Questioning Yourself, Wealth, Self-Fulfillment, Older, and Rude

“Being bigheaded can be as irritating and as dangerous as being small-minded.”

-- Mokokoma Mokhonoana

What does “being full of yourself” mean?

You have the false belief that you’re much better than you really are. You think you are all that. Someone will be right along to disprove it, no doubt. Being egotistical brings the wolves out to feast on the bullshit being spread.

What is the difference between saying "No one does" and "Nobody does"?

One uses three words, while the other gets the same message across using two.

How do you convince someone to change their beliefs, thoughts, and opinions about something?

You need to present verified facts to back up your arguments. If they don’t accept verified facts, then you are wasting your time and theirs.

Why can't we see our thoughts if they exist in our minds?

You don’t?

How do you know that your thoughts are not real? How do you prove logically to yourself that they aren’t real?

I wrote two books, and both were total works of fiction. I thought of a fictional story, with fictional characters, and fictional weapon systems. These were not real. However, some of what I put in the stories were real systems, and I know this to be fact. I know the majority of my thoughts were total fiction, and I researched those areas where reality was insinuated into the stories. Logically, I prove it to myself through research. It is something I was very good at in the Intelligence field.

What can you do if your friend keeps twisting everything that you say?

This is something an asshole might do. A “friend” won’t keep doing that.

"People will always twist your words, to justify their actions."

-- Melissa Stephens

Do people think they're special just because they have money or wealth?

Yes, it is just sad that so few of them are truly happy. Money or wealth can buy many things, but it falls short of being able to purchase true happiness. Selflessness can help you find this, but you need to let go of the erroneous preconceptions of monetary happiness.

If you can strive to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances, then being wealthy will have so much more meaning to life.

What should I say when my girl asks me what my motto is?

“Be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances.” 

How can I build confidence, motivation, self-love, honesty, and morals?

Well, gee… you have the confidence to ask this question of strangers, which means you must have been motivated out of self-love. The fact you asked a question concerning what you think you are lacking shows some honesty and morality. Personally, I don’t think you need to build on anything. You simply have to use them more.

Are people who think more critically less prone to inconsistency?

More times than not. They aren’t prone to jumping to conclusions that may not be right.

Why is an individual who lacks empathy immediately seen as a horrible individual even if they attempt to use logical reasoning to help the individual suffering cope? Individuals lacking empathy may not have feelings, yet they can still try to help.

So, you asked the question, then answered it beautifully. One point, though. They have feelings, they just don’t have empathy for other’s feelings.

What is love? Explain in one line.

Try this: 

"It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up."

-- Neil Gaiman

What is an example of the statement, "each person has right to self-fulfillment, deriving his inherent capacity and toward that goal"?

I was ready for self-fulfillment by deriving my inherent capacity to become the Non-Commissioned Officer in Charge of the Wing Intelligence Division. I did this for about 8 years, and every year we made “Excellent” on the Operational Readiness Inspections, compared to the “marginal” or “satisfactory” ratings they were used to.

Let's say 100% of the people are consumers, 80% are voters, but 60% are employed. So consumer philosophies should rule the state and society. So how to increase the responsibility of consumers for state decisions and the government budget deficit?

Therein lies the rub. It is amazing we still exist as a government with the idiots we vote in.

Do people who vent more often in a day, lead healthier lives?

Maybe. But if you are truly happy always and in all things, being healthy is just part of your life. If you, on the other hand, are not always truly happy, then you might need to vent in order to get the weight, that is bothering you, off your chest.

What are your interests and passions? What do you want to be able to do with your skills?

Open a large enclosed (six-foot walls) garden meditation center, with an attached coffee, tea, and pastry shop.

"If you have to choose between being right or smart--choose being smart" Is this correct or even ethical?

Yeah, the ethics of it sticks out. So, being “smart” and being wrong is okay? I would rather be right. If I cut the red wire to the bomb and it explodes, so much for becoming smart. If I’m right, however, and cut the green wire, I can worry about becoming “smart” later.

What does "Socratic question" mean? How is a "Socratic question" different from a regular question?

Try this:

“Socratic questioning is a form of disciplined questioning that can be used to pursue thought in many directions and for many purposes, including: to explore complex ideas, to get to the truth of things, to open up issues and problems, to uncover assumptions, to analyze concepts, to distinguish what we know from what we do not know, to follow out logical consequences of thought or to control discussions.”

-- Wikipedia 

What will I be 5 years from now?

5 years older.

