Questioning Weapons, Self, Shoes, Revenge, and Quotes

“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”

-- Albert Einstein

Why should I learn from other people's mistakes?

You don’t have to. You can make the same mistakes and learn from your own pain. If you learn from other’s mistakes, it may save you a bit of grief. But, if you’d like to have the same robust experience, knock yourself out. People around you will be wondering why you didn’t learn from the other tool.

What does it mean when a guy says you dress modestly?

You don’t show enough leg or cleavage, for his taste.

Why can't men take ‘no’ as an answer?

Plenty of men can take no for an answer… if you put it in context. “No! It’s infected!” Or, “No! That’s not lemonade!” Or, “No! I’ll call the cops! I’m serious.” It isn't that "no" doesn’t mean much to men, but we would like to have it in context. It helps explain why don’t want us to do something. Remember, we’re the thick bricks that touched the oven when Dad told us not to… and got burned. I didn’t, but my son learned several painful lessons by not listening to me, and I learned lessons about the importance of "context."

How do you deal with unintended consequences?

“Oops! Sorry about that. My bad.”  

How do I ask my boss to give me more tasks?

Advise your boss that you think they are “underutilizing you” in your position. Your boss will ask what you mean. This is your opportunity to ask for more tasks to fill “dead” time.

Is it okay to be two types of Christian at the same time?

There is only one type of Christian. There are many denominations, but they are all Christian. I attended Methodist service with my Mother and attended Catholic Mass with my Dad. I was invited to a Baptist service when I was in Sicily, and they knew I was non-denominational. Does it really matter? Because it doesn’t seem to matter to the people I’ve met.

"God has not called you to "fit in."

-- 1 Peter 2:9

What could be causing my boyfriend's recent distant behavior towards me?

Uh, oh. Someone might be tasting forbidden fruit. Maybe not, but, at this point, you really don’t know. I always work my way up from the bottom. Without any evidence to the contrary, I’m bottom-feeding.

Is it weird that I don't care that I made someone feel physically sick from poop jokes?

Yeah, it shows a lack of empathy. How would you like it?

Which is better to say: 'I understand' or 'I comprehend'?

The definition notwithstanding, I see it this way: “I comprehend what you’re saying, but I don’t understand why you feel this way.” In the same way, you can comprehend the problem, but you may not understand why the problem persists.

Do you believe "common sense" still exists?

Oh, hell no. Good sense has replaced it because common sense isn’t that common.

What are some ways to prevent unintended consequences?

Think it through before you act, and always act honestly and ethically. The consequences, then, may not be honest or ethical.

What are the consequences of faking your knowledge?

You will be caught, sooner or later. Probably sooner.

“False knowledge is worse than ignorance.”

-- Lailah Gifty Akita

Should America ban military-style assault weapons?

Not in today’s world. I’m ex-military, live in a “Stand Your Ground” state, and conceal carry. Nuff said.

I think so far you are sexy. Can I make you feel it?

Too late. 

Why does Western media not tell the truth for everyone?

Western media answers to the money that pays them to report what they are assigned. There is only one Western media outlet that continuously reports the truth.

What are you most afraid of, and why?

Dying alone. It scares the crap out of me. I want to be around people when I cross over.

I am too honest and I don't know when or how to lie in a situation. How badly can this turn out for me?

You should never lie in any situation. It may turn out badly, but you will have held to your righteous values. You need to develop a good, moral, code of ethics that you can stand by unto death, if need be. This is how you will be seen by those around you, and how you will be remembered. Hold your head up high, and do what is right.

What does it mean when a guy says he can't wait for his girlfriend to come over and hug him?

He has wood.

“The world is little, people are little, human life is little. There is only one big thing — desire.”

-- Willa Cather

How are we able to think about "self" when we want to?

Because we have free will, regardless of who is in charge, we have free will. No one can prevent you from thinking about yourself when you desire to do so.

How can I tell if my girlfriend is having sex with someone else?

Have you been diagnosed with an STD?

What does it mean when someone says, "It's hard being an artist."?

They mean it’s hard to make a living as an artist. Being an artist is pretty easy if you have the talent, But, making a living doing it, well, they don’t call them “starving artists” because they eat too much. I have sold art overseas, and I can say it was a one-time sale. It is a tough crowd.

What is the difference between "I've lost" and "I have lost"?

“I’ve” is the shortened “I have.” No difference.

Can asking too many "why" questions be perceived as rude and annoying by others?

