Questioning Revenge, Answering, Debating, Truth, Equating, and Rude

 

“Childhood trauma does not come in one single package.”

-- Asa Don Brown

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Note to my readers:  Not to blow my horn too loudly, but I was just informed that 10,579 people have read my posts this week.  That is similar to the past few weeks of reporting.  If this keeps up, I will garner 42,316 readers for the month or 507,792 readers for the year.  I can count the naysayers on one hand for the year.  Not bad for simply giving my humble opinion.  

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Why does no one let me commit a drive-by shooting for revenge for my childhood trauma?

Because that is what a “sick fuck” does. Rise above your own “childhood trauma” and be a force to change “childhood trauma” for other kids. This is what a “force to be reckoned with” would do.

Why, why, why, why?

“Why?” This is the question of the ages. We should all be interested in it. The answer is not “Because.”

Without invoking a higher power, how do you reconcile the moral framework that many societies adhere to? What basis do you see for ethical principles and values?

Why would I invoke a higher power who washed His hands of us, and gave us everything we need to succeed in life? Moral framework and ethical principles and values all rest on the foundation of the “rule of law” for the specific society or country. Except for those countries that have bastardized their religious beliefs into a reason to declare war, we all base our beliefs on a similar framework.

What do you call selective amnesia at age 2 or 4 that lasts for less than an hour?

Bad filing system. It lasts for less than an hour, so the system is getting a handle on the issue.

Loved people such as friends and immediate family members always come first then pets/animals. It's just how most and/or sane people think. Who else agrees?

I agree if we’re discussing situations that just can’t wait. Priority falls to the most at risk. If the risk is acceptable, the animals can come first so there is nothing you need to worry over while helping others.

I got rejected by all "Ivies" and T20 schools and eventually went to a so-so one. Is my life so far considered a failure?

It depends on how you excel at the “so-so” one. You are there to learn, so learn more than the instructor. You will not be a failure.

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.”

-- Maya Angelou

Why are we humans willing to answer questions asked by people we do not know. If these people stopped us in the street to ask us the same questions, even if we were not busy, we would not be willing to answer compared to answering online?

That is such bullshit. I have no filter, according to a particular lady friend, so if you asked me a question, I’d sit you down and bore you to death. It is what I do.

What is the best method you use to answer questions; the 'perfect' response?

I only answer questions that I have some experience with. Whether it is a “perfect” response is up to the receiver, the questioner. I could be out in left field, but I try not to be. If I’m not sure of my answer, I state that fact. I try to keep my answers short and to the point, so people don’t get bored with my bullshit.

In the age of social media, how do people navigate the decision-making process when accepting or rejecting friend requests from individuals they may not know personally?

If you make mistakes you can block, restrict, or report “friends” that are assholes.

How can I recover from my trauma of being overloaded with too much truth or information?

The truth can be a bitch. Exercise those broad shoulders you are supposed to have… or take a break. A couple of days of “me time” never hurts if you need a break. It would be better, however, to learn how to deal with the truth or information you may not want to hear.

Who is the most evil person in history? Is it a world leader or someone more obscure?

Adolf Hitler.

To what extent might ethics be open to interpretations?

If you have a good code of ethical behaviors, they are not open to interpretation… at least not by you. If you can constantly “re-interpret” them, what is the point of having “good ethics” in your life? You live by good ethics this week, but next week... not so much? It's not a good way to live life.

“The word "good" has many meanings. For example, if a man were to shoot his grandmother at a range of five hundred yards, I should call him a good shot, but not necessarily a good man.”

-- G.K. Chesterton

Why do some people think that personal experiences trump statistics and data and is it worth debating such people? I find it frustrating debating people who argue on this basis because their experience isn't representative of the facts or reality.

Personal experience can be the exception to the rule. Because there is a “rule” it becomes very hard to debate using your experience.

Is it true that most people who are dumb don’t even know that they are dumb because they are too dumb to realize how dumb they are?

For the most part, this can be true. My experience says that most “dumb” people know they are lacking the spark of intelligence that might set them off from the madding crowd. But, doesn’t knowing this already set them on a more intelligent side? I think if you are capable of learning anything, you are “smarter” than you are dumb, and if you apply yourself you will realize the world will open to you.

Will stupid people survive the coming years of technology? 

