Questioning Intelligence, Karma, Change, Happiness, Hate, and Learning

"The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function." 

-- F. Scott Fitzgerald

Do intelligent men exist?

Yes, but they are not as “smart” as they think they are. Intelligent, yes. But smart? Not so much.

Does the wise man do it just because he has to do it?

Pretty much.

When was the last time you realized that you have more power over others than you thought?

By my third year in the Air Force Intelligence Division. I had so much fun, I stayed on for 23 years. I have never lost the realization, but I don’t utilize it. It is dangerous to those you “think” you have power over. Better to leave things, like this, alone.

Do you know what it feels like to be betrayed?

Indeed. And, being betrayed, by the one you love, hurts the most.

Imagine there is an academic competition, and Person A has two Perfect Scores and was the Absolute Winner both times, and there is Person B, the Absolute Winner three times, and one of the times they had a Person Score, who's better?

Has Person A failed? The only way to grade this is if someone fails. “Perfect Score” makes them an “Absolute Winner” as far as they have gone. The only way to judge one over the other is if one fails. The “Person Score” should be given to both of them, otherwise, one competitor has an unfair advantage.

What does it say about leaders who only want praise for achievements no matter what, and how would you rate them?

Egotistical. 

"Egotism is the anesthetic which nature gives us to deaden the pain of being a fool."

-- Dr. Herbert Shofield

Do people get their karma for cheating in a relationship?

They get “bad” karma. The person who never cheats gets “good” karma. Bad karma will strike you down when you least expect it. Good karma is with you always, as long as you are good.

Is it a pleasure to meet you?

Many people seem to think so.

Why do I feel like I don't deserve to be loved?

Not deserving means you have done something that makes you feel this way. What have you done that makes you think you don’t deserve to be loved? Can you make up for whatever you did? If you can, then however painful it is you must do it.

Reader comment: I used to feel this, but now in an older age I realize I did, and do, deserve to be loved because I've tried my best, and that's pretty o.k. 

Should everyone like you?

No. I don’t want “serial killers” thinking they like me.

What's the wise man's perception of pride without attitude?

The wise man knows that he is what he is. There is no pride, and there is certainly no attitude. He learns, and he teaches what he knows. This is wisdom. Pride and attitude negates what wisdom has taught.  

How do you view the other person: nice or mean?

It depends on whether they are nice or mean.

“My father had taught me to be nice first, because you can always be mean later, but once you’ve been mean to someone, they won’t believe the nice anymore. So be nice, be nice, until it’s time to stop being nice, then destroy them.”

-- Laurell K. Hamilton 

What do you do with the people who don't want to change?

Leave them to their own devices. Life is too short to waste time on them.

What are some tips for teenagers who want to sneak out of their house for some freedom, but are unable to leave their room?

Don’t. Teenagers go missing all the time. When you celebrate your 18th birthday, knock yourself out. By then, maybe you’ll know how to take care of yourself. If not, you will be raped, dead, or missing. None of these are a good outcome.

What are some bad times to say what you're really thinking?

I’m there, so, I say what I think or hold my tongue. My tongue is hard to get hold of.

What's the wise man's perception of knowing what to say and what not to?

The wise man’s “perception” is driven by what he has learned during life. The truly wise man will keep his mouth shut if he isn’t certain of the outcome

Does the wise man do it for his friends?

Do what?

Does the wise man perceive that the world is a business?

The wise man perceives that “business” will come to him, or he will be too busy to care for himself. Wisdom, unless there is an injustice, is silent… the most part. If you need to speak your mind, you might also be thinking about defense. You may need it.

"By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest."

-- Confucius

Why can't I man up and be happy?

You don’t need to “man up” to be happy. I am truly happy always, and in all things, regardless of my circumstances. It is a choice we all need to make for our life.

What right answer are you to say to a guy when he says he loves you, and you know you don't?

“I’m sorry, but you mistakenly think I like men.”

Are there any women in the world who love men or do they just love money?

I have been “poor” for most of my younger life, even in the Air Force. But, I had no problem dating women. Most of them were looking for a husband. Not for the love of money, because none of us were well off.

What was the hardest thing in your life to forgive? Did you move on? How?

Dishonesty. I moved on by divorcing her.

How does the concept of free will reconcile with the idea that life is about how people treat each other?

You follow the law of the land. If you don’t, you end up in jail. You treat each other right, or you don’t have many friends. It’s not a crime to not have any friends, it is your free will. But, it is a crime to hurt them.

How does the wise man deal with someone who is living immediately?

The wise man knows… as we all do, it is easier to deal with the living than with the dead.

"The wise person doesn't give the right answers, but poses the right questions."

-- Claude Levi-Strauss

Is it true that human beings have to hate?

