Questioning Destroying, Thinking, Sleep, Gifts, Smart, and Presents

 

"Maturity is when you have the power to destroy someone who did you wrong but you just breathe, walk away, and let life take care of them."

-- Unknown

How do you destroy someone (who destroyed you) emotionally?

The "worst" thing you can do to them, is to forgive them.

Is love from others necessary for human beings to avoid feeling lonely and depressed, or can one live happily alone without needing anyone else's love?

For the most part, we are social animals. Being social demands that we not become lonely and depressed. We all hope we can be happy and loved by others.

What type of people get annoyed at anybody for having achievements, birthdays, accolades, etc.?

Jealous people. They have to be jealous, for numerous reasons. None of which make sense.

Do you think you are living the life you love, or are you forced to live this life?

I have been truly happy with my life for 20 years. I strive to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of my circunstances. I have managed it for this long, and it has been easier the longer I try. It is so much easier... because I love my life.

Can someone feel sad about being happy all the time?

If their happy all the time, where is the time for the sadness?

What are the consequences of negative behaviour?

Negativity. With the rest of the world trying to be positive, negativity is the lest thing you want to put out front. Unfortunately, we have a cadre of negative people, on television and in politics, that will hold us back. The best thin we can do is ignore the negativity and push forward as a unified country. We may not agree on everything, but our votes tell the story.

"People will try to pull you down, but you need to fight the negativity in your life. It's always good to stay positive and think positive."

-- Vivek Oberoi

Do deceased people think?

That depends if you believe in life after death and ghosts.

How do you face the end of your life?

It depends on if you have solved all the ills you wanted to. If you haven’t, it is what it is. On the other hand, you can be scared shitless at not being alive. My take, is that I will be reborn and live another life. I always see the positive and not the negative. There is too much paranormal evidence to pooh-pooh life after death.

Why aren’t you scared to die?

As a Christian, fear of death is not in my wheelhouse.

Why did God create the world to be old instead of making it young?

Who says the world is old? Geologically, it is pretty young. We give God our thoughts of why He did this or that. How about we admit that we don’t know what God thinks or does. The world is what it is. To some it is young, to you it is old. To me, it is what it is.

Would you change your beliefs and lifestyle if it was proven that there is no God or gods?

Would I be bad if there was no God? It depends on the “law of the land” and the way I was brought up. I doubt I would be any different than I am.

Is it possible it is not God that atheists hate but morality itself?

Everyone seems to want atheists to be immoral. Does everyone think that atheists are bad to the bone? The only thing I know about atheists is that they don’t buy into the “God exists” argument. Atheists can be as good as the best of us. They have to obey laws, as the rest of us do. When they die, that’s it. When a theist dies, what happen to them might be up in the air. Neither theists or atheists have any proof what happens after death.

“I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.”

-- Robert A. Heinlein

What should I do when I can't sleep, because I have to finish something important? But, I also have something important coming up the next day that definitely requires me to sleep well?

“Sleeping well” is going to suffer, unless you schedule your time better. Scheduling is the bane of our existence. When you can, you do. If you can’t, you make it the best you can. This won’t be the last time.

What’s a harsh truth about life that everyone should accept? 

It is what it is.

Everything the wealthy billionaires do is highly destructive, so, it's immoral to work with or for them. How can sufficient force be applied to destroy them?

Not all billionaires are highly destructive. Some have a great work ethic. You can’t put everyone in a basket and kill them. The innocent will suffer from your shortsightedness.

What is life? Do you think, in this life, if there is no net, phone, TV, or other communication, what would happen?

Life is all about learning. If you haven’t made the most of it, you’ve wasted most of your life.

What’s a harsh truth about life that everyone should accept?

It is what it is.

I once had a student who had the family lawyer fight to allow them to eat candy in class. What are the lifelong consequences of this decision aside from cavities?

Acting out. There is something called a “sugar high,” that is a real possibility. And here I thought school was all about learning. Silly me.

“Sugar does induce the same responses in the region of the brain known as the “reward center”—technically, the nucleus accumbens—as do nicotine, cocaine, heroin, and alcohol.”

-- Gary Taubes

Can it be true that there’s a lot that is good in your life, don’t take it for granted, and, not get so focused on the struggles that you miss the gift of today?

Many people miss the “gift of today.” People should strive to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of their circumstances. Everything else we do supports this truth.  

What do you think of personal development books? Have they changed your life?

I’m from the school of “hard knocks.” I have no use for “personal development” books.

What does the theme "Desire produces foolishness" really mean?

Anyone who truly desires can put meaning to this. If our “desire” overcomes our “common sense” we can act like children - foolish. 

Does Russia only resolve to peace talks whenever they can't achieve something by force?

The government, maybe. The population would be happy if they could vote.

What does “you ruin everything” mean?

The speaker saying this thinks the subject “ruins everything.” In reality, the subject only seems to ruin what the speaker thinks is important. If the person ruined everything, they would be dead by now. The speaker probably needs to get a life.

