what’s the point of having faux principles supporting your sham of dignity? Everything becomes a lie. Everything you do becomes bullshit to those who know you caved, which will be most of the people you know. The struggle to make ends meet is a lesson that teaches us perseverance in the face of failure, and that failure teaches us to learn and try again.

I'm kinFused, do those who claim to think they are an independent existence that exists only because of itself realize that they don't even know what they think they deny?

What the hell?

I'm getting scared about my life as I am jobless and losing hope. What should I do?

Try harder. Being “scared” is a defense mechanism that separates the wheat from the chaff, those who fight from those who run. Hope is good, but trying is building the foundation for success.

Do most people never learn to think better and be better overall?

Some people never learn. The rest of us continuously work at it.

I find it very difficult to relate to anyone. I struggle to converse because my interests are different, from other people my age. What is this a symptom of?

Onset "maturity." You are experiencing it before people in your age group. You can wait for them to catch up, or live your life ahead of them. It is your choice. I’d start living my life ahead of them. Life is much too short to wait on slackards.

What things should a person learn, so they will never be jobless?

Perseverance, in the face of failure.

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.”

-- Maya Angelou

 

If you think "positive" do more positive things happen?

Only if you’re in a situation where positive things can happen, where change can happen. If you’re not, you’ll find yourself in a riptide and constantly failing, no matter how hard you try. 

Author's comment: That's a great point! It's true that positive thinking can't magically control every situation. However, I've found that a positive outlook can help me approach challenges with more creativity and resilience. Even in tough situations, staying positive can help me find opportunities or adapt my plan.

My reply: Indeed.

Do trolls need to be punched in the face?

Yes, but more to the point, they need to grow up.

How do I gain respect and recognition in society?

Find what society needs, but seems not to access. If you can make this happen, you will garner respect and recognition. However, this is a selfish outcome. Doing things selflessly won’t guarantee respect and recognition, but it will still get the job done, and getting it done is the entire point, not respect and recognition.

Is it true that people will always try to do what they think will give them the most satisfaction?

Unless they are helping someone else, and even then, the selfless helping of someone else should give them much satisfaction.

If you were bullied as a kid, how often did you stand up to the bullies?

All the time.  I would shame them, and they would kick my ass until they got tired of being shamed.

I want to start doing good unknown deeds for people. What are some examples of this so I can start?

Buy anonymous gifts for the poor and needy. I do this at Christmas time. You can pay the tab for someone in line at a “low-income” food outlet. I also buy groceries for the local “soup kitchen” in town. The man who runs it is the only person who knows who I am.

“We’re stuck with ourselves all the time, with the thoughts that race around our brains at 10,000 mph, with our feelings, with our daily dramas, and our ongoing struggles. But by thinking about someone else, authentically listening to and connecting with another person, you focus less on all your own strife and struggles. You get a break from you.”

-- Saskia Lightstar

I'm 27 turning 28 years old soon. My parents won't allow me to be independent. What do I do to get myself free from them?

You are an adult, as of 21. What you want, as an adult, is not their choice.

Why do people say that I’m a troll?

Some introspection would help. If you act like a troll, you’re a troll. If not, you probably need to prove it... to yourself, more than others.

Do most people never learn to think better and be better overall?

Some people never learn. The rest of us continuously work at it.

What is the most regrettable life decision you've seen someone make?

Marriage to the wrong person. Your love for them is not, necessarily the true love they feel for you. In short order, they will be cheating in the relationship you have with them. It would be much better to wait for the perfect match and experience lifelong happiness.

Is fighting for freedom and rights worth it?

Fighting and even dying for freedom is always worth it.

Does feeling like a bad person make you do bad things?

If you’re “feeling like a bad person” you’ve probably already done bad things. “Feeling” doesn’t make you do things. It is what you are that makes you who you are. If you want to change, it is a choice you have to make… for your life.