It isn’t as much “rude” as it is annoying. Besides the fact it makes you look ignorant. It might be better to ask a good friend in private, so you don’t give people something else to gossip about.

What does my guy mean when he says he needs some time?

You need to be looking for another main squeeze, as well.

“Oh, it was meant to be. It just wasn't meant to last.”

-- Kate McGahan

 Is it okay to wear your own shoes on a plane?

I would hate to put on someone else’s shoes. You can lose toes that way.

How should I react when my boyfriend calls me names just like my ex-husband did, and he knows that that's a trigger for me?

Leave him. He is all about playing games when you seem to not like those games. If he likes to pull you trigger, it’s time to fire the gun. Leave him and find someone who will respect you.

Reader comment: If your boyfriend calls you names, especially when he knows it's a trigger for you, it's essential to address this issue. Communicate your feelings and concerns calmly and assertively. Let him know how it affects you emotionally and ask for a change in his behavior. If he continues to disrespect your boundaries, it may be necessary to reconsider the relationship. Your emotional well-being should always be a priority.

My reply:  Better answer.

How important is it for people who care about each other to be honest with each other?

Absolutely necessary.

Can you explain God's infinite nature (omnipotence, omniscience)?

No one can. Oh, they can give you their thoughts on it, but nobody has met God, so how can they explain God? God will remain a mystery to those who have not come to accept God. God is what He is. Like he says in scripture, “I am.” 

If a boy calls you pretty when you’re a guy, is he trying to hit on you?

Maybe. He might just being honest. Better to ask him.

“Sex and "sexual orientation" are being shoved at kids everywhere. It was not this way in past decades, and I believe this is another cause of more stress in kids.”

-- Linda Harvey

Why have I not gotten revenge on my bullies in school?

Probably because you’re not a bully. Bullies in school are to be pitied, not bullied. If you didn’t stand up for yourself, you didn’t get the ass whipping that would have entailed. I know this from experience. If they haven’t got a clue yet, they have probably smoked themselves to death. Karma will take care of any issues you think you left on your plate. 

Are deductive rules within models such that they either conserve the axioms, project to a subset of axioms, or extend the axioms when used?

Probably.

As atheists, how would you define our relationship with god?

Let’s go through this one more time. Atheists do not believe in God. If they don’t believe in God, how in God’s name can they define a relationship with God? If a man hasn’t been to bed with a woman, why would you ask him what it’s like? It makes no sense.

What is the reason we perceive time as passing?

Here I forgot all about it, But, no. You had to bring it up.

Is it offensive to call someone a retard, dumbass, and/or idiot? What are the implications of using these words?

You are judging them. As such, what you say says more about you than them. However, I’m a self-admitted hypocrite. I call a spade a spade because I have no filter. If you act like a retard, dumbass, and/or an idiot, I call you one. It is what I do. 

"If A, then B." What is the word that means A?

This. If this, then that.

“In case of dissension, never dare to judge till you've heard the other side.”

-- Euripides

Do you have a favorite inspirational quote from a doctor?

From my proctologist, “This is just my finger, relax.”

Why does determination appear to be arrogant?

Arrogance is “an attitude of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner or in presumptuous claims or assumptions.” It would be hard to see “determination” as being arrogant unless they are arrogant to begin with.

What does the saying "Silence has no sound" mean?

It means that silence has no sound. Is this another one of those trick questions?

Are honest, sincere, and hardworking people not required in today’s world?

Socialists would try to make you think so, but wait until they’re in charge. You’ll be working your ass off. Better you get a clue and start being an “honest, sincere, and hardworking” person, that pays attention to indoctrination from the left.

What does it mean if someone says "I have cancer"?

Their longevity clock has sped up.

Why do we love to suffer?

I do not love to suffer. A person who loves to suffer needs to meet my ex-wife. Who comes up with this drivel, and then makes people believe it?

Author's comment: I mean, in a stoic way, suffering for the Honor of the tribe.

My reply:  If I have to expect to suffer for the “honor” of the tribe, then the tribe needs to rethink its paradigm. Heroes don't suffer, they give it all for Mom, Suzi, and apple pie.

“To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore, to love is to suffer; not to love is to suffer; to suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be happy one must love or love to suffer or suffer from too much happiness.”