No, it isn’t.

Why can't we just love one another and stop all the wars and evil and be humans instead of demons?

Balance. The universe demands balance. Night and day, good and bad, sour and sweet… balance. If we rid ourselves of evil, how will we ever recognize it, years later? Evil, in the world you describe, will make Hitler look like a girl scout. We need balance, so we can continue to recognize things for what they are.

What happens when we don't love ourselves?

We tend not to take care of ourselves. I seriously love me.

Could it be possible that your enemy doesn't hate you?

The enemy that doesn’t hate me, wants what I have. When the entire world is conquered, by a single country, society will begin to slip backward. What will they do then? Russia thought Ukraine would collapse in a week. How long has it been? World leaders need to stop starting wars and learn to work together.

Do people always find a reason to hate each other?

It is a little easier to find a reason to love... than to hate. Most people know this.

Why don’t we all be cruel and treat everyone like shit like the people at the bottom of society do?

Because we give a shit. We aren’t like the “bottom of society.” If the bottom of society would get their shit together, we’d all be in a better place. But, NO! The Democrats let in the dregs of everyone else’s society, the illegal aliens. The “illegals” are intent to rape, murder, and pillage our society, and we are paying them to do it. This is insanity.

“Illegal aliens have always been a problem in the United States. Ask any Indian.”

-- Robert Orben

How can a person learn a lesson?

Study. If you fail, try again. That’s why they call it learning.

Why do some people choose to be a bad person?

Why do people become so evil?

I decided to answer both of these questions, at the same time. People choose to be bad because it is easier than being good. Why do they become evil? They don’t have the self-control to be good, so, evil is the next stop. Bad, evil, Hitler, and etc. They stack up like sacks of manure, one atop the other. 

How can we determine if our thoughts are from God or not, such as fear, worry, and anxiety?

Your thoughts are not from God. Fear, worry, anxiety, and more, are created by you.

Why do I hate living, why don’t I want to live?

Because there is no coming back from death. If you choose death, you may come back into your old body to make another choice. That sounds pretty stupid, but… so does death. 

How can a person make a goal and accomplish it?

Perseverance. You take the first step and continue until it is complete. It is called work.

 Do you like doing what makes you happy?

Indeed!

“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”

-- Abraham Lincoln

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Hope, Learning, Love, Hurt, Stupid, and Genius

 

“Listen to the mustn'ts, child. Listen to the don'ts. Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me... Anything can happen, child. Anything can be.”

-- Shel Silverstein

 

When all seems lost, where is hope?

Hope is hiding where it seems.  All is not lost. When all seems lost, you will find hope where it seems. It just “seems” lost. As long as it seems… then, hope will still be with us.

What should you realize by the age of 30?

You aren’t getting any younger.

How wise are we actually?

Wisdom comes at us when we least expect it. Most of us are wise and don’t really understand. Some of us are wise and hold it over people. Some of us are wise, understand it, smile, and are humble about it. And, some are too busy, or, don’t want to be bothered with wisdom. Those who are truly wise, however, are humble about it.

What do you think of dictator Putin recruiting 133,000 more men for the Russian Army?

Recruiting? He is a dictator. He doesn't recruit.

What is your personal definition of a "hero"? Have you ever had an opportunity to act like a hero? If so, what happened?

A hero is willing to put their life on the line to keep others safe. First responders, police, military, and many others, are in my definition of what “hero” means.

Is 48 too young to be a grumpy old man?

No, but when you are a really “old man” it will be redefined for you.

"I see what the problem is here. I'm talking in English, and you're listening in dumbass."

-- Clint Eastwood

What motivates you to learn? How does learning benefit you personally?

Life. We are here in this life to learn. Everything else supports the prime objective. Learning benefits me by completing the main reason for me being here. I am fulfilling my destiny in this life, and I will fulfill my destiny in the next, and so on.

What was your worst time ever?

Air Force basic training. The only thing good about it… was thinking of Army boot camp.

What are you, single or married?

Single. I went through a divorce and swore I’d never go through that again. I am happily living with my life partner for the past 20 years. It is a breath of fresh air, compared to being suffocated.

What’s the most valuable skill you’ve learned that schools didn’t teach you?

Supervision and management. 

What did you do to earn your last spanking? 

Other than screwing up by calling her “Madam” and licking her kneecaps? I had to learn the name is “Mistress” and I’m supposed to lick her toes.

What is the best quotes for teachers?

Teaching would be a nice change. Try this:

“Education is not the filling of a pail but the lighting of a fire.”

-- William Butler Yeats

How do I show my boyfriend more love?

A blowjob comes to mind.

How does atheism address the idea that life needs meaning to have value?