There will always be menial jobs for those who have limited intelligence. If most people are involved with technology, who will dump their trash or clean the restrooms? 

Is it common for people who have been abandoned as children, by their biological parents, to develop cold personalities, sarcastic or careless attitudes, as defensive mechanisms toward such trauma? Are such considered mentally ill?

Not necessarily. Children who have been through this can see the anguish of other children going through this, and they can step in a show a strength that can get the other children to a better place mentally. Children who allow this abandonment to negatively affect their lives may, very well, become mentally ill. But, I think that most children can grow stronger, as they get older, from the negativity thrust upon them.

How is it true that when dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion?

Pretty true. We learn this during interrogation.

What has happened to you related to a cult?

In 1974, several of us in the Air Force went to check out Scientology. It didn’t take us long to see through the “mind control” and realize most of the people getting involved were weak-minded. Getting out of the “cult” atmosphere was tough… for anyone but members of the Intelligence branch. Physically touching us was their first mistake. We got some exercise that day. We went back to the air base and did a debrief for the commander. He put Scientology off-limits for our base, at the time, and I was told they were not allowed on the base to "recruit" membership.

“Scientology always has been a game of power and control. L. Ron Hubbard was the ultimate con man, and it's hard to figure out how much of Scientology was an experiment in brainwashing and controlling people, and how much of it was truly intended to help people.”

-- Jenna Miscavige Hill

What are some signs that indicate a person is genuinely seeking truth?

They don’t let anyone prevent them from picking apart what they consider to be bullshit. They will dig down until they find the truth.

How is it wrong to post someone's obituary to your blog, when that's the only evidence you have to prove that that person's family belongs to a corrupt organization?

If their obituary has proof that they belong to a corrupt organization, then the police are morons and the corrupt organization knows this. Shame on the police. Wrong to post? Hell, post away!

What are the reasons behind people thinking he is a bad person now?

Who are we considering? 

Why should I know why I do what I do? What are the reasons that make people know this?

According to Friedrich Nietzsche, if you have a “why” to live for, you can bear almost any how. If you don’t know why you do what you do, why, in God’s name, are you doing it? The reason why most people know this is because they don’t want to waste their time doing things for no reason.

What is the impact of motivational factors on academic achievement?

If you have no motivation, why would you expect any achievement? The impact on achievement is certainly tied to an individual’s motivation.

What are the reasons behind people not recognizing their own ignorance? Can anything be done to address this issue?

Uh… they’re ignorant. Point out why they are wrong.

“You are not entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to your informed opinion. No one is entitled to be ignorant.”

-- Harlan Ellison

Why do people equate hatred with ignorance?

People tend to hate what they are ignorant about. If you’re going to hate something, know what you’re talking about. Otherwise, you’re just another jackass in the herd braying.

What do people lie about?

Sexual affairs. Usually to their wife or husband.

Is it still lying if someone doesn't tell you right away?

If you don’t ask them, they have no “responsibility” to tell you. If they blab, why would anyone tell them anything? Is that right? Not necessarily, any more than it’s wrong. What you don’t know can’t hurt you. But, when you know, friendships can go south… rapidly.

What motivates someone to feel superior over others? Is this a common mindset or uncommon?

Ego, or a false sense of ego. It is becoming more uncommon as we learn to accept each other for what we bring to the table.

Why do some people like authority over others?

Ego. They like the feeling of having authority over other people.

What is the meaning behind a person constantly telling lies and never admitting to them, but then denying them later on?

If you always tell the truth, you don’t have to remember what you said. I think they deny them because they know you found out they were wrong, or they forgot the lie they told in the first place. Karma always catches up with liars first. It is simple to disprove bullshit. If it sounds too good to be true…

“There are three types of lies -- lies, damn lies, and statistics.”

-- Benjamin Disraeli

Why do some people consider asking why to be rude?

They are ignorant, and content to remain so.

How would you feel if someone called you stupid and disrespectful for not putting Nas or Jadakiss in your top ten rappers of all time?

I don’t like “rap” so it matters little what people call me. It makes little matter what people call me, period. If they choose to show their stupidity and disrespect by judging me over rap, so be it. I will support them.

Is somebody a liar if they're 99% honest?

Is someone “infectious” if they are 1% “infectious” to other people? It would seem so.