-- Woody Allen

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Morphing to a Better State of Being (Updated from 10/20/2014)

 

As an introduction to this post, I offer up a short note from an avid reader:

"Good beautiful Sunday morning Tony!  As I leave Bob to sleep a little more, I am having my coffee, reading The Path, writing, and realizing that being happy is really a choice, a state of mind that we can choose to be in when we open our eyes every day.  Feeling loved is a most amazing feeling!

You mentioned the word "morph" in today’s "sermon" and, yes, The Path is MY sermon, so there.  People always say that people don't change, but we do. Maybe "morph" is a better word than change. People grow. We are capable of changing ways, habits, and beliefs. Understanding is important, but acceptance is the key to tolerance.  Only when we accept that we are "different, yet all the same," maybe then we can be tolerant." 

The fact my friend finds "The Path" worthy of consideration, humbles me.  She humbles me often, as I stand as witness to the hand life deals her.  I have watched, and listened, while my friend has journeyed down the latest fork in her path.  She has encountered some bumps and bruises, and she has initiated change to simplify her life and solve issues.  She has sold her house, changed jobs, and she has discovered a "work in progress"... her significant other.  

What she speaks, in her message to me, she has learned in the school of hard knocks.  She doesn't seem to act humble, but she will, probably, be the first to deny that she actually knows as much about life as she does.  What has helped her along her path?  She reads and listens.  She debates and is able to admit her errors.  She goes it alone, and yet, she is able to ask for guidance.  She has found the best use of the internet - finding sites and motivational speakers that offer her positive ideas and reinforcement on living life and dealing with roadblocks and issues life throws in front of her.  But, is she right in what she says about change?

I'm going to share someone's words, from my own life.  These are words of wisdom that have guided me since I was a young airman.  He is gone now, a tragic loss to mankind.  I stumbled upon Leo Buscaglia on a television special, probably PBS, when I was in my early twenties.  He was discussing love, happiness, and relationships.  I found myself laughing, and then crying, grabbing for the tissue box because I could stop the emotional rollercoaster, the "truth" I found in the words he spoke.  If I could name one person in this world who has had the greatest effect on who I have become, other than my parents, it would certainly be Leo Buscaglia.  

He appeals to the very young and old, alike.  His love is boundless.  He was not an ordained minister, and one would wonder why not, yet, listening to him, we realize he is, and always shall be, a "minister of life" to those who care to listen.

I want to share with you a link to a short video of him.  Along the right side of this video site, you will find many more clips to choose from.  Please take the time to come back and watch those clips as well.  Bookmark the site, and purchase his books.  He is worth having in your life.  Even though he is no longer with us, he has left us a legacy of information, understanding, and love, that can change our world: Leo Buscaglia: "The Time Is Now".

Leo taught me about change, this sense of morphing from what we are into what we are supposed to become; caterpillar to chrysalis, to butterfly.  Crap to fertilizer, for seeds yet to grow; change is the only true constant in the universe, and creation is the one true miracle.  I forgot his words during the years I watched my marriage dissolve, as I was fighting the losing battle, trying to hold it all together.  I was so much better than that, and I had so much more to offer to so many others.  Why do we fight battles against those we love, when they don't love us?  Because we're selfish, or, because we care.  Maybe, because we're afraid... to let go.  

Change is inevitable, so why fight it? 

"I believe that you control your destiny... that you can be what you want to be. You can also stop and say, 'No I won't do it. I won't behave this way anymore. I'm lonely and I need people around me, maybe I have to change my methods of behaving,' and then you do it. 

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.

Your talent is God's gift to you. What you do with it is your gift back to God.

-- Leo Bucaglia (1924-1998)

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

The Congregation for Religious Tolerance (Updated from 10/17/2014)

 

Note to my readers:  The page views for this particular post have gone through the roof, from the first year's count.  Most of this interest has come from overseas, primarily in the European theater.  France, Ukraine, Turkey, and Romania account for the majority of the interest. 

Why the sudden interest in the Congregation?  It might be due to world events, as people struggle with tolerance.  It's hard to not blame many for the acts of the few, especially when the "few" number in the thousands.  But, then, Germany was just a small country, run by fewer Nazis, and they almost took over half of the world and the Island of Japan almost took over the other half.   

The reasons are not as important as the fact that someone is searching for answers.  To this end, I felt it was prudent to bring this post back to the forefront.  I will continue to update it from time to time and put it closer to the top of the growing list of posts.

