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Thursday, July 30, 2015

My Sunday Thought for August 2, 2015: "Not my circus, not my monkey."

Question:  "I would like to invite each of you to post your personal meditations and how you cope with life's stress.  We could all benefit from your input."
-- Rev. Lynne Delgado
Best Answer:  How do I handle everyday stress?  That's a great question! I try not to hold on to any negative energy...  I find that if I repeat to myself  "Not my circus, not my monkey"   I keep calm!  
Lynne asked this question the other day on the minister's page of the monastery website.  I didn't see many responses, but I've been busy hanging the lattice surround under the new house and haven't checked back.  My choice of best answer, though, would have to go to Tracy with her, "Not my circus, not my monkey," comment which I have included in its entirety.  It seems Tracy follows my own philosophy.  Here is a woman who, I think, truly sees the value in not being responsible for everyone else's happiness.  "Not my circus, not my monkey."  My own answer reflected this same sentiment:
"Lynne, in answer to your query as to how we deal with life's stress, I stopped letting other people be in charge of my happiness and I have stopped being responsible for theirs, and I stopped having monetary debt. Why worry over that which you have no control? Why worry over that which you do? I think we need to let more stuff go in our lives. We carry around way too much baggage which we seem way too eager to share. Not having debt is a great way to own your own life. If you carry a balance on your credit card, full insurance on a vehicle you do not own outright, a mortgage, etc., you are someone's indentured servant and their plan is for you to never be free, which means never to be truly happy."
I will be spreading this new saying as I think it simplifies the entire point of keeping other people's stress out of your own life and off of your path.  With everything going on in the world today that is of so much more importance than  the trivial bullshit involved in the circus we visit upon ourselves, maybe we should all recognize, early on, there is nothing entertaining here and learn to leave the "big top" when we see the monkey has set the tent ablaze.

My thought for this Sunday is to take stock of not only how we handle our stress, but of why we even allow this stress to occur.  Stress is a choice, it is a choice each of us makes for our own lives, and it is proof that we are not the sharpest tools in the shed.  It is one thing to buy a ticket to the sideshows in life, it is quite another to become part of the show, much less the star attraction.



Editor's Note 
(re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card) 

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so.

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and then engaging in peaceful, constructive, discussion and debate in an arena of mutual respect concerning the opinions put forth. After over twenty years as a military intelligence analyst, planner, and briefer, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we do afterward, and what we learn from the experience.

Frank Anthony Villari (aka, Pastor Tony)


Pastor Tony is founder of the Congregation for Religious Tolerance and author/editor of the Congregation's official blog site, "The Path."

Monday, July 27, 2015

No Prisoner the Mind


The body was crippled up, probably with ALS, amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, Lou Gehrig's disease, he wasn't as bad as Stephen Hawking, but he was still young and I assumed time would not be his friend.  He looked to be in his thirties; hard to tell with the body surrendering itself to physical ravages of its own making.  The body didn't move much and the face seemed to remain emotionless as the eyes constantly wandered through his surroundings, locking on this person or that for only a moment before pressing on.  I was much too focused on watching him to consciously understand what I'd just thought, and became aware only when our eyes met, two blank stares and my mouth slightly open as if trying to verbalize the "whoops" I was thinking about being caught staring.

His head was cocked to one side, as if the effort to hold it up was more than the body could deal with.  His eyebrow suddenly hitched up as if to confirm he'd caught me, an accusation I could not deny.  My only way out was to do what I always do - fall back and punt.  I closed my stupid mouth, cocked my head slightly to one side and arched my eyebrow, mocking him, yet not with an intent to poke fun.  He smiled in a silent understanding.
I returned the smile and noticed his finger was slightly moving as if to point toward the floor, his eyes moving in tandem to the motion until I once again understood.  I had dropped my sunglasses without realizing it.  I reached down, retrieved them, and mouthed a silent thank you.  He smiled to me again just as his caregiver returned.  His eyes glanced up to acknowledge her, then back to me as the wheelchair was moved off down the hall, a silent goodbye passed between us, and he was gone.

This is not my first encounter with those whom are wheelchair bound and seem to be prisoners of their dysfunctional bodies.  It seems to me the younger folks deal with these maladies much better than the older of us.  Maybe it's because we know what we're losing; we know how our lives are going to change.  This isn't losing a limb, or being paralyzed, though the latter is as close as I'd think one can get.  This is losing an ability to even communicate without extreme effort, and yet, there is communication.  One has to wonder if Stephen Hawking would have accomplished as much in theoretical physics were he to have had a normal life where his mind could be cluttered by minutia, and if we are not enjoying the fruits of his captive mind.   

