My Sunday Thought for August 2, 2015: "Not my circus, not my monkey."

Question:  "I would like to invite each of you to post your personal meditations and how you cope with life's stress.  We could all benefit from your input."

-- Rev. Lynne Delgado

Best Answer:  How do I handle everyday stress?  That's a great question! I try not to hold on to any negative energy...  I find that if I repeat to myself  "Not my circus, not my monkey"   I keep calm!  

Lynne asked this question the other day on the minister's page of the monastery website.  I didn't see many responses, but I've been busy hanging the lattice surround under the new house and haven't checked back.  My choice of best answer, though, would have to go to Tracy with her, "Not my circus, not my monkey," comment which I have included in its entirety.  It seems Tracy follows my own philosophy.  Here is a woman who, I think, truly sees the value in not being responsible for everyone else's happiness.  "Not my circus, not my monkey."  My own answer reflected this same sentiment:

"Lynne, in answer to your query as to how we deal with life's stress, I stopped letting other people be in charge of my happiness and I have stopped being responsible for theirs, and I stopped having monetary debt. Why worry over that which you have no control? Why worry over that which you do? I think we need to let more stuff go in our lives. We carry around way too much baggage which we seem way too eager to share. Not having debt is a great way to own your own life. If you carry a balance on your credit card, full insurance on a vehicle you do not own outright, a mortgage, etc., you are someone's indentured servant and their plan is for you to never be free, which means never to be truly happy."

I will be spreading this new saying as I think it simplifies the entire point of keeping other people's stress out of your own life and off of your path.  With everything going on in the world today that is of so much more importance than  the trivial bullshit involved in the circus we visit upon ourselves, maybe we should all recognize, early on, there is nothing entertaining here and learn to leave the "big top" when we see the monkey has set the tent ablaze.

My thought for this Sunday is to take stock of not only how we handle our stress, but of why we even allow this stress to occur.  Stress is a choice, it is a choice each of us makes for our own lives, and it is proof that we are not the sharpest tools in the shed.  It is one thing to buy a ticket to the sideshows in life, it is quite another to become part of the show, much less the star attraction.

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