Stereotyping Peaceful Islam - Inherently Vicious Pit Bulls? (Updated from 12/6/2015)

 

“In 1920, a resident of Navarre, Ohio, reported that the town’s mayor had shot and killed his dachshund “for being German.” The dogs were “completely driven off the streets” in Cincinnati. Londoners feared walking their dachshunds in public, lest the animals be stoned to death. Reports of children beating, kicking, and “siccing” other dogs on dachshunds throughout England and the United States were common, and AKC registrations of dachshunds dropped to the low double digits, even as breeders scrambled to rename them “liberty hounds” and “liberty pups.”

-- Bronwen Dickey

"Pit Bulls are inherently vicious."  Have you ever heard this mindless tripe?  Have you ever run into a clueless, intolerant person who feels the entire breed of dog should be eradicated for reasons they cannot support with any evidence?  It's like saying, in the 1930s, that all of Germany's problems were caused by the Jews; that the Jews were the cause of their economic woes and losing World War I, excuses Hitler used, with great success, for eradicating the Jews. It's kind of like justifying genocide by simply saying, "Kill them all and let God sort them out." 

What the...?

But, what does this have to do with stereotyping Islam?  Writing this, I am fully aware of how out in left field it seems.  I'm also aware many people are going to immediately take offense, and focus on me comparing Islam to a breed of dog, missing the real point of this post entirely.  The League of the Perpetually Offended will probably be demanding my head on a platter due largely to their rampant intolerance for anything resembling understanding, reason, or good sense.  Please understand that the comparison of Pit Bulls with peaceful Islam concerns the misconceptions, nothing else.  Bear with me, as I try to fail at bringing this example full circle.

First, with my apology, let's look at a list of 10 misconceptions about the Pit Bull breed borrowed from Arin Greenwood, Animal Welfare Editor, The Huffington Post:

1. Banning Pit Bulls Makes People Safer

2. Pit Bulls Are Inherently Vicious

3. Pit Bulls Are Bred For Fighting

4. They Have Locking Jaws

5. Pit Bulls Aren't Good With Kids

6. They Aren't Safe Around Other Dogs

7. Pit Bulls Can Never Be Trusted With Other Animals

8. Once A Fighting Dog, Always A Fighting Dog

9. All Pit Bulls Eventually Turn On Their Owners

10. Only Bad People Keep Pit Bulls

-- 10 Stereotypes About Pit Bulls That Are Just. Dead. Wrong.

For each of these ten misconceptions, I have heard a similar description for Muslims, and Islam, as a whole.  Try it yourself; replace "Pit Bull" in each statement with Muslim or Islam, as appropriate. Does anything stand out for you?

In her article, for which I have included the link (below the 10 misconceptions), Ms. Greenwood makes some telling statements concerning what we have come to learn about the Pit Bull breed:

"Breed identification is nearly impossible... There's no evidence that pit bulls are, in fact, more dangerous than other dogs... The term "pit bull" doesn't actually refer to a specific breed of dog. It's a catch-all term that usually means dogs who are one of a couple of types of terriers... Pit bulls aren't inherently anything, other than dogs with a blocky-shaped head. And of course the shape of a dog's head tells you exactly nothing about that dog's personality... But even those dogs who are bred for fighting can turn out to make great pets once they're free from their abusive environments... A dog being labeled a pit bull tells you nothing about how that pup will be with other dogs... Regardless of breed, good socialization is always recommended, to help dogs play nice... Pit bulls, in the end, are nothing more -- and nothing less -- than dogs. All this being said, there's one stereotype about pit bulls that we can get behind. It is indisputably true that when they're happy and loved, these dogs have the very best smiles."

When you try the exercise of exchanging terms here, we find similarities to what we have come to learn about Islam, to wit:  You can't tell a radical terrorist Muslim from a peaceful one by looking at them.  Visually profiling without additional information foments fear and intolerance.  There is no evidence that Islam is more dangerous than any other religion.  Islamic terrorist has become a "catch-all" term to include all Muslims, peaceful or otherwise, which simply magnifies Islamophobia, which might lead to internment camps with "showers" and furnaces; another Nazi "final solution," and how horrific was that time in history?  

For those that aren't aware of it, the Nazis started Islamic terrorism.  Muslims aren't inherently terrorists any more than children of American neo-Nazi parents are born being racists.  It is something they are taught to be by sociopathic role models, like Nazis.  What a Muslim looks like says nothing of their true beliefs.  There is such a small minority of Islamic extremists wishing to destroy the world one would think we should assume "non-terrorist" before we jump to a conclusion and judge the book by its cover.