I contemplated the Congregation for Religious Tolerance as I was writing what was to become my first post, "My View: Religious Tolerance." I felt my reasons for a "congregation" were sound then, and feedback tells me my reasons are still sound, now.  As the blog approaches over two million views, I've had few "comments," but e-mails and conversations have been positive over the years, and I have humbly accepted thanks from several people for guiding them forward in their own beliefs.  I always say we do what we can with what God has provided.

This is, and probably will always remain, a work in progress, as is evidenced by this third update of the original posting from June 14, 2013.  I am a firm believer in a statement by Heraclitus, a Greek philosopher, 500 years before the birth of Christ, "The only thing that is constant is change."  I welcome any and all constructive comments and criticisms that might better the end product, whatever this product morphs into.

Why a "Congregation," and not a church?  I feel the meaning of "church" has been corrupted from the meaning Jesus originally gave to it (He mentions the word only twice in His teachings, I believe), and even though religious scholars say they understand it does not refer to a building, well... ask yourself, where is your church located?  Matthew 18:20 tells us, "For where two or three are assembled in my name, there I am in the midst of them."  A "church" is defined as a congregation, not a building.  And the church Jesus spoke of was to be built on the solid "rock" of Peter, as is described in Matthew 16:18.

"And I also say to you that you are Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church; and the gates of Hades will not overpower it."

-- Matthew 16:18

There are no "members" in this Congregation.  In all humility, I say, If you follow my posts you are already a part of something greater than yourself, and I feel this may be an odd concept for many of you.  You are a member of a species that has an insatiable appetite for something more, yet we know not what or, more importantly, why.  

The moment you question your long-lived system of belief, you become one of a multitude that is raging at the machine of organized religion, for their seeming greed, conflicting beliefs, hypocrisy, and especially because of the fear of God they intentionally instill in us.  They do this by using the Bible as a weapon, and if you believe this "sacred scripture" was written by fallible men with probable agendas, collected into one book by other fallible men with probable agendas, and used with great effect to rule the Christian Church by yet other men with obvious agendas, then yes, it is a weapon.  It is a weapon historically used to ensure servitude and healthy "tithing" to support a physical "church" and, more specifically, to support the egotistical leaders of organized religions.  

But, what of the sweet love, understanding, and forgiveness that was Jesus Christ?  What of the loving Father?  Questions, questions...  

I'd like you to "follow" this blog, but do not be a follower; be critical, but, with an open mind; be a mentor, but do not lecture; teach only if asked; always share, and gently guide others onto their own path, assisting them in order to smooth the surface and remove obstacles blocking their way.  And, for heaven's sake, have an opinion!  I believe that God helps those who help themselves.  You cannot put someone on their path, but you can help them define it.  The rest is in their hands.  They can stand on a street corner with a sign asking for money, or they can take a helping hand and pull themselves up.  You can't save the poor from their lot, only they can do that... if they really want to.

And, as for standing behind a pulpit, I'd much rather sit and talk.  Well, okay... maybe I get on the occasional soap box.  I return to Matthew, as I think he states it best in 23:8-12.

"But do not be called Teacher (Rabbi); for One is your Teacher, and you are all brothers. Do not call anyone on earth your father; for One is your Father, He who is in heaven. Do not be called leaders; for One is your Leader, that is, Messiah. But the greatest among you shall be your servant. Whoever exalts himself shall be humbled; and whoever humbles himself shall be exalted."

-- Matthew 23:8-12

I quote the Bible often, even though I have issues with the Good Book, and I go into those issues further in many of my posts.  But I think the lessons, and the message the Bible offers, create a good, solid foundation for laws and morality.  Does this detract from other "religious" texts?  Absolutely not.  Most religious texts seem to have the same general moral, and spiritual, philosophical belief systems.  I struggle to understand this: Why do we go to war and kill each other?  This, for me, is a mystery answered by understanding man's greed and pride.

Below, I have listed the Congregation fundamentals.  I have kept it simple with two easy paragraphs and a few quotes:

Mission Statement:

The Congregation for Religious Tolerance promotes the idea of religious and spiritual tolerance through education, understanding, fairness and compassion, conversation and debate, while allowing everyone to peacefully follow their own spiritual beliefs without oppression or discrimination.

Philosophy:

1.   Tolerance may not necessarily extend beyond religious beliefs to include some religious  actions -- particularly those that harm or harass others. 

2.   Religious tolerance is a fundamental right in a democracy.

3.   It is incumbent upon all of us, at the end of the day, to protect those that cannot protect themselves and to stand up for the peaceful rights of others.