If Trump was not running for president, would he be facing any of the lawsuits that he is now?

No. The lawsuits have no foundation and are politically motivated. He should sell his buildings and move from New York. The outcry would be heard around the world. He could set up shop in Florida and do no business with New York ever again. Just saying. 

Is it considered rude to constantly talk about oneself instead of asking others questions about themselves?

It is rude and egotistical.

How do I find an enemy to verbally disrespect?

Do you have to find an enemy to verbally disrespect? They are dripping off the walls. My favorite is Vladimir Putin. He thought it would take less than a week to take Ukraine. Two years later, he hasn’t moved more than he originally had, and the Ukrainians have shown the world what they are made of. Yeah, it would be really easy to disrespect Putin.

"You can get arrested if you live in Russia, and you say that there is war in Ukraine. You can only say "special operation." There is a popular joke in Russia: Tolstoy’s "War and Peace" should be now renamed "Special Operation and Peace."

-- Boris Akunin

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Leisure, Introversion, Answers, Asking, Friends, and Truth

“Did perpetual happiness in the Garden of Eden maybe get so boring that eating the apple was justified?”

-- Chuck Palahniuk

In societies where leisure is already a reality, can boredom become a problem?

It can be, but constant introspection will be the warning that you have to get off your ass and do something meaningful instead of being bored.

Why is it that some people my age are rich and I'm wasting time trolling on Quora?

You aren’t rich.

How do I deal with a lazy stepson who won't move out?

I’m sorry. I missed the point where this is your house. If it were his house, my confusion wouldn’t be warranted. Throw his sorry ass out, and change the locks.

The theory makes predictions that are stupidly wrong, so the theory is objectively wrong. How can people be so stupid and ignorant of such self-evident obvious facts?

It would be nice to know what the “theory” is you’re talking about.

Author's comment:  no, you say that but you will be offended when you see the proof in my profile. If any other reaction is anything to go by.

My reply:  English is a second language?

What are some of the lessons one should definitely learn in their 20s?

Whether a political candidate is full of shit. We can’t survive another 4 years of octogenarian fog simply because the candidate’s memory is dicey.

Why do I post questions that make no sense?

Take solace in that you’re not the only one who posts questions that make no sense.

“In life; not all questions require gentle answers, some just want you to be so stupid to answer in a stupid way.”

-- Oscar Auliq-Ice

Can you share a personal experience of how you overcame introversion and how it impacted your life?

I started dating. I got laid a lot.

Are some people destined to be unsuccessful?

Yes, and it is generally not their fault. Many are not “parented” to succeed in life or attain goals. 

What are some of the best examples of "American ignorance"?

Who voted Joe Biden for President?

I have a fear that everyone I've asked tells me is irrational but I have a hard time believing them. Is it then true that my fear is irrational?

It depends on what the fear is. But, generally, fear is pretty rational to each person. Fear helps keep us alive when faced when we’re faced with life-threatening situations.

How did you make it out of your addiction? I’m curious to hear other stories.

Nope. I’m still addicted to great-looking ladies.

Is it considered wrong to speak without knowledge?

It isn’t “wrong,” it just makes the person sound wrong… and, unfortunately, they usually are.

“A fool is made more of a fool when their mouth is more open than their mind.”

-- Anthony Liccione

Does [this site] share answers with people?

The answers are out there for anybody to read. This site doesn’t have to “share” anything. They can negate perfectly acceptable answers, but, for the most part, everything is shared. They have some moderators with a 2x4 up their derriere.

Does anyone ever pass the test?

Which test?

How do you handle a bad situation?

Delicately. Bad situations can get even worse if you handle them with no forethought. I give bad situations a lot of forethought before I open my pie hole. Your mouth can be your worst enemy or another person’s saving grace.

Would you keep texting a friend you only meet once a month? My friend acts like we are best mates. We only meet once a month. Would you just text occasionally?

That would depend on how pretty she is.

Does [this site] share answers with people?

The answers are out there for anybody to read. This site doesn’t have to “share” anything. They can negate perfectly acceptable answers, but, for the most part, everything is shared. They have some moderators with a 2x4 up their derriere.

How hard is it to leave a horrific past?

Not very hard, but you never want to forget it, lest you are tricked into repeating it.