We have witnessed "radical terrorists" see the light of reason, the misinterpretation of the Qur'an by radical Imams, and they have left the terrorist groups.  We hear their testimony in the media more and more.  Once free from their abusive environments, from the heretical interpretation of their faith, they seem to find, with some assistance from peaceful Islamists, the error of their ways.  Perhaps Islam needs to be more public when they are "playing nice" with others, especially in this country, the United States, where our media doesn't cover the good as much as they do the bad.

In closing, I'm going to plagiarize Ms. Greenwood's final statement, changing it, appropriately, in my attempt to try and bring this post together:  

"Muslims, in the end, are nothing more -- and nothing less -- than human beings.  All this being said, there is one stereotype about Islam that, I think, we can get behind.  It is indisputably true that when they are happy, loved, and accepted as friends, these people of faith have proven themselves to be the best of us.  They can also have the very best of smiles."

We need to remember the worst of history along with the best.  We need to remember that Judaism, Christianity, and Islam are all Abrahamic religions, and all three have suffered from failing humanity, at one time or another.  We can try to deny it, but the truth is, God or Allah, our mutual deity is the God of Abraham.  As such, where one fails, perhaps we must look back to Abraham, to see where mistakes have been made.  Or, maybe we just have to look at how badly we have allowed scripture to be interpreted by scholars with agendas not in line with those of the God they profess to believe in.

Stop looking upon all of Islam, misdiagnosing it as some rabid dog in need of euthanasia.  Instead, try utilizing the technology at hand for more than playing games, social media, or some immoral pastime.  Look up articles on Islam. The "Islam" that condemns terrorism and the killing of innocence.  Learn about the other Islam, the vast majority of Islam, the Islam of peace.  See if you can change your close-minded, one-sided opinion, and open the door to... maybe.

How cool might that be? 

“Kindness is a mark of faith, and whoever is not kind has no faith.”

“Spread love, everywhere you go.”

“Love for others, what you love for yourself.”

“Do good to others, and goodness will come back to you.” 

-- Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Love, Acceptance, God, Decisions, Selflessness, and Perfect

“God has no religion.”

-- Mahatma Gandhi

Do you love who created you?

Indeed!

Why do people choose to believe in something rather than knowing something?

Personally, I’d rather “know something” than believe in fairytales. It is the reason I redefined my belief in God into something one could actually sink my teeth into. Believing in an omnipotent energy that created the universe and everything in it, is not difficult. But, knowing it as a fact might be. It is a work in progress. 

Is it the truth that humans will attack the truth? Why is this?

Because most people are ignorant.

Does anybody care about the discontinued foods because I'm a loser?

What do discontinued foods have to do with you being a loser? And, who says you’re a loser? This question is like Swiss cheese. It has holes in it. 

What is the truth about life?

Learning. We live to learn.

At what point does making money become no longer about improving the life of one's self and family?

At the point that you choose. It is different for many people. While I endeavor to survive my retirement, I strive to be truly happy always, and in all things, regardless of my circumstances. It is my choice.

“There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.”

-- Ernest Hemingway 

Do you accept everyone on this Earth?

Oh, hell no.

Do Republicans truly think of themselves as Christians when they support Donald Trump? How is that possible?

I’m not religious and I support Trump. This is one of the problems with some of the Democrats. They like to put everyone in a can and label it. Fortunately, most people are different. Maybe some Democrats should learn this.

Are you the same person when no one is watching?

I am who I am, whether people are watching or not.

How do you distinguish between destiny and making active choices in relationships?

When you make active choices in relationships, you change your destiny. Our destiny walks hand in hand with our active choices. If you change the way you think, you change your destiny. It is your destiny and everything you do steers your destiny. 

What changes occur when spirits become perfected after death?

I’ll find out when I die. Nobody can answer this.

What is the meaning of, "Live life for today and not for tomorrow."?

This might blow some minds, but it is a simple explanation. Live life for today, because this day might be all you have. When tomorrow comes, you can live life for that day. Every day is a new day that you have to live life. Live life for today, and then live life for the next day, and the next, and so on.

"Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning."

-- Albert Einstein

Can humans find happiness and purpose in life, without believing in a higher being, or "God"?

Yes.

Is showing empathy a sign of being an adult?

I would like to say, "empathy" is the purview of adults. However, many adults started off having empathy as kids. Empathy is a sign of recognizing and understanding another living entity's issues. 

What does "split" mean in "in a split second"?

In a fraction of a second.

How will Americans ever hope to be enlightened people again, without the humility that suffering teaches? How can being whiny, spoiled rotten, and ungrateful, ever teach Republicans or Democrats anything?

What do you mean by “again”? It would seem you think Americans were enlightened in the past. To be controversial, I think before there were Americans, the world was full of whiny, spoiled rotten, and ungrateful people, trying to get a leg up. Being whiny, spoiled rotten, and ungrateful, are the traits of those who have their nose to the grindstone… throughout history.