“The sun rises for everyone, sets for everyone, it does not distinguish between good people and bad people, maybe we can call this injustice because it does not favor the good people, but maybe we can say this: Every day the sun gives the bad people a chance to be good!”

-- Mehmet Murat ildan

I decided to call out of work for the day so I can sit in my truck and ask troll questions. Are you ready?

So, you’re admitting to being another self-serving idiot, wasting other people’s time? I don't agree with it, but, kudos for your honesty.

Should young people take leadership?

They don’t have the wisdom to take leadership. Most adults don’t have the wisdom to take leadership. Just look at the majority of idiots populating the U.S. Congress and Senate. It makes a grown man want to cry… if it didn’t piss him off so much. People who elect these idiots need to exercise more due diligence.

Have you been bullied on this site because of your origin?

No. People who do this, say more about themselves than they will ever say about you.

What are things that are more valuable than money, and why?

True happiness. If you are not truly happy regardless of your circumstances, how are you going to be truly happy with all the money you can lose? Everybody loves a happy person, but how many people love those who worship the almighty buck? 

Is my image good or bad? Please reply.

If that’s you with the football, it is good.

The two most important elements of personal strength are independence and the ability to manage the internal relationship between reason and emotion? Are there other important elements?

Those are "elements" but not necessarily important to personal strength and independence.  Try adding: Knowledge, perseverance in the face of failure, and to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances.

“You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”

-- Marcus Aurelius

Is it possible to love working?

Absolutely. I have loved all the jobs I’ve been privileged to work. I have loved all the people who worked around me. It makes little sense to not love the work you choose, or the people you work with. Why are you doing the job, then?

Why do people steal from honest hard-working people?

Because it is who they are, and because they can.

Is it true that I’m a woman of integrity?

That depends. Do you value integrity, above all else? “Integrity” is not something you have one minute and lose the next. You have it always.

How do I value other people?

What do they bring to the table? What do they do for you? Are they friends, support, service providers, and whatnot? What value are they providing you with? In my life, people I don’t know can bring potential value to my life, but I need to learn to know them. Are they future friends? Are they the greeter at Walmart who always gives me a smile and salute from his cap? Anyone can bring value into your life if they want to, just as you can bring some value into theirs.

What is the power of money?

The ability to purchase. The happiness it gives you, however, is fleeting.

How can we manipulate nature as it is?

We “manipulate” nature to what we want it to be, but nature will abide us. Nature will always be nature, regardless of what we do to it. It will grow, live, and die, just as it always has, regardless of what we think we have done to it.

“But man is a part of nature, and his war against nature is inevitably a war against himself.”

-- Rachel Carson

Who should you learn from the most?

People who know more than you do.

 What are the top 15 problems we have in the world?

Governments, war, hate, greed, hunger, violence, intolerance, disrespect, closed minds, fear, unhappiness, theft, lying, organized religion, and homelessness

What will threaten your life the most?

Death. 

Why are 95% of people just average lazy losers?

Where did you get “95%” from?

Reader comment: He counted himself

My reply: Ah! Understood.

When someone else takes advantage of you, what can you do?

Well, if you beat the crap out of the last person to take advantage of you, beating the crap out of the next person seems apropos. The better though, is to stop putting yourself in a position where anyone can take advantage of you.

What do I do about people who think they are better than me?

Nothing. They have enough on their plate trying to look better than they are.

“Those with inflated egos are not well grounded.”

-- Christine E. Szymanski

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

The Human Circus (Updated from 5/20/2015)

 

"Always do sober what you said you'd do drunk. That will teach you to keep your mouth shut."

-- Ernest Hemingway

Have you ever just gone into a tavern, bar, or restaurant, for the express purpose of watching the people? If you pay close enough attention you will be treated to a great parade of the human condition. This is what I find myself doing when I go out to relax. I tend to frequent establishments that cater to a healthy cross-section of humanity; those who have and have not, single and married, parents and those wishing to become so, gay, straight, and the undecided. Places where I'm sure to run into business owners, laborers, as well as old high school quarterbacks and cheerleaders, who never seemed to make it passed the fame of their youth.