One might wonder the cruelty of God, and what this particular test of resolve would possibly accomplish for this poor soul, or the people around them.  As always, like most of us, I selfishly thought of how there, but for the grace of this same God, went my children, grandchildren, or me.  Is this poor soul enduring all of this as a reminder for the rest of us to be ever thankful for the small things we take so much for granted?  Is it not a test for them at all but, rather, a test for someone else, as this person is simply playing out their role in a greater drama God has written for another?  Or, could it be that, in the next life, this suffering will serve them well in a much more important time to come, a time when people able to endure suffering and lead others from darkness will be of greater value than this relatively short moment in time?  Stephen has taken to the belief there is no God, while other physicists are proving to themselves that the universe is nothing if not proof of a divine hand.  Is the difference in Stephen's ALS?  Does he assign blame?  And, if he does, and this is the reason for denying God, is not assigning blame a contradiction?
There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio,

Than are dreamt of in your philosophy.
- Hamlet (1.5.167-8), Hamlet to Horatio
Just when I think I have this down pat, once again I find myself all the poorer for not having taken some time to know this person. To, at the very least, have introduced myself and treated them with the respect due another human being and not just an oddity to be gawked at in life. A shortcoming I must still work on is the humility to move passed my selfish embarrassment of having acknowledged their existence, and into the realm of common courtesy to another, equal, person.  I still have much to learn.

Don't we all?


Editor's Note 
(re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card) 

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so.

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and then engaging in peaceful, constructive, discussion and debate in an arena of mutual respect concerning the opinions put forth. After over twenty years as a military intelligence analyst, planner, and briefer, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we do afterward, and what we learn from the experience.

Frank Anthony Villari (aka, Pastor Tony)


Pastor Tony is founder of the Congregation for Religious Tolerance and author/editor of the Congregation's official blog site, "The Path."

Thursday, July 23, 2015

My Sunday Thought for July 26, 2015: The Enemy of Life

"ISIL is not 'Islamic.' No religion condones the killing of innocents, and the vast majority of ISIL's victims have been Muslim. And ISIL is certainly not a state; it was formerly al Qaeda's affiliate in Iraq and has taken advantage of sectarian strife and Syria's civil war to gain territory on both sides of the Iraq-Syrian border. It is recognized by no government nor by the people it subjugates... ISIL is a terrorist organization, pure and simple, and it has no vision other than the slaughter of all who stand in its way."

-- Barrack Obama, U.S. President
When I started this post, I considered going with shock and awe for an opening photo; a photo of the bloodied, headless body of a small child butchered by these heretics.  I opted not to offend some of my reader's delicate sensibilities, but the image of this small child is exactly the point, and should be the image all of us take into the fight against these monsters of the "Islamic" state.

It's not our battle!  This is the battle cry of the future victims of atrocity.  Innocence is being murdered in the world, and if you don't take a stand against it for the sake of the innocent, there will be no one left to take a stand when the monsters come for you.  It truly comes down to, if not now, when?

If we're to believe in a peaceful Islamic culture, this is an Islamic issue.  Islam should be leading the fight against their own shame; their own insane, murderous heretics that misinterpret the Qur'an in order to fulfill their own, sick, agenda of terror, murder, and rape.  If Islam doesn't take a loud, visible stand against this horror, they are condoning it, and the world will eventually tire of the insanity... and snap.  Mosques will burn and even peaceful Muslims will be deemed as big a threat as those murderous terrorists they said nothing against.  Their silence will indeed be seen as condoning the evil and, for many of us, it already is.  Vigilantes will rule the streets, the innocent will hang, and our God will weep as a true religious war engulfs the world - Islam against everyone.  Iran and those countries immediately downwind, will become a radioactive wasteland in an effort to stem the tide of terror.  In the end, what is left of Islam will be a shadow of a once great culture that gave the world so much in the name of Allah.  Sadly, the world will spend the next one hundred years learning nothing from the experience as is our norm.  History will continue to repeat.

Is there really any difference between Adolf Hitler and the Ayatollah Ruhollah Moosavi Khomeini.? Like Hitler, the Ayatollah wants world domination and is willing to destroy innocence, and the world, to attain this goal.  Muhammad's Qur'an has been reinterpreted to allow a denial of the faith, lying, cheating, and murder of the innocent, as long as whatever is done is for the continued spread of their hypocrisy.  This is what the new interpretation says Allah represents.  I'm sure this makes the faithful so proud, or they would be creating such an uproar as to drown out any that would dare accuse them of following the Islamic state of terrorism.

Soldiers deserve soldiers in battle, not this cowardly rabble that has taken territory through terror and intimidation.  Soldiers deserve to fight real men, not cowards that cover their faces and cut five year old children in half in order to ineffectively prove some sad "Islamic" definition of manhood.  Any insane lunatic can burn people in cages, drown babies in a fifty gallon drum, and cut heads off of living beings.  This isn't being a man, or a soldier.  This is being insane, and there is no cure for this insanity other than extermination.  We, the world, need to excise this cancer from our civilization before we lose another great culture.  This disease is already destroying many of the rich historical buildings and artifacts cherished by much of the Middle East.

This is not a war, and we must send a clear message that this behavior will not be tolerated by the civilized world for, if we don't, we are doomed to relive this in the future like the dregs of a cancer not fully removed from the body.  There must be no prisoners, no quarter given, no civil or human rights, no legal recourse.  We all need to suck it up, once again, and go do that which must be done in order to save all that we hold dear.