Quotes:

I use quotes throughout my posts.  I find the thought processes of others fascinating, especially those of the classic philosophers and statesmen whose ideas are as valid today as they were before the birth of Christ.  I will also be quoting Master Yoda, Winnie the Pooh, and Star Trek as I tend to think new ideas can be found in the most unlikely of places and tend to bring their own brand of "revelations" to our ever-changing world.

"Tolerance is the posture and cordial effort to understand another's beliefs, practices, and habits without, necessarily, sharing or accepting them."

-- Joshua Liebman

"The more people come together, the more borders will be opened and people and opinions get together, the more un-renounceable tolerance will be a fundamental part of our social life. Without tolerance, there is no religious liberty, no freedom of conscience, and no freedom of thought."

-- Dr. Thomas Klestil

"Those who see the variety and not the unity wander on from death to death."

-- Upanishads

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Love, Punishment, Dignity, Knowing, and Cold

 

"Some people say my love is like chalk,

that I can write it on

and erase it whenever I choose.

Well, they're wrong.

I use Crayons."

-- F.A. Villari

Can love fade away from someone's heart or mind permanently?

Only if you’re an asshole that really doesn’t care. For most of us, love sticks to you like a bad memory. I was in a loveless marriage for 25 years, loveless on her part. She gave me two great kids. 25 years later she ripped my heart out. I still love her and have no reason why. Some of us can’t just flip a switch, and be done with it.

What are some examples of power and high status?

It’s supposed to be the President of the United States. But, corruption and senility seem to be the new rules.

Why do people on Quora love to make the OP feel worthless, to degrade and denounce them collectively, like a swarm of mosquitoes, all for asking a simple question?

If you don’t know what to look for, you stumble into the League of the Perpetually Offended. They hang out here a lot. Arguments and discussions are off the table for them, they simply don’t care. They prefer to be offended… perpetually. You will know them when you answer a question. They, almost immediately, bring the discussion down to the level of cursing. 

Do you ever respond aloud to a question someone asks you in an imaginary conversation going on in your head?

Yes, and I feel like an idiot.

How can we help others without anyone even knowing about it? Is it different?

Selflessness. You don’t need the shirt with a logo on it, or any free crap. Just give cash to charity, no checks. You can feed the hungry and be the breeze that no one notices. Yes, it is different.

Can someone who has a girlfriend or boyfriend who cheats, lies, or doesn’t care about them, also love someone else deeply and truly?

Yes! They have to find the special one that will love them deeply and truly.

“Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream for love…but don’t put your life on hold waiting for love.”

-- Mandy Hale

How do I punish my enemies?

Beat them into submission so badly that they are erased from the genetic memory.

Is it possible to change one's belief system without others thinking he's crazy?

If they have cogent reasons for the change, no one should have questions. But, their belief system is theirs, not the others. They shouldn’t fall into the trap of other people’s approval of their life decisions. He may be crazy, but it is his life in which to be crazy.

What happens when the church is hypocritical?

What do you mean by “when”? When are they not? Hypocrisy was the primary reason I left "organized" religion.

How does one forgive when he is dead?

If he hasn’t written the apology in their Last Will and Testament, then, it’s too late.

In conversations, if you agree with everything, you come across as wishy-washy, whilst if you disagree with everything you come across as confrontational and no fun. How do you maintain a good balance between agreeing and disagreeing?

For one thing, if you agree with everything, you are agreeable. “Wishy-washy” is when you are agreeable, then, you are disagreeable on the same topic. You can’t make up your mind. You don’t have to maintain a good balance. If you disagree, disagree. If you agree, then agree. There are no rules you have to follow to be liked. Speak your mind, but you don’t have to be an ass when doing it.

What is it called when a villain thinks they are a hero?

Confused without a clue.

“In our time mass or collective production has entered our economics, our politics, even our religion, so that some nations have substituted the idea collective for the idea God. This in my time is the danger. There is great tension in the world, tension toward a breaking point, and men are unhappy and confused. At such a time it seems natural and good to me to ask myself these questions. What do I believe in? What must I fight for and what must I fight against?”

-- John Steinbeck

What is self-respect and dignity?

Well, by definition, you have “pride and confidence in yourself; a feeling that you are behaving with honor and dignity.” So, by definition, if you have self-respect you are behaving with dignity. Can’t be much simpler than that.

Can AI learn creativity from human beings?