Has anyone's mind ever been changed by a post or argument on [this site]? Have you ever upvoted an answer you disagreed with?

Yes, and no. I have been thanked by the person who held an erroneous opinion. My explanation made sense to them. 

I have never upvoted an answer I disagreed with. This would be saying someone is right when I don’t think they are. And, if someone thinks I’m wrong, I’d like the same honest courtesy.

In your own personal way, how would you define the word "friends"?

Friends are the people you think of before yourself.

Can you share an experience where you had to make a difficult decision, and what was the outcome?

The Vice President, of the company I worked for, threw me under the bus for an important decision he made that the President of the company didn’t like. I bit my lip and let it go until we made it back to his office. My “difficult decision” was to confront him. He apologized and I told him not to ever do that to me again. We went for drinks after work.

If we can't define our own goals, what should our next move be?

According to your question, the next move would be a goal we can’t define. Now, what?

How do I take the lead? I often am a follower and so have a hard time being the leader. I always want someone to lead and help me because I don't know how to lead and help others in group projects, community service, school, etc.

Leaders rarely volunteer. Leaders are thrust into the light. They usually learn their leadership skills in the school of hard knocks. When you think you are ready, someone will choose you to be the lead and you will struggle to do justice to the title. In the back of the mind of every good leader is the fear of failure.

How do you take the lead? Volunteer, when no one else does, or help the leader to lead. There is nothing better than getting a recommendation from the leader you help.

“If you have a strong purpose in life, you don't have to be pushed. Your passion will drive you there.”

-- Roy T. Bennett

What would you say to a person who was rude about your writing?

“Stop reading my writing. It’s meant for intelligent people, not you.”

How do we know who we are without thinking?

Knowing who we are is a thought. Any stimulus we sense becomes a thought. If you aren’t thinking you are either dead… or asleep and not dreaming.

What do you really, really want?

A two-week vacation up the Mississippi River on a cruise ship.

How do we make sure that we are not outlawing certain points of view that we do not agree with?

Usually, we have “checks and balances” to help ensure the right opinion is chosen, but this doesn’t always work. Listening to all sides of a discussion and keeping an open mind can help. “Outlawing” is only appropriate when wrong and dangerous points of view are being considered as right “Outlawing” can be construed as the purview of a socialist state. It is much better to let the majority of society decide, as long as the decision is good and righteous.

What is your goal as of right now?

To get my finances under control, after my Mom’s death, before tax time.

 How can I become a great graphic designer by networking with industry professionals and seeking mentorship to expand my knowledge and opportunities?

Develop the “talent” of a graphic designer, then you can work on becoming great. Don’t put the cart before the horse.

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”

-- Mark Twain

 

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning More, Superior, Skills, Understanding, and Passion

 

“The critical issues here concern what is right, what is just -- not the balancing of benefits.”

-- Carl Cohen

If a person has benefits, do they expect more?

Yes. People are selfish, and as so, are never satisfied.

Can a person have a sense of intellectual honesty without integrity? Why or why not?

Just because a person is “honest” intellectually, doesn’t mean they can’t use their intellect for evil. If they use their intellect for evil they have no integrity. Intellectual honesty and integrity are two different things.

Do you possess a belief in love at first sight?

I possess a belief in lust at first sight. Love will come when I get to know her. Until then, lust.

What are some of the red flags in relationships where one’s expected behavior of their partner is not met?

Uh… I’d say, the biggest “red flag” would be when their partner's expected behavior does not come to fruition. If one expected behavior doesn’t show up, you can almost guarantee more expected behaviors will also go missing. Expected behaviors are like promises. Some are kept and others are broken. The best you can do is to expect nothing, this way you won’t be disappointed.

Why is life not fair sometimes?

There must be balance in the universe. 

What is the grammatical expression of the sentence "first wife"?

I suck at grammar, but this doesn’t strike me as a proper sentence. It should have a subject, predicate, object, complement, and modifier. The word “first” isn’t capitalized and there should be punctuation after “wife.” The missing punctuation prevents it from even coming up to the level of a phrase. Of course, as usual, I could be wrong.

“If you have any young friends who aspire to become writers, the second greatest favor you can do them is to present them with copies of The Elements of Style. The first greatest, of course, is to shoot them now, while they’re happy.”

-- Dorothy Parker

Why are narcissists superior to narcissists?

They just think they are. In reality, narcissists aren’t “superior” to anyone, because of their one obvious flaw. They are narcissists. 