Editor's Note 
(re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card) 

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so.

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and then engaging in peaceful, constructive, discussion and debate in an arena of mutual respect concerning the opinions put forth. After over twenty years as a military intelligence analyst, planner, and briefer, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we do afterward, and what we learn from the experience.

Frank Anthony Villari (aka, Pastor Tony)


Pastor Tony is founder of the Congregation for Religious Tolerance and author/editor of the Congregation's official blog site, "The Path."
  

Monday, July 20, 2015

Is This What's Wrong with America?


Is this what's wrong with America?  As far as I know we still have the founding documents, to the chagrin of those trying to usurp their authority for a kinder, gentler police state.  No, America is doing just fine.  As for the people and the leadership however, this is another story, and they are what's wrong in America.

The Constitution, the Bill of Rights and, for that matter, the Declaration of Independence were never intended to be open to interpretation.  Really?  Not according to the University of Virginia Library site (The Constitution and other Founding Documents):
"The Federalist, commonly referred to as the Federalist Papers, is a series of 85 essays written by Alexander Hamilton, John Jay, and James Madison between October 1787 and May 1788. The essays were published anonymously, under the pen name "Publius," in various New York state newspapers of the time. 
The Federalist Papers were written and published to urge New Yorkers to ratify the proposed United States Constitution, which was drafted in Philadelphia in the summer of 1787. In lobbying for adoption of the Constitution over the existing Articles of Confederation, the essays explain particular provisions of the Constitution in detail. For this reason, and because Hamilton and Madison were each members of the Constitutional Convention, the Federalist Papers are often used today to help interpret the intentions of those drafting the Constitution."
I have a copy of The Federalist Papers, as well as Thomas Paine's Common Sense, and The Constitution of the United States, but, then, I also fly a flag outside of my house 24/7/365.  This all makes me less than desirable by those perpetually offended individuals who will disagree with me no matter what I say.  Dollars to doughnuts they do not have a copy of these documents, nor do they care to have one.  Yet, these same people will rail, yea or nay, on gay marriage, gun control, Christianity, atheism, and, more recently, the battle flag of the Army of Northern Virginia (no, it is not the Confederate flag).  It seems these people, who know so little about the founding of our great nation, also know very little about the history of our nation that followed, and this is no surprise as we keep rewriting our history to reflect the latest politically correct stance.  Better not to teach history than to be caught teaching the wrong history.  God forbid we leave history for what it is so we can actually learn something from it.  Better we bury the bad parts so we can relive them later like the senseless children we seem satisfied to remain.

What is wrong in America?  Congress is out of control and no longer answers to the people whom they supposedly represent.  Christianity and morality are under attack from all sides by the offended.  The Supreme Court is out of control and no longer recognizes the Constitution, the Bill of Rights, or the rights of the individual states.  Law has no meaning as it continues to be disregarded by attorneys and the courts at every turn and have allowed the minority to become the new majority.  This country now runs by minority rule, and that has nothing to do with the color of one's skin, as much as the perpetually offended would like it to.  We have no secured borders, so we really have no secured country.  Everybody from south of the border is running to el Norte in order to escape their own country's political and economic disasters, only to vote for the same things here that caused the disasters they just escaped from, all the while they are being paid to be here by... us!  When we become a poverty stricken suburb of Mexico, where will they all run to next, Canada?

But there is a damning side to being an American.  There is a damning, immoral, guilt of complicity to murder that every American must lay claim to.  We turn our heads away, we cry foul, we broadcast it, and Congress votes on it, yet it continues.  Late term abortion is again in the news.  Oh, I'm sorry.  Harvesting baby body parts after murdering a viable, living baby, is back in the news.  Doctors, do no harm!  But, murdering living babies is okay by us, as long as we can harvest their organs.  Hey, someone has to make a buck, right?  Well, shame on us, shame on all of us.  

This is just a taste of what's wrong in America.  Bruce Jenner and Tim Tebow are just superus sores we scratch till they bleed because we are satisfied to whine and complain instead of standing up for our rights, taking back our country, and healing what truly ails us as a people.  What ails us?  If you have to ask, what does it say about you as a conscientious American?  What does it say about you as a patriot?  What does it say about you as an intelligent, moral, righteous member of civilization?  Civilized?  Compared to what, ISIS?  Killing babies can be a fine line between medical science and insane heresy.  Tebow is a Christian, get over it.  If you don't like hearing about God, turn the channel.  Jenner is now a woman, get over it, he isn't even attractive.  I'd feel worse for his family, but... really?  How screwed up can one family get?

Maybe we should stop whining about trivial bullshit and get our heads screwed on straight.  There are more important things rotting this country from the inside out than are in our worst nightmares.

It is passed time to wake up.


Editor's Note 
(re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card) 

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so.

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and then engaging in peaceful, constructive, discussion and debate in an arena of mutual respect concerning the opinions put forth. After over twenty years as a military intelligence analyst, planner, and briefer, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we do afterward, and what we learn from the experience.

Frank Anthony Villari (aka, Pastor Tony)


Pastor Tony is founder of the Congregation for Religious Tolerance and author/editor of the Congregation's official blog site, "The Path."