I love to watch the drama, and lack thereof while trying to figure out who is doing who, which husband is doing whose wife's boyfriend, and whether the tequila will finally override common sense to make the girl on the bar do a pole dance while wondering if the older gentlemen will succumb to the advances of the sixteen-year-old girl trying to act nineteen.  I look for who might be getting married and who, so obviously, isn't; who is playing some transparent game and who is just there for dinner, a beer, or both.

I watch patiently, hoping to be surprised by the cover being different, and so much less interesting than the book.  The punk cum goth, cum alternative lifestyle, cum tattooed body with multiple piercings who one expects to hear the never-ending stream of vulgarities from; the loser diatribe of rebellious youth spewed forth at the older generation... like we haven't been through it all ourselves.  Instead, out of their black-lipped pie hole, I find myself listening to a lucid explanation of warped space-time, God, spirituality, and their personal reason for being.  As I pay my tab to leave I can't help but look over this diverse crowd and wonder, "Which one is Jesus... come again?"

Have we become so accustomed to seeing this circus of humanity, the constant onslaught of sideshows, that we numb ourselves to everyone around us?  Will we know the second coming of Christ when it happens, or will He become lost in the background clutter of human drama?  Will you hear Him when He speaks, and will you listen to what He says?  Why would you, and what would you think, not realizing it is Him?  What does your answer say about you, your faith, and society?

When the crazy guy in the robe gets arrested for vagrancy, illegal gathering, and/or creating a public nuisance, how many times will you deny him?  Three?

We can all hope there is great fanfare upon His return.  We want there to be little doubt of who He is.  But, hasn't this always been about faith, always doing what's right, and being prepared for what comes next?  If so, why would we care that He returns other than to invite Him over for dinner and casual conversation?  He'd probably love to go to the local watering hole and watch the colorful parade of humanity.

He's probably already there, tending bar, listening to confessions of the patrons, and taking copious notes.

By the way, please leave a tip. 

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Values, Talents, Introversion, Free Will, Life, and Sex

 

"Honesty is the first chapter in the book of Wisdom."

-- Thomas Jefferson

What are some old but good values that people nowadays are forgetting?

Good ethics and honesty.

Why does it always have to be an intellectual war? Why can’t we just be stupid, vibe, and live in the moment?

It doesn’t have to be what you don’t want it to be… for you. You have the right not to accept war. You can go down your path of life as “stupid and vibe, live in the moment.” It is your God-given right to do so, and I will stand with you and defend your right to be stupid in the moment.

What do you do when you hear a joke?

If it’s funny, I laugh.

Do people's insecurities make them great like Hitler, Napoleon, etc?

Not necessarily. Insecurities can also make people introverts. They become afraid to take the next step for fear they will fail.

What specifically would you like to know?

“Why?” And the answer cannot be, “Because.”

While meritocracy's "success ethic" may have much to recommend it (promotes achievement-orientation, accountability, etc.), are its built-in, politically loaded "Horatio Alger"-type utilitarian, "social efficiency," "human capital" pieties innocuous?

You got an answer! I chose not to go through the steps of translating your question into “common person speak.” I did enough of this in military intelligence. I would go into the ranking officer’s office and tell them to “dumb down” their letter so the receiver can understand it.

“The safest way to success is to write according to the capacity of the stupidest member of the audience.”

-- Natasha Pulley

 

What's a hidden talent you have or a favorite hobby?

I like to paint on canvas. I don’t get much chance to do it anymore.

How do you prioritize your mental well-being amidst life's challenges?

If it affects my mental well-being, I try to stay away from it. Most of my life’s challenges are expected. Life presents “challenges,” throughout life, to keep us entertained. I accept this as the main purpose of life - to learn. If you choose not to learn, you become a bump on a log. You should choose to learn.

If someone asks you if you did something you did do, and you dodge the question, is that lying?

I believe it is “lying by omission.”

