Those Who Search

 

“Mature love is like mature infinity:

there is no such thing!”

-- René Friedrich

Caroline George wrote, "You could spend your whole life searching for love with your eyes closed.” I know what she meant, but let's think about what she wrote.  If we kept our eyes closed, wouldn't we find love?  I mean, even a blind squirrel finds a nut, sooner or later.  If we truly love this person, having never seen them, isn't this better than the "judgment of beauty" we so easily abuse?

As always, I looked for an image to use as a header for my posts.  I came across a photo of a topless, 83-year-old woman, lying on a towel in her living room, head in her hands, smiling into the camera.  I assume "topless" because her significant cleavage on the towel screams it.  Her eyes and her toothy grin are all the evidence one needs to know she is having fun, and probably not the first time.  She is a woman used to having the time of her life, constantly.  Knowing nothing of her, I'll bet she dances, cooks, makes friends easily and lives life to the beat of her own drummer.  If you were blind and knew nothing about her, especially her age, would you really care how old she is?  I think she's a kick.  I'm sure I would think that, blind or not. She is 83 years of fun, looking for a last hurrah, God bless her.

Summer/winter romance has always been a topic of conversation.  It still seems to be on the minds of those I answer questions for.  They are concerned with the right or wrong of it.  This is my answer.  I've been with beautiful women, and I've also been with beautiful women.  When I couldn't find one who looked like fun or sounded like fun, I searched for the beautiful women who were hiding behind their brainpans.  Occasionally, I would hit the "trifecta" and get all three in one package.  If she looked like she could have fun, and she sounded like she would be fun, and we didn't lose each other in our discussions of religion, philosophy, or theoretical physics, I was a three-time winner.  Societal definition of "beauty" was not an issue for me.  

And, this is my point.  All women are beautiful, it's all about our dodgy definitions.  They can be shallow, or they can be deep.  Young or old, the "shell" they wear, that "body" they slip into, can be deceptive.  Don't pay too much attention to it, or you might miss out on a great relationship.  

It has been my "less than honorable" privilege to witness women of varied body types, go through the same carnal machinations, eyes rolling back in their heads, calling for the same God, begging for the same end and yet not really, and, when you've given them your all, they get their "second wind" and they will not accept "no" as an answer.  And, then, I found love... or, so I thought.  Okay, one mistake.  One twenty-five-year mistake.  I took my mind off the prize for one moment.  But, just one, and I remedied that through a divorce.  I've had great luck ever since.

Just as we should close our eyes when looking for a significant other, so should everyone when looking in the mirror.  Use the mirror to coif your mop, apply a generous slathering of makeup, and straighten your blouse and skirt.  When done, take a moment to practice that "come hither" smile.  But, recognize that everything else rests in the purview of your personality.  I advise having a great one.  Not being the best-looking guy at the dance, I can attest that a great personality makes up for a lot of aw-shits. 

So, that 83-year-old woman?  Oh, hell yeah.  We'd close the bar down.

“He's half my ex-husband's age, but twice as energetic when we have sex. And twice as grateful afterward.”

-- Barbara Taylor Bradford

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint. 

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion, in an arena of mutual respect, concerning those opinions put forth. After over twenty years with military intelligence, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience, and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with the United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and, finally, a senior manager. He spent 17 years, following his service career, working with the premier, world-renowned, Western Institutional Review Board helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As the weapon for his war on intolerance he chose the pen, and wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's own personal, spiritual, path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He currently resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

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