Do we really even need religion?

No. People can believe what they want, privately.

“Anyone who thinks sitting in church can make you a Christian must also think that sitting in a garage can make you a car.”

-- Garrison Keillor

Are being brainy, wise, and intelligent the same thing?

They can be, but they usually aren’t. “Brainy” is what we call “smart.”

How comfortable would you feel being an atheist? Would you have more time for yourself instead of worrying about things that don't exist?

Whether the “things” exist, or not, is yet to be proven. Neither atheists nor theists have any proof of their beliefs. Without any proof, you need to make your best guess. I wouldn’t be comfortable as an atheist, not knowing the facts. So, I will err on the side of "God" and everlasting life.

What motivates atheists to comment on posts about religion?

The same motivation that makes theists do the same thing.

How can you live with only money?

Yes, but it would be an austere existence. Money can buy what you need. Unfortunately, money will make people think they can buy true happiness. I have money, but I don’t spend it on frivolous things. I strive for true happiness, always and in all things, regardless of my circumstances. Poor or wealthy, I prefer to be truly happy always.

What are some things that money cannot buy? Can money truly buy everything?

Money can’t buy true love.

Will God be angry if we hurt the woman who loves us?

You think? Hurting anybody, that hasn’t hurt you first, is sinful. It is especially bad if you know you are stronger. But, the question bodes another question: Why would you hurt anyone who loves you?

“Of course, I’ll hurt you. Of course, you’ll hurt me. Of course, we will hurt each other. But this is the very condition of existence. To become spring means accepting the risk of winter. To become present means accepting the risk of absence.”

-- Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

I’m 22, and my parents surprised me with a car for my birthday, but it was my dad’s old car. I'm very disappointed. What should I do?

Disappointed? Thank them for the car, and be grateful.

Can practicing karma yoga lead to happiness for the individual?

Maybe. It depends on the reason an individual is practicing karma yoga.

What is the concept of reality and how is it distinguished from fake or illusory?

It is what it is, and it isn’t anything else. The fake or illusory can be as just as real, because they are, also, what they are.

My boyfriend says he is voting for Trump. Should I break up with him?

Only if you are comfortable being on the socialist left.

Is it possible for anything to truly exist if everything is just a perception or illusion, including one's own consciousness?

Everything, including perception, illusion, and consciousness, exists. Whether it is tangible or not, is another question.

Is it possible to change one's belief about reincarnation?

Yes, if you are open-minded.

“If you're really a mean person, you're going to come back as a fly and eat poop.”

-- Kurt Cobain

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Lies, Lessons, Choices, Memory, Fate, and Inspiration

 

“If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything.”

-- Mark Twain

If everything you believe about yourself was a lie, who or what would be left in the emptiness?

You. If everything you believed about yourself was a lie, believe in the truth. The only person who knows the truth… would be you. If you can’t believe in your true yourself, then, all is lost.

If you could hold a single moment forever would it eventually become meaningless?

Not if the memory was a world-shaking orgasm. Just saying.

What is your dream mental health help-seeking experience? When you think "oh I want to learn/get some help on how to deal with a few things in my life", what do you do next?

My Dad said, “It is what it is.” He was right. He taught me to be my own advocate, take things that life delivers, and work hard to make the delivery work for me. Dad was a pain in the butt, but he was a smart man. At 71, I can look back at the jobs I retired from, and see the lessons he taught me. I never needed “professional” help to get through life. It is what it is.

What strategies can couples adopt to prevent the pressures of corporate life from spilling into and affecting the quality of their shared, blissful moments?

Don’t discuss work when you aren’t at work. “Off time” means you are off. Enjoy your off time until you get back to work. That’s the whole point of off time. You are supposed to be relaxing.

What was the cutest thing you saw today?

A small child in a stroller. It tickled me that the child wanted to get out and walk.

Two people have told me, “You’ve lived your life. So, try to make the most of what’s left.” I have found this quite hurtful. Do you think, at 60, your life is done?

You live your life to learn. Everything else is supporting this "prime directive." At 71 years of age, I am certainly not done learning. When I step into the cusp of the next great adventure, I will try to bring all I have learned with me. This is the point of learning all you can. You can make the most of the life you have left... by learning more than you know.

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”

-- Mahatma Gandhi

What are the important lessons you learned in life?

Learn, work, and love. Everything else is supportive. But, learning is the prime directive.

Why do some atheists feel the need to share their beliefs or lack of beliefs with others?

Because theists find the need to shame them for not believing in God. My personal opinion is that both parties need to shut up. If you have proof, lay it before us. The problem is that neither party has any incontrovertible proof to share.

How can you make sure you win?

If you tried, you have already won. Keep trying.

Is eternal peace actually doing the most you can do?

No. That’s called over-achieving, or doing more than you have to. “Eternal peace” is when you die. For me, peace will be for a short time… until I am reborn.