Sunday, July 19, 2015

The Fate of the World (or a small piece of it)


What did you do in the "cold" war, daddy?  Well, we were part of those responsible for the theoretical destruction of millions of innocent women and children.  It would seem, for a short period at least, we held the fate of the world in our hands, or at least a small part of it.  Makes a person proud, doesn't it?

My friend and old coworker, Mike, posted this photo on Facebook and followed up with a short, meaningful, comment:

Top Row L-R: Lori Villela (born Nov 23, 1963), Ralf Villela (born Oct 12, 1956-died April 10, 2008), Vic, Captain Denend (born July 23, 1957), Lieutenant Christ (not Jesus), a guy I can't remember, Shawn Kelley (born June 8, 1966), Bob Kowolchuk (May 24, 1968- died Sept. 24, 1998), unidentified midget. 
Front Row L-R: Two people I can't remember, Ricky White, who ended up marrying the ex wife of a friend of mine in Owensboro, KY, Adam Steel (born 1973), Ron Doerr (born 1969), ME, Pernel Pelican (born Oct 15, 1962--old friend from Offutt AFB), Vince Martinez (born 1960), Tony Villari(born November 23? 1953). 
These were my people...my co-workers, and some were my friends. We were about to be broken up. It was decided by someone of a much higher pay grade than I, that the B-52 bombers which we worked with daily at Fairchild, should be moved to Barksdale AFB in Louisiana. So we would all be sent our separate ways.
As far as we know, two of our comrades are no longer with us, having died for one reason or another, God bless them.  There are probably more that we don't know about.  I'm very certain that many of my old service brothers and sisters have since died and, like taxes, it is a curse hard to escape.  

Another career ago, well over twenty years, I was the master sergeant in charge of these guys, and others like them.  We helped define excellence in an Intelligence career field fraught with lousy retention caused by poor awards and decorations, no follow-on civilian career, a general lack of manning, oh, and did I mention you can't discuss anything with your spouse about your job?  Add high divorce rate and lousy relationships.  You truly had to be a patriot to want this for yourself.

The Air Force wasn't going to let me retire because I was one of the few that had actually spent my entire career in the Intelligence field, and manning for management was exceptionally tight, especially for people with the ability to clean up other people's messes.  We were all that good; the Strategic Air Command was all that good, barring the, albeit rare, severely functional alcoholic.

But, like I said, that was another career ago, another lifetime, back in the day when some of us gave a tinker's damn about the collateral damage a nuclear weapon might have to an enemy civilian population, especially women and children, if the weapon was a half a nautical mile off target.  Hell, we had a two nautical mile tolerance, so what was the big deal?  I'd like to think, integrity, and morality, and, perhaps, thinking to ourselves what would Jesus do.  While everyone else played the two nautical mile tolerance game, some of us tried to hold ourselves to a tighter tolerance, a higher moral standard.
"We knew the world would not be the same. A few people laughed, a few people cried. Most people were silent. I remembered the line from the Hindu scripture, the Bhagavad-Gita. Vishnu is trying to persuade the Prince that he should do his duty, and, to impress him, takes on his multi-armed form and says, 'Now I am become Death, the destroyer of worlds.' I suppose we all thought that, one way or another."

-- J. Robert Oppenheimer (1904-1967), American physicist, the "Father of the Atomic Bomb"
Our "game" was to strive for a half a nautical mile, or less, and when you're discussing a crater and total destruction for a ten mile radius, a couple of miles can mean a lot to some small farming community, and even more to a metropolis.  The wrong type of destruction, immoral destruction, doesn't really accomplish anything except to send the wrong message.  When you're launching a weapon to make the statement of "see what we can do so back down," some obscure missile launch facility seems morally more acceptable than a million civilians.  Refer back to Hiroshima and Nagasaki.  Seemed like the right move, at the time, but civilians should never have to pay the cost of war; soldiers deserve soldiers, on a field of battle.
"Caedite eos. Novit enim Dominus qui sunt eius." ("Kill them. For the Lord knows those that are His own.")

--Arnaud Amalric, papal legate and Cistercian abbot
I was once asked by a friend and co-worker, TSgt John "Andy" Anderson, how we did what we did in our career without going bat shit crazy.  We joke about it.  Crispy Critters, creating warm water ports or glass lined lakes in some sandy desert, and the list would grow, my favorite being to kill them all and let God sort them out (which turns about to be a variant translation attributed to the Cistercian abbot, Arnaud Amalric, before the massacre in the French town of Beziers in 1209.  Christianity, who woulda thought.).  Joking about death is what you do when what you're involved in is so horrendous as to negate even trying to think about the consequences of it actually happening.  As far as the abbot, Christian leadership hasn't come that far up the moral mountain since 1209.  And, as far as our own SAC base being targeted by ICBMs or submarine launched ballistic missiles, our plan was to take a couple of folding lawn chairs out front, put on our sunglasses, pop a cold one, and wait for the end.