“If you forget the path traveled, you will forget the path to travel”

-- Dr.P.S. Jagadeesh Kumar 

What is the best way to ask your grown child to move out?

“It is time for you to move out. No, really. Get the hell out.”

How did humans discover the ability to have knowledge?

We always had “knowledge.” Expanding that knowledge, on the other hand, came soon after. Everything we learned added to our knowledge base. First, we grunted, then certain grunts came to mean certain things, and so on. Okay, that’s rudimentary, but it makes a point.

Can someone who has been betrayed by their partner forgive them and move on with life?

They can forgive, but forgetting is the hardest part.

What's it like being a racist coward?

Never been one. But, it must be terrible to know you are one. Knowing that the surgeon of a different race is going to save your worthless life. There is a special place in hell… but, that’s another story.

Would you sell your soul to save another’s?

Yes. It is a selfless act that will be understood and cherished by God. 

Why does Allah like to hate so much?

Allah likes “to hate so much” because people are taught that He does by people who make up this drivel. People need to get a grip and believe that the Creator only wants the best for us.

"We will remove whatever rancor there is in their chests, and streams will run for them. They will say, ‘All praise belongs to Allah, who guided us to this’"

-- Q 7:43

My child is friends with negroes. What should I do?

If you aren’t a racist, nothing. If you are a racist… the same choice, or you can be labeled as a racist. What choice can you live with?

My 20-year-old son wants to sue me and his mother because we created him without his permission. What should we do?

You brought him into this world, albeit without his permission. But, you can certainly take him out, as well. I’d make sure you offer this to him and have witnesses to hear him balk at it. Make sure your lawyer tells the court you made the offer. I’d love to be a fly on the wall of the courtroom for this one. What an ungrateful and selfish young man you created. Do not offer to pay for his lawyer.

What would make you hate someone you used to love?

Cheating on me, constantly. I divorced her, I still love her, I just can’t be around her.

Is it worth having an opinion even if it won't change anything?

It is a right to have an opinion, even if it doesn’t change anything. Having an opinion contrary to other people doesn’t, necessarily, make you wrong. If you end up being right, people might pay more attention to your opinion.

Is deception an effort to remove the right of free will?

To make an effort of deception is you exercising your free will.

How do you find out if life is an illusion?

Other than offing yourself, you can’t. And offing yourself is a one-off. Better that you just enjoy the ride and try to be all you can be in this “illusion” you might be in. I would hate to off myself just to find I was wrong. That would just piss me off… or not, depending.

“A great deal of intelligence can be invested in ignorance when the need for illusion is deep.”

-- Saul Bellow

Why does critical theory exist rather than not exist?

Does a “theory” truly exist, or is it critical that we find the truth of it?

Why do I keep thinking everybody is good when they might not be?

Everyone is good until they prove the contrary. This is life teaching us lessons about good and bad. We can learn, or we can keep trying to learn. It depends on how much you want to be hurt in life. I have a pretty good record when it comes to separating the wheat from the chaff.

Is it possible for some people to be inherently bad and not care about their actions towards others?

It happens all the time.

What would you estimate the IQ of a person who truly believes they're "the smartest person ever" to be? What about the person who thinks they may be, but has doubts?

“The smartest person ever” has no reason to think such a thing. This is the person who “has doubts.”

What happens if a friend doesn't talk to you?

They are preoccupied, or… what have you done?

Is it possible to ignore laws that go against our beliefs, values, or morals if we live under the rule of law?

You can do anything you want to do. You might go to jail or hell because the “rule of law” is what you have to follow, or… you can find a country that will let you act out.

"There can be no free society without law administered through an independent judiciary. If one man can be allowed to determine for himself what is law, every man can. That means first chaos, then tyranny."

-- U.S. Supreme Court Justice Felix Frankfurter

 

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Humor, Content, Old People, Annoying, Busy, and a Quote

 

“One has to get down in the muddy place for helping a falling person in the mud; it reflects an incredible devotion way and feeling that shower humanity with fragrance and dress the human with flowers.”

-- Ehsan Sehgal

What would you do if you saw someone falling into the mud? Would you laugh at them?

Let’s answer the original question, shall we? “I fell into the mud in front of a laughing crowd. Would you have laughed with them?” Probably, but I would also help you to your feet and ask if you were alright... other than your bruised ego.