Atheists have much meaning in their lives. It is, probably, the only life they will have, so they need to make meaning in it. They have meaning and value, they just don’t have God. One belief, among all the beliefs they have. For Christians, it is a big miss. For atheists, it is just a bother. 

Is sarcasm necessary?

No, but it can be funny.

Describe the importance of ethics in organizations. What are the central ideas to focus on?

You can answer the importance and the central idea of good “ethics” in one word: Honesty. 

Reader comment: Honesty and integrity.

My reply: To my mind, if you have honesty you have integrity.

Reader reply: Touche….you are right. I guess the "integrity piece" is being honest, even when no one is watching.

My reply: Indeed.

Is life important or worship?

Life is important. Without it, we wouldn’t be able to worship.

How can someone cultivate wisdom without relying solely on formal education or life experiences?

Wisdom doesn’t rely on formal education, more than it does on life experiences. If you have paid attention to life, you have cultivated serious wisdom many would like to latch onto.

"When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us."

-- Helen Keller

Can a man get over being hurt by a woman?

Get over, yes. Forget, no. Hurt is a survival instinct. Try not to be hurt more than once.

In this day and age, how do you know if you are good or evil?

You know the same way you did yesterday. If you do good you are not evil. Evil is similar to good in that it is self-defining. You are either good or evil. You can’t have it both ways. Some people think they can, but they really can’t.

Do I need an honest wife?

It is much better than a “dishonest” wife. You can take my word for this.

My wife wants different men in bed. What should I do?

Crack open a beer, get a comfortable chair, and bring on the entertainment. Or, you can divorce her — your choice. Personally, I’d bring on the entertainment. But, that’s just me.

What do you call the wife of a pastor?

The pastor’s wife.

My husband left me for a 19-year-old woman. What should I do?

Go shopping for a 19-year-old man. What is good for him is just as good for you. Actually, it will be better… if you ride the horse. Your husband is only good for one shot. You can ride till your eyes explode.

“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you're allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”

-- Shannon L. Alder

What do you do to get away from stupid people?

Leave.

Do you like getting treated like a stupid person?

The last man who treated me like a “stupid person” I nudged him off the three-foot-high platform, into the mud. “Oh, sorry! I’d help you out, but, I’m too stupid to know where to start.” I turned and went inside, out of the rain. I was chewed out by the officer in charge, and then he smiled and congratulated me for fast thinking. I was rewarded with the man’s supervisory position, a week later.

Can being mindful and aware lead to a better and safer reality?

It’s much better than going around with a blindfold over your eyes.

Does the wise man trust women?

Does a wise woman trust men? Both sides would like to put “sin” on the other when both sides are equally capable of the same sin. Both genders can be equally crap when it comes to fidelity. 

Are most women even worthy of trust?

Again... Are men?

Do you agree with Stephen Hawking’s scathing criticism of IQ as a measure of intelligence, “People who boast about their IQ scores are losers”?

Hawking was right. To boast how “intelligent” you are makes you a loser in the minds of many “smart” people. To be a braggart is to hold your “ego” so high that everyone knows you’re ignorant.

"Noise proves nothing. Often a hen who has merely laid an egg cackles as if she had laid an asteroid."

-- Mark Twain

How can I show my genius to the world?

Don’t. You will come off as a showoff and a braggart.

Is it true that calling someone stupid can make them less intelligent? Are there more respectful ways to describe someone who is not very intelligent?

For those susceptible to “ignorant” name-calling they might become less intelligent. Ignorant is what I’d call someone who is not very intelligent. Oh… I see I’ve used the name twice in my answer. It must be right.

When in your life did you understand to never underestimate human stupidity?

When I was in Air Force Intelligence.

How can being called "smart" be considered rude?

I've not a clue. Most “smart” people have more “moxie” than intelligent people. It is probably why intelligent people rudely call them “smart”.

How does a wise man become emotionally intelligent?

If he is a truly “wise man” he’s already emotionally intelligent.

How do you judge a person a success or failure?

The "judgment" is in the hands of the person being judged. What other people think of someone, has no bearing on what they think of themselves. If people think a person is a failure, but the person is genuinely and truly happy, are they a success? I would think so. What a person thinks of themselves, is more important than anything we can come up with.

“Sometimes the Bible in the hand of one man is worse than a whisky bottle in the hand of (another)... There are just some kind of men who... who're so busy worrying about the next world they've never learned to live in this one, and you can look down the street and see the results.”

-- Harper Lee

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Poor, Ignorance, God, Karma, Experiences, and Good

 

"Great things come from hard work and perseverance. No excuses." 

-- Kobe Bryant

Are people poor because they're not producing anything?

Like work? Probably. Or, they are spending beyond their means.

What was your most embarrassing moment in front of a female doctor?