How can an organization balance long-term strategic goals with short-term financial pressures?

Strategically. If this is not possible, you are screwed.

Who keeps you inspired?

Albert Einstein inspires me. He said it wasn’t enough to learn. It was the ability to understand what you learned, that was more important. Wisdom for the ages, in my humble opinion.

“Any fool can know. The point is to understand.”

-- Albert Einstein

What are some examples of choices made under short-term thinking?

Buying a car beyond your expectations. Buying anything if you don’t know if your job is secure. If anyone says you need to jump on the “deal” and you do, this is “short-term thinking.” The deal will be there next time, or the salesman will give you the deal as a “one-time” late purchase. Never buy something because you think you need it. Buy what you need, not what you want.

How does long-term thinking change the way decisions are made?

Usually, long-term thinking is better because you have a moment to ensure everything is in place to support your thinking.

Years ago, I was able to take a lot of free stuff back home with me when "self-checkouts" started. But, because of so many people with big mouths bragging about it all the time, I can no longer do so. What are other ways I can get free stuff?

I assume you mean, of course, without stealing? Or, is this what the question is all about?

How do you get yourself to want something?

I don’t. If I want something, it is an emotion I deal with. If I can afford it, I buy it. If not, then I don’t. It’s pretty simple. Affording what you really want, is key to staying out of debt. I got into debt early on in life, and my mother paid my debt, and I never put myself in the same trick again.

How do I respond to the question: What inspires you?

Ask yourself, “What inspires me?” There is no judgment. It is what inspires you. 

Which success do you need in life?

I used to think success was tangible. But, I came to the conclusion what I really needed was true happiness. About 23 years ago, after my divorce, I decided to be truly happy always and in all things, regardless of my circumstances. It was a choice I have not regretted.

"A mathematical formula for happiness: Reality divided by Expectations. There were two ways to be happy: Improve your reality, or lower your expectations."

-- Jodi Picoult

Do you remember what you did last month?

Indeed.

What do you have to do to be successful in life?

Define success. Being successful in business is way on the other end of being successful in life. “Success” is a term each person needs to define for themselves. Does it deal with life, or does it deal with business? You can be very successful in business and be miserable in life. I was miserable because I married the wrong woman. After 25 years, I divorced and became very happy again. I have not remarried since, and it has been 23 years. I am still a truly happy camper.

Do you realize once you lose interest in things, it makes you realize who you truly are?

I never get involved in things I will lose interest in. Maybe, at 71, I know who I am.

How do I make as much money as my father because I don't want his money?

If you make as much money as your father, it isn’t his money, it is yours. Even if you worked for him, the minute he pays you, the pay becomes your money, not his. You earned it.

Are we in paradise, and greed is trouble in paradise?

“Greed” is trouble whether you are in paradise or not.

How do you experience time?

I look at the clock. Time can take over a project I’m involved in. I would lose myself in a project and might see that I’ve missed lunch. Time is a human concept that pisses me off. When I was in the Air Force, I wanted to finish a project but the office was closing, so I had to stop. When I retired and got a civilian job, the vice president of the company had to put me on a salary, due to my work ethic.

"A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life."

-- Charles Darwin

Do you believe that everything happening is a fate?

Yes. I can change my “fate” but, that change becomes my fate. It is what it is.

Why is life meant to go loveless after all you have been through?

Oh, to the contrary. I have been through a lot, and love has followed me. The minute I got my divorce, the women were lining up. Life has never been “loveless” for me.

I hurt my older sister, a lot, with my actions and I deeply regret it. I am afraid she will never want to see me again, what can I do? We used to get along very well, but I ruined things.

You are telling us the things you should be telling her.

When, in your life, did you start to understand that you cannot let the fear of a politician's words and threats ruin your quest for happiness?

I was always concerned with a politician’s rhetoric. My Dad taught me to judge on a politician’s record and not on their rhetoric. The only threats trying to ruin my happiness come from the Democrats. Thank God, we have a leader back in the White House.

Has anyone achieved complete enlightenment? Is it true that the definition of enlightenment varies among individuals?

No, and yes. Well, maybe. Buddha may have attained complete enlightenment, but it is a story passed down through the ages.

What distinguishes a person who believes life has no meaning from one who believes life has no purpose?

Ignorance. Life is about learning. Everything else is to support the prime directive - learning. So, if you understand life, it has meaning and a purpose. If you don’t understand that life is about learning, it has no meaning or purpose. On the contrary, the meaning and purpose are the same thing - learning.

“It is not that I'm so smart. But I stay with the questions much longer.”

-- Albert Einstein

Whom do you regard as the most prominent individual in contemporary society who makes a substantial, positive impact on the world? What specific contributions do they offer, and in what ways do their actions serve as an inspiration to you and others?

Donald Trump. Contributions? Four years of prosperity and security. Biden wiped it away.