How do you avoid miserable people?

Don’t be around them. If you bump into one, walk away.

Why do some people talk about other people but pretend to know everything about them but actually don't know anything at all?

They like to embellish their bullshit. It makes the story more believable to the gullible people listening to the lies they tell.

What does it mean when someone says, “You’re just not telling me the truth,” or “You’re just lying.”?

They’re on to you!

How does someone relate to a rich girlfriend?

I will relate to her however she wants me to. If she is that rich, “submissive” could be my middle name.

Say someone were to see one person making fun of the other and think the other person got his feelings hurt despite the lack of evidence for the belief. Would you be able to say the person witnessing it was projecting their own feelings onto them?

Probably. You are judging without evidence for your belief. It would be better for you to ask the person how they feel. Their feelings will provide the evidence needed to make an informed opinion.

“You are not entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to your informed opinion. No one is entitled to be ignorant.”

-- Harlan Ellison

 How do you tell someone that they lack skills?

“You really suck at this.” Of course, I have no filter, so what I say is pretty honest.

How can I maintain my weight after achieving my goal without exercise?

I am going through this at 70 years of age, I’ve lost about 27 pounds, so far. Buy a good scale. Try a good, balanced diet. Don’t eat “free food” and eat smaller portions three times a day. It will get easier as you see good results. You will always go up and down, but getting your diet right will help you stay in your zone, and you’ll find you won’t need to weigh every day. 

If you have to say something that will positively impact people's lives, what would it be?

“Why?”

Who is your favourite teacher and what was their name and the subject they taught? What was it about them that left a huge lifelong impression on you? Tell me! Intrigued as most people can remember that one special teacher with great fondness

Mrs. Hummle. She taught English and Drama She got me reading and dabbling in creative writing. She was patient with me. I think she understood that my “high-active” personality disorder was tamping down on my intelligence. She was right, of course. 

How does critical thinking intersect with ethics and moral reasoning?

Critical thinking is discovering what is right and true through good ethics and moral reasoning.

How to balance your work and personal life?

When I was in the military… I let the job destroy my marriage. The Intelligence field is something you can’t take home and discuss. You hold it in. I loved the job. My wife, not so much. When I retired into the civilian sector, I still held it all in… it is hard to break habits. After 25 years of hell, we got a divorce. In my mind, I was at work 24/7/365. Since then, I learned to separate work and personal life. I learned to talk about work. I learned to be truly happy in my life.

You have to balance your life. Don’t bring work home, mentally or physically. If your significant others ask what’s bothering you, talk about it. You don’t have to beat it to death, but you can talk about things. Your significant other is your partner, and you should never forget that. You have to relax, and your family expects you to relax with them.

“The speed of modern life is an oppressive thing, and the corporate world is quick to punish those with an honest heart. Qualities such as ‘nice, honest, kind, happy, relaxed, sincere, innocent’ are frowned upon as weaknesses. Yet these values are the essence of a good person. Unfortunately, if you don’t keep the balance, they can be lost like sand through your fingers.”

-- Fennel Hudson

Why do individuals say that a person who is incapable of understanding emotions is bad? If the bad try their best to understand your emotions so as to make your life more comfortable than their own, wouldn't their attempt to fit in be virtuous?

I’ve never heard anyone say this. People incapable of understanding emotions can be as good as anyone, they just don’t understand emotions. This does not make them bad.

I like your comment, but I would delete "bad" and change the comment to this: “If they try their best to understand your emotions so as to make your life more comfortable than their own, their attempt, even if they failed, would be virtuous.”

How do I stop getting all these "I'm in love" questions?

You can’t. Just ignore them. Everybody wants to be in love, and everybody has questions concerning it. It is who we are.

Why can't some individuals understand they, as a being, may not have value to other individuals? For example, I have seen rays of sunshine come through my window that have meant more to me than the life of some, why can't people understand that?

Interesting judgment. I love all things nature, but some people make it their goal to destroy what God has made. This is why we recognize “karma” as a force to even the playing field. I value all life, but those with no value for life will, sooner or later, meet karma. Some people can’t understand how you value nature more than some human life. This is their choice, and you are enjoying your choice. Freedom of choice is what makes life so interesting.

What is a good reason to ask for a character reference for court without telling someone it's for court?

If they can honestly give you a “character reference,” they don’t need to know why you need it. However, it is hard to address the court with their opinion of you, without knowing who to address. 