Is there anything intelligent in a person’s mind to have a serious conversation on life besides conflicts/war, money, power, and greed? Is intellectual base how smart a person intelligently?

“Intellectual base” gets confused with “intelligence,” for obvious reasons. How “intelligent” you are has no “quotient” that indicates how “smart” you are. If you are “intelligent,” good for you, and if you are “smart,” good for you, as well. If you are intelligent and smart, you are a rare commodity to be cherished.

What are your negative thoughts?

I want to spank someone, pant down, and with stinging slaps. Just saying.

How do I deal with a toxic workplace environment that is starting to impact my health?

Find another job. Where you work is a matter of your choice. If it is affecting your health, you need to, seriously, think about getting a better job. It is a personal choice that you need to make for your well-being.

“I’m now much less of an asset to the company than I could be. I keep my head down and for self-preservation just do my work with little conversation with anyone. Yet the irony is this: in my self-preservation, I’m actually destroying myself. In bottling up my unexpressed feelings, I’m making myself sick emotionally and physically.”

-- Gary Chapman

Why don't I feel like talking to anyone?

Maybe you feel no one will understand you. I get this way. 

If people are assholes, why aren't they racist as well?

Why do assholes have to be racist? It is bad enough that they’re assholes, without adding racists on to them. On the gulf coast of Mississippi, I can deal with an asshole, but if they say anything racist, game over. We have enough issues without stirring this pot.

Have you ever met a humble genius?

Nope. They seem humble but… don’t get them started.

Should we trust people quickly?

Only if you’re stupid. Be cordial, but it is better to take some time to learn about a person. I watch them and listen to what they say, before investing your trust. Putting your trust in someone easily will, in all probability, get you a big bite in the buttocks. 

Why do many people follow evil rules, even though it's not human nature to do harmful things to themselves? Nobody seems to care or rebel against it. Is our use of heavy metals and pollution, messing up the human brain?

They are evil. Heavy metals, lead, and pollution make people sick, not necessarily evil.

What is the concept of "free will" and why do some people believe it does not exist?

The concept is that every person has the free right to act as they want. Some people might think it doesn’t exist because we choose to seemingly give up “free will” to follow law and order in society. However, this is still a choice of our free will to do what is right where we choose to live. We freely choose to live by societal laws, to keep a semblance of order in the society we freely choose to live. If you think you are giving up too much, you have the free will to go live somewhere else.

“Take a moment to think about the context in which your next decision will occur: You did not pick your parents or the time and place of your birth. You didn't choose your gender or most of your life experiences. You had no control, whatsoever, over your genome or the development of your brain. And, now, your brain is making choices on the basis of preferences and beliefs that have been hammered into it over a lifetime - by your genes, your physical development since the moment you were conceived, and the interactions you have had with other people, events, and ideas. Where is the freedom in this? Yes, you are free to do what you want even now. But where did your desires come from?”

-- Sam Harris

Who can take away free will?

If a person is weak-minded, anyone can manipulate away their free will.

Should being stupid like you be illegal?

Nobody wants to be as stupid as I am. The only thing I’m good for is a “sex toy” for an older woman. But, stupid people provide a balance that the universe demands. If there weren’t stupid people, how would we ever tell how intelligent everyone else is? Stupid people are a necessity, as you should know.

Is the saying "No one says goodbye unless they want to see you again" true?

Nope. I said goodbye to my ex knowing that I loved her, but I didn’t ever want to ever see her again.

Do you think, when you want to improve yourself, you should always make sure you never ever sell out? Because, if you are going to sellout, at that point should you just stay the same? Do you think we must always stay true to ourselves, no matter what?

Whether you improve yourself, or not, being a “sellout” is a cowardly game. Hold onto good ethical values, which prohibit being a sellout. If you have good, ethical values, you must stay true to yourself… no matter what. It is a choice.

Why are people more stupid today?

Bad parenting.

Why does nobody like rich people?