In the Air Force. She grabbed a handful of my package and told me to look to the side and cough. The cough was pathetic. She asked me, “What was that?” I told her that was all she was going to get, with her hand grabbing my package. She smiled and told me we were done. 

Where did the wise man learn to think?

At the School of Hard Knocks.

How does a wise man treat his fellow man?

With the same respect, the “fellow man” shows him. A good rule of thumb is that you give what you receive. Life is funny that way. Or, you can let people walk all over you. Not the best option.

How does a wise man deal with his opinions?

He doesn’t. They are only opinions.

Is atheism an attempt to make God subservient to man?

Atheism does not recognize a “God” figure. So, why would they attempt to make a being, they don’t believe in, subservient to man? As an atheist, this would make little sense.

“A god that doesn’t manifest in reality is indistinguishable from a god that doesn’t exist.”

-- Matt Dillahunty

How ignorant is the wise man?

Not as ignorant as the man who isn’t wise.

What is the significance of a man saying "I love you more" to his wife?

By saying this, he is demeaning the love she might feel for him. For all he knows, she might love him, so much more, but loves him enough not to tell him so he feels his love is insignificant to her.

Does the wise man get stuck in his ways?

If he does, he isn’t very wise.

What is the purpose of life if nothing in this world is permanent?

Learning. The only purpose for us to be here is to learn. Everything else supports the main objective of learning. If you don’t learn, you are wasting your time here.

Does the wise man jump to conclusions?

That wouldn’t be very wise of him, would it?

What is the purpose of life if everything has a beginning and an end?

Learning. Everything revolves around learning. Learning has a beginning and an end, and then it starts, all over again, in the next life. We never stop learning until we reach Nirvana, and then, we may continue learning.

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”

-- Mahatma Gandhi

Which God is best?

There is only one God, but many definitions of His existence. The stories we have of “God,” may not be stories of the true God. Stories have been handed down, embellished, and told with strength and meaning. This doesn’t mean they are true. We take the stories on faith. Read “Genesis,” in the Bible, and see how many issues you come up with. And, this is only the first chapter. It is a good book, but you have to take the stories as they are - stories.

Why is the wise man alone?

Because he wants to be.

What is the purpose of the importance of time, in life?

There is usually a beginning and an end. Time is the way we tell people how long they have to accomplish things. With time, projects would be finished... on time.

What phrases do you like to hear during sex?

"Yes… YES… Oh, God… YESSSSSS!" Or, do you mean... from her?

Life ends, but problems do not end. Why?

Learning. Everybody is here to learn. Just because your life ends, doesn’t mean the learning ends for everybody else. You are out of this game, but the game continues without you. Learning is the prime directive.

How does the wise man know if "happy" happened or not?

If he smiles, “happy” happened. The wise man is usually smiling, because he’s usually happy.

"Ignorant men raise questions that wise men answered a thousand years ago."

-- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe 

Can we break free from karma?

Nope. Karma is always there to punish the unpunishable.

I only meet guys who are only out for sex. What is wrong with me?

Try not going to bed with them. The "nice" guys will ask you if you’re into a relationship, first. This will come after several dinners where you both had a great time. Then, again, if you feel like you need to screw their eyes out, first… head on. But, be realistic about the endgame.

Why are atheists involved in a love/hate relationship with God?

Atheists don’t believe in God, so where is this “relationship” coming from?

What is your opinion on atheist judges making decisions based on their personal moral beliefs?

Moral beliefs are just that, good moral judgments. It seems many people think that good moral character is only the purview of the religious. It isn’t. You can have a good moral character without believing in God. You only have to believe in good moral character. What is good is still good, regardless of your belief in God.

Is [this site] full of idiots and trolls?

Maybe.  And, you are…?

Is atheism just a lie?

Any more, or less, than theism. Both sides have a “proof” problem. Neither side can provide incontrovertible proof to their argument. One side will simply die, and the other side may be in for another life. But there is no concrete proof for either side. It’s kind of humorous... when you think of all the hoopla both sides go through, thinking they are right.

“Scientists are slowly waking up to an inconvenient truth - the universe looks suspiciously like a fix. The issue concerns the very laws of nature themselves. For 40 years, physicists and cosmologists have been quietly collecting examples of all too convenient "coincidences" and special features in the underlying laws of the universe, that seem to be necessary in order for life and, hence, conscious beings, to exist. Change any one of them and the consequences would be lethal. Fred Hoyle, the distinguished cosmologist, once said it was as if "a super-intellect has monkeyed with physics".

-- Paul Davies

What makes our experiences different even when we are in the same place?

Personal preference. Not everybody wants to do the same things.

Why do millennials and post-millennials delusionally think they can “invalidate” established facts and ways of thought from before they were born, generally because those concepts require actual work and discipline?