Is it right to make others suffer as one has suffered?

Suffering is supposed to be a way for people to make life easier for those who follow.

Were we in our father before conception?

Part of us were. Part of us were in our mother, as well. During lovemaking, the two parts are brought together to create a new life.

"There's a reason why God designed our bodies so that, when we lie down in bed, our hands naturally come to rest on our genitals."

-- Caitlin Moran 

How do souls make decisions before incarnating?

I’ll find out when I die. People will keep guessing at this stuff. If you really want to find out, you have to die. Bingo! The truth will hit you in the face. 

Would having $100 million be more satisfying than having $1 billion?

It depends on how fast you plan on spending it. Don’t forget about annual income tax.

What factors helped you make your biggest career decision?

The “Selective Service System.” I was drafted. I joined the Air Force, instead. 23 years later, I retired.  It was the best time of my life.

Is it possible to stop believing in something that you are not aware of its existence?

How can you stop believing in something you aren’t aware of?

How can one respectfully discuss differing beliefs about the existence of God?

Both sides of the discussion need to agree, that neither side has any facts, to bring forth, to prove their hypothesis. The theists nor the atheists don’t have any proof to offer to back up their argument. 

Is it necessary to explain our life choices to others?

No. It is your choice and none of their business.

“You already made the choice, you are simply here to walk it.”

-- L.J. Vanier

Can someone who does not believe in God still do good deeds without expecting anything in return?

If they are selfless, yes.

What is your greatest priority in life, and what drives you to keep going each day? What do you truly care about?

My greatest priority, my drive and what I truly care about, are the same thing. I truly care about being happy always, and in all things, regardless of my circumstances. This is my choice.

What life experiences taught you to find inner peace?

Martial arts.

Is God the true creator and creates us so that we may create?

Well, of course. He created us to learn, as much as we can, but, in learning, we also create beautiful things. Children come to mind. But, also art that can turned into planes, jets, rockets, skyscrapers, bridges, and so much more.

What is something that the world needs that we can bring? Be it an app, a site, or something.

Permanent peace. We can bring it, but a handful of countries will balk.

Is everything in life predestined?

People like to think so, but how will they prove it? If life is “predestined” and I decide to be a bum, is this my life predestined? What we think, can change. We go to college to be doctors... and get into architecture. The grades are there, but drawing buildings makes us happy. So people die because we aren’t doctors? Maybe the bridge we build will replace an out-of-date and dangerous one. Maybe, we save hundreds of lives with the bridge. Is all this predestined? It makes one think.

“If God is really out there, then there are all the more reasons for free will to exist. If everything is predestined, what’s the fun in that? Humans must surprise the Almighty at times.”

-- Abhaidev

What is your perfect day like as a retiree?

Nothing to do, but have a cigar and a glass of bourbon. Perfect.

Do we have free will, or is our behavior determined by factors like genetics and environment?

“Free will” is a genetic belief you have to understand. No one can take your "free will" away unless you surrender it, which would be ignorant. Even if you don’t think you have “free will,” you do. You are born with the ability to commit suicide, which is the epitome of free will. “Free will” is a product of our genetics, not our environment.

The very act of claiming that you don't exist confirms that you do exist. Do you agree?

Absolutely.

What role does faith play in our daily lives?

Those with a sense of “faith” believe everything will work out well. Faith gives birth to “hope”, and what we hope for is what we want in our lives.

Have you ever had an experience that made you believe in the afterlife or spirit world?

Many experiences made me a believer, from childhood to 65 years later.

If time and everything around you is going back and you are going forward, what is the point of living?

The point of living is to learn. If everything is going back, and you are going forward, the "point of living" is to learn why everything is going back, except you.

"Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn."

-- Benjamin Franklin

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Prayer, Atheism, Dreams, Repairs, Love, and a Path

 

"Thank you, God, for another glorious day in paradise."

-- F.A. Villari

How do you start your day with God?

I wake up to another great day in paradise and say, “Good morning, God!”

Do you people believe we humans are animals too… or… do we just think ourselves differently?

We are animals with higher intellect. We use tools to take us into space. No other animal on this planet can do such things. Given the right tools, we can kill any other animal. This ability puts us at the top of the food chain… if we are armed. If we aren’t armed, we are kibble.

What is your ultimate goal? Is it to promote happiness for all humanity or to convert them to your beliefs?

Promote true happiness. No one wants to be forced to believe the way I do.

Why do people believe that there is good in everyone?

People are ignorant. There is no redeeming value in a murdering sociopath. They suck you in by acting good, then they torture you unto an untimely death.

What is the opposite of "always happy" or "happy-go-lucky"?

Always sad and miserable.

What are the benefits of being extremely evil?

You can do anything evil you want… until you’re caught. The possible downside of being “extremely evil” is an untimely death at the hands of society.