How can I fix this? I tell lies, because I want others to think good of me, also for attention, but, then lies cover up other lies. I regret doing this and I didn't know, till now, I do it. (Finding the root cause) how can I fix this issue?

Stop telling lies, is the best fix. Be a good person and others will think good of you. You only think you need attention, but the attention you get is based on lies, so how valid is it? Mark Twain once wrote, “If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything.” Sage advice.

What is your quote that lines up with a real-life experience?

Try this:

“It is what it is until it isn’t, then it is what it is again.” 

-- F.A. Villari

What is one thing you're passionate about that most people don't know?

Women with beautiful ankles. Wait… that’s a fetish. How about all things paranormal? Most people I know don’t know I am passionate about that. I have cases full of equipment.

What are the reasons why someone often misunderstands things?

Lack of cogent communication, a detailed explanation, and feedback. 

Is being anxious immature? Is it childish not being able to control your emotions?

Almost everybody experiences anxiety. Most of us can control our response to it. Anxiety is no more immature than feeling fear. Not being able to control your emotions might be seen as immature, depending on how out of control you can be. Those who can control their anxiety can teach those who can’t how to calm down in order to act professionally. If the building is burning, and we all run around like chickens with our heads cut off, the building will definitely burn to the ground. We are all anxious, but cool heads will save the day.

Can a person be both honest and sincere and a hypocrite?

You’ve caught me.

Is 26 years old too late to completely start your adult life over again? (Find and master a skill) What experiences have I missed out on forever by lacking in foresight for the past 8 years?

Nope. Some people are just graduating from college at 26. Everything you missed, you can experience, but you have to live life to do it.

Why do people nowadays tend to always look at the bright side of everything and try to ignore the not-so-pleasing truth or the dark side of things?

Ignoring the current American President might be one reason.

“Although ignoring or repressing our dark side is the norm, the sobering truth is that running from the shadow only intensifies its power. Denying it only leads to more pain, suffering, regret, and resignation. If we fail to take responsibility and extract the wisdom that has been hidden beneath the surface of our conscious minds, the shadow will take charge.”

-- Debbie Ford

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

 Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

 

 

Questioning Demands, Ignoring, Phrases, Bored, and Friends

"A woman can beat any man; it's difficult to imagine another kind of sport where a woman can beat a man. That's why I like chess."

-- Alexandra Kosteniuk

When should a husband say no to his wife's demands?

Unless it’s sexual or you're a submissive, always.

What does it mean when a girl gives her ring back and says she doesn't want to be engaged anymore?

You haven’t only dated the wrong girl, you also gave the ring to the wrong girl. Live and learn.

At the age of 32, are you late to get married?

Nope.

What should I do with my life? I failed out of IB and got withdrawn from my dual enrollment classes.

Come to the United States and become a teacher. From what I’ve seen, many of them must have failed and been withdrawn, then they were given a teaching certificate as the “booby” prize. 

Is saying “thank you” enough?

You can give them a tongue-searching kiss, but that might be construed as weird.

How do you prevent someone from using your identity?

If I find them, I’ll let you know. It won’t be pretty, but “revenge” will no longer be in their wheelhouse. Neither will dancing or art… unless they can paint with a brush between their lips.

“Of pain, you could wish only one thing: that it should stop. Nothing in the world was so bad as physical pain. In the face of pain, there are no heroes.”

-- George Orwell 

What do you say to someone who has ignored you and walked away?

“Well, la-te-da." Was it something I did? Something I said? Are they confused? “Hey! You just can’t ignore me and walk away. Tell me what the issue is.” Unless they are an asshole, they will turn and rip you a new one. At least you’ll know why they felt it was okay to disrespect you.

If a friend said they don't get along well with others, but enjy being around them, how would you respond?

“Later.”

What would you do if your partner was a vegetarian and said they could never date someone who eats meat?

Well, that puts a twist on sexual congress. I’d have to find someone that doesn’t have a “meat” issue.

What is your opinion on when a guy asks a girl to borrow money?

She needs to find a new guy… unless she’s paying him. Yeah, right. 

Is cheating enough reason to break up marriages?

Unless you enjoy watching, and they don’t mind. Otherwise, sooner or later, it will break the marriage. Better not to get married.

What does it mean to believe that "you're the expert" they say you are?

If you have doubts, don’t try to disarm the bomb.

“There’s one good thing about being in the bomb disposal unit: No superior officer is ever looking over your shoulder.”

-- Robert M. Edsel

Is my new catch-phrase, “Well, that’s just Woke!” a good catch-phrase?