Well, you have answered your own question. Millennials and post-millennials aren’t real keen on doing work. They have no discipline. It is better for them to “invalidate” established facts than to do the work required to make them look good.

What does the wise man do for a living?

Whatever he feels like doing. Being “wise” does not prevent a person from doing what they want.

Has anyone lost all hope but then had it restored?

I think many people have lost all hope. Some of them have seen it restored. As for myself, I have never lost hope. Hope is the basis for faith, and I have much faith in our military to fight for peace worldwide. I will never lose hope.

Why do you never go to that one restaurant anymore?

The food began to suck, and it got more expensive.

Who is to say if the wise man is wise or not?

Everybody has freedom of opinion. But, the wise person only knows that they have been given wisdom to do good things with it. What everybody says about them is immaterial. When the world goes to “hell in a handbasket”, a wise person will try to pick up the pieces. It is what wisdom does.

"Ignorant people see life as either existence or non-existence, but wise men see it beyond both existence and non-existence to something that transcends them both; this is an observation of the Middle Way."

-- Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Why should good triumph over evil?

To keep the balance in the universe.

How is game theory used in everyday life?

If you are learning, it is important. If you could give a shit, not so much. Many times what we learn has much to do with games. Game theory would be very important.

Which quality or qualities make your friends/family proud of you?

I’m selfless in my help for others. I don’t brag about it, but I think that would be it.

What would you do if you get a chance to fix your biggest mistake in life?

The biggest mistake in my life was marriage. I can’t fix her head, and even if I could, she gave the world two marvelous children. She actually did two things right in her life. My “biggest mistake” will have to stand as a tribute to my children.

Reader comment: You’re lucky to have marvelous children, considering the circumstances of your former marriage. You don’t hear that kind of thing very often.

 Why does the wise man do what he does?

Because he is wise.

Is it true that one person doesn't matter in a world with billions of people? Why or why not?

A single life is very valuable to the world of people. How many people need to die before people see a detriment? The person we save may be the doctor that saves your life. Are they valuable?

"You have this one life. How do you wanna to spend it? Apologizing? Regretting? Questioning? Hating yourself? Dieting? Running after people who don't see you? Be brave. Believe in yourself. Do what feels good. Take risks. You have this one life. Make yourself proud."

-- Beardsley Jones

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Realizations, Interviews, Philosophers, Wisdom, and Spiritual

“The soul becomes dyed with the colour of its thoughts.”

-- Marcus Aurelius

What are some of the most profound realizations you've had about yourself, during moments of solitude?

I’m fine. Taking everything that has happened to me in life, I’m fine. I smile at the realization. I have good friends, smoke excellent cigars, and drink the best bourbon. I’m not married, anymore, and I’m financially well off. I smile at that, also. But, the most important factor in my life… is that I’m fine. I’m still smiling.

Can souls exist without ever being in a human form?

According to religion, yes.

Why is it so hard to meet someone nice?

Maybe, you’re trying too hard to meet someone handsome and nice? How about meeting someone with a work ethic? Maybe, not so good-looking. Maybe, someone who is always nice, not just to impress. I’m not the best-looking guy, but I have dated my share of good-looking women, looking for the perfect man. My problem was that most of them were shallow. So, I started looking for a good friend, instead. We’re not married, but we’ve been “best friends” for over 20 years. Sometimes our “priorities” get the best of us.  

Reader comment: People are so foolish to think there is anyone “perfect “, it’s just ridiculous to me.

Another reader comment: Ok, I know your thoughts. 

What makes some wise and intelligent people avoid leadership positions?

Because wise and smart people avoid leadership positions. The intelligent grab the reins.

Which would you prefer: being a good leader without any friends or being a bad leader with many friends?

If I were a good leader, I would have many good friends. A bad leader would have bad friends. 

Why do good people choose bad leaders?

Ignorance. They don’t do their homework. They believe the press, which is dicey, at best.

“Anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that 'my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge.'”

-- Isaac Asimov

What was the shortest interview you’ve had that led to a job offer?

Corporate Liaison, when I retired from the Air Force. The VP looked at my resume and, then, he asked me if I would always agree with him. I told him that if we were in public, I would hold my tongue until we were in private. Then, I would chew his ass. He raised an eyebrow and hired me. He didn’t like ass-kissing people he couldn’t get honesty from. 

Why do people communicate?

To exchange information. 

How is being born with a lot of wisdom defined?

One in a million. “Born with wisdom” is nearly impossible, since wisdom is a learned trait. The only way I could see an infant would have wisdom is if they remembered the wisdom from their past life. One in a million.

 In a gay wedding, who walks down the aisle?

The bride. 