The fate of the world?  We were all going to die anyway.  Better to die instantly in a flash of heat and light, than by a slow, painful death from radiation.  I think our aircrews all had to overcome their own fears and find sort of peace concerning their one way mission.  A B-52 bomber moves relatively slow, and there would be ample time to fly through the radiation from other detonations.  If they made it back home, and if we were still here, they would probably be dead men walking.  The funny thing about heroes, they aren't just found on the battlefield, and most are really bat shit crazy to volunteer for what they do, I think most patriots are.

What did we do in the cold war?  We were the deterrent.  We held back the apocalypse through a threat of total nuclear annihilation and, thank God, we never had to prove our resolve.  If you are reading this, you still exist.  You still exist because of people like these folks that, while not laying down their life on the field of battle, fought a virtual war of wills where total destruction of both sides was proof that there would be no winner.
Joshua: Greetings, Professor Falken.
Stephen Falken: Hello, Joshua.
Joshua: A strange game. The only winning move is not to play. How about a nice game of chess? 
Stephen Falken: The whole point was to find a way to practice nuclear war without destroying ourselves. To get the computers to learn from mistakes we couldn't afford to make. Except, I never could get Joshua to learn the most important lesson.
David Lightman: What's that?
Stephen Falken: Futility. That there's a time when you should just give up.
Jennifer: What kind of a lesson is that?
Stephen Falken: Did you ever play tic-tac-toe?
Jennifer: Yeah, of course.
Stephen Falken: But you don't anymore.
Jennifer: No.
Jennifer: Because it's a boring game. It's always a tie.
Stephen Falken: Exactly. There's no way to win. The game itself is pointless! But back at the war room, they believe you can win a nuclear war. That there can be "acceptable losses."
-- WarGames (1983)
We are in the process of lighting this futile candle again. The new cold war is upon us and, unlike other nuclear capable countries that actually understand the consequences of pushing that little red button; Iran has already stated that their goal is the total destruction of the United States and Israel. These are religious fanatics that would destroy the entire Middle East simply to accomplish this task. Russia and China have rallied to their support, learning nothing from everything we already been through. They are, once again, giving the insane a weapon of mass destruction, thinking they will be immune to the consequences of their actions. This is the new insanity of war, and the new threat to continued life on this planet.

My view is, this isn't what God, Allah, or whatever other word for the one true God you happen to believe in, wants. No supreme deity would want this kind of destruction, unless they're not that supreme.  We have been set here to learn, and learning is painful.  Let's not succumb to the old habit of blaming God for our shortcomings, or for demanding we take the lives of innocence because we twist scripture to demand it.  This is the purview of the religious heretic, and we see enough of that around the world as it is with the, so called, "Islamic" jihad which is anything but Islamic and meets the definition of jihad only through purposeful misinterpretation in order to fulfil a sick agenda of murder, rape, and destruction for its own sake.

The fate of the world? God in heaven, save us all us all from the short sighted incompetence of our own kind.

Editor's Note 
(re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card) 

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so.

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and then engaging in peaceful, constructive, discussion and debate in an arena of mutual respect concerning the opinions put forth. After over twenty years as a military intelligence analyst, planner, and briefer, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we do afterward, and what we learn from the experience.

Frank Anthony Villari (aka, Pastor Tony)


Pastor Tony is founder of the Congregation for Religious Tolerance and author/editor of the Congregation's official blog site, "The Path."

Friday, July 17, 2015

My Sunday Thought for July 19, 2015: Freedom of Choice

Spock: "You have to shoot. If you are logical, you have to shoot."
Valeris: "I do not want to."
Spock: "What you want is irrelevant. What you've chosen is at hand."
"Star Trek VI: The Undiscovered Country" (1991)
Yes, it's just a movie script, a screenplay, and yet most of us live out this scenario constantly in our lives.  We made a bad choice, hoping to get what we want, and what we want has become irrelevant as what we have chosen is at hand, and is usually about to go off in our confused face.

Parents always hope for their children that they might be spared the mistakes of their own lives, not realizing that these very mistakes are what make us who we are.  Oft times a mistake can be turned around to present a silver lining that was well worth whatever grief had to be endured to achieve it.
"I wouldn't change a thing about what I've done in the past because what may have been bad choices have led me to this moment."
-- Minnie Driver, actress
I have had people ask me, what difference choices make if life is life for each of us is preordained, if our destiny is set.  There are also those who believe life is a crap shoot, a roll of the dice, a game of chance.  Two views that are different, yet similar for, if life is a gamble then the outcome, good or bad, was destined because you made a choice to play the game.  One believe whether you play the game or not, what will be will be.  The other believes their destiny rides on the back of Lady Luck.  Who do you think is right?  Both?  Neither?  Or, does it really matter?  What does all of this have to say about a person's ultimate fate?  Ah!  One's fate is not the same thing as one's destiny.  