“In each of us, two natures are at war – the good and the evil. All our lives the fight goes on between them, and one of them must conquer. But in our own hands lies the power to choose – what we want most to be we are.”

-- Robert Louis Stevenson

How can an atheist effectively communicate with someone who believes in gods? What arguments or evidence could be used to challenge their beliefs?

Neither theists nor atheists can provide any proof of their belief. The only proof any of them will have is when they die. For the atheist, it will be permanent death. For the theist, it may be a life after death. Or, they may end up like the atheist - dead, for all eternity. Theists are betting on God.

Will it ever become possible to travel back in time, like 40 years ago?

It would be interesting, but the possibility is problematic.

Is there a valid reason for believing in a god or religion without any evidence of its existence?

Just in case. But, on the other side of the coin, is there a valid reason not to believe in God? Neither side of this discussion has any incontrovertible proof they are right. Which makes both sides sound like jackasses braying at each other. Believe what you want to believe and shut up about it.

Who do you take with you when you go to heaven?

My ex-wife. I will drop her off at hell. Maybe she will learn something.

Do people who pray a lot go to heaven?

Not if they are praying, constantly, for forgiveness for all the evil they continuously visit on mankind. Instead of boring God with prayers asking for forgiveness, try doing the righteous thing continuously.

"Everyone wants to go to Heaven but nobody wants to die." What do you say about this statement?

It is what it is. Get over it.

“Heaven goes by favor. If it went by merit, you would stay out and your dog would go in.”

-- Mark Twain

How can I achieve my dreams of owning a house when I'm an addict?

Stop being an addict, and save the money for the house.

Which is better, this life or life after death?

Nobody knows what life after death is truly like. It may be a “rebirth” into another time. What we can say for almost certainty, is that it will be more learning. Learning is what we are here for.

What determines a person's worth if they are not successful or talented?

If you can be my good friend, your worth is priceless.

What defines a "truth" in your opinion?

Facts that define it. You can tell the “truth” but before we believe what you say, we need to see and hear the facts. Without facts what you have is an opinion. The opinion may be based on facts, but if you don’t know the facts, it is another opinion.

Is death the only truth in life?

You forgot “birth”… before death.

Why are some beliefs not important?

The beliefs have no bearing. “I love you, and whether you believe me is not important. The "fact" that I love you, is all that matters.”

“A thing is not necessarily true because a man dies for it.”

-- Oscar Wilde 

Can l repair the damage l caused?

You have to be a bit clearer. What damage did you cause?

Why do all humans want to become more powerful than other humans? What are your opinions?

Well, for one thing, not “all humans” want to be more powerful than other humans. Many are submissive, and others don’t give a fig. You put all humans in the same bucket. Not a good thing to do. Personally, I don’t give a fig about being “more powerful” than others. I’d rather be a lover than a fighter.

What makes a philosophical argument logically sound?

Facts.

What religion are you?

I’m not. I am spiritual. I believe in my definition of God. When all is said and done, what you believe in your heart is most important.

Should religion have a say in abortion laws?

Killing children goes higher than religion. It is a matter of right and wrong.

Why do people ask if they "should" believe in God?

Why would you believe what someone else says? If you feel like believing then so be it. Whether you believe or not is between you and God and nobody else.

“Reality is that which, when you stop believing in it, doesn't go away.”

-- Philip K. Dick

If God is the true embodiment of unconditional selfless love, does that mean we become like Him when we express this love ourselves?

Don’t believe everything you hear or read. God decided not to write things down because humans kept getting the story wrong. So, what did humans do? They wrote the Bible, and it has multiple problems of its own. People, in general, are ignorant.

Why do people always try to take advantage or control people that are always there for them and never been told to set good boundaries why do people try to control and take advantage of people like that I notice this even on movies why is this so?

You need to learn punctuation, at a minimum. 

Do you think an AI program should be given a soul?

Not possible. Destroy AI and it dies. Destroy a human and the soul lives on. We can’t give a machine a soul.

Why did you create your destiny?

Because that is what we do. If someone else “creates” your destiny, you have created your destiny by giving them permission. Your life and your destiny are yours to do with what you’d like. You can’t blame anyone but yourself for your destiny.

"When I'm in a new environment, it's the people who are supposed to adjust to me" Um…is this peak narcissism?

Ya think? Nobody has to “adjust” to them unless it is their job, to do so.  

When did the idea of a "soul" start? Why, after all these years, has no scientific evidence of a soul been found?

They have found that immediately after death, the body loses weight. The consensus is that the soul leaves the body. Is this true? Well, it sounds pretty good to me. Is it scientific? I have no idea.

"The only weight you lose after death is the weight of the world on your shoulders."

-- Unknown

Can you alter the path of your life?