How is life different after you go golden at work?

Stress. Now you have to stay “golden” or suffer the consequences. It was a “label” I didn’t pay much attention to. In this way, if I lost the label, I wasn’t devastated. I simply worked on. As it worked out, I never lost the label… not that I cared.

How does a wise man become a leader?

Because his “wisdom” appeals to the people he represents. Gandhi is a perfect example.

“Prayer is not asking. It is a longing of the soul. It is daily admission of one's weakness. It is better in prayer to have a heart without words than words without a heart.”

-- Mahatma Gandhi

Who are some meaningless philosophers today?

I have to laugh! That would be me.

Why do less ambitious and educated people tend to find easier jobs and even keep it, but I, as well educated and ambitious, struggle?

You are applying for the wrong rung on the ladder. If the less ambitious and less educated are finding these jobs, why are you still applying for jobs at that level? They are looking for idiots they don’t have to pay a lot of money to have. Go up a couple of levels, and tell the people why you are there.

What do you think of the name Shiloh Levi Enos?

If the child is Jewish, it makes much sense.

My vision is to support humanity. We should, also, set their goals so that, because of hunger, they can be mischievous or have a bad personality. What is your view?

There will be mischievous people and people with bad personalities, regardless of your vision, plans, goals, or their hunger. It is an unplanned "balance" that the universe demands. It has little to do with you.

What does the understanding of something, give us?

Knowledge. We are here to learn.

What is the hardest truth about fitness?

It requires perseverance and hard work… if you plan to get anything out of it. If you do it occasionally, it will do nothing for you, except, maybe, give you a heart attack.

“Most people fail, not because of lack of desire, but, because of lack of commitment.”

-- Vince Lombardi

Does the wise man question everything?

Because they are wise, and wisdom questions what it doesn’t know. This is how one becomes wise.

What is madness?

A state of being mentally ill.

Is there a way to determine mankind's purpose in life, if there is one?

Learning. There is only one. Everything we are trained to do is learn and then to act. From the first steps we take we are learning the basics of life. We continue to learn until we die. Why? Because we are reborn and then continue our learning process.

Isn't it obvious that professional psychologists are trained pathological liars, and, that actually, it's their job to lie, all the time, about everything? Isn't "redirection" just lying and manipulation to control people, really?

You are seeing the wrong “professional” psychologists.

Is it true that good people work for evil?

 

If they do, they are ignorant to the evil, or they just don’t care, or they are forced. If it were me, I’d quit, even unto to death, before I did anything evil. It is a free choice. 

How do philosophers define the concept of freedom?

Try this:

"...the true definition of personal freedom is the liberty to devote oneself to what matters most."

-- Lars Svendsen

How do I become a perfect spiritual person?

Don’t strive for perfection. Nobody can attain that. Strive for excellence. This is a goal that many of us can attain. Be an “excellent” spiritual person.

What word or phrase do you repeat more than 3 times per day?

“Thank you!”

Doesn't reject the truth have some consequences that trigger the process of forgetting the truth in our minds and damage mental stability?

Rejecting the truth, like Kamala Harris, can damage mental stability. In time, you forget what the truth is. You tend to live a fairy book life, like Hillary Clinton, forgetting everything important to the people you want to lead.

Be honest! Do you love nature? A. Yes, B. No.

A. (I'm not sure why I couldn't just say "yes," to the question.)

What would you do if I guaranteed you that you will get what you desire if you face your biggest fear?

I’m 71 years old. My biggest fear is death, and I am forced to face it every day. What I desire you can’t deliver. Life and death are in the hands of the omniscient creator of all that is.

Is it just me, or is the internet becoming more and more toxic?

It’s not you.

"15 years ago, the internet was an escape from the real world. Now, the real world is an escape from the internet."

-- Noah Smith

What does a wise man do if nobody believes in him?

He smiles. It really doesn’t matter what others believe. The truth will eventually come out and the wise person will be vindicated. The wise person knows this.

What kind of woman is worthy enough to be the wise man's wife?

A wise woman.

How does a wise man prove himself to the world?

He doesn’t. A wise man is too wise to prove himself to anybody, especially the world. Wisdom is something one may teach. But, a wise person is humbled by so many things. Being wise is the epitome of humility. A wise person may smile, a knowing smile, just to let you know... they are aware.

Is it wise to call the wise man stupid?

Only if you’re an ignorant ass.

How does a wise man become a fool?

Too much of a good thing. For me, it would be bourbon. Truth be known, the wise are always under scrutiny by someone. This is why the wise person only cares what they know, not what others think of them.

Will God judge us based on our knowledge or the knowledge of the Bible?

God will judge us on how good we have been.

“The heart of the gospel is that Christ has come to save us from the judgment of God.”