Why should I respect anyone when, the way I see it, no one has ever done anything to earn respect from me?

So, you want respect before you give respect? If everyone waited on respect, we’d all be holding our breath. I show respect to everyone. Then I wait to see if they show some respect back. If I don’t get it, you got some from me… and that will be it. You are supposed to get what you give. If you don’t, well… they suck. There are a lot more people looking for potential friends. Why waste time on someone’s ego.

What would you do if you discovered that all your friends were outcasts, delinquents, or people who have been ignored or put down by society, and you were the only one who cared about them?

I would feel right at home.

Why should or shouldn't one be concerned about what their IQ might be?

If a person is cordial and friendly, I could give a shit what their IQ is. If they start to lift off to “quantum theory,” I’d tell them to come back to Earth with the rest of us. They don’t want to compare brain pans… their friends would evaporate back into the vanilla egos.

What are some simple ways to incorporate self-care into a busy schedule?

Make time. If you don’t make time for “self-care” your “busy schedule” will kill you. 

Can it be true that we mature with the damage, not with the years?

It depends on how you view the “damage.” You can mature early if you accept the damage as a lesson to be learned. Otherwise, it could take you years to realize the time you wasted growing up due to some trivial crap.

Author's comment: I like this, thank you.

“We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another; unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another. The past, present and future mingle and pull us backward, forward, or fix us in the present. We are made up of layers, cells, constellations.”

-- Anais Nin

What type of content is best for [this site]?

Questions and answers.

How do you make people look stupid?

Making people look stupid is easy, but why would you want to? Making a person look "stupid" is what an asshole or a bully would do.

How do I follow, read and break-out of literally and actually all my signs for good which is in truth, reality, fact, just precisely and match-to-match which is all with myself first as an unique individual?

A good start would be trying to make this question easier to read and understand.

Are we all manipulative to some degree?

To some degree. If someone says they aren’t, they are exercising their “manipulation” on you, and I would be vindicated.

Is it possible for a person starting with an IQ of 115 to reach beyond 200+ IQ and higher?

If they like learning, I don’t see why not. But they would have to apply themselves to the project. I think it would be a big waste of time… unless I had some goal in mind. If this was my issue, I’d rather try to get laid. Trying to reach beyond 200 would be a hobby you could equate to sex.

Do you have any funny, play words, or cool quotes that express your ego and lifestyle?

Try this: 

“It is what it is until it isn’t, and then it is what it is, again.”

-- F.A. Villari

Have other old people been mean to you for different reasons?

Yeah, so many different reasons. But they’re old people, so I give them a pass.

How many IQs does it take to understand your own bias and stupidity?

Your own IQ could do this trick with little effort. Look at your bias and stupidity, and understand that is a part of your “ass” that you show everyone. And before you balk at this, understand that everyone has bias and stupidity. We are only human, unfortunately.

What are the most stupid things you have ever researched?

Hollow Earth Theory. I was young.

Why do people think I’m corny or I don’t belong in this world because I am smart and nice, and I do not like to break the law?

You are hanging with the wrong people. Be who you are and ignore the naysayers. You can go see them during visiting hours.

Why would anyone waste time with licorice when Twizzlers is on sale near you right now?

Because real black licorice is so much different than Twizzlers.

Why is everybody selfish?

Not everybody is selfish. A good many of us are selfless in what we do. You need to hang with a better class of people.

“The belief that unhappiness is selfless and happiness is selfish is misguided. It's more selfless to act happy. It takes energy, generosity, and discipline to be unfailingly lighthearted, yet everyone takes the happy person for granted. No one is careful of his feelings or tries to keep his spirits high. He seems self-sufficient; he becomes a cushion for others. And because happiness seems unforced, that person usually gets no credit.”

-- Gretchen Rubin 

Why don’t people think I’m smart, I have an IQ of 400 and my family and friends left me because they said I was too annoying and stupid, and I got fired from my job, I’m going to end up homeless, what do I do?

Stop being annoying. Focus on the job at hand. Ignore your IQ as it doesn’t tell us who you are, and you need to be more than that. You are “stupid” because you buy into what others say. Stop buying into it and start being more than you are. Sweep streets if it keeps you from being homeless, and work up from there. Keep telling yourself that you are more than they say you are, and then prove it.