It's your path. Only you can alter it, or you can allow someone else to alter it. Your path, your life.

If we acknowledge "nothing," doesn't it make "nothing" something?

It does. "Nothing" is something that doesn’t exist.

What role does destiny play in the life paths and choices we make?

Destiny is the choices and decisions we make in life. It is where we go, by the choices and decisions we make. Our destiny can change as our choices and decisions change. It is what it is.

How possible does our decision determine our destiny?

Any “decision” you make determines your destiny, now or later.

How does the concept of free will fit into the belief that God is love and loves us unconditionally?

It is your “free will” to believe “that God is love and loves you unconditionally.” You are right when you call it a concept. Many people would not accept this.

Can the devil take away your free will?

Only if you give it to him.

"The forces of good and evil are working within and around me, I must choose, and in a free will universe I do have a choice."

-- Martin Luther

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Talking Face-to-Face? What a Concept! (Updated from 12/1/2015)

 

Face-to-face interaction (less often, face-to-face communication or face-to-face discourse) is a concept in sociology, linguistics, media and communication studies describing social interaction carried out without any mediating technology. Sociologist Erving Goffman in his classic 1959 book "The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life" defined face-to-face interaction as "the reciprocal influence of individuals upon one another's actions when in one another's immediate physical presence".

-- Wikipedia, "Face to Face Interaction"

A friend of mine posted this photograph on her social media page.  The concept is a point I harp on constantly and, you guessed it, I'm going to beat the dead horse again.  Face-to-face communication.

Teenagers?  Oh, how we'd love to put this ridicule on the young.  Unfortunately, you can see this scene with elderly people in any restaurant.  Loss of ability to communicate face-to-face is not a malady infecting just our youth.  It is a social grace we have been eroding away at since Innocenzo Manzetti came up with the idea of the "speaking telegraph" in 1844.

All of my friends give me grief over the fact that I still have a "flip" phone.  I carry my flip phone everywhere, and there is a reason for it.  I carried it at my mother's request so, in the event of an emergency, if anything were to happen to her or dad, I could be reached.  That's it.  If I could do away with it, I would.  

When I'm out and about I am enjoying personal time.  I do not want you to call me.  If I wanted you to call me, I'd be at home, or talking to you face-to-face.  But, technology tugs at all of us.  Some of us kick and fight against it like a child at bedtime.  We don't want to go!  We are the Luddites of our day.

Now, don't get me wrong, I love new technology.  I think technology has its place in making our lives easier.  I just think we need to temper our love of technology with the realization that it has the ability to destroy our humanity.  We risk letting technology rule us as in some science fiction movies.  We risk our fiction becoming our reality without learning the moral of the story.   The more we allow technology, the industry behind it, and our own lack of moderation to control our lives, the more we risk being controlled.  We risk becoming the emotionless machines we use.

Unlike the performer Prince, we need to re-learn how to "party like it's 1995."  We need to keep technology in its place.  We need to learn to keep our technology in our pockets when we're out in public.  The whole point of being out in public is to interact face-to-face with other people out in public.  This doesn't mean walking around with an earpiece, talking to yourself like some simpleton or an elderly person with dementia.

Take the damned Blue Tooth out of your ear, so we know when you're talking to us.  If someone ever causes an accident, injuring someone close to me, because they were on the phone or texting, they had better die in the accident because I will probably beat them to death with their own device when I see them.  I wish it amazed me that people, incapable of multitasking, get behind the wheel of a 4000-pound vehicle, speed it up to 65 mph, and proceed to do something other than drive.  Put your makeup on at home, finish your phone calls, finish your lunch, and beat the crap out of your relationship, prior to getting behind the wheel of a two-ton weapon of mass destruction.

Just saying.

When you have dinner together at night, or any meal for that matter, turn off the boob tube and the cell phones. Sit at the dinner table with plates, napkins, and silverware, you know, like civilized human beings.  Try talking with each other about plans for the day, or the day's events.  Exchange anecdotes that may have occurred.  Anecdote?  Look it up, that's why you carry a tablet.  Remember? 

I remember when a tablet was something you wrote on, you know, with a pen, not a stylus.  A pen was the writing implement that ink actually flowed from, in order to make a mark.  This was back in the day when you actually had to know how to spell, do the math... in your head, and, God forbid, talk to someone face-to-face.  It won't be long before your significant other finds it more gratifying to make love to a machine, or Artificial Intelligence, like Gigolo Joe. 

Or... are they already?

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Bosses, Traits, God, Happy, Atheists, Creation

"I wish my boss understood that yelling and degrading her employees doesn't make things run smoother."

-- Chanda Jordan

I had a boss who was extremely jealous of me. My question is, why did she hire me in the first place if she felt like that?

It was a head game, with herself. Are you still with her?