It is short and to the point.

The person I love is poor. Will poverty and ignorance affect our love?

Only if you let it. Love conquers all. Love also raises the bar in many instances. Two working toward a common goal is better than one struggling to make it.

Is someone saying, "My conscience and empathy form the basis of my moral values." coherent/logical?

It doesn’t define if their “moral values” are good or bad.

Why do you think my friends are acting like this to me? I'm in a friend group of three. But when I make a mistake, they get mad at me. But if one of them makes a mistake, nobody gets mad at them? It feels like there's a favorite here.

These are not your friends. You have become their submissive punching bag. You will be well served to find new and better “friends” for your life. Tell them how you feel and simply walk away. They will, in all probability, ignore you. Some lessons are hard to understand if you’re a self-centered ass.

Can bad relationships turn into good ones if people change for the better?

Yes, but watch out for them changing back.

What do you need more or less of in your life?

I am in a perfect place. I live off my retirement and social security. Having more would just screw up what I have. I strive to be truly happy, always and in all things, regardless of my circumstances. It would be hard to be truly happy with more when I am ecstatically happy with what I have.

“Work for what you want, the pursuit of life.”

-- Lailah Gifty Akita

How long can you stay in one company without getting bored?

I retired from the Air Force and a private company, and neither of them let me get bored.

Why do I, a 54 y/o man, want a woman in her 20's?

Why do I, a 70-year-old man, love wanting women in their 20s? The big problem, for me, is women in their 20s wanting a 70-year-old man. Women in their 20s make old guys feel young again, even if they just hang out together. There is no problem with that.

Can people even tell when they’re acting jealous?

Jealousy is a knee-jerk reaction. I think, people can tell, after the fact, they acted out of jealousy.

How do you solve a problem with a team member as a team leader?

What you don’t want to do is confront them in front of the rest of the team. Take them off to the side, explain the problem, and hear their side. They may not know there is a problem. Let them know they are jeopardizing the performance of the team. Let them know what they need to do in order to continue as a team member. If this isn’t acceptable, let them go.

How do you feel about your partner's dating history?

She has been, for the most part, pretty smart. 

What are ten ways to live?

Be selfless, be kind, be generous, be understanding, be open-minded, work hard, gather knowledge, spread wisdom, and love.  Above all, be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances.

“Moderation is a wiser policy than zealotry”

-- Christopher Paolini

What does it mean when a girl I only talked to once calls me best friend?

She either likes you or doesn’t have any friends.

Every time my boyfriend and I fight, he always calls me a whore and stupid. What should I do?

If he calls you a “whore” and “stupid” he is being disrespectful. It seems pretty obvious he enjoys being with stupid whores. If you don’t feel that you’re a “stupid whore” you might consider your options. Personally, calling you a stupid whore seems a bit disrespectful.

Can someone be successful without making any decisions?

Nope.

What is the saying "if something seems too good to be true, it probably isn't true" mean? How can we tell if something is true or false in any situation?

It means exactly what it says. Telling if something is true or false is a crap shoot without validating information. Mass media, for instance, hope you won’t be validating the “facts” they spew so you’ll believe the lies they keep repeating. We all need to validate the crap we get from media and other sources. We need to try not to be lambs led to the slaughter.

What should I get a 25-year-old girl for Christmas?

A vibrator.

What role does trust play in your marriage, and has it been compromised?

Trust is paramount in a marriage. After 25 years of marriage, I couldn’t take the lies and games anymore. She compromised me at every turn, and I became what I hated most. You have to be friends, you need to stay in love, and above all else, you need to have trust.

“So it's not gonna be easy. It's going to be really hard; we're gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me... everyday.”

-- Nicholas Sparks

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Our Best Friends

 

“Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened.”

-- Anatole France

I love cats.  I love the independence of cats.  Before he passed, Shadow would lie on my keyboard while I was trying to type, because I was doing something that diverted my attention from him.  But, cats are different from most of our companions. Cats only need us when they really need us, and we'd better be there.  There is a special place in hell for people who treat the best of us poorly.  Our pets are the best of us.

My son, when he was young, was walking a few houses down when he put his hand through the picket fence to pet a German shepherd.  The dog lunged and he drew his hand back just in time.  He was pissed at the dog.  I told him the dog was not the problem.  Dumbass kids that stick their hands where they shouldn't be are the problem.  The owner was concerned, but I told him the ass chewing was over and there was no harm. He was afraid I was going to sue.  For my son's stupidity? He put chicken wire across the fence fronting the sidewalk.  A good move on his part.