Both groups rely on one common aspect in their particular thought - choice.  The nineteenth century American lawyer, William Jennings Bryan, covered both groups when he stated, "Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved."  In our society of haves and have-nots, the have-nots want what the haves have and the government works hard to level a playing field that will never be level.  It's not that it can't be leveled; it won't be leveled, because the have-nots don't have a clue.  They are where they are as a matter of choice, and they will remain there until they choose to be something more.  It is a choice the government, nor any other person, can make for them.  It is a matter of pride, integrity, and hard work.
“Excellence is never an accident. It is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, and intelligent execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives - choice, not chance, determines your destiny.”
-- Aristotle (385-322 BC), Greek philosopher
Now, I just know this last statement has probably pissed off the perpetually offended amongst us.  The bright side is that no matter what I said they would have been offended.  This is the point of being perpetually offended.  The fact they are annoyed at me is a good thing.  I always liked the Shakespeare quote from Hamlet, "The lady doth protest too much, methinks," an exercise in irony as the constant proclamation of innocence can achieve the opposite belief.  So it is with most of the perpetually offended.  They end up framing themselves as the weak and ineffective whiners in an otherwise robust society.  Yet, even in this feeling of offense, there is a choice.  You can be offended, or let the supposed offense roll off a set of broad, strong shoulders capable of seeing a broader picture, like life.  This is a group that really needs to get one.  But, that, too, is a choice.
"To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else."
-- David A. Bednar, clergyman
You can choose to be perpetually offended and exert all of your energy being a miserable human being, or you can choose to be happy and let the bullshit in life roll off your back.  It takes a lot more effort to live a life of constant offense, than to smile and understand that someone else's opinion is a matter of their choice, not yours.  Maybe it's time to, simply, get over yourself; live and let live.  Our destiny is our own.

A person's destiny lies somewhere up ahead, but their ultimate fate is in the hands of God.  As the Brazilian novelist, Paulo Coelho, states it, "I can control my destiny, but not my fate. Destiny means there are opportunities to turn right or left, but fate is a one-way street. I believe we all have the choice as to whether we fulfil our destiny, but our fate is sealed."

So, our choices determine our destiny, but not our fate?  How can that be?  Let's look at the definitions as gleaned from differencebetween.net:
Fate - the preordained course of your life that will occur because of or in spite of your actions. 
Destiny - a set of predetermined events within your life that you take an active course in shaping.
So, it would seem Paulo has it right, or researches at differencebetween.net, like me.

Freedom of choice - it something we are born with, inherent in our genetic makeup.  It is not something we can escape because, in doing so, you have made a choice.  Everything we do in life is a choice, and everything that happens to us is because of those choices we make.  We can attempt to shift the blame for our woes onto others, but if we honestly follow the path back to the beginning, we will find the we were the victims of our own short sightedness, ignorance, greed, selfishness, etc.  Stealing a movie quote, sometimes, just because we can do a thing, doesn't mean we must do that thing.  It is our choice.
“But the Hebrew word, the word timshel—‘Thou mayest’— that gives a choice. It might be the most important word in the world. That says the way is open. That throws it right back on a man. For if ‘Thou mayest’—it is also true that ‘Thou mayest not.”
-- John Steinbeck (1902-1968), author, "East of Eden"


 Editor's Note 
(re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card) 


Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so.

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and then engaging in peaceful, constructive, discussion and debate in an arena of mutual respect concerning the opinions put forth. After over twenty years as a military intelligence analyst, planner, and briefer, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we do afterward, and what we learn from the experience.

Frank Anthony Villari (aka, Pastor Tony)


Pastor Tony is founder of the Congregation for Religious Tolerance and author/editor of the Congregation's official blog site, "The Path."

Monday, July 13, 2015

Freedom in the First: The Right of Religion

Amendment I (1791) 
Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the government for a redress of grievances.
James Wilson once said, "Human law must rest its authority ultimately upon the authority of that law which is divine.  Far from being rivals or enemies, religion and law are twin sisters, friends, and mutual assistants.  Indeed, these two sciences run into each other."  He knew a little something about law as he was one of the six original justices appointed to the Supreme Court by George Washington, this after being a member of the Continental Congress in 1776, and helping to produce our Constitution.

And, although our first President seemed to have little use for the church or its ceremonies, George Washington did state, "Religion and morality are the essential pillars of civil society."  Noah Webster said, "The moral principles and precepts contained in the scriptures ought to form the basis of all our civil constitutions and laws. . . All the miseries and evils which men suffer from vice, crime, ambition, injustice, oppression, slavery, and war, proceed from their despising or neglecting the precepts contained in the Bible."  Many of our Constitution's signatories and the framers of our nation, our Founding Fathers, knew of the importance of religion and morality.

There is much historical debate about whether this country was founded on Christian principals.  The debate continues to this day, and yet we constantly ignore the obvious.  Our country was, in fact, based on Christian moral principles.  But our Leaders were intelligent enough to leave religion out of government, as there must be a separation of church and state.  Mark 12:17 may have guided them, "And Jesus said unto them, Render unto Caesar the things that are Caesar's, and unto God the things that are God's."