What are you thankful for this Thanksgiving, 2024?

Life. At 71 years old, I am thankful for another day on the planet. My mind works, but the connection between my mind, and my mouth, seems dicey. Typing seems like the best communication. My mind has no problem with my fingers.

If not for the giver, there would be no takers. What do you feel?

Are there any takers? It would depend on what the giver was giving. There may still be no takers. 

Have you ever been told that you are overthinking? How did you react and what does it mean in your perception?

Yes, and they were right. I laughed, agreed, and told them to continue. My “overthinking” was spot on, and was proved to be right. I continue overthinking.

What are the consequences of believing in fantasy?

You end up in “la-la land.” Fantasy is not real. This is why they call it “fantasy.”

Why do some people believe that God does not exist because He cannot be seen or touched? Can we rely on our senses for all knowledge?

Do the senses tell some of us that God is real? If so, the “knowledge” of the Bible is extensive, and the archeology is proven time and time again. What we read can be bullshit. Our senses need to take the information and put it through the grinder. If it survives, it might be the truth. Facts are few and far between, and our ability to question facts is the litmus test.

“And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch.”

-- Anonymous

Why do people view being an "open book" as a positive trait?

Because they know everything about the person. It is not a positive trait. I am not an open book. People think I am, and this is a good thing. But, I’m not. What people think is, well, what people think. it is usually wrong.

Can saying "I'm not religious, I'm spiritual" be considered a religion?

No. I say it all the time. But, I don’t see it as a religion.

Why does my partner always get offended when I open up to them about a problem instead of being compassionate?

You both have a different idea of what is important. You have to get together on what is important before you take your relationship to the next level. Compassionate feelings are important. 

Is it appropriate for an atheist to try to change the beliefs of religious believers?

It is wrong for either side to dabble in this. It is wrong. What you believe, is what you believe. If anybody tries to strongarm you, it is very wrong.

Were we in our fathers before we were born?

Yes.

What would you do instead of what you would like to do, but can't do at the moment?

Nothing is preventing me from doing what I want at the moment. If a friend wants to do something else, this is a decision I must make. It is a decision that concerns my friend’s happiness. I will decide what is more important, what I want, or what they want.

"If you really want to do something, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll find an excuse."

-- Jim Rohn 

Why does God allow people to fall in love but not always have the means to maintain it?

God cut us loose. We learn by what we do… or don’t do. Such is the life God wanted for all living creatures.

What is the immorality of illegal immigration?

It’s illegal. Is this a trick question?

What's the happiest thing?

Life. To live makes me happy, throughout all the drama that life delivers, to be alive, to be able to deal with it all, is the greatest gift that was offered to me.

What did you learn about happiness and peace through life’s challenges?

Happiness and peace are worth fighting for.

Should we hug black people?

Should “black people” hug white people? If we are going to get along on this planet, we should get past bigotry.

Should people be thankful for what they have or don't have?

Be thankful for life. If you don’t have it, well…

“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.”

-- Epictetus

 What makes you happy now?

Life. Any time on this side of the dirt is a great day. Revel in it.

Do you agree that religion helps us find and create meaning in our lives?

If by “religion” one means “spiritualism”, then yes. What we think of “religion” creates an atmosphere of hate in most people. To be “spiritual” sets the bar significantly higher.

Do you have to accept the world as it is, or do you want to make a difference?

Never accept the world as it is. Be the change that makes life better.

What does it mean when a guy says he is unsure if he can love someone again?

I went through this when I divorced my wife. I wasn’t sure if “love” was for me. As it turned out, I didn’t believe in marriage anymore, but, I fell in love again, and again. Such is life. I have been single for 23 years, and so much happier than I was when married.

What does it mean to be "too good for this world"?

It is a stupid saying. You can be “too good for people” but the world is all you have.

What is human life?

By definition, “a life form that contains the 46 chromosomes that define a human.” Human life is somewhat different from person to person, once the 46 chromosomes have done their job. We can be ignorant, smart, intelligent, and bordering on genius, depending on our brain function. We can be criminals, or we can be what we call normal.  We can be everything in between. We can be poor, well-off, or wealthy. But, the best of us, are truly happy.

"You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty."

-- Mahatma Gandhi

Do atheists have to believe in science and not magic, or can they believe in both?

Atheists have the same choices as theists do. People can believe in anything they want.

Is there a meaning to life? If not, why do we still have one?

To learn. This is why we are here, and this is the meaning of life. Every life form on this planet, learns, from cradle to grave. When we die, we are reborn better, if we were good students.

What’s one thing everyone assumes about life but might be completely wrong?

Learning. It is why we are here. Okay, not everybody assumes this, but it could be wrong.

Is belief in magic common among scientists and atheists?