Why are you bored now?

I just started answering questions this morning. Give me some time and I won’t be bored.

Why must other people accept your own beliefs or face being canceled?

That’s the tact of the liberal base. I believe all people have a right to think what they want. Unfortunately, they don’t think for themselves, they let the media think for them. Instead of questioning what they’re told, they just buy into it. This is how we got an old geezer with dementia as President. Who is calling the shots? That is a great question, but it certainly isn’t the President.

The goal of development is to create an environment that gives people the opportunity to enjoy long, healthy, and harmonious lives. Can you explain?

I could, but it seems to explain itself.

Do you think the people who are often and easily offended are happy?

I don’t think anyone who is “often and easily offended” can be truly happy. They need to learn to let shit like this roll off their back and get on with life. They need to strive for true happiness always and in all things, regardless of their circumstances. It is a choice they need to make.

Author's comment: Tony, thanks for a great answer. I posed the question after noticing so many of the younger kids taking offense to way too many things. Why do you think they’ve been over-emotionalized? There are too many for this to be an organic shift.

Why do people often fail to bring about desired changes in their lives and society? Is there a solution to this problem?

They need to try harder. People, in general, have become complacent. They accept what is, and not what it can be.

“Once your soul is awakened, you never return to the sleepwalking state of mind. Some people become complacent in life. They are just going through the motions and not aware of truth. Seek the knowledge, wisdom, and the understandings that vivify your existence.”

-- Amaka Imani Nkosazana

Why do people suddenly vanish from the internet? An ambitious researcher, I've known, had lots of online presence. She spent many years at university and got her Ph.D. She then got a job and her gigantic online presence completely froze, in time, forever

She found herself busier than a one-armed painter. Or, she died.

What’s an example of a serious situation you found yourself in that eventually became funny to you?

We were in the middle of an Operational Readiness Inspection, and I was in the Command Post to give a briefing. The General needed to get a B-52 off the ramp and into the air. He asked who had been working on it. He was told that all the senior mechanics looked at it. I thought to myself that they hadn’t asked any of the young mechanics fresh out of school, with fresh ideas, and fresh training. The General asked if they had asked any of the young troops what their thoughts were. I was in the back of the room and smiled at his intelligence as I looked at the floor and shook my head. When the “ass chewing” was over the General asked me, in a low voice, if I agreed. I told him that was why I smiled. He was thinking “out of the box.” They got a young “go-getter” out of bed and the B-52 was in the air by morning.

How can I ask my boyfriend who has stopped caring about me?

Ask him what?

How can leaders navigate the complexities of leadership with humility, confidence, and authenticity?

It isn’t that hard. I did it in the Air Force for about 20 years and in the private sector for another 17 years. A good leader isn’t full of themselves. They have to leave their “ego” behind and focus on the mission at hand. You show confidence but not so much that you forget the humility to accept responsibility for your decisions and listen to what your team members have to say. All of this makes up your “authenticity” as a leader.

Why does weather and annoying people particularly not behave the way I expect them to sometimes cause there even worse than I think or want them to ever cause there idiots. the never bit makes them idiots though. so so so sorry?

What? You need to work on this question.

Is happiness the only wisdom?

"Happiness" doesn’t create true wisdom. Problems and issues have a better chance of teaching one wisdom. If you burn yourself on a hot stove you will either have the wisdom to not touch a hot stove again, or you are a slow learner.

"Good people are good because they've come to wisdom through failure."

-- William Saroyan

Who is the author of the famous quote "Be yourself; everyone else is already taken"?

Oscar Wilde.

When you can’t decide the answer is probably no? I put myself down so much by talking about things in my head when there are better ways to think.

You can talk about things out loud, but people might think you’re simple-minded. Take it easy on yourself. Thinking is the same no matter how you do it.

What books do you recommend to become more eloquent?

Take a moment and think about what you’re going to say. Books won’t do this for you.

What is the most tragic thing that can happen to someone?

Take a hike in the desert and fall into a crevasse where you will die alone. My worst fear is dying alone. Will my body ever be found? I make certain that someone knows where I’m hiking, and that I will call them when I return. It is good sense.

Should we kill people for saying, “How's your day?”

Only if you’re a sociopathic sick ticket who likes to kill people for being cordial.