Is life for an atheist like flipping a quarter? With no divine guidance, do they just make random decisions and observe what happens next? They are pure UCS-CS CR creatures?

Atheists and theists are all the same. They have faith in their beliefs. Yet, there is no proof to support either belief. The only proof is when we die. If atheists are right, there is nothing. If theists are right, there is life everlasting. Personally, I’m shooting for life everlasting. Negativity has never been my strong suit.

What do you think of the name Ethan Bennett?

Has a ring to it. 

Why can't I be satisfied with the ordinary?

Why should you? The “extraordinary” would seem to be a bit above the “ordinary” bar. I would go with that… if it were me.

Are there alternative ways of living besides striving for personal success?

Yes. Striving for true happiness. It is a “personal success” that many don’t recognize.

Do you ever hope that someone will change after they've betrayed your trust?

I can only hope my ex-wife has changed. She betrayed my trust and tried to pin it on me. She wanted to cheat on me, and her tact was to accuse me of doing the same. I put up with 25 years of this before I divorced her.

"Betraying someone once can be a mistake. Betraying someone twice is a choice."

-- Garima Soni

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Life, Isms, Surrender, Thoughts, Eternity, and Rememberance Day

 

“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.”

-- Helen Keller

Why, in this world, do people go through a lot in life?

Learning. We are here to learn. If people are going through a lot. they might not be learning the lessons. 

What is your best experience related to [this site]?

The site itself. This site is the best thing in my life. It allows me to answer questions from total strangers who need some help. I get upvoted all the time, which gives me positive feedback. My “best experience” is the site.

What’s a realistic way for an average person to become rich?

Rich monetarily, or rich in life?

How can I become rich when I’m not good at anything?

Again, rich monetarily, or rich in life?

Why have people stopped to smile at little things?

People are too busy to care. It is a complication of life that people have forgotten to see the little things that make life worth living. They have forgotten or were never taught. Parents have also become too busy to care. As a grandpa, I like to see children with the face of wonder.

Does misanthropy make you happy?

Why in the world would I dislike humankind? As a person who has been in the business of studying the human condition, I can say that many of the humans still make me happy.

“You call me a misanthrope because I avoid society. You err; I love society. Yet in order not to hate people, I must avoid their company.”

-- Caspar David Friedrich

-isms are all beliefs. So, why not save lives by ending the terminologies? Why not call it all genophobia since every person is one of us and vice-versa and accept that as the truth? Why live in dramatizations instead of reality?

Really? You bring this up now? It's too late. Most people like living in fantasy worlds. “Reality” is too painful for many of them. I hate drama in life. It eats up a good portion of my life I have better use for, but keep on thinking.

Do you believe you are immortal and will live forever?

Nope.

I have finally understood what it means. Geniuses and enlightened people will be happy with the knowledge. Its simple understandable and true. Should I spread the message in reality for usage or explain it myself fully?

Yeah, do that. Let’s see if you really have a handle on it, or if you’ve missed the bus. By the way, "Its" has an apostrophe between the "t" and the "s". Just saying. 

Is it possible to manifest a doppelganger or clone of the ideal partner you want?

Nope. Oh, I corrected the spelling of  "doppleganger" for you.

Why is sleeping in public against the rules & frowned upon?

Huh… I fall asleep at the cigar bar all the time. No one seems to care. They don’t have a rule against it and they certainly don’t frown upon it. Have you seen all the people sleeping on the streets? If there is a rule, the people in charge seem to ignore it.

If many humans died so young in the past, how did our species survive and remain in existence?

Sex. If nothing else, we love to have sex.

“I don't know the question, but sex is definitely the answer.”

-- Woody Allen

How come, even though I never give up, nothing ever goes my way?

Have you learned anything from the experience? Life gives us lessons we are supposed to learn. If we see them as nothing going your way, what have you learned?

What is this 'woke' thing that everyone's been talking about?

It's liberal bullshit. The best you can do is ignore it.

Do you believe that you have all the time in the world but that you are inevitiably priceless, even if you do something “wrong”?

Oh, hell no. I’m 71 years old, and I don’t believe in “all the time in the world” crap. I am, however, “inevitiably priceless” and rarely do anything wrong. I just don’t have much longer on this plane of existence. It is what it is.

Why do some opressed people become opressors themselves?

Few and far between, and those had small minds, like the opressor.

What’s something that you thought was an adult responsibility, but you secretly thought ‘Nah, I’ll skip that’?

Finances. When I was just in the Air Force, I caught crap from my mom as she bailed me out of debt. I caught the next "responsibility" train.

Is Donald Trump America's karma?

No, that’s not what karma is. Biden was our bad karma. He set out to destroy the country. Trump, if you can sift through all the negative lies, is probably the savior of this country. Democrats are beginning to see the truth after 4 years of Biden and his “do nothing” Vice-President that just got her comeupins… and she still doesn’t have a clue. What an untramaroon.