-- Colin S. Smith

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Height, Pickup, Hate, Jobs, Revenge, and Speaking

“Your next lesson is this: all women are the same height lying down.”

-- Patrick Rothfuss

What if everybody in the world was the same height?

There would be something else that people would criticize. People need something to bitch about. Size has been one of their "go-to" critiques.

How do you stop being angry about the abuse you’ve suffered?

The only abuse I’ve suffered was mental, in Air Force basic training. Four of us inspected, all of our uniforms, for “tags” left in the pockets by “cleaners.” We got rid of them and they miraculously reappeared, again. That was obvious bullshit. I confronted the training instructor and the “abuse” stopped. I was assigned a cushy "extra" detail.

How do I deal with my husband who constantly contradicts me? It’s exhausting.

You must have married him for that trait. Yes? If the answer is no... well, you need to seriously think about what you’re doing and talk to your husband.

Does it really pay to get your hopes up?

Sometimes, “hope” is all you have. Without hope, you can’t have faith. If you have faith in the hope you have, maybe things will work out for the best. If not, it is a learning moment. And we are all here to learn.

What do you think of the name Chester Bradley Webb does it flow well?

Yes, and it’s one of the best I’ve heard.

Are there any real natural-born leaders in this world?

Yes, but most of them need to have their leadership drawn out. The military can do this, as can a corporation. The bulk of our leaders need to be thrown into the fire, so we can see how they will react. Many think they don’t have the skills, but if you put them on the “battlefield” with no leader, they will act accordingly, to get the job done.

“The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires.”

-- William Arthur Ward

What’s the smoothest pickup line you’ve ever heard?

“Wanna f#%k?” The smoothest pickup line is short and to the point. This “pickup line” stops all conversation within earshot. If you smile, she will probably smile, and, right there, you have humor in common. A little light conversation… and who knows what the night will bring? 

How much sex is enough sex?

We’re still working on that.

How can one break out of a rut? Is it better to accept it or try to change it?

Try to change it. Being in a “rut” is the worst thing that can happen to you. Accepting it is surrendering to the enemy. I went to my boss and told him I was in a rut. He asked what would make it better. He actually listened as I droned on. He told me to do whatever I thought would solve the issue, within reason. I became a happy camper… if for no reason except that the boss listened to me.

How has the weakness of others helped you to be successful?

Because they were weak, and I wanted to get ahead. Their leadership qualities were as weak as they were, so it was easy to be successful in my chosen profession.

Is it right or wrong to hate other people?

“Hate” is a terrible word. It is better to “dislike” someone.

Why do we love other people if we don't necessarily need them?

I loved my parents, but when they died it occurred to me that, even though I wanted them, I didn’t need them. At 70 years of age, I am self-sufficient. But, I would love to have them back, if for no reason than to say goodbye. 

“I love you. I don't need you to love me back. I don't need to be with you. I don't need to sleep with you. I don't need you to tell me how beautiful I am every day. I don't need a fairytale love story. I don't need a happily ever after. I don't need you to take care of me when I am feeling sick, or depressed or ask me if I'm okay, even though you know I'm not. I don't need you to hold my hand or give me your coat when it's cold. All I want is to be looked at like I'm actually a human. Not like I'm a contagious freak. All I want is to be something to you, even if it's not special. Just. Something.”

-- Youknownotmyname

I really hate most of humanity. What does that make me?

A possible serial killer, or just a hateful person. The scale is still balancing.

What if I was never born human even though I am living in my body?

If you were never born human, what body are you living in? You are living in your body, so it must be something we can put a name to. Or, it could be alien. Now, if you are in a human body you weren’t born into, how the hell did you get in there? But, you say you were never born human even though you are living in a human body. You see the problem here? Again, how the hell did you get in there? I am so confused. 

What is your favorite kind of threesome?

Two women and me.

How can I have sex without being in a relationship?

How much money do you have? If you want to have sex and not be in a relationship, you will need some cash to pay the hooker. Otherwise, meeting someone and getting them into bed, is the definition of a relationship.

How do you say mean things to people that would hurt them?

I don’t. That would make you ugly, bad, and wrong. It's better to just leave the situation be.

Have you ever gone through a heartbreak?

Several times. The last one was when my wife was screwing other men. I was actually thinking about forgiving her. Then, I got my head on straight and divorced her. That was 24 years ago, and I’ve been ecstatically happy ever since.

“Once you had put the pieces back together, even though you may look intact, you were never quite the same as you'd been, before the fall.”

-- Jodi Picoult

How do I find a job to do at night?

Night watchman.

How do I get more mentally unstable?

I used marijuana… until I was busted. It slowed me down and showed me what other people called “normal” life. That was in the early 1970s.