Who is credited with the quote, "To know your enemy, you must become your enemy."?

Sun Tzu, “The Art of War.” I have a copy.

“The greatest victory is that which requires no battle.”

-- Sun Tzu

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Flatmates, Love, Improvement, Fears, Arguing, and Smartest

“Some people are beyond aromatherapeutic help”

-- Beth O'Leary

I am currently facing issues with my flatmates. What should I do?

Find new flatmates. The issues will probably continue… unless you hold the “lease” to the flat, and your flatmates are screwed. Having the “upper hand” is always the best tactic when faced with idiots.

Is the result of coming to a conclusion a judgement?

If “coming to a conclusion” is your opinion, it might be seen as a judgment.

I am really bored. Can you ask me a question and I'll answer to the best of my ability?

“Why?” And “because” is not the answer. The answer to “Why?” is the answer of the ages. You might want to meditate on it for a few years, and then smile. Or, you can nod your head now, and smile. Up to you.

Does good luck come from positive thinking?

There is no such thing as luck. “Luck” is an excuse for not having enough knowledge. Good positive thinking, however, can substitute for a lack of knowledge. 

Does a lightworker have a lot of karma, or do they have "luck" in life?

Good “karma” is a result of making good choices and decisions. The “lightworker” probably strives to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of their circumstances. It is a choice in life. “Luck” is an excuse when you can’t understand that you have somehow, beat the odds, just as “bad luck” is the excuse when you have not beaten the odds.

Have you seen an expert like me before?

I have seen many people who are legends in their own minds.

"An individual who experiences grandiosity, with probable undertones of liberal to severe narcissism. Someone who thinks that they hold an immense amount of clout in the world when in reality they hold very little, or likely, none."

-- Phil Fernandez

Is it common for people to treat others poorly when they are in love?

No. That is tantamount to “usery” if you tell someone you love them and then treat them badly.

What are some examples of positive mindsets?

“I can do this. It might take me a few tries, but I can do this.”

What should I do if I am so completely obsessed with what others think of me to the point that I turn into a troll by being referred to as one?

So, you let others dictate what you think you should be. Would it be better if you were yourself, and ignored other people’s opinions of you? Becoming a “troll” is no answer, just because someone called you that. Rise above the fray, and be better than the rest.

Are there different levels of difficulty in the mysteries presented?

There are “levels of difficulty” in all things. The levels might seem equal, but they aren’t.

Why is it rare to see kindness?

People, in general, don’t want to get involved with strangers. Luckily, on the Gulf Coast of Mississippi, we don’t have this shortfall. We have kindness to spare.

Does kindness come from humanity?

I used to say yes to this, but “humanity” gets a bad rap, nowadays. “Kindness” comes from wanting to be kind to others. Most people understand this.

“Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.”

-- Henry James

What should you not do to improve your life?

Subjugate others.

How does personal growth contribute to happiness?

True happiness is a choice and personal growth is a choice. If you strive for true happiness always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances, you will experience personal growth throughout life. It is a matter of making a simple choice.

What's the purpose or topic you're interested in?

Paranormal investigation. This is the knowledge we ignore. Our purpose is to learn.

How does self-acceptance contribute to happiness?

That depends on if you will be truly happy accepting who you are. If this is tough acceptance, perhaps one must make some changes to be more happy with who they want to be. True happiness is accepting who you are always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. It is a choice we should all make for our lives.

What quote should I use to be respected?

“Quotes” won’t get you the respect you want. If you truly respect others, they will reciprocate in kind. This is the only respect one should garner in life. 

Where is the happiness of the poor?

It is in the same place it’s always been. Strive to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. It is a choice you make that trumps your circumstances and can make you a beacon of hope for others.

“We must know that we have been created for greater things, not just to be a number in the world, not just to go for diplomas and degrees, this work and that work. We have been created in order to love and to be loved.

-- ”Saint Teresa of Calcutta

Can a person truly have no fears? If so, how did they develop this mindset?

If a person has no fear they are destined to die in short order. Fear is what keeps us alive.

Why do many troll questions end in "What should I do"?

It doesn’t matter how they end the question. What matters is someone answers the question. If they are “trolls” it is a loss to them that someone cared to answer them. Trolls are proving themselves to be the dregs of online society if not society as a whole. They are “charter members” of the League of the Perpetually Offended. Answer all questions, but try to ignore the trolls when they come back at you.