If human beings add “creativity” to the program, then, yes.

Which elements of regret are positive, and which are negative?

Regret is always negative, even when it’s positive. You can regret that you needed to terminate the employment of someone, but it was for the good of the company. It doesn’t make you feel any better, but the company will appreciate it.

What is a boundary in a polyamorous relationship?

Consent. There must be mutual consent from all people in the relationship.

What is a premise in logic?

It really doesn’t differ due to using it in logic. “A previous statement or proposition from which another is inferred or follows as a conclusion.” Because this is true, then that is also true. The premise, however, can be wrong. It can be true, but it has nothing to do with the outcome. In this case, logic is flawed.

Can God give us anything we can't handle?

Yes. The “Garden of Eden” is a prime example.

"Adam was not alone in the Garden of Eden, however, and does not deserve all the credit; much is due to Eve, the first woman, and Satan, the first consultant."

-- Mark Twain

Can you tell me something you don't want to know?

If I can tell you, then I must know it.

How do you avoid getting personal in an online argument/debate?

Don’t get into arguments or debates with anyone who is a member of the League of the Perpetually Offended. These people will try their damnedest to make it personal. Better to just bow out and let them stew in their own bullshit.

Is there an addiction to control?

They’re called control freaks. On the other end of the spectrum, we call them dictators.

What is a counter-argument to an atheist's claim that "atheists don't believe in anything"?

By definition, an “atheist” has no belief in a deity. What else they don’t believe in is up to the individual, but not believing in a deity is what makes them an atheist.

Is Christianity platonism for the masses?

Any “religious” belief, for which there is little or no proof, might be considered Platonism.

Why do I feel bad after being out and trying to seek male validation?

You are seeking validation from others which is contrary to self-respect. If you have “self-respect” you are validating yourself. Stop relying on others to validate you.

“What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others.”

-- Confucius

 What does it mean when someone says "I'm not cold"?

They are comfortable, or warm. Or, they don't think they're a stone-cold bitch. 

Why are people following Trump so stupid?

Who voted for Biden?

What are the substitutes for religion and faith in one’s life?

Facts and reality. This doesn’t mean there is no faith in religion, but faith is a belief in something for which there is little or no proof. And, does this mean our faith is misplaced? No. It simply means there is no proof to back it up, one way or the other. This is the entire reason we have faith. 

Who said "the universe is a lonely place"?

Someone who doesn’t believe in aliens.

Why do humans feel each individual is a "single entity" when science tells us it is more probable that we are one entity divided by a cloud of unknowing?

Science has been wrong more times than it should have been. It makes a premise that, down the road, people prove to be idiotic. A “cloud of unknowing” pretty much defines science at the starting line. Let’s see where this statement ends up. 

Do atheists feel any desire for a "higher power" or anything like that?

No.

“Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality. When we recognize our place in an immensity of light‐years and in the passage of ages, when we grasp the intricacy, beauty, and subtlety of life, then that soaring feeling, that sense of elation and humility combined, is surely spiritual. So are our emotions in the presence of great art or music or literature, or acts of exemplary selfless courage such as those of Mohandas Gandhi or Martin Luther King, Jr. The notion that science and spirituality are somehow mutually exclusive does a disservice to both.”

-- Carl Sagan 

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

 

Questioning Lies, Lots of God, Cheating, and Loyalty

 

“Above all, don't lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.”

-- Fyodor Dostoevsky

I made up a stupid lie, what do I do?

Walk it back. Admit it was bullshit and don’t do it again. Let this be your lesson in humility.

Why am I too cowardly to end it all?

It is a tough call when you consider there is no going back. Death, for this existence, is permanent. If you commit suicide, why would God waste another life on you, if you couldn’t handle this one? Better to redefine “coward” to “good sense” and work to make this life better.

How do we learn anything fast?

Fail. Failing is the best way we learn. If you don’t want to fail again, and again, you will learn the lesson fast.

What is the best way to deal with someone who lies about everything, both big and small things? How can you tell if they are lying or telling the truth?

Assume they’re lying. They lie about everything, right? So, the assumption is valid.

Why did God give us so much potential, but not all of it?

It is up to each of us to be what we want to be. If He gave us all of it, where would be the impetus to do anything? God gave us just enough to whet our appetite for more. It is incumbent on each of us to reach for the golden ring.

What are the consequences of lying? Can a seemingly harmless lie turn into something harmful over time? If so, how and why does it happen?