In this country you have a right to the peaceful practice of your spiritual beliefs.  You also have the right to your peaceful practice of believing in absolutely nothing, if this is your path.  Morality is, by definition, those principles concerning the distinction between right and wrong or good and bad behavior.  Abrahamic religions would tout the rules for a moral life set forth in their respective scripture, and Buddhists might defer to their masters of philosophy.  Those not of a religious tilt might point out that morality has its roots with Greek philosophers like Thales, Socrates, Plato, and Aristotle.  All would be right, to their own belief.  And what is right is precisely the point of morality.  It is, after all, what most peaceful, civilized societies base their laws upon.

We tend to forget that everybody has the right to live, work, and worship, or not, in peace.  And, for some reason, we find it necessary to try and force our beliefs on each other.  Our ego seems to get in the way of our good sense to the point where religious icons are removed from public buildings, and atheists find themselves creating a symbol of their own religious of non-belief.  Coming soon, the Church of Atheism being built on a street corner near you!  Sound farfetched?  Ego is a peculiar bedfellow; it often runs contrary to our own particular philosophy.  We will continue this insanity of calling each other out on issues which we feel violate our own personal beliefs, and the government courts will continue to make judgments that curtail our rights of peaceful belief, speech, and expression simply because someone is offended.  The Constitution is sooo doomed.
But a Constitution of Government once changed from freedom, can never be restored.  Liberty, once lost, is lost forever.
-- John Adams
I leave you with something to chew on from The Legal Information Institute of Cornell University Law School.  Links are underlined and I have highlighted interesting points to ponder, in red:
The First Amendment of the United States Constitution protects the right to freedom of religion and freedom of expression from government interference. See U.S. Const. amend. I. Freedom of expression consists of the rights to freedom of speech, press, assembly and to petition the government for a redress of grievances, and the implied rights of association and belief. The Supreme Court interprets the extent of the protection afforded to these rights. The First Amendment has been interpreted by the Court as applying to the entire federal government even though it is only expressly applicable to Congress. Furthermore, the Court has interpreted, the due process clause of the Fourteenth Amendment as protecting the rights in the First Amendment from interference by state governments. See U.S. Const. amend. XIV.
What?


Editor's Note 
(re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card) 


Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so.


It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and then engaging in peaceful, constructive, discussion and debate in an arena of mutual respect concerning the opinions put forth. After over twenty years as a military intelligence analyst, planner, and briefer, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we do afterward, and what we learn from the experience.

Frank Anthony Villari (aka, Pastor Tony)


Pastor Tony is founder of the Congregation for Religious Tolerance and author/editor of the Congregation's official blog site, "The Path."

Saturday, July 11, 2015

My Sunday Thought for July 12, 2015: Dealing with Leftovers


“Part of the problem with the word 'disabilities' is that it immediately suggests an inability to see or hear or walk or do other things that many of us take for granted. But what of people who can't feel? Or talk about their feelings? Or manage their feelings in constructive ways? What of people who aren't able to form close and strong relationships? And people who cannot find fulfillment in their lives, or those who have lost hope, who live in disappointment and bitterness and find in life no joy, no love? These, it seems to me, are the real disabilities.”

-- Fred Rogers, "The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember"
Bad things that happen to us, things we find difficult to deal with, so difficult that we tend to pack them away, like the leftovers of a less than palatable turkey at Thanksgiving.  It would be nice if we could just forget about it, throw it out, but we invested a bit of time, money and effort in it.  It sits in the back of the icebox of our mind until it becomes another freezer burned science experiment, a possible thesis for a doctorate bound psychology major that loves his mother, and not in the nice way.  The young Joe Bag O'Doughnuts cum Hannibal Lecter we bleed our inner soul out to while relaxing on the analyst's couch while they draw doodles on their notepad and hope their own secret voices remain silent during your session.  I think I'd rather go home and watch reruns of Mr. Rogers Neighborhood.  Analysts give me the creeps.  And to think, I was studying to be one before the draft forced me into military intelligence where I could do some really meaningful damage.

I received the following email from one of my readers, a good friend, and I asked if she would mind if I share it with you:
"I see you've been short of topics.....how about dealing with "left overs?" You know, left over "unsaid words", "emotions", "thoughts", "feelings." Those "left overs." Coping with those unresolved issues of the past. How do we "right our wrongs?" And what if they are the "sins of the Father?" Or in my case, the "sins of the Mother." Forgive, yes. Forget???? People don't. But they expect others to. WTF?? What right do we have to tell anyone to forgive and forget anything in their lives, anything that happened to them, or anything that they may have done? 
Everyone feels the need to be offended by something these days, well I'm offended that anyone should actually say the words to me, "forgive and forget is the best way in life." Forgiveness is not a necessary requirement to recover a state of emotional well being. It's important, yes, but not required. Just like the AA Big Book says something about being rigorously honest, some people can't be, they're just born that way. Well, some people can't forgive, they're just born that way. So forgiveness is not a requirement, but forget? To "forget" anything that happened in your life is to discount your life. It says to me that, hey, you're not really real or worth much, so just forget about you and 'whatever' in your life. UGH, that's discounting and will NEVER lead to a healthy mind, spirit, or body. And I'm worthy. So screw your forgetfulness!