“You know, it really doesn`t matter what the media writes as long as you`ve got a young and beautiful piece of ass.”

-- Donald Trump

What are the most influential thoughts in your life?

Strive to be truly happy always, and in all things, regardless of your circumstances.

Do you think a house with the necessities to just simply live is something that should be provided to every human, regardless of how much money they make and contribute to society in other words?

In a perfect world, maybe. But in this world, it would be giving free “necessities” to people who will not lift a finger to support themselves. Now we are asked to support illegal aliens, not our people. When does the insanity stop?

Does the right realize how long they'll be the object of history lessons education for their failure in all things Constitutional America unless you destroy this nation you grew up in?

Can someone rewrite this so it makes more sense?

How can I be more positive if my friends say I am too negative? Is there something wrong with me?

Are you happy with what you are? If so, maybe you need new friends. If you see their point, maybe you should think before you speak or not speak at all. If they ask you for your input, tell them it would be negative… so you don’t want to share. If you are happy with who you are, tell your so-called “friends” to go f…

Can one person have multiple souls?

No. They can have multiple personalities but they are part of one confused soul.

How can someone maintain faith in God after experiencing pain caused by other humans, particularly those who claim to be followers of God?

I have no use for people who “claim” to be “followers of God” as they create pain for the innocent. If someone has true faith in their belief, these “naysayers” should not affect the truly faithful. One should always maintain their faith in the face of heretics. Smile, and be on your way. What if these people were sent by God to test your resolve? Maintain faith and ignore the pain caused by ignorance.

"If we are faithless, he remains faithful - for he cannot disown himself".

-- 2 Timothy 2:13

Should the next question burn for eternity?

It depends on the question.

What would you do if you picked up a bag beside a highway, and found it filled with sequentially numbered 100-dollar bills?

It is probably cash from a bank heist, and the numbers are probably recorded. I’d call the police and turn it in… before they think I stole it. It is the right thing to do. Stupid, but right.

Reader comment:  What do you think the police will do with the money?

My Reply: Not my problem. Too much drama.

Why do some people think money is everything in life and nothing more?

Ignorance. Karma will teach them a better lesson, sooner or later.

Is it in any way possible to have too much wisdom?

Learning. Wisdom comes from learning. Some of the learning may be painful or distasteful. Such is learning. You cannot have “wisdom” without learning and you can't stop learning. Having too much wisdom puts you on another plane of existence.

Why are you living life the way you are?

I followed the “fate” that I chose.

Is it possible to live a perfect life and become flawless like God?

Not even God is perfect. Certainly not flawless. Read "Genesis" and see what you think. You might approach “excellent” if you try, but you cannot be more "excellent" than God.

"Light, beyond its physical attributes, occupies a profound symbolic realm. It represents truth, knowledge, and enlightenment. God’s commandment to create light mirrors His desire to bring clarity and understanding to humanity. As light dispels darkness, so does divine wisdom guide us through the complexities of existence."

-- Bullet Point Christian

I don't like Remembrance Day. What can I do about it?

Go fishing.

Good or bad, what is your prediction for the fate of humanity's "humanity"?

Humanity is “hit or miss” in the world. In a thousand years, people will get tired of communism and socialism. Most people will want freedom. Those who want it are afraid to fight for it. Some people think the life they live is freedom. As the world becomes more populated, people will get closer. They will see what we in America already understand - freedom. They will want it and will be ready to fight for it. Freedom can not be denied.

What is one piece of simple advice that actually changed your life?

Don’t pay attention to drama. Most of what we pay attention to is drama.

I'm 19, never had a job, and not in college. I'm really scared to get a job. Sometimes I even wish I was never born because of this fear. Any advice?

Get a job. The best advice is to jump into the fire to save yourself. Explain this issue to those you are trying to get a job with. Many will start you out with a simple task, and then work you up as you get comfortable with the work.

What do you not take for granted in life?

My lifestyle. I worked three jobs to get comfortable in life. I do not take my retirement for granted.

Do you think that regular writing habits, and developing artificial intelligence technology, can help with forgetfulness and mental confusion in the elderly?

Artificial intelligence is, well, artificial. At 71, I find that regular writing habits are more helpful in keeping me alert and not confused. Anything the elderly can do that makes them think can work wonders. Mentoring the young is another thought.

"We do not remember days, we remember moments."

-- Cesare Pavese

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

By Any Other Name (Updated and reposted from 11/12/2015)

"It is nor hand, nor foot, Nor arm, nor face. O, be some other name Belonging to a man. What's in a name? That which we call a rose By any other word would smell as sweet."

-- "Romeo and Juliet"

Higher education is a good thing, providing you get a rounded education. What we have been doing since I was a kid is cutting back budgets so we only teach the necessities... and very little of that. 