Belief in “magic” is not that common. What we used to know as “magic” was finally understood as science. Science has made our lives better… when science follows the rules for life. Atheists are on par with theists when it comes to believing in magic.

Can you explain the meaning of the phrase "life is a lie"?

Someone lives in a lie. It is that simple.

I really hate Thanksgiving. What should I do?

Don’t celebrate the holiday. Don’t celebrate any holiday you don’t agree with. I’m certain that most atheists celebrate Christmas, but they call it something else. If you celebrate a holiday that you don’t agree with, you are being a lying turd. So, it is best that you don’t.

“The problem is that I hate holidays… I hate the whole idea of it… That for you today is Christmas for me is nothing different than the typical week or weekend.”

-- Deyth Banger 

What is considered the most difficult task for God to accomplish in creation?

Difficult? For God? I had to laugh, sorry.

How do agnostics and atheists differ in their approach to forming beliefs?

“Agnostics” question the existence of God. “Atheists” don’t believe in God, at all. Two differing approaches.

How would you react if life was just one big dream, and everything we experience is just a part of our dreams?

Why can’t I keep dreaming of having the sex of a lifetime?

What if I don't have goals in life?

You have the real possibility of being in the way of someone who does have a goal. It is so much better if you sit on a curb and stay out of the way of people... who have real goals. If you're in a grocery store, with no goals, you have a chance of being run over by a guy with a cart.

Is there any evidence to support the belief that humans are chosen by God?

As opposed to God choosing others? There is no factual evidence.

Is it possible for an omnipotent god to create something that even they cannot destroy?

Do you even know what “omnipotent” means? Look it up. Anything God creates, God can destroy. It is in His wheelhouse. If there was anything that God can’t destroy He wouldn’t be much of a God.

“In my efforts to flee God, I will always end up someplace where He’s at, because I’ve never left where He was.”

-- Craig D. Lounsbrough

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Control, Faith, Happiness, Miracles, Smiles, and Beliefs

“We can't control how each day will fall, but we can control how we fall into each day. Learn to make adjustments to match the circumstances.”

-- Anthony Liccione

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This week there were 12,406 views of my answers.  

I am still humbled by the readership.

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Is it true that we have no control over anything in our lives, including our thoughts?

You have total control over your life if you aren’t a prisoner. And, even as a prisoner, you have the option to take your own life. Every person on this planet has free will. “Free will” gives you many options for freedom.

Why do people think I don’t deserve to have been born wealthy, and people who had to work, deserve?

It is what it is. You were born wealthy, so be it. This all sounds like jealousy, to me.

Why is it, that bad things happen to good people, and more hardworking people tend to fail?

Bad things don’t have to happen to good people and hard-working people can get over and make it. Someone has been feeding you a lot of whooy. I spent 23 years in the Air Force, working my ass off. When I got out, I immediately found another “cush” job. 17 years later, when I finally retired, I’m comfortable. Bad things don’t have to happen to good people if people look out for themselves.

Why do young adults lie to their parents?

Again, ALL “young adults” lie to their parents? I don’t think so.

Do you believe in soulmates? I believe I may have met mine. How do you tell?

I never believed in them, until I met mine. She is a beautiful woman, many years younger. We love each other dearly, and it is a “platonic” relationship. Maybe, in another life. In this one, I am a mentor, a good friend, and a father figure. This is enough for an old guy.

Is being good at math a sign of being smart?

Absolutely, in math. I’ve been told you might look into music, as well. Math and music seem to go hand-in-hand.

"Without mathematics, there's nothing you can do. Everything around you is mathematics. Everything around you is numbers".

-- Shakuntala Devi

Can someone lose their faith after having it? If so, what are some reasons and ways this could happen?

Blaming God for something you think He should have been on top of. Of course, God has cut us loose, so we are on our own. People keep forgetting this point. If you have “faith” you must hope that this faith will get you through. If you are wishy-washy, well… what do you think?

Will the world ever get better again?

It depends on your vote, and what you do to better the world. The world will only get better if we all work toward what we want.

Can someone who does not believe in God become religious through spirituality?

It can happen.

Is there a way to ‘create’ luck? How can we increase the chances of being in the right place at the right time?

Be there, at the right time. Luck is what you make of it. You can sit on your ass and hope that ”luck” will take care of you. Better that you make the right decisions, and make what you want to happen come to fruition. Luck is what you make of it. Stay on top of it.

Author comment: I like how you emphasize the importance of making the right decisions and taking action rather than passively waiting for luck. It reminds me of the idea that preparation meets opportunity.

How do you personally stay "on top of it" to create the opportunities you want? Are there any habits or strategies you’ve found especially helpful for putting yourself in the right place at the right time?

My reply: You make me laugh, and not because the comment was humorous. It takes a moment for you to think. Take a moment. Nothing needs to be done immediately, and if does, take the time to decide. Screw them.

