Talking Face-to-Face? What a Concept!

Face-to-face interaction (less often, face-to-face communication or face-to-face discourse) is a concept in sociology, linguistics, media and communication studies describing social interaction carried out without any mediating technology. Sociologist Erving Goffman in his classic 1959 book "The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life" defined face-to-face interaction as "the reciprocal influence of individuals upon one another's actions when in one another's immediate physical presence".

-- Wikipedia, "Face to Face Interaction"

A friend of mine posted this photograph on her social media page.  The concept is a point I harp on constantly and, you guessed it, I'm going to beat the dead horse, again, face-to-face communication.

Teenagers?  Oh, how we'd love to put this ridicule on the young.  Unfortunately, you can see this scene with elderly people in any restaurant.  Loss of ability to communicate face-to-face is not a malady infecting just our youth.  It is a social grace we have been eroding away at since Innocenzo Manzetti came up with the idea of the "speaking telegraph" in 1844.

All of my friends give me grief over the fact that I still have a "flip" phone.  I carry my flip phone everywhere, and there is a reason for it.  I carry it at my mother's request so, in the event of an emergency, if anything were to happen to her or dad, I can be reached.  That's it.  If I could do away with it, I would.  When I'm out and about I am enjoying personal time.  I do not want you to call me.  If I wanted you to call me, I'd be at home, or talking to you face-to-face.  But, technology tugs at all of us.  Some of us kick and fight against it like a child at bedtime.  We don't want to go!  We are the Luddites of our day.

Now, don't get me wrong, I love new technology.  I think technology has it's place in making our lives easier.  I just think we need to temper our love of technology with the realization it has the ability to destroy our humanness.  We risk letting the technology rule us as in some science fiction movie.  We risk our fiction becoming our reality without learning the moral of the story.   The more we allow technology, the industry behind it, and our own lack of moderation, to control our lives, the more we risk being controlled.  We risk becoming the emotionless machines we use.

Unlike Prince, we need to re-learn how to party like its 1995.  We need to keep technology in its place.  We need to learn to keep our technology in our pockets when we're out in public.  The whole point of being out in public is to interact face-to-face with other people out in public.  This doesn't mean walking around with an earpiece, talking to yourself like some simpleton or an elderly person with dementia.

Take the damned Blue Tooth out of your ear so we know when you're talking to us.  If someone ever causes an accident, injuring someone close to me, because they were on the phone or texting, they had better die in the accident because I will probably beat them to death with their own device when I see them.  I wish it amazed me that people incapable of multitasking get behind the wheel of a 4000 pound vehicle, speed it up to 65 mph, and proceed to do something other than drive.  Put your makeup on at home, finish your phone calls, finish your lunch, and beat the crap out of your relationship, prior to getting behind the wheel of a two ton weapon of mass destruction.

Just saying.

When you have dinner together at night, or any meal for that matter, turn off the boob-tube and the cell phones, sit at the dinner table with plates, napkins and silverware, you know, like civilized human beings.  Try talking with each other about plans for the day, or the day's events.  Exchange anecdotes that may have occurred.  Anecdote?  Look it up, that's why you carry a tablet.  Remember? 

I remember when a tablet was something you wrote on, you know, with a pen not a stylus.  A pen was the writing implement that ink actually flowed from in order to make a mark.  This was back in the day when you actually had to know how to spell, do math... in your head, and, God forbid, talk to someone face-to-face.  It won't be long before your significant other finds it more gratifying to make love to a machine, or an artificial intelligence, like Gigolo Joe. 

Or, are they already?

Editor's Note 

(re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card) 

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We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we do afterward, and what we learn from the experience.

Frank Anthony Villari (aka, Pastor Tony)

Pastor Tony is founder of the Congregation for Religious Tolerance and author/editor of the Congregation's official blog site, "The Path."