Are you proud of being alive?

I strive to be truly happy always, and in all things, regardless of my circumstances.

Is the evolution of human intelligence keeping up with the evolution of AI?

No. AI, if not subject to rules, will make the “Terminator” franchise come to life. This is how dangerous “Artificial Intelligence” could be, even with rules and safeguards. AI scares the crap out of me.

What is the purpose of sex?

Procreation. However, it has several “lesser” reasons, like… it’s fun.

What are some ways to cope with anger and betrayal after being cheated on or betrayed by a significant other?

I contemplated suicide, then I realized my living would be the thing that would piss her off. I climbed out of my pit of misery and never looked back, I’ve been truly happy ever since.

“Did you really want to die?"

"No one commits suicide because they want to die."

"Then why do they do it?"

"Because they want to stop the pain.”

-- Tiffanie DeBartolo

How do I get revenge on a bully boss, who also lied and ruined my reputation? Spare me the "move on" or "wait for karma".

So, you really want to risk going to jail over this bullshit? You don’t need to take the “move on” or “wait for karma” safety net. Courts love “revenge” cases. He lied and ruined a reputation that you don’t need to rebuild. It is still intact. You are better off getting as far away from this asshole as you can. But, if you don’t want to be spared the common sense actions, take the bull by the horns and risk the rest of your reputation. Personally, I’d cut my losses and say “good ridden” to this prick.

Would a global famine make people less greedy and prejudiced?

If people are greedy and prejudiced, they will stay that way.

What have you learned in oral communication?

Honesty. State facts, or state that they are opinions. Be concise and brief, in what you say. Do not argue. Let your “communication” speak for itself. If you’re right, it will play out. The next time they might listen.

What moment made you think "This is awesome…oh wait"?

Fireworks at the bar. a drunk set off a firecracker right near my ear. I still have hearing loss years later.

How do I make my husband jealous?

Why? Is the marriage on the rocks? If so, making him jealous won’t fix anything. Sit down and talk to him about your thoughts. If he doesn’t see your point, maybe you have made the wrong choice in husbands.

Is “I’m perfectly imperfect” a thing?

Yes, and I am a shining example of it. “Imperfect” can be a beautiful thing.

"I am perfect in my imperfections, secure in my insecurities, happy with my choices, strong in times of weakness, and beautiful in my own way... I am MYSELF."

-- Unknown 

What is it called when you speak things into existence?

Verbal creation, incantation, or magic? I’m leaning toward incantation.

Is there a higher power that loves us unconditionally, or is life simply a chaotic and meaningless existence?

It depends on if you’re a theist or an atheist. A theist will say, there is a higher power who created us, loves us, and hopes for a belief based on our faith. The atheist probably believes life is simply a chaotic and meaningless existence that they have to work their ass off for, and then die. I think the theist "belief" is best, but then, I’m a sucker for the God particle. 

Is still being in your shell and needing time to open up the same thing as emotional unavailability?

Sounds pretty close.

Why do millennials, and post-millennials, think that trying harder is a substitute for actual talent?

Not being paid for “actual talent” should go a long way to explaining their paycheck. I mean… damn. People are paying the big bucks for talent, not for some fool trying hard to produce talent they don’t have.

Does the truth require sameness in every possible world?

The truth is what it is, “in every possible world.” If it isn’t the truth, then it is a lie.

Is a soul necessary for life? If so, how do plants and animals survive without one?

Who told you they don’t have a soul? Every living entity has a soul. As we progress into higher life forms, our soul accompanies us, as does the soul of a plant or animal. Have you ever heard a plant scream? It will chill you to the bone. Have you ever seen the ghost of an animal? Same effect.

When Great Trees Fall

When great trees fall,

rocks on distant hills shudder,

lions hunker down

in tall grasses,

and even elephants

lumber after safety.

When great trees fall

in forests,

small things recoil into silence,

their senses

eroded beyond fear.

When great souls die,

the air around us becomes

light, rare, sterile.

We breathe, briefly.

Our eyes, briefly,

see with

a hurtful clarity.

Our memory, suddenly sharpened,

examines,

gnaws on kind words

unsaid,

promised walks

never taken.

Great souls die and

our reality, bound to

them, takes leave of us.

Our souls,

dependent upon their

nurture,

now shrink, wizened.

Our minds, formed

and informed by their

radiance,

fall away.

We are not so much maddened

as reduced to the unutterable ignorance

of dark, cold

caves.

And when great souls die,

after a period peace blooms,

slowly and always

irregularly. Spaces fill

with a kind of

soothing electric vibration.

Our senses, restored, never

to be the same, whisper to us.

They existed. They existed.

We can be. Be and be

better. For they existed.”

-- Maya Angelou

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com