Not everybody dislikes rich people. Some rich people have worked to get where they are. They don’t forget they used to be the “little guy” in business. They may wear expensive clothes, but they are respectful to everyone they meet. I have met quite a few “rich people” who are the salt of the earth.

“The best way to help the poor is to help them get rich.”

-- Tamerlan Kuzgov

Is life just a bunch of ideas?

Ideas, thoughts, and actions.

Why do I always want to do things myself?

Maybe you’re a closet loner.

What are simple ways to control anger?

Don’t rise to the occasion. Find a way to be truly happy always, and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. It is a choice most of us need to make.

Why are some people not rich even though they work hard?

Poor money management… or, working hard at the wrong job.

Were smart people on this Earth once stupid?

If you ignore the savants, then, maybe. Even the savants, early on in life, didn’t know what they were capable of. So, they might have been stupid… once. 

What makes human life meaningful?

Living. If you’re dead, what’s the meaning?

“The greatest challenge in life is to be our own person and accept that being different is a blessing and not a curse. A person who knows who they are lives a simple life by eliminating from their orbit anything that does not align with his or her overriding purpose and values. A person must be selective with their time and energy because both elements of life are limited.”

-- Kilroy J. Oldster

Why do older married women not want sex?

You are hanging out with the wrong “older married women.” Not only do they want sex, but you might also learn some things about sex from them.

What do you think can bring happiness to a person?

Oral sex might do it.

Why do so many men avoid being kind?

This has not been my experience. Most men I’ve been around have been very kind and respectful. Maybe you need to find a different group of men to hang around with.

Why do humans enjoy sex while most animals do not?

We focus on enjoyment more than a desire to procreate.

How do you let someone know that they're kind of stupid?

I have no filter. Tell them, “You’re kind of stupid.” They might appreciate the honesty… they might not.

What is more important than sex in a relationship?

Honesty.

“The real things haven't changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong.”

-- Laura Ingalls Wilder

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

The Confusing Path to Salvation (Updated from 5/9/2015)

 

"Religion should unite all hearts and cause wars and disputes to vanish from the face of the earth, give birth to spirituality, and bring life and light to each heart. If religion becomes a cause of dislike, hatred and division, it were better to be without it, and to withdraw from such a religion would be a truly religious act. For it is clear that the purpose of a remedy is to cure; but if the remedy should only aggravate the complaint it had better be left alone. Any religion which is not a cause of love and unity is no religion. All the holy prophets were as doctors to the soul; they gave prescriptions for the healing of mankind; thus any remedy that causes disease does not come from the great and supreme Physician."

-- ‘Abdu’l-Bahá (1844-1921)

What religion do you ascribe to your "belief set"?  What makes your choice more right than another's?  All Christian sects believe their way is the right way. So, what makes one more right than another?

  

Religion and spirituality is a matter of deep personal choice.  What are the chances that you can choose poorly?  Well, did the victims of Jim Jones and his People's Temple choose poorly?  I think so; after all, the followers all died and Jones shot himself in the head like the true coward he turned out to be.  But, choosing poorly is not necessarily the end-all to salvation.  The congregation of the People's Temple didn't lack faith in God; they were simply showing extremely weak personalities and poor judgment to follow an insane, suicidal, sociopath.  I'm fairly certain most of them found the salvation Jones promised.  I'm equally certain, that if there is truly divine justice, Jones is roasting in hell for his wanton slaughter of innocence.  

Why would I possibly think these 909 men, women, and children found salvation?  

"…that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved; for with the heart a person believes, resulting in righteousness, and with the mouth he confesses, resulting in salvation. For the Scripture says, "WHOEVER BELIEVES IN HIM WILL NOT BE DISAPPOINTED."