There is a problem, I see, with the "trade school" approach to education. You know, where you cut out the fine arts? You end up with higher degrees void of common sense or emotion. An educational degree which, more times than not, misses the point that an eighty-year-old retired grocery checker, mother of four, and grandmother of ten, would pick up while sorting field peas and watching Jeopardy on TV, primarily because she has lived life.  

We hope this "slack" will be taken up by doting parents.  Parenting?  Yeah, right.  That's a crap shoot. Kind of like education. You can win or lose - and the house usually wins. Not you.

Ira Rosofsky, Ph.D., wrote an article called, "Was Shakespeare Wrong?--Would A Rose By Any Other Name Smell As Sweet? Juliet Capulet was wrong about the rose."  The title is way too long for the point I thought it missed.  

In the opening lines Dr. Rosofsky says, "Shakespeare - or more precisely, Juliet -- was wrong in declaring, "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet..." Names have power. They are not like shirts you can change without changing you."

While his point, I'm sure, is academically valid, his example, unfortunately, seems to be a reflection of a focused education, not a rounded one. And, sadly, if so, not unexpected.

Ira, Ira, Ira. It's Shakespeare, dear fellow.  More importantly, it is romantic!  I'm not sure Ira was ever made to sit through the entire play, and "hopeless romantics" would pay good money to be bored to tears by the balance of the play, just to see and hear the romantic repartee.  You know... the conversation or speech characterized by quick, witty comments or replies?  In this case, the romantic ones.   The ones that make women swoon... and make men run out to buy roses.  

Some people, however, just don't get it.

They miss the romance of Leo DiCaprio and Kate Winslet on the bow of the Titanic, his hands on her waist, and her arms out in a sense of flying as she leaned forward over the rail.  Or Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore in Ghost as she turned clay on the potting wheel, and turned on most of America and Swayze, in a seriously romantic scene.  A truly romantic moment does not require nudity or sex, it requires a great story, with great lines, and a director who understands romance.

What is in a name?  Nothing.  God or Allah, one and the same.  Oh, the faithful will demand there are arguments against it, but in your heart, there is no difference other than the scripture and agenda the religious leadership would try to push.  By any other name, there is but one God.  The name you choose is of little matter. That ship sailed when we stopped being able to pronounce the old tongue.  I think God would reflect on Romeo's sentiment: "Call me but love..."

People look upon the world differently when they are brought up to appreciate the arts.  And, when I say appreciate, I don't mean put on a floral shirt, shorts, sandals, and your ball cap to see the ballet.  Yes, everyone does it.  To truly appreciate art you need to dress appropriately.  Show some respect to the actors, dancers, and artists.  Show some respect to yourself and those around you.  Be a damned romantic, dress up. Buy your loved one flowers, a great dinner, and then go see a play together.  Don't be a cheapskate. Bring money so you can buy drinks at the intermission.  It is all about romance, remember?

Shakespeare wasn't wrong.  He knew how to spin a yarn and provide entertainment.  He knew something of the ways of the heart.  It is something you find when you learn to open your mind to art, music, drama, and love.  It is something you learn when you turn off your computer, leave your office, close your textbook, and sit in a field of flowers on a quiet spring day. Especially if you share it with someone special.  No, Shakespeare wasn't wrong.  You should have read the play. 

Take a bit of time this weekend to enjoy other people, read a good book, watch a classic drama, or just listen to some music.  Enjoy as much of this in person and live, if possible.  Purchase tickets for a play, opera, musical, or concert.  It can be your local community theater.  Let us all try to get out with our loved ones, and the children, to enjoy the arts!  

Most importantly, learn what schools are teaching the kids, or grandkids.  You might find the teachers are as upset as you'll be.  Fight for rounded educations.  Fight for the arts, because... not all kids can play sports.  If the schools won't find the money or the time, there is a lot to be said for good parenting.  Look into it.  

Your kids will benefit from your attention.

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com

Questioning Ownership, Past/Present, Change, Happiness, Belief, and Awakening

"Human beings are capable of extraordinary things. We can create and we can destroy, we can love or we can hate. Some people believe they have souls. While others think that there is only this. Just this. Reality. The news. Killings, wars, bombings, hate, prejudice. Death.

And death? No one ever dies on television. Only the bad guys do.

Not you. Just them.

So death is without meaning. Happens without meaning due to media. We see but don't feel, we watch but haven't experienced. We can only sympathize. A gun doesn't fire on its own and a fanatic doesn't just wake up one day and become a murderer. Hate doesn't have a face. Death doesn't have a face. Human beings become that face. All of us every day. Whether you like it or not."

-- R.M. Engelhardt

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Over the past week, my answers were read by 13,140 people.

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Do people have children because they like making humans or because they want a human of their own?

Primarily because they want to continue the bloodline.  Of course, they might have made the mistake of not using birth control. It is what it is.

Can you write 100 things about yourself?

Probably.

Do you think if someone does not know how to argue well or debate well, they should let their friends tell them what to do and how to think and how live their life because if you can't debate that well, it means you lack intellect?