How can I destroy my ego and arrogance?

Volunteer time to help the needy… and keep your mouth in check.

What motivates some people to try to make others look bad, even if the others are not doing anything wrong? What could be the reason for this behavior?

Ego and “one-upmanship” might be the answer. People tend to want to look better than others, even in their own click. It isn’t right, but it does happen. I try not to bite the bait from this group. I hang with my chosen crowd that treats everyone with a modicum of respect.

Why do guys catcall girls?

Lack of good upbringing.

How do you view life? What can we learn from the way you view it?

I strive for true happiness always and in all things, regardless of my circumstances. It is a simple choice to make for my life. Life is all about learning, not drama. I have learned to view life from a better perspective.

“Reality is not our thoughts and feelings about things. Many of us, for example, think that the Sun rises in the East and sets in the West. In reality, the Sun neither rises nor sets. We on Earth just move closer to the Sun or farther away from it. Most of us do not see reality as it is but rather as we are. That is what Krishna is telling Arjuna: To change your reality, change the mental filters through which you look - your own perspective. Just as a white building when viewed through red glass looks red, similarly, reality as it is can be distorted by the colours of emotions in the mind.”

-- Debashis Chatterjee

Why does no one on the planet want to argue with me for free?

Who in their right mind would want to argue? Who is their right mind who pays for the “privilege” to argue? Oh, I’m pretty sure there is some dumbass out there, the League of the Perpetually Offended, that will argue with you for free, and there is probably one that would pay for the privilege. To what end?

Is life just a manipulation by our microorganisms to self-sustain?

I’ve never heard sex described that way.

Is midnight the best time for creative inspiration?

Midnight is the best time for sleep, and I get damned little of it as it is. The best time for my creative juices is when I’m looking at the project.

What did you do when you turned 18?

I had the sex of a lifetime at the Mustang Ranch, in Las Vegas. 

Can it be true that the only defense against the world is a thorough knowledge of it?

No. Knowing the world is one thing. Having a defense against it is another. Nuclear explosive devices are tough to defend against. “Oh, look. In the sky. Here comes one of those nuclear explosive devices I have a thorough knowledge of.” It isn’t going to be a good day.

How do I gain full, deep, complete, entire, thorough, and detailed clarification in all my words, actions, attitudes, behaviors, languages, and phrases covering actually every single one literally as fact which is true, the truth, and is what it is?

Focus.

“Very occasionally, if you pay really close attention, life doesn't suck.”

-- Joss Whedon

Does the smartest person alive know they are the smartest?

If they are, how “smart” can they be?

Since when has logic, critical thinking, and common sense become a liability? And Why?

When you flaunt your logic, critical thinking, and common sense, to make you look like you’re all that. The first thing most people will point out is your lack of common sense. Flaunting your intelligence is never a good thing. Most people will see you as a stuck-up intelligentsia… with little common sense.

Author's comment: Good point/answer. But I was referring to organizations lacking all these.

My reply:  Odd. I didn’t see “organizations” in your question.

A common problem with stupid people is that they misunderstand what is said, can't think more than one step at a time, and are easily convinced by theatrics. What is the best way to talk to a stupid person?

Joe Biden is a clue. Be a Democrat in politics. You can be President.

Do you think being educated makes you smart?

No. Being educated makes you intelligent. As an intelligent person, what you do with your education can make you smart. What you know is one thing, but what you do with what you know is another.

What do we call a person who only has bookish knowledge?

Book smart.

Why do people act like France is a real place?

Uh… is this another trick question, or are you trolling for idiots?

“Lebedev: France has a clear and defined policy... The French know what they want. They just want to wipe out the Krauts, finish, but Germany, my friend, is playing a very different tune. Germany has many more birds in her sights than just France...

Shabelsky: Nonsense! ...In my view the German are cowards and the French are cowards... They're just thumbing their noses at each other. Believe me, things will stop there. They won't fight.

Borkin: And as I see it, why fight? What's the point of these armaments, congresses, expenditures? You know what I'd do? I'd gather together dogs from all over the country, give them a good dose of rabies and let them loose in enemy country. In a month all my enemies would be running rabid.”

-- Anton Chekhov

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com