What if there is an afterlife, but not the way the major religion perceives it?

Does it really matter? We have screwed everything else up. Why not the afterlife?

Is it possible to ask God for help in any situation?

You can ask, but, it will be more appropriate if you work toward it yourself. God cut us loose. We can ask for help, but it is better if we do the work ourselves. 

"If the only prayer you ever say in your whole life is 'thank you' that would suffice."

-- Meister Eckhart

What are the beliefs of atheism and agnosticism?

Atheism is not believing in God. Agnosticism is questioning the existence of God.

Can the pursuit of happiness sometimes prevent us from truly experiencing it?

Strive to be truly happy. Don’t pursue it. Be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. It is a simple choice you have to make.

Should hell burn for eternity?

Why not? There will be sinners throughout the coming history and beyond.

Do you feel that many aspects of our lives are undergoing the process of "enshittification"?

Perhaps, your life is undergoing this process. My life has been inoculated for “enshittification.” I strive to be truly happy always, and in all things, regardless of my circumstances. It is a simple choice everyone should make.

Does success mean that one no longer has to work hard?

Only if you succeed, make a butt-load of cash, and retire, like I did.

Is achieving a balance in life overrated? Can success come from embracing imbalance?

You can achieve success by embracing "imbalance"… but you won’t be truly happy. And, how long do you think you can embrace imbalance? It sounds like "success" would be a fleeting achievement, if you achieve success at all. There is a reason why people try to achieve balance in life. But, when balance becomes harmony, it will make you truly happy while your success becomes sustainable.

“To put everything in balance is good, to put everything in harmony is better.”

-- Victor Hugo

What is a supernatural miracle that God performed for you?

I was born. The miracle of birth fascinates me.

Why do atheists think their hatred matters to God?

They don’t believe in God, so it doesn’t matter.

Do atheists say "I am an atheist"?

Uh… because they are? Is this another trick question?

What is the most human thing to do?

Be selfless.

If God didn't exist, how do atheists explain religion?

A waste of time.

Can true happiness prevent someone from feeling sad or angry?

It will prevent anger, but being truly happy opens you up to sadness.

“Anybody can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.”

-- Aristotle

What is a snap that makes you smile?

A small child laughing. It gets me every time.

Can a person be both highly intelligent and emotionally immature, lacking empathy and self-centered?

If you have intelligence and can handle emotion, and empathy, and not be self-centered, it really takes a mature mind.

How do you address a mean boss?

“Hey! Asshole. Got a second?” This is my take.  I don't need this job.

What is the best way to respond when someone wants you out of their life?

“Hey! Fine. Just don’t come crawling back when you find you made a mistake.” If someone wants you out of their life, why argue? This was my divorce, after 25 years of marriage.

How does one "swallow their pride"?

I don’t know. I’ve never swallowed it. Pissed my Dad off, more than once.

Do your beliefs offend people?

I don’t discuss my beliefs, so I don’t have to worry about offending anyone. And, even if I told my beliefs, they are my beliefs. I don’t expect anyone to jump on the “Tony Wagon” to enjoy a free ride. They must have asked about my beliefs, for me to tell them. If they don’t agree with me, I never expected them to. So, why did they ask me? Just to be an ass?

"I have found that the greatest help in meeting any problem with decency and self-respect, and whatever courage is demanded, is to know where you stand".

-- Forbes

How can you determine if your beliefs are offensive to others?

Try to discuss them. 

Do we all think the same as humans?

Normal humans all think the same, but they might think at different levels. Some are basic. Some are smart. Some are intelligent. How they think is similar, but how deeply they think, might be at a different level. But, the brain operates the same way, but… different.

When was the last time you needed a hug, and no one was there to give it?

Back in childhood. Since then, I have never been needy… and I’m 71.

Are most people generally good and kind?

Most people are generally good and kind. But, there is a segment of the population operating in a different “moral” pattern. Most of us call it “immoral” bordering on “anti-social.” They don’t operate at a level most would call legal, and most of these people are mean bordering on evil.

Can people make decisions for themselves or is it a real thing that they cannot?

I make decisions for myself... and have not failed in a long time.

Can you change the course of your life if it has already been predetermined?

If I want to change the course of my life, it is my life. I can do anything I want to do with it. It has been “predetermined” until I decide it isn’t. It is the bonus of having a free will.

“Experts in ancient Greek culture say that people back then didn't see their thoughts as belonging to them. When ancient Greeks had a thought, it occurred to them as a god or goddess giving an order. Apollo was telling them to be brave. Athena was telling them to fall in love.

Now people hear a commercial, for sour cream potato chips, and rush out to buy, but now they call this free will. 

At least the ancient Greeks were being honest.”

-- Chuck Palahniuk

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com