You need to learn where to put commas, and a "to" should go before "live". 

Now, if they have friends that act like that, they are not very good friends. The person may not lack intellect, they may be ignorant about the discussion. The best thing real friends can do for them is educate them.

What positive change do you envision in your life between this year and next year?

I will be another year older, and another year smarter.

What is your past life story?

Born in the South. Moved to Southern California. We moved to Central California and attended 4th through my second year of college. I was drafted and joined the Air Force for 23 years. When I retired, I found a job with a medical oversight company. 20 years later I retired for good. I am now 71 years young, and enjoying my retirement.

Can the world /life be an unfair place sometimes?

Most of the time, until you realize that life is giving you lessons to learn. Life is all about learning.

“We now accept the fact that learning is a lifelong process of keeping abreast of change. And the most pressing task is to teach people how to learn.”

-- Peter Drucker

Was life better for past generations or the present generation? Why or why not?

This is a tough question to answer. If you were in the past, you’d think things were skippy. Every generation thinks their time is cutting edge. And then, there is tomorrow, and it will have something that we marvel at.

Is smartness more about knowledge or the ability to adapt quickly?

 It is about knowledge and the ability to adapt quickly. Intelligence may not do this for you… unless you are also smart.

What’s a saying you’ve heard that you always think about?

“Reality is what it is, and what it isn’t, it isn’t.

Sometimes, what it is it isn’t, and what it isn’t, well... it is.

Other times it is nothing, and then it isn’t anything.

If it's nothing, it isn’t, and if it isn’t anything, it is.

Naming "nothing" makes nothing something;

Therefore, whether it is or it isn’t, it must be,

Because even nothing that isn’t, already is.”

What does it mean when someone says, "You have an old soul."

You have much “wisdom” that comes with age, but you have it as a younger person.

If all atheists did was hurt my feelings a handful of times I would see no need to bring them up. A couple full-blown nihilistic Atheists decided to try to make an Internet name out of me others would tear me to shreds. What is with you people?

This is what a cadre of atheists do. The best thing you can do is ignore them. They just aren’t worth your time.

What are the points to note about life and hardship?

Learning. Life has handed you “hardship” so you can learn.

“Any fool can know. The point is to understand.”

-- Albert Einstein

When the time is right, will you change?

When the time was right, I did. At 71 years of age, I doubt I will be changing anymore.

Is it true that highly-smart people are in many cases undermotivated? If yes, why?

No. Many of them, are not “intelligent” but they are very motivated to learn. What you might want to watch out for is the “intelligent” person who is also smart. Many of the personnel in the Intelligence field are smart and intelligent.

What are the unforgettable experiences you had in your life?

My divorce, in 2000. I still remember the bullshit.

What does a person do, if they've suffered too much from life's difficult trials?

They give up. They don’t want to learn anymore. The “suffering” is supposed to teach them something they can’t or won’t learn. The problem here is the suffering, probably, won’t stop. They will either try to deal with it or try to ignore it. But it will still be there.

I still believe that relationships are pure and emotions are pure. Am I right?

Hmmm… I’m not so sure.

Has fate ever taken a hand for you, once or more than once?

My “fate” is what I make of it. If my life is crap, I did something wrong. If my life is excellent, then I must have done something right. Your “fate” is in your hands.

“It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll,

I am the master of my fate:

I am the captain of my soul.”

-- William Ernest Henley

What would you do for your happiness?

I strive for true happiness, always and in all things, regardless of my circumstances. Happiness is a choice, like everything else. All you need to do is make “true happiness” your go-to.

What are the sad facts of life?

We will, at some point in the future, die.

Money doesn’t make anyone happy, because there is a deep yearning for truth, in all of us. Do you agree?

Money can make us happy… in the short term. But, if we strive for true happiness, always and in all things, regardless of our circumstances, we will be fulfilled. It is a simple choice we need to make for our lives.

Which are the things that only come with age?

Age spots.

Why is society so fixated on money and all the material things? What is life? What is heaven and hell, because nothing is real within our reality?

There is much “real” in my reality. I am not "fixated" on money. In the Air Force, I learned to make the few dollars I made stretch for the month. It is what it is. I made my reality “heaven” from the hell I was handed, and it was easygoing. Society might be fixated on money, but that doesn’t mean you buy into it. Happiness costs nothing.  It is a frame of mind.

How do you beg for mercy to save your life?

I don’t beg. If they're going to kill me, they better do it. The morons won't have the satisfaction of seeing me beg. Given the chance, I’ll take them with me. Go down fighting.

“Damn those who crush the innocent. But blessed be the ones who restore that which was stolen.”

-- Lucian Bane

What is one thing you no longer believe in?

Genesis. It makes no sense.

What does happiness mean, and how do different philosophical perspectives—like Aristotle's eudaimonia, utilitarianism, and existentialism—shape our understanding of it? How can we apply these ideas to cultivate happiness in our lives?