Psychologically, I know the answer to all of this. (Yes.....I know not to ask a question I already know the answer to, but thank you for pointing that out, yet AGAIN.)  I'm just musing.....and venting, processing, and with God's grace, healing.


My "other" mother passed away Thursday. We buried her yesterday. It's been a very long weekend. I got home last night about midnight. I was reminded by a family member during visitation that Granny had some "pretty unhappy and tough times" in her life too. Yes, I know, (head hung). I am the daughter of the woman who created Granny's "unhappy and tough times." [sins of the mother] While I know fully that my mother's sins are hers, not my cross to bear, not my sin to repent or ask forgiveness for.....nonetheless, it was my mother who caused this lovely woman pain and suffering through the years, and therefore it feels like some of it got rubbed off on me. (we're not talking gossip....we're talking accusations of theft, IRS issues, some serious crap) I stood there, knowing the family member was looking at me, and remembering what my MOTHER had done and it felt like SHIT. 
 Add insult to injury, an old family friend came in....and yep...you got it....he asked me, "how's your Momma and Daddy?" To which I replied "well, my daddy died 52 years ago, and I couldn't tell you about my momma." (OH, you mean Chuck? The pedophile who sexually abused me from the age of 5 or 6 until I was 17 years old? THAT "daddy?" Thought.....not said, as it was NOT the appropriate time or place). But this family friend couldn't stop himself, when I walked to the corner to look at pictures, he walked up to me, placed his hand on my back and tells me, "Forgive and forget is the best way in life." And then he turned around and left. 
The man who told me this is the son of the doctor who delivered me at birth. Now.....it's not HIS fault that he is ignorant of the situation. We didn't take a billboard out saying HEY EVERYONE, CHUCK SODOMIZED HIS ADOPTED DAUGHTER FOR 11 YEARS. No. As a matter of fact, back in my day, incest was taboo. NO ONE spoke of it, or the perpetrators, or the victims. Only when Oprah introduced her story did it begin to become somewhat public. It's still so ugly that no one likes hearing about it, not really. They may know, but for heaven's sake, don't make them talk about it. Silence........a pedophile's best weapon. 
 Well you know what happened in my head? CHICKEN SHIT....let's take this outside and I'll TELL you what's the best way in life! The best way is to OUT EVERY CHILD MOLESTER AND PREDATOR ON THE PLANET. Castrate them ALL, and make them dig sewers because they are lower than shit human beings. And then reconcile all of this in the words and deeds of Christ. (I don't expect to accomplish this in my lifetime.) 
So, clearly, there are leftovers in life. I am a survivor, praying for peace and healing. Any words from the religious tolerance side? 
The thing about people saying forgive and forget is best, is this....what if they are simply ignorant of the situation? (ignorance - lacking knowledge or awareness)"
Whoa!  I always know when she's having a moment the second I glance at her email.  If it's more than one short paragraph, put on your Kevlar vest and watch out for shrapnel.  She and I have discussed her "issues" many times when she has felt lost and in need of a light, a possible direction back to her path.  To be honest, I was actually thinking she shouldn't be asking questions she already knows the answers to, and had to laugh when I read this part.  She also knows me pretty well, or at least my snappy repartee.

Me commenting on what she ought to do would be like a Catholic priest giving advice on marriage or child rearing; no amount higher education is a substitute for firsthand experience.  I have no point of reference from which to draw opinion or advice.  Simply from her writing, I fully expect this bitterness, hatred, and anger will remain with her for the rest of her life.  I suppose my only humble advice would be to pack it away in some deep recess of your mind and try to get on with life.  I wouldn't let assholes get under your skin.  A simple statement to not discuss things for which they have no clue, and to please pay more attention to their own less than laudable lives, might be appropriate.

We all have leftovers in our lives; things that have happened which we wish hadn't, things we wish we could do over, do better, or not do at all.  My own mental freezer is packed full of this less than palatable crap.  It all languishes there to rot, fester, and be at the ready should I find need to use some portion of it to pack my verbal cannon with prior to blasting some moron for their insensitivity or other such selfish reason.  The truth is, I would rather just clean out the freezer an stock it with beer and brats, or some lasagna that would go much better between two slices of sourdough slathered with mayo.  I don't really need this other useless crap cluttering up my world view and my personal relationships.  Life is just too damned short.

I wish for you, all of you, peace of mind. You will never forget the crap that happens, but you must learn to be at peace with it or it will consume what life you have left.  What life you have left can be so very precious if you let it.


Editor's Note 
(re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card) 

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch, it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either opinion any more right or wrong than the other. An opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form opinions of their own, if they haven't already done so.

It is my fervent hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions and then engaging in peaceful, constructive, discussion and debate in an arena of mutual respect concerning the opinions put forth. After over twenty years as a military intelligence analyst, planner, and briefer, I have come to believe engaging each other in this manner and in this arena is the way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we do afterward, and what we learn from the experience.

Frank Anthony Villari (aka, Pastor Tony)


Pastor Tony is founder of the Congregation for Religious Tolerance and author/editor of the Congregation's official blog site, "The Path."