Death. You make a stupid assumption, and tell someone, “The gun is not loaded.”

“There are three types of lies -- lies, damn lies, and statistics.”

-- Benjamin Disraeli

Can atheism explain why something is wrong (morally)?

They can. Atheism is just a disbelief in a “God” figure, not in what is considered right and morally acceptable. 

What does it mean if someone says they are "pro-God"?

They are not atheists and they believe they are spiritual beings created by God?

Why are atheists so dumb?

Considering neither side has any proof for their argument, atheists can ask the same question about theists. Both sides have “faith” which is a belief in something for which there is little or no proof. 

Do atheists get intimidated when someone starts talking about God?

As much as theists, when atheists start downplaying God. Neither one has any proof.  

Can atheists logically defend atheism?

No, and neither can theists. Both have faith that they are right, Faith is a belief in something for which there is little or no proof. 

What is the Christian view on asking God for proof of his existence?

What is the atheist view of asking no one for proof of non-existence? Neither side has any proof to back up their faith.

Do atheists truly lack morals and values, or is it just a facade they use to justify their godless beliefs?

A great number of atheists have good morals and values, they just don’t believe in a “God” figure.

Can a person be an atheist and also not care if other people are religious?

Can people be religious and just leave everybody else alone? One would hope people would choose a belief and keep it to themselves. But, we will go out and start shit because we think we’re right. The problem lies in the fact that neither side, atheist or theist, can prove their argument. “Faith” is a belief in something for which there is little or no proof. Both sides have faith that they are right, yet neither side has any proof to back up their claim.

Why don’t atheists worship God just in case they’re wrong?

Because they’re atheists. Agnostics have a better chance of life after death. 

Do atheists deny God because of their ego?

They deny God because the thought doesn’t make any more sense than a theist believing there is a God. Neither side has any proof, but both sides have “faith” they are right. The problem is that “faith” is a belief in something for which there is little or no proof. Both sides of this argument come up wanting. 

"Protestantism has the method of Jesus with His secret too much left out of mind: Catholicism has His secret with His method too much left out of mind; neither has His unerring balance, His intuition, His sweet reasonableness. But both have hold of a great truth and get from it a great power.

-- Matthew Arnold (1822-1888)

  Is it likely that your boyfriend will cheat on you if he cheated on his ex?

You can’t teach an old dog new tricks. A cheater cheats.

 What does it mean if someone says, "I'm not your enemy. I'm just not on your side."?

If I’m your good friend, but I don’t agree with you, I’m not your enemy, I’m just not on your side of the discussion. Emotion might make one think I’m a traitor when, in reality, I simply think you’re wrong.

Why is everything so false?

“Everything” isn’t. But, it would seem, you have to search for the truth.

What is the psychology behind blind loyalty?

Ignorance. You are hoping that your misplaced loyalty is not wasted on an idiot, like a President. 

Are the MAGAcultists beginning to understand just how stupid their candidates "think" they are?

Biden… nuff said.

Can the mind forget something even though it was witnessed by others?

Emotional trauma can cause us to forget an incident, whether it was witnessed or not. Our mind suffers from self-induced amnesia to block the memory so we don’t have to relive it.

“Right now I’m having amnesia and déjà vu at the same time. I think I’ve forgotten this before.”

-- Steven Wright

What causes people who have been friends to suddenly turn against each other?

Having the sex of a lifetime with their friend’s partner might do it.

Do people always believe everything that a man of God says?

Not if they’re smart. These guys are a “man” of God. As a man, he has all the appetites other men have. We can just look at the roll call of evangelists, priests, and ministers, to see how the mighty have fallen. I am a minister, but I preface that with the fact that I’m a self-professed hypocrite. Do as I say, not as I do.

What is the definition of "losing one's moral compass"?

Doing things that one used to believe were bad, and still are.

How can you respond to, "Why don't you believe?" without sounding defensive?

“Why don’t I believe…” what? How can I be "defensive" if you haven't explained your question? 

At what point did believing in God become more about fear than love for some people?

When “man” started writing scripture with certain controlling agendas in mind. According to this same scripture, God stopped handing down laws when man started bastardizing them. God wrote everything we need to know across our minds and hearts. It makes one think. So, why do we have “holy” scripture, written by man?

Why do you still miss someone who hurt you?

I can’t turn my love for her off, simply because she hurt me. She is the mother of my children.

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”

-- Martin Luther King Jr.

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com