You look to “philosophical perspectives” to define happiness when happiness is with you always. All you need to do is find a reason to smile or laugh. It is a choice that most people overlook. Put Aristotle’s thoughts down, and try to define your own happiness. I strive daily to be truly happy, always, and in all things, regardless of my circumstances. It is my choice, as it should be yours.

Author comment: Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I appreciate your emphasis on happiness as a choice and the importance of finding reasons to smile or laugh. It’s empowering to think that happiness can be within reach regardless of circumstances. I agree that personal definitions of happiness are crucial and that philosophical perspectives can help inform our understanding. I'm curious, what specific practices do you use to cultivate that daily happiness? I’d love to hear more about your journey!

My reply: As I said, happiness is a choice you have to make. Everything else is subservient to what you want - happiness. Everything else is drama.  Focus on being truly happy in your life. Don't frown, don't fall from happiness.  Be the light that everyone wants to see, always. As for my "journey," if you read my offerings, you can put it all together.

Has your friend ever given you advice that turned out to be meaningful?

Back in the day, yes. Now I take advice from lawyers. Their “advice” seems to be more meaningful to my problems. 

My mother always told me, "Anyone can take your necklace, your house, your car, your money, but no one can ever take your education away from you." Is this the truth?

Only if your education is based on facts. If it isn’t, what’s the point? Everything "material" can be taken from you. Material “crap” should be seen as fleeting. It can be taken at any moment. But, who you are, your emotions, define who you are as a person. It defines who you are in today’s society. No one can take who you are. Who you are belongs to you.

At what point did you realize your childhood was over?

When I grabbed my Dad’s hand and told him that I understood.

Do we have to be happy every day?

Yes. If you aren’t truly happy, you aren’t trying hard enough. Strive for true happiness, always and in all things, regardless of your circumstances. It is a choice you have to make for your life. I have been truly happy for over 20 years, now. 

“True happiness... is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.”­

-- Helen Keller

Is it possible to awaken every person simultaneously?

No. If nothing else, time zones will prevent it.

What makes a man rich, thought or money?

Good thoughts make people rich. You can lose your money, but you can’t lose your thoughts. Make your thoughts good.

How can life be easier for everyone?

Understand you are here to learn. Anything else is supporting the prime directive.

What is the saying "money can't buy everything" mean? Is it true or false? If it is true, what are some things that money can't buy? If it is false, what are some things that money can buy?

It is true. You can’t buy true love from one special person, just like you can't buy true happiness. Emotions aren't for sale.

What are some effective ways to manage stress?

Stress is nothing more than drama. Don’t let drama rule your life.

How can we truly know if we are free in life?

You aren’t truly free to do what you want. Laws prevent certain behaviors that can harm you or other people. You are truly free to go live in the wilderness where you can be truly free to do what you want, as long as you don’t harm others. Most people accept rules as a prerequisite to living in a safe society.

"I follow three rules: Do the right thing, do the best you can, and always show people you care."

-- Lou Holtz 

Editor's Note

(Re: disclaimer cum "get out of jail free" card)

Before you go getting your panties in a bunch - it is essential to understand that this is just an opinion site and, as such, can be subjected to scrutiny by anyone with a differing opinion. It doesn't make either view any more right or wrong than the other. Opinion, presented in this context, is a way of inciting others to think and, hopefully, to form their own opinions, if they haven't already done so. This is also why, occasionally, I will present an "opinion" just to stir an emotional pot. Where it may sound like I agree with the statements made, I'm more interested in getting others to consider an alternate viewpoint.

I fervently hope that we keep open and active minds when reading opinions while engaging in peaceful and constructive discussion in an arena of mutual respect concerning those opinions offered. After twenty-three years of military intelligence, I believe that engaging each other in this manner, and in this arena, is a way we will learn tolerance and respect for differing beliefs, cultures, and viewpoints.

We all fall from grace, some more often than others; it is part of being human. God's test for us is what we learn from the experience... and what we do afterward.

Pastor Tony spent 22 years with United States Air Force Intelligence as a planner, analyst, briefer, instructor, and senior manager. Following his service career, he spent 17 years working with the premier and world-renowned Western Institutional Review Board, helping to protect the rights of human subjects involved in pharmaceutical research. He also served 8 years on the Board of Directors for the Angela J. Bowen Foundation.

Ordained in 2013 as an "interfaith" minister, he founded the Congregation for Religious Tolerance in response to intolerance shown by Christians toward peaceful Islam. As a weapon for his war on intolerance, he chose the pen. He wages his "battle" in the guise of the Congregation's official online blog, The Path, of which he is both author and editor. "The Path" offers a vehicle for commentary and guidance concerning one's personal, spiritual path toward peace and the final destination for us all. He resides in Pass Christian, Mississippi, where he volunteered as the lead chaplain at a regional medical center.

Feel free to contact Pastor Tony at: tolerantpastor@gmail.com