Until you know an animal, they are an unknown quantity.  They can do anything, even if you know them.  Animas, for the most part, live for the "knee-jerk" reaction.  My own dogs would jump to bite me, only to put my hand in their mouth before realizing it was me.  My hand was in their mouth and their eyes were locked on mine.  They would spit my hand out and start licking it, like that was what they were trying to do in the first place.  Not.  Cats, on the other hand (no pun), would just finish the lesson.  The only thing they care about is that you watch where you put that hand in the future. Understood.

Shadow was six when he passed.  He was feral when he "volunteered" to live with us, and the vet said the likely cause was heartworm.  He bit me twice, to the bone, when he first came to us. But he and I came to an understanding; you don't bite me and I won't punch you in the head.  It seemed to work.

There isn't a day that I don't miss my good friend.  I miss his 18 pounds of flesh on my chest, especially when he put all of his weight on the front legs. I would move him off of me and massage the two piledriver dents in my chest. Shadow was a good kitty.  I hope he passed on to a good life.

Our pets are with us, for the most part, because they bring us joy.  If they don't like us, they find a way to leave.  It is only forced servitude in our minds, not in theirs.  We have a different relationship, a give-and-take, with dogs and many other animals.  Cats, regardless of what we think, do what they want. Horses just want my apple... or my carrot.  I've never understood horses, but I know a young lady who does.  She loves all animals.

“Our perfect companions never have fewer than four feet.”

-- Colette

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Proof of God (Updated from 10/3/14)

 

“I believe in everything until it's disproved. So I believe in fairies, the myths, dragons, it all exists, even if it's in your mind. Who's to say that dreams and nightmares aren't as real as the here and now?”

-- John Lennon

I think most of us can agree that God doesn't look like Michelangelo's depiction on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel. As a matter of fact, I remember someone telling me if you actually saw God you would go blind, and if you heard God you would go deaf, so tremendous is the presence of the Almighty. So, if we can't describe "God" without going blind, deaf, and insane, how do we prove the existence of God?

Well, supposedly in God's own words (Revelation 1:8): 

"I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the ending, saith the Lord, which is, and which was, and which is to come, the Almighty." 

What else, do we theorize, was in existence at the beginning and will be here in the end? I would guess, energy.  But, who am I to venture a guess?

When Moses asked God how to describe Him, God responded (Revelation 3:13-14): 

Moses said to God, "Suppose I go to the Israelites and say to them, 'The God of your fathers has sent me to you,' and they ask me, 'What is his name?' Then what shall I tell them?" God said to Moses, "I AM WHO I AM. This is what you are to say to the Israelites: 'I AM has sent me to you.' "  

God simply is and, it would seem, this is all we need to concern ourselves with. 

Taoist philosophy explains the "Tao" in similar terms:  

"The Tao that can be told is not the eternal Tao.  The name that can be named is not the eternal name.  The nameless is the beginning of heaven and earth."

I have come to believe that my God is comprised of, yes, I'll say it, pure energy.  The "God Particle" perhaps?  It meets my criteria for God's description in Catholicism's "lesser doxology" which states:

"Glory be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Ghost. As it was in the beginning, is now and ever shall be, world without end."  

Everything, all matter, is made up of atoms and molecules, and those elusive "God" particles, so it makes sense that man was created in "His image," energy, so to speak.  And, no pun intended, but everything would be, for that matter.

Philosophically, there is good and bad energy.  We hope to live a good life and stay away from the bad "vibes" that would threaten our peace and tranquility, the "dark side of the force," if you will.  If we can agree to simply define "God" as the ultimate power of good in the universe, or just a power which we can learn to draw "good" from as we become more attuned to it, would this philosophy not suit atheists as well?  Maybe it would.  But, wouldn't it also depend on the atheist?  Do they have issues with simply admitting to ultimate creative power, or is it more about admitting the ultimate creative power can think and reason?

It would seem most atheists are content being constantly at odds with theists, instead of looking for any common ground.  Atheists are first to put responsibility for "proof" of God on the theists, and theists seem to always buy into any invitation atheists present for an argument.  Atheists who broach the subject of proving God, and theists who buy into arguments, miss the entire point of spiritual faith.  Faith, by definition, is a belief in something for which there is no proof.  If neither side has any proof one way or the other, then why argue at all?  Personally, I think theists have such faith we should care less what an atheist believes.  They will simply crowd up the afterlife.  Better they should just pass quietly into death, as is their belief.