-- Romans 10:9-11

Romans 10:9-11 (above) would seem to be a "get out of jail free card" for the weak and stupid.  Does it mean that you can do whatever you want and you will be righteous in the end?  I don't think so.  I think what it means is, as in the case of the People's Temple congregation, if you believe in your heart and mind you are doing right by the Lord, there will be special dispensation from God for those who truly believe.  Matt Slick, President and Founder of the Christian Apologetics and Research Ministry, defines it this way: 

"Two words are worth introducing here: ascentia and fiducia. Ascentia is the mental assent--the mental acknowledgment of something's existence. The demons acknowledge and believe that God exists. Fiducia is more than mental acknowledgment. It involves a trust in something--a giving over to it, a complete believing and acceptance of something. This is the kind of faith that a Christian has in Christ. A Christian, therefore, has fiducia; that is, he has real faith and trust in Christ and not simply an acknowledgment that He lived on earth at one time. Another way to put this is that there are many people in the world who believed that Jesus lived: ascentia. But they do not believe that He is their savior, the one to whom they should look and trust for the forgiveness of their sins. 

Ascentia does not lead to works. Fiducia does. Ascentia is not of the heart. Fiducia is."

As Abdu'l-Baha stated, "If religion becomes a cause of dislike, hatred, and division, it were better to be without it, and to withdraw from such a religion would be a truly religious act."  It seems to me as if most of today's religions would be best withdrawn from for the sake of our own salvation.  As a matter of fact, I have constantly proffered the thought that Christianity went south when Christ put His faith in a man with personal agendas, Simon Peter, and Islam followed suit when Muhammad's family split the faith into what would ultimately become two factions, vastly diverse in their interpretation of the Qur'an.

Since its inception, Christianity has been splitting into various factions of its own for the same reason - interpretation.  "All the holy prophets were as doctors to the soul; they gave prescriptions for the healing of mankind; thus any remedy that causes disease does not come from the great and supreme Physician."  Pardon my bluntness, and with all respect to religious "leaders"... No shit.  Is it really so hard to understand?  It must be... if the major religions of the world keep missing the damned target.

Maybe the real problem here is religion itself.  "For it is clear that the purpose of a remedy is to cure; but if the remedy should only aggravate the complaint it had better be left alone. Any religion which is not a cause of love and unity is no religion."  Perhaps it would be best if we stopped interpreting and reinterpreting the holy scriptures of our religions.  Perhaps we would all realize special dispensation if we simply concentrated on the cure; if we came together in the "cause of love and unity... unite all hearts and cause wars and disputes to vanish from the face of the earth, give birth to spirituality, and bring life and light to each heart."  Have you ever thought that maybe the path to God is not as convoluted as our religious leaders would have us believe?  The road signs seem pretty straightforward, as they should.  

God has made the route to the kingdom easy to follow, the "great deceiver" continues to move and change the guideposts.  Mistakes will be made; we are only human, after all.  God, the omnipotent, understands this more than we do.  When it comes to our own salvation we are truly, as my uncle might say, like pigs staring at a wristwatch; we don't seem to have a clue.  But if we are trying, if we truly believe in Christ and God, if we have fiducia, the "real faith and trust in Christ and not simply an acknowledgment that He lived on earth at one time," the road to heaven will never be closed.

But, what of those that don't have fiducia?  What if they are agnostic, atheist, Wicca, Buddhist, and the like?  What if they only have ascentia?  Well, it certainly doesn't make them demons.  If they have no doubt, in their heart, that what they believe is true, I guess I'd have faith in some dispensation for doing good works in life.  

I believe as my mother did:  We all know what evil is, so don't buy into it; do good deeds in the world.  We all know what is right and wrong, so always do right.  We all know what is moral and immoral, so always be moral.  Be humble and honest, loving and understanding, firm and fair.  Teach, mentor, and lead by example.  Be a beacon of light in the darkness and that very light may show you the way home.  

Again, we must have faith that the path to heaven is never closed.  More difficult for some, and perhaps a bit longer, but it will be there... always!

“God did not force Salvation on humanity; He made it a gift dependent on the free will of the recipient because He is not interested in numbers. Mega Churches are numbers. Matthew 7:13-14.”

-- Felix Wantang

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com