If an atheist requires proof of God, prior to surrendering any disbelief on their part, then the impetus for such proof should be with them, since disbelief and lack of faith are also theirs.  I have never understood why the faithful browbeat disbelievers until they piss them off.  I guess I've always felt that, if you have faith, ta-dah!  Good for you!  If you don't have faith, who really cares?  Then again, the faithful would argue it is incumbent on all people of good faith to care about the eternal souls of the brothers and sisters around us.  This idea of responsibility for others is, as the saying goes, our cross to bear.

I offer an excerpt, below, and ask that you do some homework for yourself.

Posted on EveryStudent.com, Marilyn Adamson, a former atheist, gave several "proofs" of God's existence which I found compelling.  I posted one of her arguments here, and pasted the link to her entire article for you to read at your leisure:

"All instruction, all teaching, all training comes with intent. Someone who writes an instruction manual does so with purpose. Did you know that in every cell of our bodies there exists a very detailed instruction code, much like a miniature computer program? As you may know, a computer program is made up of ones and zeros, like this: 110010101011000. The way they are arranged tells the computer program what to do. The DNA code in each of our cells is very similar. It's made up of four chemicals that scientists abbreviate as A, T, G, and C. These are arranged in the human cell like this: CGTGTGACTCGCTCCTGAT and so on. There are three billion of these letters in every human cell!!

Well, just like you can program your phone to beep for specific reasons, DNA instructs the cell. DNA is a three-billion-lettered program telling the cell to act in a certain way. It is a full instruction manual. 

Why is this so amazing? One has to ask....how did this information program wind up in each human cell? These are not just chemicals. These are chemicals that instruct, that code in a very detailed way exactly how the person's body should develop. 

Natural, biological causes are completely lacking as an explanation when programmed information is involved. You cannot find instruction, precise information like this, without someone intentionally constructing it."

-- EveryStudent.com, Is There a God? 

Interesting concepts, unless you're an atheist.  In 2003, James Skemp on his blog, StrivingLife, took a look at Ms. Adamson's article.  I have listed an excerpt of a comment he made about it, and have included the applicable link so you can refer back and contemplate my response:

"While Adamson is quite correct, I do hope that she is not asking us to keep an open mind, much like many people who attempt to show God's existence hope us to do. The reason I'm troubled by this thought (of her suggesting an open mind) is best summed up by Ayn Rand, who has given some interesting advice, worthy of notice. Let us then, instead/to be sure, keep an 'active mind' instead.

-- StrivingLife.com, Response to "Is There a God?" 

I have a better idea for James.  How about we all keep an open and active mind.  Open your mind enough to let in the possibility of what Adamson proposes, prior to being actively critical of it.  If you opt to read Skemp's response, I think you'll agree he changes the rules to suit his agenda.  This is not to say I don't think they both have good points, but you can't paint her points in a different light so they fit your response, and this seems to be his forte.

Atheists don't own the mantle of dissent, theists are just as culpable; theists against atheists.  This would seem to be the world we have created; divisiveness to the very end, with no possibility of common ground.  We do this in discussions of politics, race, gender, sexual orientation, and so much more.  It's not as though there is enough ground in the universe to find some commonality, it just seems like neither side of a conversation is willing to budge.

For theists, there is no downside to a belief in "God," regardless of definition.  If they die and there is no God, they won't realize it.  There will be no harm, no foul, no nothing.  Theists may have wasted a bit of free time, but they were happier for it while they existed.  For atheists, there would seem to be a big downside.  If they die, and there is a God... oops.  Welcome to hell... or, oblivion.

I have often wondered, given the opportunity, just before death, if an atheist would opt to pad their bet and open their mind, you know, just in case.  Hey!  What could it hurt?  It beats simply being dead... forever because you expect nothing.

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Lessons, Success, Admitting, Friends, and Boyfriends

 

“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you're allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”

-- Shannon L. Alder

What actions can be taken to improve consumer sentiment and boost confidence in the economy?

Simple. Put a successful businessman in the White House.

What is the impact of peer pressure on decision-making?

If you are your own person, none. You can ask for advice, but it is up to you to critique the advice before you put it into action. “Peer pressure” has no place in decision-making. This is how things go very wrong, and the person who succumbs to the pressure is the one people will blame. 

What characteristics should a philosopher possess?

Wisdom, inquisitiveness, and an open mind.

Which advice sounds correct but is wrong?

Advice that has not been vetted. Advice that has no history behind it is a crap shoot from the start. Better to get advice that has some positive history behind it. If it worked once, in similar circumstances, what are the chances it will work again?

Is there a name for the kind of person who changes their point in order to keep arguing after you prove them wrong?

Perpetually offended.

“People get addicted to feeling offended all the time because it gives them a high; being self-righteous and morally superior feels good.”

-- Mark Manson

How can one achieve success in life without good public speaking and communication skills?

Attaining goals depends on how far up the ladder you expect to go. Good speaking and communication skills are very desirable. Achieving success, on the other hand, is a simple choice to strive for true happiness always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. This is true success in life, and it is nothing but a simple choice you have to make. 

What makes you do what you do?

I’m retired.

What is the truth on why some people have no friends?

They have no skills to make friends, or they don’t want friends, or they are shy and introverted. The truths are numerous. It depends on the person and their background and/or desires.

The guy I dated told me he wants to date guys now. What should I do?

Cut him loose. AIDS doesn’t care what gender you are.

What is the difference between "never fails" and "always succeeds"?

Both are not valid. No one “never fails,” and no one “always succeeds.” Both comments make us think that perfection exists when it doesn’t. The most we can hope for is excellence. Excellence means you may, or will, have failed, but you learn the lesson and press on.

Is artificial intelligence good or bad?

It depends on the international laws the world passes to regulate it, and the countries who ignore those laws and put the world in jeopardy.

“To deny humanity the lesson of consequences would be a mistake. And I do not make mistakes.”

-- Neal Shusterman

How do guys show that they care about their girlfriends without admitting it too easily?

What is wrong with admitting it? Announce it loudly, so everyone knows how you feel. Buy her flowers and give her a public display of your affection. She will tell you when to back off a bit. That usually happens when you suck her toes in Burger King.

What are girls' opinions on guys who are too nice, caring, and loving?

They guys are either full of shit… or the girls have hit the jackpot.

Who should you try to impress?

Everyone. If you always do the right thing, the ethical thing, people may not like it, but they will be impressed that you did not waver from your beliefs in doing the right thing.

What do smart people tend to do?

Screw with “intelligent” people.

What is your advice for someone who doesn’t want to get a job or work but is doing it because she/he needs to?

Your life is your own. If you lie to yourself about your “needs” when do your lies end? If you really need to not work, this is a hard reality you need to prove to yourself. People can see through bullshit, so your reasons have to make good sense.

How do you get a girl to say yes without offending her?

If you’re worth it, let her make the first move… then, play hard to get.

“A busy, vibrant, goal-oriented woman is so much more attractive than a woman who waits around for a man to validate her existence.”

-- Mandy Hale

What should you do if a girl says no to you but continues talking to you in a non-romantic way?

She doesn’t want to be romantic with you, but she likes you as a friend.

How can leaders build constructive communication practices within a team?

They had better learn how, or they will be replaced as team leaders when “constructive communication" rapidly turns to shit.

What does it mean when your wife calls you the wrong name when having sex?

She’s having more sex than you are.

Do you know specifically what blocks your success?

Nothing. Success deals with life, not with attaining goals. I made the conscious decision to strive for true happiness always and in all things, regardless of my circumstances. The only way this decision changes is if I change it. That would be counterproductive to my happiness. 

Can you think of better things to talk about?

Always.

What do I do? My new boyfriend is making me choose between me and my kids.

What do you think? They are your kids, your family. Do you really think about choosing? For a boyfriend?

"You don't choose your family. They are God's gift to you, as you are to them."

-- Desmond Tutu

Is it common for women to marry their daughters' boyfriends?

I don’t think so, but… damn! Lucky guy!

How can we justify our moral principles (beliefs)?

If my moral principles are morally and ethically good, I have no reason to justify them… to anyone.

What are some good answers when asked if you like kids?

“As long as they’re not mine.”

“When are they leaving?”

“As long as they’re not staying the night.”

“Only if they’re in college.”

Even if I have two hands, I can't clap. who am I?

A person suffering from diplegia, affecting the arms?

Why do people buy new outfits for every occasion?

For every occasion? Do they like being in debt? What happens to the old outfit from last year? People who do this probably have no respect for money, no creativity, or they have money to burn.

My friend set me up with a guy and now she's upset he is into me. Why?

Jealousy. You, obviously, have more "talent" than she does.

“You can only be jealous of someone who has something you think you ought to have yourself.”

-- Margaret Atwood

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained 1n 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com